https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 09 Apr 2026 13:18:43 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-dilemma-help#post-1272939 Wed, 11 Dec 2013 02:14:16 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1272939@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz: yeah I feel like its the best gentle method I've heard of. We are trying it next month officially but I am doing a mild version now by trying to do a big feed before bed. Good luck to you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-dilemma-help#post-1267561 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 01:12:16 +0000 mrsjazz 1267561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsMccarthy: I've never heard of Dr. Gordon's method, but I think we're going to try it. Sleeping from 11 pm to 6 am straight seems like an unattainable dream right now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-dilemma-help#post-1267559 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 01:09:21 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1267559@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrskc: yeah my husband wants me to night wean because he watched little kids get oral surgery for bottle mouth and he said that the oral surgeon told him even nursing babies get this if they have too many night feedings. I am kind of going kicking and screaming into it but at least DR Gordon's method doesn't involve let him CIO all alone. Still can't say I am looking forward to it though. We start the process next month. Ugh </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-dilemma-help#post-1267552 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 00:52:21 +0000 mrskc 1267552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsMccarthy: I want to try Dr Gordon's method eventually too. DS just wakes too much to nurse throughout the night. </p> <p>@Dagny: I'm glad you're able to get more rest. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-dilemma-help#post-1267551 Sun, 08 Dec 2013 00:49:09 +0000 Dagny 1267551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@KNITTINGMAMA - love that! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-dilemma-help#post-1267302 Sat, 07 Dec 2013 20:46:31 +0000 knittingmama 1267302@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I read a phrase that might help you..."don't borrow trouble from the future." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-dilemma-help#post-1266842 Sat, 07 Dec 2013 12:59:56 +0000 Dagny 1266842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you @LITTLEPENGUIN and @MRSMCCARTHY. Now that we've been co-sleeping again for a few days I am getting so much more sleep! It's wonderful. I'm so glad I decided to trust my instincts and agree with all who said - worry about future plans later!<br /> :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-dilemma-help#post-1266506 Sat, 07 Dec 2013 05:58:48 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1266506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I co sleep with my husband and we plan To try this gentle method to see if we can night wean him. It might be right or you too <a href="http://drjaygordon.com/attachment/sleeppattern.html" rel="nofollow">http://drjaygordon.com/attachment/sleeppattern.html</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-dilemma-help#post-1266473 Sat, 07 Dec 2013 02:40:47 +0000 littlepenguin 1266473@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO is almost 10 months. CIO wasn't the right choice for our family either. While I was bf LO coslept with us all night, just so I could maximize my amount of sleep. Now that he's drinking formula, we started putting him in his crib when he first falls asleep. When and if he wakes and doesn't put himself back to sleep he will cosleep with us for the remainder of the night. When he was teething and about to crawl he wasn't sleeping as soundly and was sleeping with us more than in his crib. However when there aren't other things going on, he sleeps in his crib for the majority or the entire night. </p> <p>I think you just need to follow your instincts, do what's right for you and your baby. I wouldn't worry about your future family plans, your 8 month old baby probably won't be this way at 15 months, actually I wouldn't be surprised if he isn't this way at 9 or 10 months. Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-dilemma-help#post-1265456 Fri, 06 Dec 2013 13:25:58 +0000 Mamasig 1265456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dagny: No, I didn't get to nurse DS for that long. We'll see how it goes with this baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-dilemma-help#post-1265442 Fri, 06 Dec 2013 13:20:41 +0000 Dagny 1265442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MAMASIG - do you nurse throughout the night? I'm just curious about all that with another on the way. Congrats! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-dilemma-help#post-1265435 Fri, 06 Dec 2013 13:18:04 +0000 Dagny 1265435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LOOCH - yeah, I am worried about that because he's a very active little guy. He's already cruising but somehow he doesn't pull up in his crib at night time (he does it during the day though). I'm worried he could figure out how to crawl out pretty soon. </p> <p>@ESPION - it is so nice to wake up snuggling!! I love that :)</p> <p>@MRSKC - thanks for all your thoughts! Those are certainly good ideas. I really need a few hours (7-10) in the evening to do work and have sometime with DH so maybe we can explore the floor bed option. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-dilemma-help#post-1265433 Fri, 06 Dec 2013 13:17:43 +0000 Mamasig 1265433@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We started cosleeping with DS around 7 months. He just is not the best sleeper. I've learned to just accept and go with what works. I used to worry more about getting him out the bed. But now, I'm just going with flow. It's how we all get the best sleep! We never did any sleep training - we're both wusses when it comes to crying. Also, I'm expecting LO#2 in May and just hope it all works out by then.</p> <p>Eta: I'm a WOHM so I value the extra time together with DS. My husband and I both know that it will be this way for only a short while in the grand scheme of things. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-dilemma-help#post-1265409 Fri, 06 Dec 2013 13:11:34 +0000 Dagny 1265409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@REVEL - thanks for your note. :) that is a really good reminder - we are asking ourselves these questions and trying to make the best decision. Wishing you good luck!!</p> <p>@TRAVELLINGBEE - I actually just pulled up a post from here - <a href="http://www.hellobee.com/2012/03/23/when-to-sleep-train/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hellobee.com/2012/03/23/when-to-sleep-train/</a><br /> I'm sure it's different for every baby, but apparently it's a matter of developmental periods. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-dilemma-help#post-1265405 Fri, 06 Dec 2013 13:10:59 +0000 mrskc 1265405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would do what works right now and not worry about the future right now. </p> <p>My son is a crap sleeper and we began co sleeping when he was 5-6 months after an unsuccessful attempt to get him to sleep in his crib. We actually moved his crib mattress to the floor in our bedroom when he was around 8 months and he would nap there and start the night there then move into our bed when he woke up after we had gone to bed. </p> <p>Months 8-10 were the absolute worst for us. He cut 6 teeth within a month, so I think that had to do with it. We stuck it out and now at 14 months, he's much better. He still wakes a lot and I let him nurse back to sleep. But I just feel like he needs me close to him, so it's what works for us right now. </p> <p>A couple months back, we bought him a twin mattress. And we started putting him down for the night on his mattress in his own room. It's been working out great! We started out having to rock him and now I just lay next to him and he nurses then passes out then I just sneak away. He sleeps from about 7-11 pm then comes to our bed for the rest of the night. It's nice b/c DH and I can have our bedroom to ourselves for a few hours before he comes into our bed. </p> <p>Maybe a floor bed would work for you guys? I really wish we had got the twin mattress sooner for his room. I don't know why we waited so long!</p> <p>And wow, sorry for the novel. Just want you to know you're not alone. Try not to worry too much. If it's working for you and your family, keep on doing it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-dilemma-help#post-1265397 Fri, 06 Dec 2013 13:08:29 +0000 Espion 1265397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dagny: Also commiserating here. E always starts out the night in his cosleeper and falls asleep like a champ; however, he will always end up in our bed at some point in the night. Lately it has been around 3 AM when he wants to nurse in the middle of the night. At first, it was a way for me to get some more sleep. But now since I'm at work most of the day it's basically quality time. I'm not sure how I'm going to give up having my cute little budgie sleeping next to me in the mornings! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-dilemma-help#post-1265394 Fri, 06 Dec 2013 13:07:53 +0000 looch 1265394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dagny: For us, what made the difference was being able to give our son a gloworm (his lovey) to keep in his crib until he could fall asleep. At 11 months, he was not swaddled and he could manipulate the button on the glo worm to light up and play music, so he didn't feel alone.</p> <p>It is more difficult the older they become, because they move more. At 11 months, they can usually pull to stand, where at 6 months, they're just beginning to roll. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-dilemma-help#post-1265383 Fri, 06 Dec 2013 13:04:01 +0000 travellingbee 1265383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dagny: Ugh really? Why is it harder between 9-12 months. We finally got tubes in LO's ears so we feel ready to tackle his sleep and he turns 9 months next week. :( :(<br /> I feel like we are in the same place. We have gone back and forth with crib and co-sleeping and I really would prefer him to be in his crib all of the time. I don't know how to do it, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-dilemma-help#post-1265370 Fri, 06 Dec 2013 12:59:59 +0000 Revel 1265370@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No advice but I wanted to commiserate because a lot of what you're thinking is what is going on with us. My LO is six months old and we haven't done any CIO but we go between cosleeping and crib sleeping here and there depending on how LO is doing. I worry about FI and I getting alone time, and setting her up for bad habits. I try to remind myself this is a short time in her life and that we're doing the best we can, and I'm sure you are too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-dilemma-help#post-1265355 Fri, 06 Dec 2013 12:55:37 +0000 Dagny 1265355@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LOOCH - thank you :) I guess I'm also nervous because I've read that sleep training between 9-12 months is a lot more challenging... So many things to think about! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-dilemma-help#post-1265284 Fri, 06 Dec 2013 12:32:21 +0000 looch 1265284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I coslept with my son until we were able to successfully sleep train him at 11 months, but then at 24 months we had a bunch of moves and a lot of disruption, so we went back to co sleeping. He's 3 in a few days and it has been the best thing we could do for him and us. We are letting him take the lead when he doesn't want us any longer.</p> <p>I guess my point is that you can't predict the future, so do what is right for now and worry about the bridges when you arrive at them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-dilemma-help#post-1265277 Fri, 06 Dec 2013 12:29:34 +0000 Dagny 1265277@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry for such a long post, but I desperately need some advice! Here is the background - my LO (who is almost 8 months now) has always had a tough time sleeping. He would only sleep on me initially so we co-slept until he was about 3 months old. At that time, we discovered the miracle blanket so from 3-5 months he slept mostly in swaddled in the arms reach co-sleeper. He had a rough 6 week long 4 month sleep regression and was waking every two hours. As we got closer to 5 months, he was breaking out of his swaddle so much we ended up doing a lot more co-sleeping. He got too big and too active for the arms reach so we attempted to transition him to his crib, which did not go well. I should probably note that I've always nursed him to sleep. We tried baby Merlin magic sleep suit but it didn't help. We ended up co-sleeping again.</p> <p> By the time he was 6 months, I was ready to sleep train- it was an extremely difficult decision for me, but Co-sleeping wasn't working well and my work was really suffering. We decided on the 5 minute check-in approach. It was brutal for me, so my husband did the check-ins. After a few days we saw huge improvement. It was going well for a few weeks and then he started regressing (most likely due to teething). It got so bad it was impossible to be consistent so we ended up co-sleeping again. Once his tooth had cut through, we decided to re sleep train. At first it was going okay (just like the first attempt), but after a couple weeks he started to regress again. There were a handful of nights where I'd fall asleep in the glider because I was so exhausted and the lack of consistency made everything worse. Two days ago, after three weeks of the second attempt with sleep training, I told my husband I couldn't take it anymore. It was too tough on our LO and me and after almost two months I just felt like it wasn't right for us. He's supportive, but I know it's hard on him since this means we get very little time alone together.</p> <p>So here we are - co-sleeping again. It isn't great, but it works okay. The dilemma is this - I truly feel that co-sleeping is what's best for me and my LO. I would be okay with co-sleeping, HOWEVER I'm really concerned about getting him out of the bed later and our future family plans. We're planning on trying for a second when LO is around 15 months. The idea of needing to transition to the crib before baby arrives seems really scary and stressful to me. In addition, if we're co-sleeping and nursing a lot at night, I know it will be less likely that I will get pregnant again. </p> <p>Part of me thinks don't worry about the future, just do what's best for the family now. And the other part says, the transition will be way worse later. </p> <p>If we were to attempt sleep training again, I was thinking maybe during the night time feedings my husband could go in with a bottle instead of me nursing. I hate the idea of this, but am thinking this could really help us be consistent and would reduce the likelihood of us failing again. </p> <p>I'm SO torn. :-( thoughts? Advice? Food for though?<br /> Thanks!! </p>