https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 13 May 2026 21:35:55 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/confronting-daycare-need-advicesupport#post-966188 Fri, 26 Jul 2013 08:53:02 +0000 LuLu Mom 966188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would freak out if you know he's not rolling over on his own, but I would just explain that you want to stick with "back is best" so to please keep him on his back during all nap times for as long as he allows. I always put our DD in bed on her back but now at 10 months even though she flips right to her belly. It took me awhile to get used to it, but any yonger than 6 months I would roll her back, I was so scared of SIDS. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/confronting-daycare-need-advicesupport#post-965483 Thu, 25 Jul 2013 23:44:33 +0000 birdofafeather 965483@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you're uncomfortable with it then say something! How old is your LO? I would have freaked if I saw her on her tummy before about 5.5 months because she never did that but as soon as we moved her to her crib, she started sleeping on her tummy even though we put her on her back. But you're the mom, don't think of it as a confrontation! Get the info you need like PPs mentioned and then state your preferences. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/confronting-daycare-need-advicesupport#post-965237 Thu, 25 Jul 2013 21:12:56 +0000 Phillybaby2013 965237@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Part of me wanted to say something on behalf of the other babies considering that it's in the handbook that all babies under 1 are to be placed on their backs but I don't want to step on anyone's toes. I would hope that if other parent's had an issue with it they would speak up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/confronting-daycare-need-advicesupport#post-965227 Thu, 25 Jul 2013 21:08:55 +0000 Phillybaby2013 965227@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mewtill: Thanks so much for your teacher incite. This helped. I definitely don't want to hurt any of the teachers because they really do take good care of B. I'll talk to his teachers first and go from there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/confronting-daycare-need-advicesupport#post-965220 Thu, 25 Jul 2013 21:06:24 +0000 Phillybaby2013 965220@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone for the input. I'm for sure stressing myself out over talking to them. It shouldn't be a big deal but I'm partly worried about being marked as "a difficult" mom, going against the grain on this and some other parenting stuff. But I guess in the end it doesn't matter what anyone thinks as long as B is safe and getting the care he needs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/confronting-daycare-need-advicesupport#post-965213 Thu, 25 Jul 2013 21:03:35 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 965213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don't beat yourself up over this! It's going to be just fine. When you drop him off, if the teacher there is the one who was with him yesterday, you can ask "I noticed my baby sleeping on his stomach. Did he roll over?" If yes, just say "Will you please roll him onto his back if he does that? I'm more comfortable knowing he's on his back." If no, they laid him on his tummy, just say "Will you please put him on his back? I'm more comfortable knowing he's on his back."</p> <p>They may possible tell you he "won't" sleep on his back, but you can tell them to do their best with keeping him on his back - that's your #1 priority over keeping him asleep. I'm sure they won't give you a hard time about this. If they do or you notice him on his tummy again, you should go to the director. </p> <p>As a teacher, I've been very hurt when a parent went "over my head" without talking to me first about a situation. Usually it's a misunderstanding that could have been easily smoothed out, but involving my boss made it more complicated and hurtful.</p> <p>Good luck in the morning!</p> <p>ETA: If the drop-off teacher isn't the same teacher or doesn't know, ask them to relay the message to his primary teacher that you "noticed him sleeping on his tummy and would they please roll him onto his back if he does that again." This way, you are giving them the benefit of the doubt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/confronting-daycare-need-advicesupport#post-965178 Thu, 25 Jul 2013 20:52:49 +0000 regberadaisy 965178@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry. Is it possible he rolled over? </p> <p>I have made many 'complaints' to daycare. I'm not a confrontational person but this is my baby. I have no qualms of this. </p> <p>I would start first with his teachers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/confronting-daycare-need-advicesupport#post-965163 Thu, 25 Jul 2013 20:48:17 +0000 SeptMomma12 965163@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with others that I wouldn't go in thinking of it as a confrontation. I have had similar issues where I come home fuming about something day care did (for us, it's almost always overfeeding) but have always found that they are very receptive to my feedback. They have even worked with me to find other things to distract LO when he gets whiny besides automatically giving him a bottle. (Don't worry, not starving my kid, but he quickly learned that fussing for any reason would get him a bottle at day care and at one point was having 18 oz more on day care days than non!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/confronting-daycare-need-advicesupport#post-965157 Thu, 25 Jul 2013 20:47:15 +0000 MamaMoose 965157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Before you go in making accusations I would start by asking them what their policy is on tummy sleeping. At our day care teachers have to always put babies down on their backs. If they roll on their tummies the teachers have to flip them back over. If they roll on their tummy again they can stay that way. I have found that in general my day care is actually much MORE strict about safety guideline than my pedi or I am. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/confronting-daycare-need-advicesupport#post-965101 Thu, 25 Jul 2013 20:31:22 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 965101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't think of it as a confrontation - you're just stating your preference. Just tell them that you know most kids are sleeping on their stomach, but you prefer he sleep in his back. Simple as that! If they give you any resistance, go to the director. Daycares may know a lot about taking care of a child, but the also need feedback from you on what is best for your LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/confronting-daycare-need-advicesupport#post-965049 Thu, 25 Jul 2013 20:24:31 +0000 Smurfette 965049@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just ask the teacher about it. If you don't feel like she is being honest with you then go talk to the director. </p> <p>Our teachers tell me that they lay R on her back but she immediately rolls over but I am ok with it cause she does it at home. Her pediatrician told me it is fine if she rolls that way herself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/confronting-daycare-need-advicesupport#post-965010 Thu, 25 Jul 2013 20:19:57 +0000 googly-eyes 965010@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be worried too, you aren't alone. I would ask whomever you feel more comfortable with. Usually Id advise the teacher before the saying to talk to the director, but given that you've seen other babies doing this I can see why you may ask the director.. Maybe she could tell the teachers sort of anonymously. Do you know any of the other parents? Maybe they are having a similar problem? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/confronting-daycare-need-advicesupport#post-965007 Thu, 25 Jul 2013 20:19:28 +0000 DillonLion 965007@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Try not to stress! I talk to daycare about things that I have concerns about all the time. they are always very open minded and accommodating to my requests. Do you have any reason to think your daycare wouldn't be the same way? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/confronting-daycare-need-advicesupport#post-965002 Thu, 25 Jul 2013 20:18:10 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 965002@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry about this. I don't really have any advice, other than to just tell his teachers you'd really prefer him on his back. Maybe they're old school and just don't know that the new recommendations are Back is Best? (just grasping at straws here). </p> <p>I hope it all works out for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/confronting-daycare-need-advicesupport#post-964992 Thu, 25 Jul 2013 20:16:20 +0000 Phillybaby2013 964992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I apologize if this is long but I wanted to explain properly and am pretty upset/all over the place with this........I picked B up today from daycare and he was asleep in his crib - on his belly. I have noticed other babies sleeping on their stomachs but I guess I've been too naive to think that he wasn't too. He has always slept on his back at home and even though he knows how to roll over, I have yet to find him face down in his crib. </p> <p>I was really bothered and shocked that they<br /> A. are not following the "Back is Best" rule (even though it's in the center handbook)<br /> B. did not mention or ask me if it was okay that he sleep on his stomach</p> <p>Now I know that some babies do sleep on their bellies and some parents are perfectly okay with that but personally I'm not. When I came home I did a quick Google search and numerous sites stated that babies that aren't accustomed to sleeping on their stomachs that do are 18x more at risk for SIDS and that a large % of SIDS cases happen in someone else's care......This scared the crap out of me and now I feel immense Mommy guilt that I didn't say something sooner. I have no idea how long he's been napping this way. I could cry thinking about it.</p> <p>So besides all that, I have to say something tomorrow when I drop him off and I hate confrontation of any kind. I also feel really insecure about questioning them for some reason but either way I have to balls up for my son. I don't know if I should just tell the teacher's in his room, go to the director and have her step in, or both. I'm actually pretty surprised that no other parents have said anything considering the amount of stress everyone puts on back sleeping these days.</p> <p>I've been pretty happy with the daycare up until this point but now I'm worried what other things are they doing that I'm not being made aware of? This really isn't helping my already ongoing Mommy guilt that I can't stay home with him. :sad: </p>