https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 08 May 2026 16:45:28 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cio-mamas#post-839697 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 11:59:54 +0000 sooz 839697@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We sleep-trained our son at 4 months and in the beginning did the graduated Ferber method, going in every 5 mins and then lengthening the time, but we realized that going in just upset in further and made him cry harder, so we maxed out at about 30 mins. Thankfully, we only had to do this one night. </p> <p>It was so worth it, though, because he was a terrible sleeper and so incredibly cranky in the mornings and throughout the day because he was so tired. Once he started sleeping through the night, he was so much happier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cio-mamas#post-839437 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 10:49:15 +0000 hilsy85 839437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It sounds like you're leaning toward doing something Ferber-like? I really recommend reading the book--there's lots of great info in there and he covers almost every scenario.</p> <p>I personally felt that 4 months was too young for me to sleep train my LO ..I was also hopeful that he would just naturally get better sleep over time. That didn't happen and we attempted sleep training unsuccessfully at 5 months and then did it for real at 6.5 months. We now let him cry anywhere from 10-20 minutes, depending on the type of cry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cio-mamas#post-839338 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 10:27:13 +0000 swurlygurl 839338@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD has been doing this lately too... She's 4.5 months and FF, so night-time feeding hasn't been needed for 2.5 months now. She also puts herself to sleep for naps and bedtime, but she's having a hard time when she wakes up in the middle of the night. Basically, she sounds a lot like your DD!<br /> We just swaddle-weaned, and I think this is why she's been waking up more. When I hear her start to fuss I turn some music on, and it distracts her from her own fussing enough to fall back asleep (we have the motorolla video monitor so we can turn music on with the monitor - my favorite feature right now!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cio-mamas#post-839328 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 10:25:32 +0000 tysonja 839328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jmarionsmith: haha... yeah, for our own LO i felt comfortable with 30 min too -- that is FOREVER in baby crying time. but i didn't feel comfortable suggesting it right off the bat :) hehe. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cio-mamas#post-839303 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 10:15:16 +0000 jmarionsmith 839303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>when we sleep trained our lo he only got more upset if we checked on him so we let him cry for 30 minutes during his night wakings (unless he was frantic which usually meant a poopy diaper.)</p> <p>i don't know if that would help you guys or not but it definitely sounds like she's reading for cio, whatever method you choose. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cio-mamas#post-839296 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 10:12:18 +0000 plantains 839296@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>agree with everything @tysonja: said. 10 minutes is a great starting point and then you can go from there depending on how she does. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cio-mamas#post-839284 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 10:07:16 +0000 tysonja 839284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>it sounds like she is ready! :) especially if you know for sure she doesn't need a feed at night (my LO was mostly formula fed too, and didn't need a night feed at that age, either). I'm of the opinion that 4 months is plenty old enough to cry a bit/fuss for nighttime wakings, but i know others might not be comfortable with it. </p> <p>I think in your case i would try and tackle that first nighttime wake -- set a time that you feel comfortable letting her cry/fuss in bed and watch the clock and monitor. Perhaps 10 mins to start? Of course if it seems like it is the unconsolable crying then go in and help her out. I think she may surprise you! sometimes after they master that first wake up, the other ones just magically go away too. Only do what you are comfortable with! </p> <p>We did something like this for our LO when he was 3 months and he hasn't woken up once at night since -- he's 12.5 months now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cio-mamas#post-839219 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 09:46:44 +0000 photojane 839219@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm looking for some advice/opinions/notes!</p> <p>I think Sadie would respond well to the CIO method, and I'm wondering when/how we should start implementing (she will be four months on Wednesday). She already goes to sleep on her own for both naps and nighttime sleep. She will usually just rub her hands together or rub her face until she falls asleep... sometimes she talks herself to sleep. Our issue is the recent nighttime wake ups, which I think are caused by a combo of the transition to the crib &amp; a sleep regression. I know that she has the ability to fall asleep on her own, but now in the middle of the night she won't. She doesn't need the paci to fall asleep--she usually throws it out of the crib before she even falls asleep--but in the middle of the night, she cries until I go in there, replace the paci, and shush/sing/rub... half the time she won't stop crying until I rock her.</p> <p>Last night she went to bed at 8:30, and was up at 3:00, 3:30, 5:00, and 6:00. She got up for the day at 8:00.</p> <p>Basically, I want to know if y'all think 4 months is too early &amp; how y'all think I should implement CIO since she is already able to put herself to sleep to begin with. How long should I let her cry before going in there? And, if shushing/rubbing doesn't calm her, am I supposed to pick her up? Any suggestions for calming without rocking? </p> <p>As a quick note: she's FF &amp; hasn't needed a night feeding since she was a few weeks old. </p>