https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 27 Jun 2026 05:44:05 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/christmas-cards-offensive/page/2#post-397789 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 17:17:35 +0000 JerricaBenton 397789@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I only have a few people on my list that don't celebrate Christmas so I always have a bunch of Happy Holidays/Happy Hanukkah cards that I send to them. I don't know what I'll do if I get cards printed up when the baby is here. I like to say Merry Christmas, because that's what I mean! Maybe I'll just print out some pictures and send them in the Happy Holidays or Happy Hanukkah cards. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/christmas-cards-offensive/page/2#post-397763 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 17:07:11 +0000 Mrs Checkers 397763@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow! So many varying opinions!</p> <p>DH and I celebrate Christmas, but a number of our friends/co-workers don't and so this year we purchased a card that says "Peace, Love, and Joy" on the front (no Christmas trees, reindeer, snowmen) and on the back we wrote, "Have a wonderful holiday season."</p> <p>I would not be offended if I received a different type of holiday card, but I know some others who might be. I am just happy to receive the cards, especially if they have cute family photos on them! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/christmas-cards-offensive/page/2#post-397698 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 16:34:28 +0000 JoJoGirl 397698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@spaniellove: Totally! I had to, as an adult, learn to appreciate that it's the thought that counts. When I was younger it would make me feel alienated more than anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/christmas-cards-offensive/page/2#post-397688 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 16:31:35 +0000 DigAPony 397688@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladyfingers: ha! +1 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/christmas-cards-offensive/page/2#post-397685 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 16:29:53 +0000 spaniellove 397685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really believe that getting offended about holidays is harder to understand if one celebrates Christmas, because it's the holiday celebrated by the vast majority of Americans. If you come from the dominant culture, it's not always okay to tell someone from a minority culture that it's the thought that counts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/christmas-cards-offensive/page/2#post-397675 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 16:26:55 +0000 everbee 397675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i TOTALLY agree with @foodnerd81 ~!! i get irritated when i receive a generic card with just a signature inside under the generically printed message. sometimes my name isn't even there. i throw those away. but i save every single card with pictures on it :) or with a meaningful message inside. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/christmas-cards-offensive/page/2#post-397653 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 16:19:38 +0000 MrsRcCar 397653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We celebrate Christmas but I know some of our friends don't. Our friends still love to get our cards. I love holiday cards!! I am looking forward to sending out them this year and I love getting them in the mail every year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/christmas-cards-offensive/page/2#post-397652 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 16:19:30 +0000 anonysquire 397652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If people get offended that's one less card you have to send next year. You only get offended if you let yourself be offended. And who doesn't like holiday cards no matter what holiday they celebrate? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/christmas-cards-offensive/page/2#post-397645 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 16:16:53 +0000 Rubies 397645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always wondered why someone would be offended only because if *I* celebrated Christmas (which I do), and sent you a Christmas card, it's because *I* celebrate it and want to pass on Christmas cheer! I'm not sending you one to make you also celebrate it. Likewise, I would be thrilled if I received a Chanukah card from someone celebrating the Jewish holiday.</p> <p>I always thought that one could send someone a greeting based on their own belief, not the belief(s) of the recipient? Do I make sense?</p> <p>Anyway, I love the holidays and wish I got more cards! I seem to get a lot of holiday email/e-cards... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/christmas-cards-offensive/page/2#post-397631 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 16:12:23 +0000 heffalump 397631@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: That sounds fun! Yeah this year Chanukah is super early, our holiday fun will be long gone by Christmas time. Both of my siblings and DH's brother married non Jews so they all do Christmas too, i'm the only one who didn't. Can't say I'm upset about it though..... we have our tradition of taking advantage of the short lines at a theme park and then going to Chinese for dinner :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/christmas-cards-offensive/page/2#post-397630 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 16:12:17 +0000 ladyfingers 397630@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I prefer to send Festivus cards...</p> <p>;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/christmas-cards-offensive/page/2#post-397619 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 16:08:03 +0000 heffalump 397619@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: Oh, yeah that's weird. I do get some of those too and wonder the same thing. I think I just think I have to put an extra personalized message this year because I'm going to Chanukah so I want to make sure to include a Merry Christmas to those who celebrate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/christmas-cards-offensive#post-397616 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 16:06:51 +0000 JoJoGirl 397616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm Jewish and I definitely don't get offended, but it does feel a little funny. Like if you're not Jewish and I send you a card that says "Hope you have a good Yom Kippur and may your fast be easy this year!" and you're like "wtf? I don't fast on some random day in September... but thanks?" I do appreciate the sentiment though :-) I get that a lot of people who celebrate Christmas see it as a "holiday season", even if I don't! I wouldn't want to take that away from them. :) Plus the whole "happy holidays" thing drives me crazy - it's a Christmas tree, not a holiday tree. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/christmas-cards-offensive#post-397607 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 16:05:16 +0000 PearlBee 397607@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is a great question! I'd hate to offend anyone when I'm strictly trying to wish them merriment over the holidays! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/christmas-cards-offensive#post-397605 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 16:04:51 +0000 Cherrybee 397605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: Christmakah is an awesome name, I'm totally stealing that for this year! My BIL''s fiance is Jewish so she comes to the in-laws every year for Christmas as she doesn't have to worry about upsetting her parents by not spending Christmas with them. We always have a kind of festival mash-up, with a menorah (even though Channukah's usually over by then) and, last year, we played dreidel, betting with nuts (the boys got really competitive!!). It's pretty awesome, really. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/christmas-cards-offensive#post-397602 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 16:03:31 +0000 Foodnerd81 397602@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: But your card that you ordered is personal already. I'm thrilled to get a photo card, even if it has no personal message written, just the generic Happy Holidays, love the Smiths. That's totally fine. I mean a generic winter scene printed on the front of a generic card, with a handwritten, Merry Christmas! Love Jane. I don't really see the point of sending the card at all-- they aren't required. You aren't reconnecting with someone with two lines that weren't even personalized. Just a Dear Foodnerd, Merry Christmas, Love Jane, is enough for me. Sorry, don't mean to threadjack with my rant, I'll be quiet now.</p> <p>But really my favorites are cards with adorable babies on them. I don't care what they say then :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/christmas-cards-offensive#post-397586 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 15:57:48 +0000 wheres_c 397586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't be offended if I got a card for a holiday I didn't celebrate - I'd be happy that my friend thought enough of me to send a card. Hardly anyone does these days.</p> <p>When I send cards, I usually buy an assortment from Costco (Although this will change when LO is here and I can make photo cards).<br /> I set the ones that make any reference to Christmas or Santa aside and send those to the people I know celebrate christmas.</p> <p>I use the "Seasons Greetings" and "Happy Holidays" cards for my Jewish friends, athiest friends or friends that I am unsure of their religious beliefs.<br /> If any of those people got offended after all the effort I put in trying to NOT be offensive, I think they would be nixed from my group of friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/christmas-cards-offensive#post-397576 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 15:54:05 +0000 heffalump 397576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: Saves time? DH thinks I'm crazy because we ordered postcards from vistaprint and I could have filled in a generic note to everyone on the back..... but how impersonal is that? So I'll be handwriting 100 postcards to everyone. But it's worth it to me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/christmas-cards-offensive#post-397574 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 15:53:22 +0000 Mrs. Blue 397574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I send holiday cards that say Merry Christmas because that's the holiday that we, and most of our family/friends celebrate. However, I do always write a personal message that includes "Happy Hanukkah!" to acknowledge their holiday celebration. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/christmas-cards-offensive#post-397558 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 15:45:21 +0000 Foodnerd81 397558@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: I get what you are saying. If you hand write something, you should be hand writing the right holiday. </p> <p>I would be happy to receive any holiday card. I only have one person on my list who doesn't celebrate Christmas in some way, and even she goes to her parents' house for Christmas (raised Catholic, converted to Jewish). So it's not really much of an issue. </p> <p>What I don't understand is people who send generic cards with a generic handwritten note inside, not even a Dear Foodnerd. What is the point of that? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/christmas-cards-offensive#post-397527 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 15:30:41 +0000 birdofafeather 397527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i wouldn't be offended because i think it's the person who is sending me the card is celebrating. that being said, i don't personally write on any of our cards because we have over 60 cards to send out with all of DH's family. we all celebrate christmas, but maybe if i thought there was a friend who celebrated something else, i would give a quick written shout as well? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/christmas-cards-offensive#post-397478 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 15:15:03 +0000 heffalump 397478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Shutterbug: Awww thanks :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/christmas-cards-offensive#post-397476 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 15:14:40 +0000 heffalump 397476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Let me clarify myself. I don't mind getting a Christmas card. What I do mind is that people don't acknowledge in said Christmas card that my holiday exists too. </p> <p>Like I said, we are sending out Chanukah cards this year, but they are postcards and in each postcard I will write a personal message either stating "Happy Chanukah" or "Merry Christmas" or the generic "Happy Holidays" or "Merry Chrismikah" to those who celebrate both. </p> <p>Because no, I don't expect people to go out and buy me a special Chanukah card and yes I think it's nice that they're sending me a card at all. But please just acknowledge my holiday. Or don't write anything. Really just don't hand write Merry Christmas to me and I won't be offended. DH still will be though.... he's pretty grinchy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/christmas-cards-offensive#post-397473 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 15:14:14 +0000 Shutterbug 397473@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: I think I say this on every pic you post, but your LO is just so darn cute! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/christmas-cards-offensive#post-397450 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 15:07:40 +0000 spaniellove 397450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Personally I would love to get a card acknowledging a holiday someone else celebrates, but I know it may be different when you feel the dominant culture (i.e., Christmas) is forced on you.</p> <p>ETA - Since DH is Jewish and I am not, we tend to buy neutral colored "happy holiday" cards and I get both Hanukkah and Christmas stamps. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/christmas-cards-offensive#post-397444 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 15:05:02 +0000 heffalump 397444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coco Bee: Of course you have the right to print whatever you want on your card, it's your card! I'm just saying that when someone hand writes "Merry Christmas" to a Jewish person..... well I don't really care about having a merry Christmas because I don't celebrate that so it's kind of silly to say. Of course I don't expect you to go out of your way to buy me a special card if you're ordering Merry Christmas cards, but I don't think taking two seconds to write it down is too much to ask. Obviously not an issue for you anyway since all your people celebrate Christmas. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/christmas-cards-offensive#post-397439 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 15:03:45 +0000 sunny 397439@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Like a previous poster said, the intent is to be celebratory... not offensive, so why take it that way? </p> <p>I would not get offended when I get a Happy Diwali card (Happy Diwali to those who celebrated yesterday!), Happy Chanukah, Eid card or generic Happy Holidays card, so I don't think any of my friends get offended when I send Christmas cards. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/christmas-cards-offensive#post-397438 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 15:02:54 +0000 tequiero21 397438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope not at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/christmas-cards-offensive#post-397436 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 15:02:16 +0000 Lozza 397436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I find super religious cards a little uncomfortable, but generic Merry/Happy/Have a good [insert holiday of choice] cards are always cute. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/christmas-cards-offensive#post-397420 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 14:57:02 +0000 Adira 397420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, I definitely wouldn't be offended! With have Jewish friends who send us Chanukah cards and Christian friends who send us religious-themed cards, and we don't mind. I do try to send "Happy Holidays" cards though to everyone, just to be on the safe side. Although I know some people get offended by that too! </p>