https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 14 May 2026 13:06:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/continuing-probs-with-aggressive-kid-at-preschool#post-2132273 Fri, 03 Apr 2015 15:03:18 +0000 808love 2132273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Another meeting with the director about a specific or ramped up intervention program. Could you switch classes? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/continuing-probs-with-aggressive-kid-at-preschool#post-2132237 Fri, 03 Apr 2015 14:26:29 +0000 Mrs.Waffles 2132237@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would bring it up again and also asked they need to address this with the kid's parents. I would also be concern for that kid. What's going on in his homelife that is making him so angry and aggressive. Maybe the school personnel can look into it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/continuing-probs-with-aggressive-kid-at-preschool#post-2132208 Fri, 03 Apr 2015 13:56:48 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 2132208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaCate: can you send them my way?! I'd love that kind of support!! :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/continuing-probs-with-aggressive-kid-at-preschool#post-2132206 Fri, 03 Apr 2015 13:55:54 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 2132206@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ask for another meeting with the director and describe all your concerns (what your daughter says, first hand witnessing of unsafe behavior, feeling like your daughter/others don't get a fair share of attention due to the extensive shadowing, etc). Of course they can't discuss the specifics of that exact child's behavior plan, but they should have a policy beyond shadowing. I'd ask about it: how long would any child be allowed to disrupt your daughter's learning &amp; violate her safety before they try a different tactic?<br /> For what it's worth, your daughter likely won't develop any serious anxiety from this. Kids this age process events through talking about it. I will say his behavior is highly distracting and unnerving to the other children/your daughter if they're talking about it often &amp; unprovoked. I'd mention that to the director too.<br /> I've worked in lots of preschools and everyone wants to do all they can to help children, but if shadowing is the only plan they're doing everyone a disservice. Sometimes directors/owners need a parent to bring it up &amp; give them a push to do more. They don't want to lose your business or create negative word of mouth. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/continuing-probs-with-aggressive-kid-at-preschool#post-2132192 Fri, 03 Apr 2015 13:39:04 +0000 MamaCate 2132192@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pinkcupcake: I am so sorry you are going through this! This may be an overreaction, but it sounds like the aggressive child may need additional support to learn to manage his behavior. I work in early childhood mental health so I am more prone to look at things this way. My state has mental health consultants that can go into to preschools and help kids with these kind of issues so that they can participate appropriately with the other kids. I am not sure if that is available where you are?</p> <p>I agree that talking to the teacher/director again is warranted and that the focus should be on your child and how to provide for what they need. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/continuing-probs-with-aggressive-kid-at-preschool#post-2132121 Fri, 03 Apr 2015 12:48:55 +0000 wonderstruck 2132121@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pinkcupcake: I'm sorry, this sounds awful. My nephew is super aggressive and I often wonder how things must be for the other parents at his daycare. And I feel badly for the teachers too...but more so for your child, obviously! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/continuing-probs-with-aggressive-kid-at-preschool#post-2132114 Fri, 03 Apr 2015 12:43:22 +0000 Mrs. Lion 2132114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pinkcupcake: I can totally see why you would be frustrated. I would just mention that based on your child's anxieties you aren't sure that their policy is working and ask that they look for another solution. Obviously they are trying but more nreds to be done :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/continuing-probs-with-aggressive-kid-at-preschool#post-2132100 Fri, 03 Apr 2015 12:30:36 +0000 brownie 2132100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As others have said, focus on your kid. Maybe you can focus on asking that he not be around her. And how to help her anxiety over it all. </p> <p>My son's school has a kid kinda like this (more with words than actions) and for some reason my son is obsessed with this kid. So I watch the negative interactions and I hate it. I can't keep them apart and I'm not sure what to do either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/continuing-probs-with-aggressive-kid-at-preschool#post-2132090 Fri, 03 Apr 2015 12:19:01 +0000 pinkcupcake 2132090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>And thank you, everyone else, for your responses. This has been an incredibly frustrating experience :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/continuing-probs-with-aggressive-kid-at-preschool#post-2132088 Fri, 03 Apr 2015 12:17:02 +0000 pinkcupcake 2132088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lion: that's the thing- I think their policy is to shadow this child so that the teacher is within arms length if he tries to hit/shove. Their policy is being followed as best as possible- I do see the teacher trying her best. The problem is, his behavior is just not getting better. I see her trying to talk to him about being nice to our ffiends, hands are not for hitting, etc- but he continues to do so :( im so frustrated... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/continuing-probs-with-aggressive-kid-at-preschool#post-2132069 Fri, 03 Apr 2015 11:58:30 +0000 mrbee 2132069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lion: You are totally right, the focus should be on the policies! Just like if your child is being bitten, you can ask about the school's policy on biting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/continuing-probs-with-aggressive-kid-at-preschool#post-2132059 Fri, 03 Apr 2015 11:46:44 +0000 Mrs. Lion 2132059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also, don't go in expecting to have a conversation with the teacher about how they will discipline another child. It is incredibly unprofessional for a teacher/director to share specifics about another child with anyone but that child's parent. Your best bet is to ask about their school policies and what you should do if you feel their policies are not being followed. Keep the focus on your child the best you can. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/continuing-probs-with-aggressive-kid-at-preschool#post-2132056 Fri, 03 Apr 2015 11:45:13 +0000 littlebug 2132056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yikes! I would at least bring your concerns to the teacher again, and maybe even the director. Especially since your daughter keeps talking about it. That would be upsetting to me. </p> <p>There is a boy in D's class who I had concerns about when he was in the Young Toddler room, but then D moved up so I kind of forgot about it. Now the other little boy has moved up and already I'm seeing problems again. Same thing as you described - snatches toys, hits, pushes... D fell and cracked his chin on a metal hinge the other day, and the teacher wasn't positive but thought he was pushed, and I'm betting it was this boy. Yesterday when D came home he didn't have his bandaid on the cut on his chin and I asked what happened to it and he told me "M threw it in the trash." So apparently this kid is just ripping bandaids off my kid's face?! I'm going to keep a close eye on it and mention it to the teacher if I keep seeing it and especially if D keeps talking about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/continuing-probs-with-aggressive-kid-at-preschool#post-2132053 Fri, 03 Apr 2015 11:43:34 +0000 mrbee 2132053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pinkcupcake: Could you request a sitdown with the director? It'd be great to hear details of their plan to improve his behavior. Otherwise, it doesn't seem fair to the other students if the teacher is expected to spend all of her time tending to one disruptive child. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/continuing-probs-with-aggressive-kid-at-preschool#post-2132052 Fri, 03 Apr 2015 11:43:30 +0000 Mrs. Lion 2132052@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely bring it up again, but you can phrase it just like you did...that your daughter is feeling anxious because of xyz. the more specific you can be about an actual incidents (rather than just "the child is agressive") the more they will be able to help. If you don't feel like it is being handled appropriately in the classroom I would go to the director. 3 is old enough to know better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/continuing-probs-with-aggressive-kid-at-preschool#post-2132051 Fri, 03 Apr 2015 11:42:44 +0000 blackbird 2132051@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep bring it up again! It can't be fixed unless you're on top of it with the staff! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/continuing-probs-with-aggressive-kid-at-preschool#post-2132050 Fri, 03 Apr 2015 11:41:45 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2132050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would bring it up again in a meeting. </p> <p>I would also ask for additional status reporting. Even if there isn't a physical mark left, let them know you would like to know if there is an altercation so you can discuss it with your daughter. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/continuing-probs-with-aggressive-kid-at-preschool#post-2132048 Fri, 03 Apr 2015 11:38:44 +0000 pinkcupcake 2132048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've asked for advice regarding this topic before, but unfortunately we are still having problems with an aggressive kid at LO's preschool. </p> <p>It's a twice a week, AM preschool. There's one little boy (3 yo) who is just so aggressive with all the other kids. He hits, snatches, etc, sometimes with no provocation. If a kid even comes near a toy he is playing with, he automatically reaches out to shove and hit them. I parent help in the class frequently so I see a lot of this personally. </p> <p>We had a conference w/ the teacher and director early on in the year bc he hit my daughter really hard on the face and left a red mark. I know they really try to shadow him and watch him , and the teacher spends the majority of her time following him around to avoid any conflict.</p> <p>For the part couple weeks, when I ask my daughter now preschool was, she says, "good! X did not hit/push me today" or "x was at school and he pushed me and I was sad." It's always the first thing she says, which makes me wonder if it's causing her anxiety or stress :( </p> <p>Idk what to do. Bring it up to the teacher again? I don't know what else she could do. But this kid's behavior just does not seem to be getting any better. And I'm worried that my daughter is having anxiety over it :( </p>