https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 28 Apr 2026 14:51:16 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/connecting-with-other-moms#post-1515759 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 18:39:30 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 1515759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had just moved to a new city when I got pregnant, so I didn't really have many friends around to begin with. Luckily, the majority of people I am friends with now I met through church, and they have kids of similar ages. The other friends I have are waiting to try, and don't find it weird when I bring my daughter along. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/connecting-with-other-moms#post-1515753 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 18:37:29 +0000 Corduroy 1515753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Moms groups can be a great way to meet friends in similar circumstances. Don't get discouraged if you don't click at the first play date. It's a little awkward for everyone. If you don't like the ladies in one group you can always look for another group(hospital, library, Gymboree, etc). </p> <p>My area has a really established mother's club. I love the ladies in LOs group. They encouraged us to get together before LO was born so we'd already have a network of support when LO arrives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/connecting-with-other-moms#post-1515692 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 17:30:03 +0000 Foodnerd81 1515692@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was pretty in the middle of my friends in terms of having babies, so I actually see some of them more now than when they had a baby and I didn't- scheduling is easier since we both work around babies now. I have had a few friends drift away but it was really happening even before baby. When I was the friend without kids, I don't think many if my friendships fell apart over it, but I've always lived babies so I really made a point to be involved if I could. </p> <p>As for meeting mom friends, I got so lucky that I joined a mommy and me class really early on and clicked with a bunch of te moms there. Size of us are SAHMs and we still meet up weekly (started when babies were six weeks old and c will be eight months on Saturday!) Not all of them are people I would have been friends with before but some of them are. </p> <p>It's a tough transition but I think it can be done! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/connecting-with-other-moms#post-1515622 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 16:17:45 +0000 meredithNYC 1515622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got pregnant when I was 30 and at that time, none of my friends who live close were thinking of having kids. I mean, most weren't married yet either, though one was and a few were in serious relationships. Honestly, I really, really value my friendships so I decided early on to try as hard as I could to keep things going. Likewise, my friends made a huge effort to be accommodating for me. Is it the same? No. However, it's pretty good and I am so grateful for their support. My LO is nearly 2 years old now and some of my friends are thinking of starting to TTC soon. I'm so excited to go through that "journey" with them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/connecting-with-other-moms#post-1515551 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 15:10:08 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 1515551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's not hard to meet mom friends but it is harder to find ones you really click with. For me it has just been a function of time and opportunities. For example, I had a group that I went to mommy baby yoga with for about 6 months. We did meet a few times outside the class but they all ended up being "friends for now" and after a while I stopped seeing them. On the other hand through another mom group I met a few ladies that over time I became close with and even though a couple have moved away, we had enough in common that we still keep in touch. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/connecting-with-other-moms#post-1515541 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 14:57:31 +0000 JessKas 1515541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm the first of my friends to have a baby. I have one other friend with a baby but she lives far away. She's a lifesaver, however I really need some friends close by with kids.</p> <p>My pre-baby friends are still good friends, but we aren't able to do the same things we used to. If anything, it's given me the chance to decide who I really want in my life and don't because I have less time. It's been me (rather than them) whose let some people drift away. </p> <p>I've had a hard time finding moms I click with. I joined two mom groups but don't really have a lot in common with the other moms. I hope that as LO gets a little older (she's 7 months) and we do more activities I will be able to meet more moms and find some good new friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/connecting-with-other-moms#post-1515409 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 12:43:00 +0000 lamariniere 1515409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MarieJ: that was exactly how it was for me too. Also, since we didn't have any family around, I was very alone for the first few months until I met some other moms. However, I did/do miss some of those pre-baby relationships. Some of my friends from before stayed around and some basically dropped out of my life. </p> <p>We now have two LOs and live in an expat community with an extensive mommy network. It has been a lifesaver for making friends. I can't say that I'm really "friends" with all the moms, but there are some women I really appreciate. Unfortunately I have found that it's hard to have friendships like in my single days since all the women (and men) I know here have family obligations, so the spontaneity is gone. In my situation, I can't just call up someone and go for a drink since everything requires so much coordination. </p> <p>I'm sure others have found a better way to balance than I have, but I have found that it is definitely work maintaining certain friendships after baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/connecting-with-other-moms#post-1515377 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 12:29:17 +0000 MarieJ 1515377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My friendships changed drastically once I had dd. They go out places without even inviting me. We talk much less often than we used to because we have different priorities. My friends are still big party people and I'm just not. They don't understand that bedtime is early and I have mommy duties. </p> <p>I was the first to have kids out of my group of friends and I'm currently on the hunt for some mommy groups to find new friends that share the same interests/priorities as I do. It hurts my feelings that my friends and I have drifted apart, but it's a part of life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/connecting-with-other-moms#post-1515360 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 12:16:12 +0000 stiletto_mom 1515360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're all different before having children, and while moms may have one thing in common, who is to say you'll find friends with similar (non-mom) interests?</p> <p>At the moment I'm WTT, maybe 7 - 8 months off from actively TTCing. However, in my group of friends, I am the only one married and thinking of children. My girls, who are around 30, are in either steady relationships or living up the single life. </p> <p>I am anxious that we may drift apart and though I know I'll be fine, friends have admitted to me that it might be "weird" when I have kids. That said, I know I'm going to need to reach out to meet other moms, but I just wonder, how are you meeting moms that click with you?</p> <p>How has your friendships (pre-baby) changed?</p> <p>Have you been the "trailblazer" of your group? How did you feel/cope? </p>