https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 01 Jun 2026 15:47:50 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/childcare-givers-and-the-tdap-booster-wwyd#post-2503819 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 22:34:40 +0000 brownie 2503819@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DesertDreams88: this sounds like an amazing situation for 7 weeks. We had a friend like this and who watched my son for 18 months. It was the best thing ever. He did get hauled a lot of places but he was also part of the family. I think you should go for it.</p> <p>As for the vaccines, if her kids are vaxxed and baby is vaxxed I wouldn't worry. The first shot gives a really good immunity. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/childcare-givers-and-the-tdap-booster-wwyd#post-2503746 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 21:02:41 +0000 catomd00 2503746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't care if she had the booster or not, but would want her kids to be vaccinated (which they are so yay!) id rather my little not be in daycare at that young of an age, where they're exposed to way more germS. Having someone you know and trust watch your baby is way better (in my opinion) and worth giving up control of rigid schedules and requests. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/childcare-givers-and-the-tdap-booster-wwyd#post-2503726 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 20:39:14 +0000 DesertDreams88 2503726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoyfulKiwi: thanks for the encouragement! 7 weeks, I can do this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/childcare-givers-and-the-tdap-booster-wwyd#post-2503290 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 14:12:35 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 2503290@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DesertDreams88: it seems great to have a friend who can be that open about her feelings &amp; expectations. I know you've had some worries about this set-up for little G, but I think it's going to be great! :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/childcare-givers-and-the-tdap-booster-wwyd#post-2503268 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 14:00:57 +0000 DesertDreams88 2503268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoyfulKiwi: I just got off the phone with her. She just really wants to help me and allow me space to share my concerns and desires, but like she said, she can't rearrange her life to accommodate my every wish. Like, she has to do kindergarten dropoff and pick up every day, regardless of naps and feeding times. She has 3 weekly appointments for her kids, and my baby is going to go along to those trips (OT, vision, playgroup). Basically, she's not going to be a nanny for me, she's going to be a friend who babysits and takes care of him like one of her own. I'm not looking for a nanny nor paying the level that would merit nanny care, anyway.</p> <p>She was also concerned that as a first time mom, I might have a lot of requests and she would do the best she could to meet our needs but she worries she won't be able to do it 100% my way. I agree and understand, but ultimately, if having it 100% my way was my priority, I'd leave my job and stay at home. But that's not a real option for me, so I understand I have to be flexible with some things... just like I would have to be with daycare. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/childcare-givers-and-the-tdap-booster-wwyd#post-2503199 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 13:28:59 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 2503199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be totally fine with her not having the booster (but not un-vaccinated kids). Also, daycare workers aren't always required to have all vaccines up-to-date &amp; there's more exposure in daycare via other kids. I would be curious what she means about not being able to provide the "level of care" and want to talk about that to make sure everyone was on the same page. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/childcare-givers-and-the-tdap-booster-wwyd#post-2503171 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 13:16:55 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2503171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DesertDreams88: Honestly, I would be totally fine with it then. It sounds like its an ideal situation except for this which in my book is less than ideal but not terrible either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/childcare-givers-and-the-tdap-booster-wwyd#post-2503166 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 13:14:56 +0000 DesertDreams88 2503166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So it turns out that she probably got the booster 8 years ago with her first pregnancy, but she doesn't think she got it with her second pregnancy, she's waiting back to hear from her OB. She's not sure she could get the booster within the next two weeks before caring for him, based on her schedule. Her kids are fully vaxxed except for Chickenpox, which they haven't had. She also says there's a lot of hand-washing in their home, when they get home from school and before meals. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/childcare-givers-and-the-tdap-booster-wwyd#post-2502968 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 11:28:07 +0000 raintreebee 2502968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DesertDreams88: got it. I'd be concerned then. Especially judging from her reaction. But definitely hear her out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/childcare-givers-and-the-tdap-booster-wwyd#post-2502951 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 11:19:31 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 2502951@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@petitenoisette: I agree with you. </p> <p>It sounds like she's starting to hesitate about watching your LO. I would definitely be getting a backup plan into place. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/childcare-givers-and-the-tdap-booster-wwyd#post-2502950 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 11:18:53 +0000 DesertDreams88 2502950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@petitenoisette: yeah I see what you mean. I asked the daycares about that and the cheaper day care would charge me for the summer, the more expensive one wouldn't, so it's basically a break-even thing. Regardless, my in-laws will be providing care starting in August when I have to go back next school year, so it's a moot point. Thanks for the idea though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/childcare-givers-and-the-tdap-booster-wwyd#post-2502948 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 11:16:35 +0000 Foodnerd81 2502948@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Unless there is an outbreak of pertussis in your area, I wouldn't be too worried about it. I would want to find out if her kids are vaccinated though. </p> <p>As far as sticking with her, it sounds like maybe you would be more comfortable with a daycare setting. I do think baby will be exposed to more germs that way, run of the mill colds and such. But you might have more control which might make you feel better. </p> <p>I did not ask anyone to get the dtap besides DH. No one else spent that much time with either baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/childcare-givers-and-the-tdap-booster-wwyd#post-2502947 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 11:16:28 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 2502947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Your LO will have his first round of vaccines at 2 months so I wouldn't worry about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/childcare-givers-and-the-tdap-booster-wwyd#post-2502946 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 11:16:15 +0000 DesertDreams88 2502946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@raintreebee: yeah, but it won't be fully effective - they get 5 doses. 2, 4, &amp; 6 mo. Then 15-18 mo, then I forget the last one... sometime before age 5 I think. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/childcare-givers-and-the-tdap-booster-wwyd#post-2502945 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 11:16:12 +0000 petitenoisette 2502945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know it's a short term thing, but I think what's most concerning is that she obviously already is thinking it's not going to work out. That would make me feel really uncomfortable, I would not want to go into something feeling like it might fall through and leave you scrambling.</p> <p>The vaccine thing is almost a secondary issue but I think you are right to assume by her reaction that her kids are prob not vaccinated. And that's obviously a dealbreaker too. </p> <p>FYI, I know that at my daughter's current daycare and at another I toured that they'll let me withdraw her for the summer. For current daycare I just have to pay half of September's tuition to hold her spot. So might be worth investigating if you haven't already. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/childcare-givers-and-the-tdap-booster-wwyd#post-2502941 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 11:14:21 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 2502941@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would go with her still if her kids are fully vaxxed. But I would still be a little uneasy. For reference, LO and I both got Pertussis within 2 years of having the shot for me and even less for him. It really is not as strong as some vaccines...which is why herd immunity is so important...I'm the one who was exposed at school..I'm a HS teacher. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/childcare-givers-and-the-tdap-booster-wwyd#post-2502936 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 11:12:49 +0000 raintreebee 2502936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Won't your LO have the pertussis shot at 8 weeks? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/childcare-givers-and-the-tdap-booster-wwyd#post-2502931 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 11:05:40 +0000 snowjewelz 2502931@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I def would start looking into plan B asap. </p> <p>For me, it's not the issue of the mom, more the issue of her kids. If her kids aren't vaccinated I don't think I'd leave LO at her home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/childcare-givers-and-the-tdap-booster-wwyd#post-2502929 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 11:04:49 +0000 avivoca 2502929@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BrandNewMom: Yes, I was also a former daycare worker and was required to be up to date on my vaccinations also. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/childcare-givers-and-the-tdap-booster-wwyd#post-2502927 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 11:02:28 +0000 BrandNewMom 2502927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Former daycare worker, I had to be up to date on all vaccinations or was put on mandated unpaid leave.<br /> That being said, it sounds a little like she might be trying to back out of your plan. So I think you should look into daycares regardless. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/childcare-givers-and-the-tdap-booster-wwyd#post-2502901 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 10:44:52 +0000 Adira 2502901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd want to make sure her kids are vaccinated, since they are presumably in school and as long as they were, I'd definitely still consider using her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/childcare-givers-and-the-tdap-booster-wwyd#post-2502897 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 10:40:44 +0000 ShootingStar 2502897@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For tdap, if there's no outbreaks in your area, I wouldn't worry about it. But if the kids are completely unvaccinated, that would be a no-go for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/childcare-givers-and-the-tdap-booster-wwyd#post-2502894 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 10:39:06 +0000 creativemomma15 2502894@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be concerned if her kids weren't vaccinated but not so much if she wouldn't get her booster. To speak to the daycare workers being vaccinated, I worked in a daycare for over 8 years and was never questioned about my own vaccinations or required to get any. My employee offered to pay our copay for the flu shot but it was never required. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/childcare-givers-and-the-tdap-booster-wwyd#post-2502893 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 10:38:43 +0000 youboots 2502893@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly I think there could be more risk of exposure at daycare- I'd be asking about the policy for workers and other kids and not make any assumptions if you are thinking about changing your plan. FYI-The daycare I take T to does not require vaccines. </p> <p>Ultimately you are the Mom and it's your call- you could chat with your pediatrician about it too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/childcare-givers-and-the-tdap-booster-wwyd#post-2502889 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 10:36:46 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2502889@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would want to make sure her kids are up to date but as long as she's had one in her adult life, I would still consider using her. Like others have said, no guarantee a daycare worker would be up to date either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/childcare-givers-and-the-tdap-booster-wwyd#post-2502886 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 10:33:45 +0000 NavyRN2012 2502886@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It'd be a deal breaker for me. Vaccines are my non-negotiable though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/childcare-givers-and-the-tdap-booster-wwyd#post-2502885 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 10:33:40 +0000 LBee 2502885@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know what I would do. All of my family (including our nanny) are vaccinated. We did offer to pay for it if anyone ran across cost issues. </p> <p>A few additional thoughts: </p> <p>1. Daycare providers are not required to have the tDap booster per my research. It is recommended, but not required. You have no idea if they are up to date. </p> <p>2. Also, you have no idea whether the kids at daycare are all vaccinated or not. Just because a daycare requires a blue form does not mean the children are all vaccinated. For all you know one of the kids could have a blue form exemption (medical, religious), who knows. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/childcare-givers-and-the-tdap-booster-wwyd#post-2502880 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 10:29:49 +0000 avivoca 2502880@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I mandated that our immediate family was vaccinated for it. I never used a home provider, so I don't know what the protocol is for that, but as a daycare provider, you are required to be up-to-date on your vaccinations. Personally, with a baby that young, I would be VERY uncomfortable with my child spending a lot of time with someone who was not vaccinated because it is such a serious disease. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/childcare-givers-and-the-tdap-booster-wwyd#post-2502876 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 10:26:31 +0000 DesertDreams88 2502876@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I need to go back to work in 3 weeks and LO will be 2.5mo old. I only need childcare for the 7 weeks until summer break, so a SAHM friend offered to watch him. We were really happy about this plan for a couple reasons: friendship, more personal, use cloth diapers, not having to cancel/withdraw from daycare after the 7 weeks, half the price of daycare (!) etc. But there are logistical complications - we have to give her some baby gear, and pick up is at a different time &amp; place almost every day. </p> <p>However, I just realized last night that the current TDAP vaccine booster recommendation is to get it every 5 years or so, since it's less effective than previously thought. DH &amp; grandparents got it, but I forgot to ask my friend, so I texted her about it last night asking her to check with her doctor. She has two kids, ages 5 and 7, so I figured/hoped it wouldn't be an issue. </p> <p>She texted back this morning a long, supportive, kind text but said, "I understand your concern and I'll look into it, but I can't commit to a shot at this time. I'd rather talk with you about it on the phone. However, the bigger picture is, this has concerned me that I might not be able to provide the level of care you desire."</p> <p>Uh oh. So there's a good chance it seems that she won't get the booster (even if she's out of date), and it raises the possibility that her kids aren't vaccinated. I know, I guess I should have asked earlier, I didn't realize. If her kids aren't vaxxed, that makes my decision clear, I'll do daycare. But what if her kids are fully up to date but she's not? Is this a deal breaker, for the 7 weeks? I know which way I'm leaning, but I'm an anxious overworrier so I have a hard time assessing true risk.</p> <p>The alternative is daycare, which has fully vaxxed infants but who knows about the daycare workers. I don't think they're required to be up to date, either. So it might be equal risk. For double the cost, but less logistical issues. </p>