https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 12 Nov 2026 13:01:09 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/choosing-a-new-provider#post-1725793 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 22:11:34 +0000 Beehive 1725793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cmomma17: Aha, that is so frustrating! In that case I'd try out the male doctors and see if you love them and would be comfortable with them, and if not, back to practice A. My normal doctors are all women, but when I was temporarily living in another city in my first tri, I went to a male obgyn because he was very highly recommended. It ended up being fine, and he was a great doctor with an excellent bedside manner. I probably would have stuck with him if I was living there permanently. So, maybe check them out and see what you think! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/choosing-a-new-provider#post-1725110 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 19:04:45 +0000 cmomma17 1725110@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsMcD: when I called about my first pregnancy they said I didn't have insurance and that I would need to pay a $1500 deposit first and apply for Medicaid before they would let me see my doctor (who I had been seeing for 3 years already). I had insurance. My insurance, where I was the carrier for my family. It was ridiculous.<br /> My pregnant co worker recently showed up for an appointment and they told her it was cancelled,. But they never called to notify here.<br /> Stuff like that and just general rudeness. I have been a receptionist before and there is no reason to be unpleasant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/choosing-a-new-provider#post-1725087 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 18:57:41 +0000 cmomma17 1725087@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Beehive: since B is closing down I only have A and C left to choose from. I'd have to leave town for another option. Minimum drive of 45 minutes probably, which won't work at all since I work full time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/choosing-a-new-provider#post-1725082 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 18:56:15 +0000 cmomma17 1725082@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ocean girl: I have a co worker who just switched. But she's isn't pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/choosing-a-new-provider#post-1724089 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 14:20:37 +0000 deactivated_account 1724089@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I vote for A, only because I don't prefer male gynos. As for the staff... how are they horrible? Don't you just need them to make appointments and what not? I wouldn't really care about the staff so much. Its the person staring and reaching into my vag that I'm most concerned about. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/choosing-a-new-provider#post-1724033 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 14:08:49 +0000 Beehive 1724033@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you have another option? Sounds like none of your choices are ideal (apart from the river option of course), so perhaps it's worth looking around for another new practice? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/choosing-a-new-provider#post-1723750 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 13:03:42 +0000 Ocean girl 1723750@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cmomma17: do you have any acquaintances who have used option C? If so, you could ask them about their experience(s) and go from their to make your decision.<br /> I have a male OB who's partners at his clinic are also male. It wasn't my initial preference, but in the end I really didn't mind. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/choosing-a-new-provider#post-1723737 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 12:58:51 +0000 cmomma17 1723737@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs.Someone: those are the only practices available in our area unfortunately. Commuting elsewhere isn't an option since I work full time and can't take a ton of time off to attend appointments in a different city. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/choosing-a-new-provider#post-1723732 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 12:57:18 +0000 Mrs.Someone 1723732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry, I vote go back to the drawing board! Male OBs are a no-go for me, and it doesn't sound like going back to the first office is good either. Have you tried asking other friends, or Yelp? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/choosing-a-new-provider#post-1723684 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 12:40:46 +0000 cmomma17 1723684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Officially confirmed my former office will be completely shut down by end of year. :( Wah. No idea yet where my OB will end up.</p> <p>I think we are going to check out C and see how it feels. The midwife from my closing office is apparently joining their practice! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/choosing-a-new-provider#post-1723405 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 11:02:45 +0000 Greentea 1723405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cmomma17: I don't agree with pps. If I felt hesitant about C, I would listen to my intuition and go with the cranky people at option A. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/choosing-a-new-provider#post-1723347 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 10:40:52 +0000 2PeasinaPod 1723347@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cmomma17: Lots of luck! And let us know how it goes after you've seen them! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/choosing-a-new-provider#post-1723299 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 10:27:08 +0000 cmomma17 1723299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2PeasinaPod: I think you're right. I'm going to call my old office this morning just to make totally sure they are no longer an option. If they're out then I will call "C". Their office does look very nice from the pics on their website </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/choosing-a-new-provider#post-1723258 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 10:18:16 +0000 2PeasinaPod 1723258@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cmomma17: I know it's hard to switch, but I think C is best! I have a practice with both male and female OBs...maybe it was just because of the docs in my practice, but the males were so great. And the one who had the least bedside manner was the one who delivered S. I'm going to have a scheduled C-section if I can get pregnant again and I want him to deliver again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/choosing-a-new-provider#post-1722927 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 08:59:40 +0000 Cole 1722927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would go with C, at least to start. I am with a practice now that has awful staff and it is making me miserable. I cannot wait to ditch them. I have thought about changing but the solo practitioner I found is full for births that month and everyone else is just too far to be practical. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/choosing-a-new-provider#post-1722843 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 08:42:07 +0000 cmomma17 1722843@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Crystal: I'm pretty sure they do. A co-worker is pregnant now, due next month. She has been going to that office and telling me her horror stories about the rude staff :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/choosing-a-new-provider#post-1722609 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 06:50:25 +0000 SweetiePie 1722609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted to give C a try. If you don't like them you can go back to A!<br /> I switched docs at 20 weeks and it was a slight pain, but worth it in the end! Especially if it's still early in your pregnancy, I don't think that shopping around is a bad idea :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/choosing-a-new-provider#post-1722583 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 06:31:49 +0000 Crystal 1722583@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can you find out if option a has the same office staff?</p> <p>Personally, I would try out C to see how I felt. If I didn't like it I would switch to A. I figure there's no harm in trying C this newly pregnant- it gives you plenty of time to make a decision. You may end up really liking them. =) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/choosing-a-new-provider#post-1722568 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 06:15:40 +0000 Honeygold89 1722568@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm like you with males doc but if it was the only and best option then I would have to try to get over it and try </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/choosing-a-new-provider#post-1721669 Wed, 25 Jun 2014 16:19:02 +0000 littlek 1721669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a male OB and he's great! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/choosing-a-new-provider#post-1721627 Wed, 25 Jun 2014 15:53:58 +0000 cmomma17 1721627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2PeasinaPod: I actually have had mostly male providers my whole life! Male family doctor, a gyno once, eye doctor, dentists, etc. LO's pediatrician is male and I love him.<br /> It never bothered me before. In pregnancy #1 DH had a slight preference to female doctors, but ultimately left it up to me to choose. I think I just really enjoyed having a female OB and relating to a woman who had been through labor and delivery personally. I got a good vibe from the all female practice.</p> <p>I think maybe it's just a fear of/resistance to change, so I'm using the all male staff as an excuse when it's not really valid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/choosing-a-new-provider#post-1721556 Wed, 25 Jun 2014 15:31:19 +0000 Boheme 1721556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd try out C! You don't want the office staff messing up your files/records. Bad staff can definitely ruin the entire thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/choosing-a-new-provider#post-1721548 Wed, 25 Jun 2014 15:29:56 +0000 bushelandapeck 1721548@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a male OB with DS and I thought it would be weird but it really wasn't. I didn't have him when I delivered though, so I can't speak to how that might have changed things. I have a similar experience to your option A with my current provider and it is seriously making me consider switching practices, even though I am already 27w along. Long waits and bad staff make the whole thing practically unbearable for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/choosing-a-new-provider#post-1721547 Wed, 25 Jun 2014 15:29:46 +0000 clover 1721547@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I vote to try out practice C, if it seems to weird you can always switch. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/choosing-a-new-provider#post-1721527 Wed, 25 Jun 2014 15:22:56 +0000 2PeasinaPod 1721527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cmomma17: What is your aversion to male doctors? Is it just that you've always seen female doctors?</p> <p>I also used to have an aversion to male doctors until I was sort of forced into seeing one when a NP had an issue she wanted him to check out. He was far gentler than any female I had ever seen. From then on, I was more comfortable. To them, it's just a job. </p> <p>In fact, the oldest member of my current practice delivered my LO, and thank goodness he was there. I had a complicated emergency C-section, and I'm fully convinced that his expertise is why my son is here today. </p> <p>So...my vote would be practice C. I can't stand rude office staff. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/choosing-a-new-provider#post-1721526 Wed, 25 Jun 2014 15:22:52 +0000 avivoca 1721526@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I vote try out Option C. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/choosing-a-new-provider#post-1721517 Wed, 25 Jun 2014 15:19:10 +0000 cmomma17 1721517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I found out I was pregnant with #1 I unfortunately had to switch practices. I went to practice A for years! Loved my gyno, who is also an OB. Would have loved to have her deliver my baby! However, the staff in that office is ATROCIOUS. Rude, unprofessional, screw things up, long waits for appointments, etc. Didn't want to deal with that for 9 months, so we switched based on personal recommendations to provider B. </p> <p>With baby #1, I loved my OB. I saw her exclusively through my pregnancy and she was present for the birth. Loved the whole OB office, staff was pretty good. (all provider B). Loved that this office had a midwife on staff, even though we ultimately chose the OB route. </p> <p>Shortly before getting pregnant with #2 I find out my OB office (B) is going out of business/no longer taking OB patients! :( :( :( So now I must switch again. :( Haven't called yet to make an appointment anywhere and I got my BFP on Sunday.</p> <p>I have two (?) choices:<br /> Go back to A - hopefully get the doctor I previously loved (she's still there). However, I have to see ALL of the doctors in the practice and am not guaranteed the doctor I love will be there when I deliver. All the doctors at this office are female (both DH and I like that, but it's not a must have). Horrible, horrible, nightmare staff though :(<br /> Or then there is C - they are located AT the hospital which is really convenient, should have less wait time, have way fancier ultrasound machines and other equipment. Only 4 doctors on staff though and all are male and older (something is making me hesitate about that). </p> <p>I don't know what to do! I need to make a choice so I can make my first appointment and transfer files! </p>