https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 20 Apr 2026 12:43:07 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/coping-with-pregnancy-announcements#post-201419 Mon, 25 Jun 2012 16:18:57 +0000 JoJoGirl 201419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: I'm there with you sister, and I don't even feel shame admitting it ;) I got engaged at 32, which was well after most of my friends. I can only imagine going through another 5 years of that! I had several meltdowns and maybe have had a little too much to drink at some of those weddings I traveled to and attended alone. THAT I am a bit embarrassed about. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/coping-with-pregnancy-announcements#post-201349 Mon, 25 Jun 2012 15:00:44 +0000 Foodnerd81 201349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: It does help to hear other people are the same way! I actually just found ANOTHER friend is pregnant, but actually this time my reaction was total happiness for her. I guess in my own judgy judgment, she and her husband are totally in the right place for a baby, so I'm totally happy and was thinking how great it is that she will have her little boy when I eventually have a kid. So, I'm a little selfish and a lot judgmental. Lovely :) H is good at reminding me of the reasons we are waiting though and why it's good, for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/coping-with-pregnancy-announcements#post-201344 Mon, 25 Jun 2012 14:56:39 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 201344@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: I will admit with a little bit of shame that I felt a little inadequate and jealous all those years. My friends started getting married just after college (so I was 21) and I didn't get engaged until I was 37... Think of all the wedding presents, dresses, etc I had to buy during that time. I finally had a huge meltdown (in private) just before a wedding about 6 months before Mr. Jacks proposed. It wasn't pretty, but it was cathartic! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/coping-with-pregnancy-announcements#post-201337 Mon, 25 Jun 2012 14:49:36 +0000 JoJoGirl 201337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: YES.. I went to weddings alone for 5 years and it was so hard! I'm too new to TTC for this to feel that horrible (yet) but definitely feels sadly familiar. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/coping-with-pregnancy-announcements#post-201334 Mon, 25 Jun 2012 14:47:33 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 201334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Boy, I can sure relate on the marriage front. I started getting really bitter about being "left behind" especially at all these weddings. I was happy for my friends, but it all seemed so "in your face"... and I'd imagine it would be VERY similar with pregnancy since there is the obvious baby bump and the sudden "mommy brain". That analogy really helps me understand how hard it is! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/coping-with-pregnancy-announcements#post-201332 Mon, 25 Jun 2012 14:44:00 +0000 JoJoGirl 201332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks all :) I've been so down since then (last week), it's ridiculous. I don't know why I can't pull it together.</p> <p>@Crumbs: haha it's all relative, huh?? Thanks :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/coping-with-pregnancy-announcements#post-201324 Mon, 25 Jun 2012 14:30:21 +0000 SugarplumsMom 201324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First of all, don't be too hard on yourself. What you're feeling is completely normal. It took us 11 cycles of TTC before getting a positive and I remember hearing from my very fertile friend complaining about how it took her a long time getting pregnant with her 2nd son ... when I asked her how long, she said it took a whole 3 months!! </p> <p>Hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/coping-with-pregnancy-announcements#post-201317 Mon, 25 Jun 2012 14:23:15 +0000 meaganceleste 201317@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try to be happy for them and ignore the pangs of my empty womb (sorry to be melodramatic, but its true). Sometimes it makes me feel hopeful, others it makes me super depressed, but I know that one day, somehow, I will be a mom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/coping-with-pregnancy-announcements#post-197680 Thu, 21 Jun 2012 16:53:06 +0000 BSB 197680@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs!!! Sorry, it does suck. I am generally happy for them because I see now how hard it can be to conceive and I'm happy that they don't have to deal with our problems. I guess that's what I try to tell myself. It's hard to keep those negative thoughts away about why it's not happening to us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/coping-with-pregnancy-announcements#post-197188 Thu, 21 Jun 2012 10:13:23 +0000 MamaMoose 197188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: I went through the same thing. Before we were TTC friends of mine would get pregnant and I would get so upset because we were waiting to meet financial goals that I knew they were nowhere near!! But I tried to remind myself different people have different ideas of what it means to be "ready" to have a baby. Just wanted you to know you're not alone in that : ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/coping-with-pregnancy-announcements#post-197173 Thu, 21 Jun 2012 10:05:38 +0000 singingbee 197173@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's hard. I still don't do well with it. I am always nice, but it still hurts. I have to remind myself that their success doesn't mean ill be a failure. They are not related, but its still hard to deal with. Ivebeen having trouble with the people who were pregnant with me are having their babies now. All have come with some sort of complication, but the babies have been okay, which is wonderful! But, its just hard when their babies are ok and have a chance but mine didn't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/coping-with-pregnancy-announcements#post-197138 Thu, 21 Jun 2012 09:46:26 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 197138@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do get jealous sometimes. The hardest one for me to accept was my childhood friend. We got married within a month of each other and were in each others weddings. I think we started TTC around the same time and she is 8 months along right now. I'm very happy for her now, but I was sad when she first announced. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/coping-with-pregnancy-announcements#post-197069 Thu, 21 Jun 2012 08:54:53 +0000 Foodnerd81 197069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We aren't TTC yet either and it still gets to me, more than I would like. Like a few other people said, we were on the later end of the engagement/marriage wave, and now yeah, it just feels so familiar. And we haven't started trying, so it's ridiculous to get upset about it, but there you go.<br /> The really judge-y part of me gets upset because we are waiting a few more months until we are in a better position financially, while people who I (in my judgmental little mind) feel aren't in a good position to have kids get pregnant. I can't even admit that to anyone but H. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/coping-with-pregnancy-announcements#post-197061 Thu, 21 Jun 2012 08:49:33 +0000 Modern Daisy 197061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pregnancy announcements are hard for me too, even though I'm not 100% TTC yet. The physical aspect of getting KO is starting to look like it will be a challenge for me, but even worse is the fact that DH and I really can't afford daycare or for me to stay home. We will be about $500 in the red every month even with major cutbacks. So when I hear someone is pregnant, I am immediately jealous that they were able to conceive AND they will be able to afford a baby. Weird, I know - but it's how I feel. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/coping-with-pregnancy-announcements#post-197037 Thu, 21 Jun 2012 08:37:15 +0000 JoJoGirl 197037@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks to you all, I appreciate all the feedback!! Glad I'm not the only one who finds them bittersweet. I have a close friend who spent 5 years TTC before they were finally successful with IVF round 3 and had twins. I know their friends were having 2nd babies while they were still TTC with their first. </p> <p>We're all on our own path I just try to honor that.</p> <p>Thanks guys :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/coping-with-pregnancy-announcements#post-197033 Thu, 21 Jun 2012 08:34:21 +0000 Trailmix 197033@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Uh, yeah. I sometimes get sad when I pass by a pregnant woman on the street (I counted 9 yesterday, yeeesh!) and am dreading when I get the phone call from one of my best friends, who is also trying bc while I will be happy for her, I know I will also be sad and jealous...<br /> I try to remind myself that the more joy I put out into the world, the more joy I will receive and somehow, that makes me feel better. Like, even if I don't feel happy, I force myself to in the hopes that it will come back to me x10. That doesn't even make sense written out but in my weird little mind, it does...another thing that helps me is the thought that if so many people can get pregnant, that probably ups our odds too, it's almost reassuring in a way.<br /> It's still super-hard though, and very reminiscent of waiting to get engaged, except I have even less control over this then I did then... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/coping-with-pregnancy-announcements#post-197023 Thu, 21 Jun 2012 08:27:28 +0000 GreenThumb 197023@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I totally understand how you feel. I was the last of my friends to get married so I have also lived through that. And now that TTC has taken an unexpected turn to IVF, I feel it even more. It is ok to be happy and maybe a little jealous all at the same time. My friend and I started TTC at the same time and now she is halfway through her pregnancy. That was quite a blow. But continuing to have a positive outlook on your own journey can only be good for you, too, so I definitely encourage happy thoughts for her and happy thoughts for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/coping-with-pregnancy-announcements#post-196996 Thu, 21 Jun 2012 08:08:30 +0000 LuLu Mom 196996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All you can do is be happy for your friend that they had an easy time getting pregnant, and will hopefully have an easy time with the rest of their pregnancy. It tugs deep in side, but when you do get that positive, you would want the support from everyone too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/coping-with-pregnancy-announcements#post-196991 Thu, 21 Jun 2012 08:05:22 +0000 loveletter 196991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pregnancy announcements are hard for me. We've been trying for 10 months and I was diagnosed with PCOS so I don't know how much longer it will take. I've been really open about our journey with my friends, so they have for the most part been really sensitive about telling me - emailing me/texting me instead of telling me in person so I can process the news privately. But to be honest, whenever I get the news that yet another person in my life is pregnant, my initial response is sadness. I wish it wasn't that way, but I think it's pretty normal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/coping-with-pregnancy-announcements#post-196977 Thu, 21 Jun 2012 07:57:23 +0000 Grace 196977@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I pretend. It's exciting for them to be pregnant and my response should reflect that. But, yeah, it knocks me off my feet, and then it passes and I feel truly happy for them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/coping-with-pregnancy-announcements#post-196972 Thu, 21 Jun 2012 07:54:33 +0000 JoJoGirl 196972@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Okay I know this is probably going to sound dumb since we're only in cycle 4 of TTC, but I finally *get* how hard it is when you're trying unsuccessfully and find out a friend who started trying after you is pregnant. They were successful on cycle 1 and of course I am so thrilled for her! But NOW I get why people post on here that it bums them out. </p> <p>I'm 'older' so lived through 10 years of engagement announcements while I was single, and this feels unfortunately familiar. You think I'd have learned from that that "my time will come" and "everything happens at the right time" and blah blah. But no. How do you guys cope with this? I HATE that it knocked me off balance last night. </p>