https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 08:57:13 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-vs-cio#post-8072 Wed, 02 Nov 2011 10:34:14 +0000 themcmom 8072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I pretty much did what bykes187 did. Wombat slept beside us, but I feel asleep feeding her. Finally, she just slept in bed with us until my husband wanted to snuggle just me, so she went into her crib. She only stays there until she wakes to eat and sleeps with us until we wake up. It works for us and I love cuddling with her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-vs-cio#post-7967 Wed, 02 Nov 2011 08:03:51 +0000 Adira 7967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My goal is to keep the baby in a crib in the same room as me while I have to get up every 2-3 hours to feed, and then move them into another room. We probably won't do CIO until 3 or 4 months (I'll have to do research on when is a good time to start sleep training). I definitely have no intentions of co-sleeping though. I'm a pretty heavy sleeper and I also roll a lot and I think I'd be so afraid of crushing my baby! I would just feel better and safer when them in their own crib. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-vs-cio#post-7946 Wed, 02 Nov 2011 01:47:30 +0000 mrsnarbonne 7946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son started out in the Arm's Reach co-sleeper but gradually moved into bed with me as I got too tired to put him in and out of it all night. My husband moved to the "nursery" since day 1 since he works full-time out of the house with a long car commute and I work part-time from home, and we wanted him to get a good night's rest. On weekends or when we have guests (our place is small), he'll join us in bed.</p> <p>My son still nurses throughout the night but it's definitely decreasing in frequency and he's definitely sleeping in longer stretches. I am like @honeybee - I believe that when he's developmentally ready, he'll do it naturally. I happen to sleep really well with him; and in times when he's been sick it's worked out really well because I can pick up on when he's, for example, really feverish and treat him right away.</p> <p>I'd also say wait and see what kind of child you have. My babysitter tells me her first son was always very independent and slept better on his own (after the "fourth trimester") while her second slept better with people next to him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-vs-cio#post-4898 Tue, 18 Oct 2011 13:10:52 +0000 mrsjyw 4898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you all for sharing your stories! I have learned so much. Obviously this is a topic that varies among different families and it was eye-opening to hear real-life accounts of what works for individual families.</p> <p>Tenatively, hubby and I've decided that our future babies will co-sleep with us for the first 6 months and then we will feel it out as to what works for us and the baby. </p> <p>As far as the CIO method, I think we will implement further along as the baby gets older and more mature... probably around 10-12 months or later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-vs-cio#post-4258 Fri, 14 Oct 2011 06:59:20 +0000 hreichard 4258@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have my son in the crib right next to my bed. Once in a blue moon he'll be spoiled nad sleep with momma at night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-vs-cio#post-4257 Fri, 14 Oct 2011 06:55:28 +0000 looch 4257@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For the first few weeks, he was in a basinet in our room, then around 5 weeks, we moved him to his crib. At that time he was swaddled and he slept like a dream. He could even fall asleep on his own. Then he started breaking out of the swaddle at 6 months and his sleep went to complete crap. To cope, I just coslept. We're doing a CIO method now, it's hard to hear him cry, but it's best for my sanity. DS turns 10 months in a few days. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-vs-cio#post-3730 Tue, 11 Oct 2011 21:30:11 +0000 Mama Ek 3730@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am trying to figure out away to give a short answer to this but basically we tried everything. I would have paid someone to do sleep train him but hearing him cry seriously broke my heart especially since my husband was on the fence. I wish I was more consistent but he always ended up getting sick or we traveled and it messed up his sleep.</p> <p> We co-slept for the first 5 months because that is the only way he would sleep, then after that we put him down in his crib but when he woke up i would bring him to bed with us - he started sleeping through the night at 7 months and stays in his crib. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-vs-cio#post-3714 Tue, 11 Oct 2011 21:16:05 +0000 ohapostrophe 3714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had our little guy in a bassinet and then in a pack'n'play next to our bed until he was three months old. At that point we moved him to his crib, but he was still waking 2-3 times a night and sometimes I'd give up and bring him into bed with us. We tried all night co-sleeping but I just wasn't able to get good sleep with him in bed with us and I'd wake up exhausted! We did a bit of CIO at 4.5 months which worked wonders for us, and he can now soothe himself to sleep and soothe himself back to sleep when he wakes up in the middle of the night. Now at 6 mos, he typically goes to bed around 7-8 pm and wakes at 5-6am. He then comes in bed with us and I nurse him... and he'll fall back asleep for a couple of hours. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-vs-cio#post-3511 Tue, 11 Oct 2011 13:07:23 +0000 anewme 3511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so interested in this topic<br /> Because it's the most pressing issue for us now. At birth to 3 months she slept in her bassinet next to our bed, some nights I just kicked hubby out and had her sleep next to me. At 3 months I moved her into her crib in her room and just slept with the baby monitor on. It wa honestly some of the best sleep I had since she came along. She was sleeping through the night at 2.5 months so I rarely had to go<br /> Get her.</p> <p>So the kicker is this at 4 months my entire family moved in with us while their place was renovating. We moved her crib into our room and it's beEn almost 4 months now. During this time she is in our room I'm soo guilty of just letting her cosleep with us. Husband was against it but finally he gave in and saw how much it soothed heR. </p> <p>Everyone tells us not to let her into the<br /> Bed with us because it's a very bad habit to break but it is what feels natural to me also. I grew up with 4 siblings and we actually slept in a family room with our beds next to our parents until I was 6 or so. </p> <p>I don't know if I'm setting myself up for problems with sleep training in the future. Anyone have experience<br /> Moving<br /> The baby Out of your bed into their cribs? How<br /> Was it? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-vs-cio#post-3487 Tue, 11 Oct 2011 10:38:50 +0000 Iiamsn01 3487@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>honestly, we co sleep. it's what has felt natural for us since day 1. I know when we move into our own place we will move her slowly to her own bed but, for now she sleeps with us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-vs-cio#post-3453 Mon, 10 Oct 2011 23:28:34 +0000 j0s1e267 3453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD was a preemie and slept in a bassinet in our room. She outgrew her bassinet @ 5 mths so she transitioned to her crib, again in our room. We will lie down with her on our big bed after her night time routine, singing until she fell asleep before moving her to her crib. We moved her crib to her own room @ 12 mths. This bedtime method continued until she turned 18 mths old and won't sleep in her crib anymore - even after we converted it to a toddler bed. She now sleeps on two twin sized mattresses on the floor with 1 parent (her beloved daddy!) accompanying her until she falls asleep then she us on her own all night. If she foes wake up, nightmares or from congestion, we'll go to her. She is capable of falling asleep on her own and has done so but naturally prefers her daddy around. I have no issues with her sleep patterns now but if I could do things differently, I would have trained her to fall asleep on her own when she was an infant. I read that sleep training works best @ 4 mths old actual age but I went back to work when she was 4 mths adjusted age and she hardlynslept t daycare. DD is 28 mths old now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-vs-cio#post-3426 Mon, 10 Oct 2011 21:47:15 +0000 Honeybee 3426@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We co-slept with DD until she was about 11 months old. First she slept in co-sleeper attached to our bed, and then at about 3 months, we just moved her straight into bed with us. She started napping in her crib at 3 months, too, and then we moved her into her crib in her room permanently when she started waking up at night to practice walking. We've never done CIO with her, and she puts herself to sleep and sleeps through the night consistently (she's now 15 months).</p> <p>My personal feelings on it were that I didn't want to push DD to do something before she was developmentally ready (e.g. sleep on her own or sleep through the night/put herself to sleep). I figured she would show us when she was ready to do those things, and she did. My method didn't come without some sacrifices, though. I was tired a lot because we had a stretch of about 6 months here she was up every night (and some nights where she was up for hours at a time). And CIO was easily the biggest fight my husband and I had. He started pushing for it at about 6 months, and it took until 1 year before DD started sleeping through the night again and putting herself to sleep. In the end, though, I think it was worth it to do things on DD's timetable and let her reach those milestones when she was ready. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-vs-cio#post-3377 Mon, 10 Oct 2011 19:27:05 +0000 MaisyMay 3377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our plan is for LO to sleep in a crib in the same room with us for the first few months, and then we'll move to a 2 bedroom and they'll move out of our room. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-vs-cio#post-3320 Mon, 10 Oct 2011 15:27:49 +0000 Rubies 3320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We use a pack'n'play and our LO sleeps in there. When she's 4 months old, we're going to attempt a CIO-esque method. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-vs-cio#post-3191 Mon, 10 Oct 2011 07:44:35 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 3191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I tried having baby in a bassinet but after one day I shipped him in his crib. I was waking up at every little sound.<br /> At 4 months about we did the CIO method. And it worked. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-vs-cio#post-3175 Mon, 10 Oct 2011 00:45:57 +0000 nlauk 3175@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Planning on buying a cosleeper bed that goes in our bed for baby number 2! With our daughter, due to space issues and lack of a crib, we coslept with her but just her in my arms. I am a light sleeper and don't move an inch while I slept if there is anyone in the bed with me, we also didn't have a frame for our bed at the time so it was on the floor. I wouldn't have wanted it any other way, I loved waking up to her just staring at me, instead of crying. I have found quite a few different choices for our son who is due in Dec, still looking for the perfect one but once again due to space reasons we don't really have room for a crib. Cosleeping might not be the "safe" thing but I would never give up that bond. As long as you are sober and aware that your baby is right there, I think with the right precautions it can be just as safe and much easier then CIO! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-vs-cio#post-3173 Sun, 09 Oct 2011 23:56:05 +0000 bakingAbug 3173@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are planning on having the baby sleep in a cradle next to me in our room for at least the first 4 months. I plan on having him nap during the day in his crib so he gets used to the mattress though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-vs-cio#post-3161 Sun, 09 Oct 2011 19:15:24 +0000 bykes187 3161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The first few months, we tried SO hard to get her to sleep in her crib at night, and I tried SO hard to stay awake during night feedings (because oh noez, the worst thing ever is to sleep with the baby in your bed!!!!1) and I was miserable. We ended up landing in a funky hybrid CIO/cosleep where I'd start her in her crib, then about midnight to 1 she would wake up for her first night feeding and usually would stay in the bed till morning from then. We did not get consistent sleeping through the night until the crib moved OUT of our room when she was 13 months (had space issues and couldn't manage it before then).</p> <p>That's what happened to me, and from all that I've read, teeny tiny babies just really don't understand self-soothing, so the littler they are the more you want to respond quickly or perhaps co-sleep. As they grow older though (and don't quote me on this, but maybe 6, 9 months?) you can work more and more towards self-soothing. I think anywhere under a year, though, you might expect to have some necessary night feedings in order to have a happy healthy baby. /notanexpert </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-vs-cio#post-3159 Sun, 09 Oct 2011 18:26:53 +0000 chopsuey 3159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I put a firm futon mattress on the floor of LO's room (full sized). She and I co-slept for the first 6 weeks until she started sleeping longer stretches (6+ hours). That's when I moved back to my room with the hubs. Futon mattress is still on the floor (i put pillows around the edges so she can't roll off -- even though the mattress is 4 inches thick). I lay next to her and nurse her to sleep, and on the rare occasion she wakes in the middle of the night, I'll lie next to her and feed her.<br /> It's worked really well for us. Once she starts crawling, I'm going to put a thick blanket on the ground and have her sleep on it. My sisters and I grew up sleeping on the floor next to our parents in korea. All in the same room. I asked my mom how she pulled it off, and she said when you have no choice, you make do with what you have. When one of us woke, we all woke up!<br /> Btw, I chose to co-sleep with baby in her room since my hubs is a light sleeper and he can't function well at work when he's sleep deprived.<br /> I'm a SAHM.<br /> If you do end up deciding to co-sleep with baby in your room, you could always get a co-sleeper and attach it to the side of your bed. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-vs-cio#post-3154 Sun, 09 Oct 2011 18:02:58 +0000 Laneybugsmommy 3154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't do either. My daughter has slept in her crib in her room from day one, and when we visit family and she sleeps in her pack n play in the same room as us, all three of us have a harder time sleeping. As far as cry it out, I've never been one to respond to her first cry, usually after two minutes or so I'd go in. Now that she's close to six months, I let her cry for about 10 minutes maximum in the middle of the night (she had been getting up once a night just to get up, not to eat or anything of that sort). If she isn't asleep in those 10 minutes I'll go get her but so far that hasn't happened. The amount of time she cries is decreasing and I'm guessing she won't be waking up for very much longer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/co-sleeping-vs-cio#post-3149 Sun, 09 Oct 2011 17:13:20 +0000 mrsjyw 3149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've started researching different studies and methods on co-sleeping and also the CIO (cry it out) method. </p> <p>Culturally (Korean), I am leaning towards having our future baby sleep with us in our bed for the first 6-9 months. It's what feels natural to me. </p> <p>I want to be respectful of hubby (Caucasian) and what feels right for him and also realize that there are many recommendations as to why babies should not sleep in the same bed and that letting them self-soothe is not a bad thing. </p> <p>I know that each family is different and different methods work for different parents. I was just curious to hear real-life stories instead of all of the case studies I've read on both subjects. </p> <p>What methods have you used and what works for you and your family? </p>