https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 04 Apr 2026 22:14:29 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/competitive-about-pregnancy#post-26705 Fri, 02 Dec 2011 23:08:17 +0000 Mrs. D 26705@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My best friend is due about two months before me. And every time I text her about a new momentous occasion, she's like "are you sure, isn't that a bit early?" I bite my tongue to keep reminding her that every pregnancy is different, and just because she didn't feel or see something as early as I did, doesn't mean it's not possible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/competitive-about-pregnancy#post-26653 Fri, 02 Dec 2011 22:17:51 +0000 tequiero21 26653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i have a sister in law and she has a sister. i think they're competitive about everything. i think sometimes, that's how sisters are (i wouldn't know, had a brother and i can't say we ever competed for anything). and the fact that you've pretty much out-shone your sis.... i can see where she's coming from. she's pretty much lived in your shadow. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/competitive-about-pregnancy#post-26593 Fri, 02 Dec 2011 21:39:02 +0000 heffalump 26593@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, sorry you have to deal with that, and from someone who should be supporting you now and giving you actual, good advice! I would just try to let it go. Sounds like she's just trying to build her own self esteem by cutting you down. Sad!</p> <p>Fyi, we cloth diaper and I've never had to hem a pair of my baby's pants. They fit her fine. Her tush looks bigger than most babies, but I like it that way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/competitive-about-pregnancy#post-26541 Fri, 02 Dec 2011 20:39:19 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 26541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Junebugmama Im sorry for making an assumption about yalls relationship. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/competitive-about-pregnancy#post-26534 Fri, 02 Dec 2011 20:33:28 +0000 junebugmama 26534@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tana_bk: Sister and I are super close. That's why this is bothering me so much. My Mother on the other hand is lovely and amazing most of the time, but has her issues for sure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/competitive-about-pregnancy#post-26531 Fri, 02 Dec 2011 20:31:54 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 26531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not pregnant but I see stuff like this on Facebook.</p> <p>@Junebugmama it sounds like you have a complicated relationship with your mother and sister. I don't have any advice, but I'm sorry you have to deal with the stress, especially during pregnancy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/competitive-about-pregnancy#post-26521 Fri, 02 Dec 2011 20:24:45 +0000 junebugmama 26521@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: Actually no. This is really the first time. Here's a little background. I've always been the over-achiever. I had better grades, played a million sports, went to an ivy league college, have a very successful career, etc. My sister was the opposite. She struggled with all of these things. The one thing that she always had that I didn't was children. So I think for her it was a way to please our very critical Mother. When I married DH, who had a son from his first marriage, our Mother did start to compare the way my bonus son was to her children. Claiming that he was a more well behaved child, that my house was cleaner, she even tells my sister that she should ask me for parenting tips, and I think my sister was able to dismiss that stuff because my bonus son in her eyes "wasn't really mine". I think now that I am having a biological child, she's just gearing up for judgement. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/competitive-about-pregnancy#post-26516 Fri, 02 Dec 2011 20:20:06 +0000 runsyellowlites 26516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't dealt with that concerning "pregnancy" specifically but I have known people like this. It's definitely frustrating, especially when it's your sister. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/competitive-about-pregnancy#post-26515 Fri, 02 Dec 2011 20:19:32 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 26515@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@junebugmama: I was just about to say that she sounds like my sister. Always has to one-up me... I feel your pain and I'm sorry you have to deal with it. I'm going to guess that she was the same way during your wedding and/or engagement? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/competitive-about-pregnancy#post-26511 Fri, 02 Dec 2011 20:15:09 +0000 Andrea 26511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@junebugmama: that is a whole different story then! but that makes sense, i don't have a sister but i can imagine the competition can be magnified. i have definitely experienced a ton of mommy competition, though. mommies are SO competitive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/competitive-about-pregnancy#post-26501 Fri, 02 Dec 2011 20:02:28 +0000 junebugmama 26501@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@eeh: @Andrea: </p> <p>It's my sister. I was going to try to leave that part out of it, but *sigh* it's true. </p> <p>I think there might be some deep seeded reasons for this behavior, but I was hoping maybe others have dealt with it and that it was semi-normal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/competitive-about-pregnancy#post-26498 Fri, 02 Dec 2011 20:01:25 +0000 wife09mommy11 26498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: haha My thoughts exactly! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/competitive-about-pregnancy#post-26496 Fri, 02 Dec 2011 19:59:35 +0000 Andrea 26496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@eeh: Totally agree. I was going to say wow, can't wait to see what she says after the babies arrive! My baby drools more than your baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/competitive-about-pregnancy#post-26490 Fri, 02 Dec 2011 19:55:59 +0000 eeh 26490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, I would probably cut them out of my life. I can't imagine it getting any better when the baby is here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/competitive-about-pregnancy#post-26483 Fri, 02 Dec 2011 19:50:44 +0000 junebugmama 26483@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you have anyone if your life who is competitive about pregnancy? </p> <p>I have someone in my life who regardless of what I have to say, has something to follow it up with. When I complain about morning sickness she tells me she was sicker than me. Yesterday I bent down and made a groan and she laughed and said "Jesus what are you going to do when you are 8 months pregnant", reminds me how hard it was for her to get pregnant, and the list goes on and on. Every time I have a different idea about something than her she gets defensive and critical. I brought up clothe diapers and she went on a tangent about how I was going to have to buy pants that are 1 year larger and then hem them to fit the bulk. She thinks that if I pump it makes me a bad mom. It's just super annoying. </p>