https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 00:53:34 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cio-how-long-is-too-long-for-crying#post-808849 Sat, 25 May 2013 12:21:37 +0000 Mrs. Blue 808849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have you read the Baby Whisperer book? Before I put our boys down, I do what she suggests. I hold them upright (like in a sitting position) for 5-10 minutes. I don't rock or talk to them or anything during that time. Sometime in that range, they usually start getting droopy eyed, and I will lay them down before they go to sleep. Then I kiss them and leave the room. Usually they'll either go right to sleep, stay awake a few minutes and then drift off, or fuss for about 5-10 more minutes and then sleep. Of they are overtired or are really crying hard after 10-15 minutes, I'll pick them up and shhh and pat their back firmly until they get droopy-eyed again and put them back on their crib. Usually, after this they'll go to sleep. Straight CIO doesn't seem to work for my boys (though they are pretty young still, so maye someday it would); when I can't get to one because I'm busy with the other, they just keep crying and never go to sleep. That's why I always go in pick up and pat for a few minutes and get them sleepy before we try again. Another thing I've read and working on doing is choosing a path and being consistent with it. If I let them cry endlessly one time but then go pick them up in 5 min. the next time, I think it's kid of confusing to them.</p> <p>It's soooo hard to hear them cry for even a few minutes, so I can only imagine how stressed you've been! Hang in there and good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cio-how-long-is-too-long-for-crying#post-808832 Sat, 25 May 2013 12:07:35 +0000 Katrocap 808832@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@smurfette: We're starting daycare in August when DS is 7.5 months. I'm worried about naps because he only naps in the carseat, bouncy chair or on me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cio-how-long-is-too-long-for-crying#post-808762 Sat, 25 May 2013 11:11:11 +0000 MamaJ 808762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: oh man. I'm sure daycare will help. I stay at home so that isn't helping me any haha. And DH puts all the sleep stuff on me because I'm the one that has to get up. So he wants me to do whatever is best for me. Unfortunately nothing is working right now haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cio-how-long-is-too-long-for-crying#post-808759 Sat, 25 May 2013 11:07:05 +0000 Smurfette 808759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaJ: R is 11 weeks and I have to hold her for naps too. As soon as I put her down she wakes up. At night we have to hold her for 45+ before we can put her down. I am so scared that she will be like your LO and cry for hours. Girlfriend is stubborn. I am just praying day care will help when she starts on the 3rd.</p> <p>Good luck!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cio-how-long-is-too-long-for-crying#post-808739 Sat, 25 May 2013 10:48:36 +0000 MamaJ 808739@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: I haven't read the book. I'll be getting it today! Thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cio-how-long-is-too-long-for-crying#post-808728 Sat, 25 May 2013 10:37:33 +0000 hilsy85 808728@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaJ: I also still nurse at night but I set a minimum-- I won't nurse him if he wakes before 1:30. </p> <p>Maybe try having your DH do the checks? And have you read Ferber's book? It has a TON of information that's very helpful! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cio-how-long-is-too-long-for-crying#post-808726 Sat, 25 May 2013 10:35:14 +0000 MamaJ 808726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: id say a mix of fussing and hysterical crying. He would stop totally but not for long and never slept. I did a few checks but they made it worse so I stopped. That's what I thought too about the giving up but since he still nurses at night I was confused! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cio-how-long-is-too-long-for-crying#post-808718 Sat, 25 May 2013 10:28:59 +0000 hilsy85 808718@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When you say "cried for 2 hours"--is that 2 hours straight? Like 2 hours hysterical crying? Or more fussing on and off? Were you doing checks?</p> <p>Also, one thing that I took away from Ferber's book (which I really recommend ) is that if you're not consistent then basically all the crying the child does is for nothing. Another words, if the child cries for an hour and then you give in and feed him at the end of that hour, then you might as well have fed him in the first place rather than letting him cry for an hour, you know? That really helped me when I wanted to just go in and nurse LO--I didn't want his crying/the work he was doing to be in vain! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cio-how-long-is-too-long-for-crying#post-808714 Sat, 25 May 2013 10:26:12 +0000 MamaJ 808714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is 6 months old. We've been cosleeping basically this whole time. Which I was never happy about but I needed sleep and I was having some PPD signs, well once we coslept it seemed to go away. Now DS is waking up every hour for the passed week and I just can't do it again. </p> <p>We have tried to sleep train before and it looked like this. </p> <p>Attempt 1 (3 months old) - cried for 45 mins. Slept for 20. Cried for an hour and a half and it was passed the time he normally nurses so I gave in and fed him. DH and I ended up in a huge fight probably from stress. Nigh two - cried for 2 hours. I gave up which resulted in anothe fight with DH</p> <p>Attempt 2 ( 5 months) - I was gone and DH couldn't get DS to sleep so he put him in his crib cried for 2ish hours until knot home and DH told me to get him. </p> <p>Attempt 3 ( last night) - tried putting him in his crib asleep for 3 hours. Gave up and let him cry for an hour. Got sick of it and put him in bed with us. ( no fighting with DH. He consoled me this time while be both talked about how we don't know what to do). </p> <p>I hate letting him cry. Especially for that long. Is there a cutoff time for ok my kid has been screaming forever??? </p> <p>I'm at my wits end. I need sleep. Oh did I mention he still gets held for naps!?? Yeah! Send help! Please! </p>