https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 12 May 2026 07:30:12 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cobedding-question-again#post-1145655 Fri, 11 Oct 2013 13:42:59 +0000 sarac 1145655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't! This is one of the biggest reasons we stopped bed sharing. Now my toddler comes to bed in the mornings and sleeps for an hour or two, sometimes, and I don't sleep well. I just can't sleep next to her - she's too wiggly and I'm too aware of it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cobedding-question-again#post-1145447 Fri, 11 Oct 2013 12:23:25 +0000 Foodnerd81 1145447@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@luckyinlove2013: yeah part of the night I was between them and part she was in the middle (based on which side I was feeding from. But I kept her so far from the edge of the bed that Dh and I were squished. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cobedding-question-again#post-1145419 Fri, 11 Oct 2013 12:07:27 +0000 boots 1145419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You get used to it! I was very aware and slept extremely lightly those first couple of months. </p> <p>I still wake up periodically to check on her now at 6 1/2 months, but I sleep much better now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cobedding-question-again#post-1145279 Fri, 11 Oct 2013 11:05:25 +0000 luckyinlove2013 1145279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is it possible for you to sleep in between lo and dh? If your lo is like mine they like to snuggle when sleeping, so I don't worry about him rolling off the bed (and he isn't rolling yet) I have found the more I cosleep with my lo the easier or becomes (maybe also because he is getting bigger) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cobedding-question-again#post-1145253 Fri, 11 Oct 2013 10:56:45 +0000 Foodnerd81 1145253@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@luckyinlove2013: that might help. I was more paranoid about Dh rolling on her than me. He also had the covers up to his shoulders after I told him not to (in his sleep). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cobedding-question-again#post-1145248 Fri, 11 Oct 2013 10:52:55 +0000 luckyinlove2013 1145248@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Try making something like this: <a href="http://www.etsy.com/listing/163038987/bed-sharing-co-sleeper-for-newborn-baby?" rel="nofollow">http://www.etsy.com/listing/163038987/bed-sharing-co-sleeper-for-newborn-baby?</a> </p> [attach=4295/13/muihg8.568x600.o-sleeper-baby-etsy-new-cosleeper-safe-homemade-newborn-sale.jpg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cobedding-question-again#post-1145245 Fri, 11 Oct 2013 10:51:55 +0000 mrskc 1145245@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't sleep well at first (more tho than when he was in his crib). It took some getting used to. I was really sore at first and uncomfortable from laying on one side almost all night. It helped when we got a bed rail, so then I just roll him over my body to switch sides to nurse. I do still get sore sometimes but definitely not as bad as the first week. </p> <p>It was necessary for us to start bed sharing in order for me to get sleep. I work full time and need to get up at 5:30 so getting in and out of bed all night and dealing with a crying baby wasn't an option for me. Like @Mrs. Twine: said, we still have bad nights even though he's in our bed. Especially when he was teething, he was waking every hour sitting up in bed and crying. That was rough! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cobedding-question-again#post-1145226 Fri, 11 Oct 2013 10:41:25 +0000 Foodnerd81 1145226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Revel: such a good point- I got way more rest than if she was crying! Thank you!</p> <p>I should also add I successfully did a dream feed! Around 5 ish I was up and knew she would probably wake up to eat soon plus I was really full, so I just turned her head towards me, but my boob in her face, and she latched right on without waking, slept for another two hours. So there's that. </p> <p>It is good to know it helps her sleep on the fussiest nights. And I'd rather lay down sleeping fitfully with her sleeping peacefully next to me than bounce and rock and feed her for hours. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cobedding-question-again#post-1145080 Fri, 11 Oct 2013 09:47:27 +0000 Mrs. Twine 1145080@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: @Revel: And I do promise that for full-time bed-sharers these nights happen, too. There are some nights when Lorelei (or Ellie at that age) might be so fussy that no one gets much sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cobedding-question-again#post-1145073 Fri, 11 Oct 2013 09:45:50 +0000 ShootingStar 1145073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS isn't here yet, but we got a thing like - <a href="http://www.target.com/p/baby-delight-snuggle-nest-surround-green/-/A-14241321?ref=tgt_adv_XSG10001&#038;AFID=Google_PLA_df&#038;LNM=%7C14241321&#038;CPNG=Baby&#038;kpid=14241321&#038;LID=PA&#038;ci_src=17588969&#038;ci_sku=14241321&#038;gclid=CPn4ztGCj7oCFYOk4Aod3wkAKA" rel="nofollow">http://www.target.com/p/baby-delight-snuggle-nest-surround-green/-/A-14241321?ref=tgt_adv_XSG10001&#038;AFID=Google_PLA_df&#038;LNM=%7C14241321&#038;CPNG=Baby&#038;kpid=14241321&#038;LID=PA&#038;ci_src=17588969&#038;ci_sku=14241321&#038;gclid=CPn4ztGCj7oCFYOk4Aod3wkAKA</a>, so that we can have baby in bed if we want and yet it gives us boundaries. But maybe it loses some effectiveness since baby's not right next to you, idk. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cobedding-question-again#post-1145054 Fri, 11 Oct 2013 09:41:24 +0000 Revel 1145054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We occasionally cobed and I typically don't sleep that well when we do. I kind of look at it like as @Mrs. Twine: where at least she gets her rest, and I get more rest than I would if she was fully awake/crying. We've probably only ever spent a whole night together maybe two or three times - usually I just bring her in our bed after a 3-4 am feeding so I can nurse side lying and get some more rest.</p> <p>I do feel slightly more comfortable now that she is 4.5 months and more solid than she was as a newborn. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cobedding-question-again#post-1145051 Fri, 11 Oct 2013 09:39:36 +0000 deerylou 1145051@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel that I sleep well because co-bedding is all I know. We have yet to sleep separately, and DD is three months old. I am, however, immensely blessed, as DD will more often than not, go down after her last feeding, and sleep through the night. She is also a sound sleeper, and doesn't wiggle and squirm to the point that it becomes bothersome. Personally, I think I sleep more comfortably knowing she is right next to me - otherwise, I would be obsessively checking the monitor like an absolute nutter. For now, this works beautifully.</p> <p>That being said, I don't think cobedding is the right option for everyone. I say, just play around with what feels best for your family, and go with the flow. Get some shut eye however and whenever you can! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cobedding-question-again#post-1145013 Fri, 11 Oct 2013 09:31:57 +0000 bunnylove08 1145013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It was hard in the begining because I would wake up thinking she was being squished or the blanket was on her. One day I just fell asleep. When she makes a noise I still do turn over and look at her and assist when needed. I think it just takes time </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cobedding-question-again#post-1144964 Fri, 11 Oct 2013 09:20:16 +0000 Boheme 1144964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We co-bed, and I don't get any sleep really. It's become a bad habit for us because DS falls asleep nursing and has the expectation of waking up nursing, so he fusses every sleep cycle to be latched on again - about every 45-50 minutes. Exhausting. I wish we'd never started doing it because now its a habit I have to break. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cobedding-question-again#post-1144757 Fri, 11 Oct 2013 08:00:01 +0000 Mrs. Twine 1144757@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: It sounds like if you just want it to be an occasional option that it's maybe just best to view it as not the greatest night's sleep for you, but it does the job for her and so is worth it to do sometimes when nothing else is working well. If you just do it occasionally, you probably won't have it feel as normal or restful. If it makes you feel any better, you can have fussy and less restful nights even if they bed-share full time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cobedding-question-again#post-1144709 Fri, 11 Oct 2013 07:36:18 +0000 mamimami 1144709@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's just a question of getting used to it. We didn't cobed much with my older son, and when he was sick or whatever and we had him in there, NONE of us slept that well. I was thinking the same thing as you -- who can do this every night?!?!?! But my daughter sleeps in a sidecar/in our bed and we are so used to it now. All of us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cobedding-question-again#post-1144707 Fri, 11 Oct 2013 07:35:42 +0000 Foodnerd81 1144707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Twine: she's ten weeks. I don't really want it to be an everyday thing but its nice to have option on cranky nights, but that's probably part of the problem (that it isn't our norm). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cobedding-question-again#post-1144704 Fri, 11 Oct 2013 07:33:18 +0000 Mrs. Twine 1144704@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I find that it is actually soothing/restful to me to know where they are and how they are feeling. If I wake a little, I will put my hand on Lorelei's tummy. I can feel she's breathing and see she is sleeping contently, and then I go back to sleep. I know bedsharing doesn't work for everyone. If it's something you are interested in trying, you can give it a try for a few nights and see if it gets more restful for you after some "practice." It might be that it just doesn't work well for you; if that's the case, I wouldn't feel bad about it. You can get some tips and ideas from parents who have their babies sleep separate and I'm sure you will find something that works for everyone. I don't remember how old your daughter is, but I know that age can be a factor. When Lorelei was new born, I was more vigilant, even at night. But I still feel I got a better night's sleep than if she was in another bed/room. Now that she is 18 months I sleep pretty hard, but I do find that I am still very attuned to things like where she is in the bed or if she starts to get restless.<br /> ETA: You could look into sidecarring a crib or getting a co-sleeper if you want the proximity but also to have separate sleeping surfaces. Sometimes this can be a happier middle ground if you want to co-sleep but bed-sharing just doesn't work well for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cobedding-question-again#post-1144696 Fri, 11 Oct 2013 07:29:51 +0000 oliviaoblivia 1144696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In the beginning I was so tired I couldn't help but fall asleep. After a while though I did have trouble sleeping. I'd wake up achy because I'd spent the night curled around LO protecting her from enemies (or whatever). At three months we moved her to our cosleeper next to me and we both slept better.<br /> Even now I cannot get comfortable with her in our bed. I wake up constantly fearing she's about to fall out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cobedding-question-again#post-1144682 Fri, 11 Oct 2013 07:21:21 +0000 Foodnerd81 1144682@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you share a bed with your Lo, how do YOU get sleep. We had c sleep in our bed last night because she just kept wakin up every time we put her in her crib or RnP. She slept fine in our bed, I was able to nurse her laying down and she just drifted off, and I could give her a pat every time she fussed. However, I feel like *I* hardly slept at all. I was so aware of her and just couldn't get comfortable. Is it something you just get used to? We have a king size bed, there should have been enough room for one little baby. </p> <p>I'm so tired today but at least she slept I guess. </p>