https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 09 Apr 2026 23:10:12 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cio-fail-what-can-i-try-tonight#post-2788484 Sun, 26 Nov 2017 15:12:42 +0000 Cherrybee 2788484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: oh no, that's brutal! E didn't STTN until she was three but she's pretty good now - the occasional bad dream or wet bed. S has always been a much better sleeper than E ever was, but I still managed to get her into the same bad habits!</p> <p>I'm praying for another good night tonight... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cio-fail-what-can-i-try-tonight#post-2788462 Sun, 26 Nov 2017 09:58:16 +0000 Foodnerd81 2788462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: fingers crossed something sticks and she keeps up sleeping! </p> <p>Our problem is still C waking up at night, not the almost 2 year old. So I don’t have any advice since I’m still dealing with it two years later. 😓 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cio-fail-what-can-i-try-tonight#post-2788453 Sun, 26 Nov 2017 06:12:18 +0000 Cherrybee 2788453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She only went and slept through last night! We will have to see what tonight brings...... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cio-fail-what-can-i-try-tonight#post-2788434 Sat, 25 Nov 2017 20:04:55 +0000 maddyz 2788434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We get screaming and leg pain when LO1 is growing. It really messes everything up but is over in a few days and he is often visibly taller. If it's growing Lo might be in real pain and need extra hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cio-fail-what-can-i-try-tonight#post-2788427 Sat, 25 Nov 2017 17:10:51 +0000 Truth Bombs 2788427@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would cut out the milk first. At 20 months old she definitely does not need to be eating/drinking through the night. I would rock her for a few nights until she gets used to no milk. And then I would try CIO again. If she keeps up the screaming, you might want to take her to the pediatrician for a check. The only time my 24 month old screams like that in the night is when he has an ear infection. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cio-fail-what-can-i-try-tonight#post-2788423 Sat, 25 Nov 2017 16:52:23 +0000 cake2017 2788423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <br /><p><i>This comment has been deleted by the original poster.</i></p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cio-fail-what-can-i-try-tonight#post-2788420 Sat, 25 Nov 2017 12:56:10 +0000 MrsADS 2788420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So this sounds pretty similar to what happened with my son - although it was when he was 16-17 months, so a little younger. We would rock him to sleep at night and he would sleep a few hours then wake up and cry and refuse to go back to sleep and was absolutely hysterical if we left him.</p> <p>I was miserable and did a lot of research and reading. I didn't want to do CIO. But I realized the problem was he didn't know how to put himself to sleep. So he had to learn that. I realized it was unfair to do CIO in the middle of the night if I would rock him to sleep at bedtime - it's like mixed messages, you know? So we did Ferber CIO at bedtime - so CIO with frequent checks (like every 3 mins). The checks were SHORT (15 secs max), we would rub his back and repeat a soothing phrase (I love you, it's time to sleep now), rub his back, NOT PICK HIM UP, and say "I will be back to check on you in a few minutes, good night." And leave and close the door. I do think the checks helped although of course he would be hysterical after we left.</p> <p>I thought he would cry for hours because when we tried letting him cry in the MOTN it never worked. But I would say within a week he was falling asleep on his own at bedtime with under 5 minutes of crying. We repeated our CIO checks if he woke up in the MOTN. The MOTN wake ups went away on their own once he learned how to put himself back to sleep.</p> <p>I won't lie, it was really hard and I hated it. Actually I made my husband do it, I put headphones in and washed dishes so I didn't have to hear the crying. But it was LIFE CHANGING for all of us. Ever since we did sleep training, he falls asleep with no crying 95% of the time and ALWAYS sleeps through the night unless he is really sick (he's 27 months old now). </p> <p>I think the key is CONSISTENCY, make your plan and STICK TO IT so your child knows what to expect. Otherwise, it's not fair to let them cry.</p> <p>I think it depends on the child but my son was very stubborn and wasn't going to just go to sleep on his own so we had to do it this way. I was about to quit my job due to sleep deprivation and now it is so much better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cio-fail-what-can-i-try-tonight#post-2788398 Sat, 25 Nov 2017 03:17:14 +0000 Cherrybee 2788398@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>S is 20 months now. She's still not STTN, but we had settled into a good routine of one wake up per night - I would give her a drink of warm milk, which she would drink lying down in her crib, and then she would snuggle down and go back to sleep with no fuss. Until it didn't work any more....</p> <p>The last few nights, she has woken up as usual, but screamed to be picked up. If I try to lie her down she twists and leaps straight back up. She bats her milk away angrily. She just wants to be cuddled. Then, after a cuddle (and her milk in my arms), she freaks out when I put her down again. </p> <p>We decided that the right thing was to let her cry. She cries for a good 20 mins every night at bedtime before she falls asleep so she knows "night night" means she needs to settle down and give it up. Only she didn't give it up! The first night she cried for an hr and a quarter. Then last night, she cried for two hours. In the end, I gave up and went into her. After a bottle in my arms, I put her down again and she cried for a further half an hour before giving it up (standing in her crib). </p> <p>She's dangerously close to being able to climb out of the crib, too. I'm wondering if a floor bed might be a good idea, but I'm worried that she will just keep running out of her room. </p> <p>We need sleeeeeeep! </p>