https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 30 May 2026 03:54:41 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-on-tantruming-hows-it-going-at-your-house#post-1699165 Fri, 13 Jun 2014 14:21:28 +0000 cascademom 1699165@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lizzywiz: LO's got a definite daddy preference these days. I grapple with the rejection feeling from it. I know it's a phase, but it's a tough one. I just wish that this part of the phase would end. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-on-tantruming-hows-it-going-at-your-house#post-1699148 Fri, 13 Jun 2014 14:18:47 +0000 lizzywiz 1699148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cascademom: we go through the same, but it is mommy preference. No ideas, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-on-tantruming-hows-it-going-at-your-house#post-1699014 Fri, 13 Jun 2014 13:47:41 +0000 cascademom 1699014@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're going through a weird phase of tantrums where LO wants Daddy's help only, not Mommy. He'll say "No Mommy" quite a bit. We've told him a number of times that it's not nice or it hurts feelings. Last night, he had a screaming tantrum because I wanted to help him with the learning tower. We waited through tears and screams until all of us helped move the tower to the sink for hand washing. Anyone else going through this? I'd love some solutions or redirects that work. We're thinking of maybe timing him out when he says it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-on-tantruming-hows-it-going-at-your-house#post-1698975 Fri, 13 Jun 2014 13:34:47 +0000 Jenn23 1698975@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@78h2o: Haha Let me know how that book is! My friend mentioned a few weeks ago a newish book that came out that she bought. I haven't had a chance to get it yet, but plan to. Looks like a good one! <a href="http://www.amazon.com/How-Toddlers-Thrive-Children-Lifelong/dp/1476735131" rel="nofollow">http://www.amazon.com/How-Toddlers-Thrive-Children-Lifelong/dp/1476735131</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-on-tantruming-hows-it-going-at-your-house#post-1697768 Fri, 13 Jun 2014 07:51:25 +0000 Mrs. Bee 1697768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>olive is 2 1/2 and she has pretty much been throwing a tantrum every day. usually it's in the morning because she doesn't want to wake up to go to school. we have to hurry out the door because of charlie. if she doesn't get her way, she immediately drops to the floor and starts rolling around.</p> <p>luckily her tantrums typically aren't huge, but they are way way more frequent than charlie's ever was! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-on-tantruming-hows-it-going-at-your-house#post-1697758 Fri, 13 Jun 2014 07:47:23 +0000 lizzywiz 1697758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh, and Daniel Tiger's When You Feel So Mad You Want To Roar song, it also has a deep breath component. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-on-tantruming-hows-it-going-at-your-house#post-1697749 Fri, 13 Jun 2014 07:42:04 +0000 lizzywiz 1697749@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@aegie: "But I hate hearing I'm not disciplining enough." Me, too! And I work hard on not being the crazy, screaming mama, and people think I am not angry enough! No win.</p> <p>@78h2o: any review on the book, yet? The title speaks to my sense of humor, so it would be cool if it actually had good ideas, too!</p> <p>My LO had learned to take a deep breath and it sort of helps finish the tantrums sooner, although a lot of times I'll tell her to take a deep breath and she will scream ,"NO!" lol. But then sometimes she does it herself, like when she falls, she will whimper and then take a deep breath and self calm. The sesame street Belly Breathe song helped with this. <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_mZbzDOpylA&#038;feature=kp" rel="nofollow">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_mZbzDOpylA&#038;feature=kp</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-on-tantruming-hows-it-going-at-your-house#post-1693598 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 13:45:48 +0000 78h2o 1693598@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I checked this book out from the library. I'm hoping it will solve all my problems :) </p> <p>[attach=2480/14/n70phr.260x341.how-to-con-kid.png]<br /> I was only able to quickly page through it (as J was pulling books off the shelves right and left), but it looked like it might have at least a few good strategies. </p> <p>@aegie: I've definitely noticed that giving J a choice helps. Last night, I could tell that she was going to flip out when I made her put her food in a bowl, so I acted super excited about the fact that she could choose whether she wanted the red or the blue. She totally fell for it and got excited about putting her food in the blue bowl. :) </p> <p>Also, if I want her to put something down, she will do it if I ask her to do me a favor, like put something else in the cart. From what I could tell, the book had those kind of suggestions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-on-tantruming-hows-it-going-at-your-house#post-1693422 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 12:49:35 +0000 Freckles 1693422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pinkcupcake: Oh the "right now" tantrums!!! I wish there was a hands up in the air, kill me now emoji. She wants yogurt/cereal/blueberries/bagel/milk/strawberries ALL NOW. I had to put her in the "calm down" chair so that she would stop yelling/crying. This morning was awful and i was so upset by how difficult she was being that i was pretty silent on the walk to the train station...sometimes you need a few minutes to collect yourself!</p> <p>The other thing that's starting is the everything is "mine" tantrums. If i take away her plate, she goes nuts. If she sees something she likes she'll claim, "MINE" and will freak out if you tell her otherwise. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-on-tantruming-hows-it-going-at-your-house#post-1693265 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 12:13:32 +0000 mrs. wagon 1693265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LMW is 23 months old and any time she hears anything remotely close to "no" she immediately goes to the ground and screams. I'm talking kneeling down, forehead to the ground and hands clasped above her head. One smooth motion. It's pretty impressive, really, that she has such body control that she can go from standing upright to forehead-to-ground without hurting herself. </p> <p>We had her first time out a week ago or so. It went pretty well but she screamed the entire time and yelled "mama!!!" towards the end. After about a minute, almost 2 I went over and hugged her and calmed her down, and got her to say sorry. It took several times before she would say it. But I wouldn't let her move from the time out spot til she did.</p> <p>Wagon Jr. thankfully is old enough now (4.5) that we can talk through most things before a tantrum starts. He hasn't had a time out in weeks, maybe months. He does pout quite a bit but we make sure to nip it in the bud before it turns into a tantrum. I drop everything, get down on his level and talk to him about how he is feeling. It gets frustrating (the other day he was tearing up about wanting a ruler... we don't have a ruler in the house...) but at least we can talk back and forth and he understands. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-on-tantruming-hows-it-going-at-your-house#post-1693231 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 12:07:41 +0000 Jenn23 1693231@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@aegie: Your point about giving choices is great. I've really been trying to offer more choices, because I know that will help with the tantrums. I often just forget. :( Great point!!</p> <p>@78h2o: Oh my gosh-that picture! haha Wait until you show her that someday. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-on-tantruming-hows-it-going-at-your-house#post-1692831 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 09:54:15 +0000 78h2o 1692831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: lol regarding the Riverdance audition!</p> <p>My LO is very strong willed. I can see already that this age is going to be quite a challenge. She's been throwing minor tantrums since about 12-13 months, but now at 18 months they are full force!</p> <p>Yesterday she cried for about 10-15 minutes because I made her wear a diaper cover. She crawled into this laundry basket, cried, and refused to come out.</p> <p>[attach=2480/14/n70et9.448x600.image.jpg] </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-on-tantruming-hows-it-going-at-your-house#post-1691324 Tue, 10 Jun 2014 14:34:10 +0000 aegie 1691324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jenn23: @travelgirl1: I've never stopped her from jumping on the couch, but she knows she can only do it if I'm there to watch her. So after a few weeks she's completely stopped jumping on it since she knows its totally acceptable. Sometimes I think hearing no just drives them to do things more! </p> <p>My 2 year old has had 2 epic tantrums around 18 months and occasionally she'll just start to cry and cry and cry and whine and won't tell me what's wrong. But I actually know a poor night of sleeping or missing a meal usually has a BIG BIG factor in her meltdowns. So when I know those 2 things contribute to her meltdowns I cut her a lot of slack and hold her and tell her I'll hug her until she feels okay. </p> <p>My LO can have the tendency to fixate on an object - like bubbles. She wants to play with them all day. But they're only for outside (I hate cleaning up bubble solution on the floor) so once we're inside she'll whine for bubbles. I tell her she can go outside and play bubbles on the patio by herself or she can play with me in the living room. I think giving choices helps. Up till now she's always chosen the one I've engineered! LOL! </p> <p>Definitely though, once the incident has passed and the consequence has been meted out it needs to not be rehashed. My husband has a hard time with this. If my LO spits out her food, he says, "no we don't do that - no more food for you". then takes it away. Then he lectures her. At that point, she's screaming no no daddy to him. I tell him taking away the food is her consequence. lecturing her gets you nowhere at this age, but he has a hard time processing that concept. I think that's why she responds to my disciplining better. </p> <p>But I hate hearing I'm not disciplining enough. I think people assume redirection and no yelling equates to not enough or not disciplining. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-on-tantruming-hows-it-going-at-your-house#post-1691097 Tue, 10 Jun 2014 13:15:10 +0000 Jenn23 1691097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@beachbee: My son will watch me in the kitchen to see if I'm looking, then stand up and wait for me to start coming towards him to tell him no, or to put him down on the floor and laugh hysterically. And yes, he'll just get right back up again, too! Oh man...I kinda wish we had no sofas or loveseats right now and just the floor. haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-on-tantruming-hows-it-going-at-your-house#post-1691059 Tue, 10 Jun 2014 13:01:04 +0000 beachbee 1691059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: @Jenn23: oh man! We have been going through a jumping on the couch phase for about 3 months now. We've tried redirection, sternly telling her no and that she will get a boo boo, modified time out where she has to sit on daddy's lap, nothing works! As soon as the "punishment" is over, she goes right back to the couch, laughs at us, and starts jumping again. Ugh!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-on-tantruming-hows-it-going-at-your-house#post-1690939 Tue, 10 Jun 2014 12:14:36 +0000 Jenn23 1690939@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: Oh man, you have a little Wonder Woman! I know, the sofa thing is driving me nuts. I was hoping the novelty would wear off soon, but doesn't look like it so far. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-on-tantruming-hows-it-going-at-your-house#post-1690101 Mon, 09 Jun 2014 23:28:45 +0000 travelgirl1 1690101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jenn23: if you figure the sofa thing, let me know. Mine crawls around the back of the sofa then belly flops onto the seats to push them onto the ground then climbs onto the arms and jumps off shrieking "weeeeeee". The funniest thing to her is me telling her "no" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-on-tantruming-hows-it-going-at-your-house#post-1690098 Mon, 09 Jun 2014 23:26:01 +0000 travelgirl1 1690098@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My toddler looked like she was auditioning for Riverdance the amount of foot stamping and kicking she was doing this morning :wink: I'm sure it will get better for us once she knows more words, but she's an extremely independent and feisty little girl, she'll give us a run for our money, I'm sure. I don't actually have a clue what was wrong with her this morning but my guess was her teeth, followed by me not letting her jump on our bed, shuffle under the baby gate or eat my apple pie for breakfast. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-on-tantruming-hows-it-going-at-your-house#post-1689951 Mon, 09 Jun 2014 20:46:50 +0000 lizzywiz 1689951@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: it would be wrong if you weren't happy! I feel nothing but grateful when someone else's kid is worse than mine and when mine is the worse I feel like saying 'you're welcome' to the parents around me. It is a weird toddler parent karma- it always comes back around! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-on-tantruming-hows-it-going-at-your-house#post-1689887 Mon, 09 Jun 2014 20:04:08 +0000 autumnlove 1689887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lizzywiz: ha, is it bad when I'm secretly happy when other kids act up at restaurants? :-p </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-on-tantruming-hows-it-going-at-your-house#post-1689879 Mon, 09 Jun 2014 19:57:41 +0000 lizzywiz 1689879@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hey, I was at daycare when another kid got picked up and he screamed and chucked a toy straight at his Dad's face the second he saw him. *snicker*<br /> I am not alone in this terribleness! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-on-tantruming-hows-it-going-at-your-house#post-1689458 Mon, 09 Jun 2014 15:44:16 +0000 lizzywiz 1689458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jenn23: I always feel like world's worst mom when I arrive at daycare and she basically immediately starts being more naughty and they say, "She was doing great before you got here..."<br /> Lo sure knows how to humble me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-on-tantruming-hows-it-going-at-your-house#post-1689181 Mon, 09 Jun 2014 13:57:05 +0000 Jenn23 1689181@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lizzywiz: I just told my husband this morning during breakfast that I don't think I'm that great of a mom as far as discipline because I can't figure out how to get my son from standing up on the sofa. He discovered how to get up a few weeks ago, and now for the last week has been standing up and will NOT sit or get down. I've tried a bunch of things. :( I definitely hear you there, on the questioning thing!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-on-tantruming-hows-it-going-at-your-house#post-1689145 Mon, 09 Jun 2014 13:42:02 +0000 lizzywiz 1689145@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jenn23: I think the questioning myself is the hardest part of it.</p> <p>@sunny: levitate- ha! :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-on-tantruming-hows-it-going-at-your-house#post-1688977 Mon, 09 Jun 2014 12:12:37 +0000 sunny 1688977@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Tantrums seem to happen on a daily basis these days. This morning, she grabbed a pair of swim goggles out of the bathroom drawer and was happy playing with them for 30 seconds before something started bothering her. She wasn't happy with them on her head, with them in the drawer, with them out of the drawer... I tried to help her but she was frustrated with something and I couldn't figure out what. Perhaps she wanted them to levitate or something! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-on-tantruming-hows-it-going-at-your-house#post-1688971 Mon, 09 Jun 2014 12:09:54 +0000 Jenn23 1688971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Going through multiple tantrums a day these days with my 20 month old son. They are short-lived for the most part, but basically it is every day at the park when the swings are full so he can't swing and when it is time to leave. He just started biting me in the arm/hand last week when I leave the park carrying him thrashing around to the car. So I've been dreading our daily park trips because this always happens. When it is time to leave and go out, he now throws tantrums when it is time to put his shoes on. (Even though he loves going out, just doesn't want the shoes) Oh boy! I question my parenting skills every day and feel like I could do better, but I'm doing my best to just get through this difficult age! Hang in there! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-on-tantruming-hows-it-going-at-your-house#post-1688951 Mon, 09 Jun 2014 11:58:28 +0000 mrsjazz 1688951@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh the tantrums./ They seem to be epic. She had one on Saturday evening because I wouldn't let her listen to Bruno Mars because it was dinner time. Does she think she's a teenager? This morning's tantrum was just because it was morning time. She throws and hits and goes limp. Right now we ignore tantrums unless she's acting out and trying to hit or throw. She hasn't had one out in public so we are pretty lucky but it's only a matter of time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-on-tantruming-hows-it-going-at-your-house#post-1688862 Mon, 09 Jun 2014 11:20:12 +0000 lizzywiz 1688862@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: this. just this. advice. ugh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-on-tantruming-hows-it-going-at-your-house#post-1688778 Mon, 09 Jun 2014 10:53:11 +0000 autumnlove 1688778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She is almost 2.5 and we have 2-3 every week....ekkkk! I hate it when other people (family) are around because it makes me nervous and I hear a lot of advice I don't like. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/check-in-on-tantruming-hows-it-going-at-your-house#post-1688763 Mon, 09 Jun 2014 10:49:40 +0000 LuLu Mom 1688763@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She's 20 months old and we ignore whining, give 1 1/2 minute timeouts for hitting/kicking/physical contact. If she throws something she gets 1 warning and has to pick it up, if she does it again she is in timeout. </p>