https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 30 Jun 2026 09:21:12 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-families#post-2288459 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 08:42:02 +0000 Alivoo01 2288459@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1. Nope! Was actually against it. I wasn't against much, but co-sleeping was one of them. I'm totally eating my words now.</p> <p>2. DS is 2. </p> <p>3. Not sure how they do it at daycare, but at home, we're usually out and about on the weekends, so he'll fall asleep in the car. I'll remove him and put him in the bed. </p> <p>4. Yup because he has no choice. He doesn't seem to mind, though we do miss sleeping next to one another. DS would throw up every time he cried too hard so he either slept with us or DH would be up numerous times a night cleaning out bed sheets, pillows, blankets, and whatever else was in the line of contact. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-families#post-2288334 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 06:38:53 +0000 NavyRN2012 2288334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1. We planned on room sharing until 6 months, but not bedshare. WELL, he was in the bassinett/RnP/now PnP, but he wakes up so many times a night, and bedsharing has helped that.<br /> 2. 5.5 months<br /> 3. Swing :/<br /> 4. No. He's not comfortable with it at all, but we have a king bed and I am able to keep LO away from SO. He was never bothered by MOTN wakeups and since I nurse, it didn't affect him. If his sleep were affected, I think he'd have a different attitude. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-families#post-2288293 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 04:24:29 +0000 808love 2288293@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO co-sleeps a little more than half the nights. She is 4 1/2 and sleeping in her own bed tonight. For now. :) I would have never thought I would live this way but after lots of trying.... I surrender and am much happier because of it. Same for DH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-families#post-2288264 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 00:03:50 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2288264@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone for participating! I agree that it helps to hear you aren't alone. I feel like there are so many posts and discussions about sleep training, not just here on hellobee but in my life as a new-ish mom. It makes me feel both like I am cheating somedays with the sleep I get, and like a shmuck for not having a baby that I lie down in his crib and quietly puts himself to sleep till morning. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-families#post-2288107 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 19:48:03 +0000 jessibear 2288107@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree, it's so nice to know I'm not alone! We planned to cosleep but ended up bedsharing very early on. At four months, she moved to her crib and lasted in there like a champ until shit hit the fan almost a year ago at 18 months. We then went back to bedsharing. Currently, she's 2 1/2 and usually sleeps the first part of the night in her room in her full size bed and comes in to our room sometime in the night. We fought that for awhile but no one was sleeping and we both missed her. Naps are done in her own bed. My husband loves it, although we did have to upgrade to a king size bed to get everyone comfortable. I love having some time to fall asleep alone in our room but knowing she will come in and cuddle later. I don't love being woken up in the morning to "get up. Go get breakfast." 😉 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-families#post-2287788 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 14:52:39 +0000 Mamasig 2287788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Torchwood: :wink: </p> <p>As long as it's working for you, go with it! It's what's most important. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-families#post-2287733 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 14:23:44 +0000 Torchwood 2287733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you for starting this thread. It makes me feel less alone in this! We've had to hide it a lot, just to avoid conflict. My FIL in particular would be a jerk about it if he knew (he's already give DH crap multiple times about how we're going to spoil her because we hold her so much). With most people we emphasize that she has the sleep nest, and don't tell them she doesn't sleep in it for more than a few minutes most nights. We don't even tell the pediatrician, since he gave us the side eye just about the sleep nest. And I misdirected the social worker in the nicu (apparently they always come by to talk to nicu parents) when she asked if we had a crib, because I was afraid of the response. Something that's been done for thousands of years shouldn't be scary to admit to. I might do a blog post on it. I try to be open about things there, and this is a big one for us.</p> <p>@looch: I'm glad to see you say it's the best part of your day still. I just love waking up next to her sweet face! (Well, minus the waking up part.) I don't want that to change. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-families#post-2287721 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 14:15:14 +0000 Raindrop 2287721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was a little scared to admit that my 3 year sleeps with us still! :)</p> <p>1. We did not plan this.<br /> 2. 3 years old, my other LO who is 7 months doesn’t co-sleep with us.<br /> 3. He doesn’t nap.<br /> 4. Yup he’s a softy! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-families#post-2287644 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 13:16:51 +0000 snowjewelz 2287644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1. Did you plan to cosleep or bedshare?<br /> Nope. We weren't against it, but also just assumed she'd sleep in a rnp next to us, then transfer to crib. Well, that went out the window when as a newborn she wouldn't sleep unless she was on us! And then with the frequent wakings (still no STTN at 9 mo), it was easier to nurse her in bed. Plus, in the beginning I had the peace of mind that she was right next to me so I would know if anything is wrong. </p> <p>2. How old is your little one?<br /> 9 months</p> <p>3. What do you do for naps?<br /> She used to nap in the crib, but we lowered it and it's impossible to lower her into it and not have her wake up, she she also naps in our bed. Other ppl can generally put her down, I lay with her to nurse then ninja away and watches the monitor closely so we get her when she wakes so she can't crawl off the bed</p> <p>4. Is your so on board?<br /> Yup! Tho we reaaaally are trying to move her to the crib now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-families#post-2287542 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 12:17:20 +0000 AB810 2287542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1. Did you plan to cosleep or bedshare?<br /> We planned on bed sharing from the beginning. We bought a crib as well but had no plans as to when we would want to use it. #2 is due soon and we plan on bed sharing with him as well. </p> <p>2. How old is your little one?<br /> She turned two in August, and has been in our bed full time since she was born. I don't anticipate it changing in the near future. </p> <p>3. What do you do for naps?<br /> When she was little I would surround her with pillows so she wouldn't roll off, and/or stay with her. She learned to safely get off the bed at a young age. </p> <p>4. Is your so on board?<br /> He loves waking up to have her there, especially since he sees little of her during the work week. When I suggested transitioning to her own bed a year ago he protested. </p> <p>Bed sharing has worked well for our family. It was super convenient when I was nursing. We like to sleep together, so why would I expect my child to sleep alone? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-families#post-2287503 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 11:52:48 +0000 Mamasig 2287503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SugarplumsMom: me too. In the middle of the night, DS1 will wake up to cuddle and get me to hug him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-families#post-2287321 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 10:21:05 +0000 Herrade 2287321@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1. Did you plan to cosleep or bedshare?<br /> We planned to co-sleep but ended up bed sharing. LO was pretty small at birth, so we were doing lots of skin-to-skin time. Initially, she would sleep on my chest. Around 1.5 mo I started putting her on the bed and side nursing. She doesn't really wake to nurse, she just roots a bit for my breast, latches and pulls off when she's done (usually 5 min). This is such a minor disturbance to my sleep that I don't care how many times a night she nurses. It would be way more difficult to go through the full wakeup that sleeping in another room, or even co-sleeping would entail. Also, I start my night's sleep when my LO does, around 8pm. This means I fet to enjoy her longest stretch of sleep unconcious!</p> <p>2. How old is your little one?<br /> 3.5 months</p> <p>3. What do you do for naps?<br /> She sleeps in my arms. I've tried moving her to the crib with very limited success. I'll keep trying gradually. I'm not interested in nap training or an all-or-nothing switch at this early age. </p> <p>4. Is your so on board?<br /> Yes, because he realizes that bed sharing keeps me rested and sane! The hardest thing for him has been my early bed time, but I think he's come to appreciate the few extra hours on his own to catch up on work or watch crappy movies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-families#post-2287311 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 10:14:15 +0000 yoursilverlining 2287311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SugarplumsMom: I am my LO's lovie too (specifically, my hands). It's so sweet, but I also don't know how to break her of needing me/my hands to sleep! eeeeeep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-families#post-2287305 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 10:10:34 +0000 Iced Tea 2287305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Happygal: </p> <p>Maybe consider a side car arrangement?</p> <p>I put ours to sleep first then join later. By then she is in a deep sleep and doesn't wake up. </p> <p>She sometimes moves a lot on her crib mattress. But she barely moves at all on our mattress. I think it is more comfortable for her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-families#post-2287289 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 10:01:54 +0000 Iced Tea 2287289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1. Did you plan to cosleep or bedshare?<br /> We planned to keep my LO sleeping near our bed (but not in it) for a few years; we have basically stuck to that. We have her crib side-carred to our bed so it is one big continuous surface. We can see each other and hold hands but can have some space as well. I don't have to get out of bed to tend to her at night. Sometimes she sleeps on our bed when she isn't feeling good; the crib prevents her from falling off.<br /> 2. How old is your little one? 6.5 months<br /> 3. What do you do for naps? Same<br /> 4. Is your so on board? Yes, but he wants a bigger bed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-families#post-2287269 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 09:53:53 +0000 MrsLilybugg 2287269@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1. Did you plan to cosleep or bedshare?<br /> I kind of knew it would happen, since I was raised in a bedsharing family!<br /> 2. How old is your little one? she is 2<br /> 3. What do you do for naps? she sleeps on the couch next to me, while I (or whoever is watching her, usually DH or MIL) get some TV time!<br /> 4. Is your so on board? for the most part! he does look forward to her sleeping in her own toddler bed, but i'm not ready for that yet. ha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-families#post-2287222 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 09:26:39 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2287222@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1. Not at all. I was adamant on having her sleep in her own room before she was born.<br /> 2. 3 yrs old<br /> 3. She hardly ever naps anymore<br /> 4. Yes. He's a softie and will do whatever she wants. I want our bed back, but at the same time, I think it's kind of sweet to cuddle with her. I am her lovie (again, I'm not sure how the heck that happened, but it did). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-families#post-2287220 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 09:25:11 +0000 Torchwood 2287220@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also, we don't have a bed frame, just the mattress and box spring, so it's low to the ground (and on carpet). I'll have to move the night stand once she's mobile (it's got some pointy corners she could fall on), but other than that if she fell off eventually it would just scare her. </p> <p>ETA- I can't imagine how bad my anxiety levels would be if she weren't in our room. Even with an angel care monitor or something similar, it would freak me out. I'm loads better than I was when she was tiny (bringing home a preemie is scary!), but I still need her nearby at all times. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-families#post-2287214 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 09:22:56 +0000 yoursilverlining 2287214@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just curious how it works for different families<br /> 1. Did you plan to cosleep or bedshare?<br /> Noooooo; I was pretty against it. Best laid plans. But when you find what works, you go with it and LO started STTN consistently as soon as we started bedsharing. </p> <p>2. How old is your little one?<br /> 3. </p> <p>3. What do you do for naps?<br /> She naps at daycare on a mat without issue. She has never napped well at home, no matter what we tried, but has always napped well at daycare without any issue (napped there in a crib, in a PnP and on a mat, depending on her age)</p> <p>4. Is your so on board?<br /> Yes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-families#post-2287213 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 09:22:45 +0000 Mamasig 2287213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@brownie: My husband thinks similarly. He really likes having them close by for safety reasons. Eventually I'd like for them to share a room and move upstairs. But that seems so far away. I feel like we will all be sharing space for a while! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-families#post-2287211 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 09:22:25 +0000 Torchwood 2287211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1. We've ways planned to bed share. It just seemed more natural to us. We love to sleep together, and with our dogs, but we'd relegate our baby to another room? It just seemed weird. She did initially sleep in her little sleep nest between our pillows, but these days she just starts there and winds up cuddled with me.</p> <p>2. 11 weeks</p> <p>3. She has a floor bed for when she's bigger. For now she naps in someone's arms (usually mine) or in a carrier on one of us.</p> <p>4. He very much is, thankfully. I was a little worried he was thinking we wouldn't do it for long (I want to continue for as long as it works for us all, even if that's till she's 7 or older), but the other day he asked me, "so how long is she going to stay in our bed, till she's like... 5?" So clearly he's at least thinking long term. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-families#post-2287206 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 09:21:42 +0000 Mamasig 2287206@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1. Did you plan to cosleep or bedshare? Nope, in fact I said I would never do it. But at about 7-8 months old it was the only way DS1 would sleep through the night. So since then, he's been in the bed with us. I need to sleep so we do what works! I also WOH so I like the extra time I get with the boys. DS2 starts out in his crib and ends up with us too when he wakes up in the middle of the night. DS1 is just with us from the start.<br /> 2. How old is your little one? DS1 - about to turn 3; DS2 - 16 months<br /> 3. What do you do for naps? My mom watches DS2 so she handles naps. I think he cuddles with her to fall asleep. DS1 naps at school by himself fine.<br /> 4. Is your so on board? Yes, he likes having the boys close by. I thought he wouldn't but I was wrong. It's amazing how your views change once you have kids.</p> <p>Glad to see there are others out there! I still sometimes feel like I'm doing something wrong. I think there are more out there - just no one talks about it.</p> <p>@Happygal: Now we all go to bed at the same time. My boys are just not good about going to bed! But when DS1 was younger, I would lay with him to go to sleep at around 8:30. After he'd fall asleep I'd leave him on the bed but leave the door open so I could hear for movement. Once asleep, he didn't move much. As far as crawling, I would wake up instantly if he began to crawl - mama's intuition I guess. Then he would just wake me up when he woke up so I didn't have to worry about him falling off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-families#post-2287148 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 08:43:49 +0000 Eko 2287148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Happygal: it depends on when DS goes to sleep and how tired I am. If I want to stay up a while then I will put him down in his swing until I go to bed. Sometimes he does wake up though so if when he falls asleep I know I am going to bed within an hour (I'm a go to bed early kind of person) then I'll hold him until I go to bed. DS is pretty young and isn't crawling or rolling yet but he settles in really well and only moves around when he starts getting hungry. When I first started cosleeping I was amazed by how natural the baby took to it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-families#post-2287132 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 08:31:03 +0000 brownie 2287132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With our first I was adamantly opposed to co sleeping. He slept in a pnp in our room for the most part. Ultimately we started co sleeping because he wasn't gaining enough weight and I worked and couldn't be up with him all night. So at 6 months old he came to bed with us. With the new baby (4 months old now), she spent many nights in the rock n play. My son was still in bed with us and it isn't the safest situation. But she prefers sleeping with me. So it's me and the two kids in bed. He is insanely aware of where she is at all times. And in the mornings they cuddle together and I love it.</p> <p>First child is now 4 years old and baby is 4 months old.</p> <p>For naps, he does them at school. School has found that the baby is most successful on a mat on the floor than the crib. At home she sleeps on me where I am. He doesn't typically nap but if he does he goes with is into the room and we sneak out when he is asleep. </p> <p>My husband is now on board . Well he has no say because he isn't here day to day right now. When he joins us here we will be transitioning the oldest to a toddler bed in our room.</p> <p>Note: my two kids are the most expensive things in my house. The oldest was ivf and cost is 20k. The youngest was iui after failed fets and is likely a similar cost. They will not be in their own rooms until I know they can rescue themselves (likely around 6 years old). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-families#post-2287125 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 08:27:52 +0000 looch 2287125@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've had a long sleeping journey, we have been all over the map with where we have slept as a family. My son is almost 5 and we cosleep. It's seriously one the best parts of my day. He asks for and wants it, my husband is fine with it, so we continue. </p> <p>If you had told me when my son was born that it would be like this now, I wouldn't have believed it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-families#post-2287118 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 08:23:07 +0000 ShootingStar 2287118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We co-slept at least part of the night for the first 6-7 months. At first when he was teeny he just wouldn't sleep unless he was being held. The goal was always to get him to sleep independently though. After each feeding he would fall asleep and I'd put him in the PnP next to me. If he woke up I'd try once more and if it didn't work we'd co sleep until the next feeding and try again. </p> <p>At about 6.5 months we started using the crib in his own room and then we sleep trained. Co sleeping was a huge life saver for us but I'm glad we stopped when we did. Getting a 2 year old out of your bed would be a lot harder than a 7 month old. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-families#post-2287104 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 08:14:07 +0000 Anya 2287104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Happygal: when we were cosleeping all night, I would put the baby to bed first in the cosleeper and then go to bed later. It very rarely woke her up but I did feel like I had to walk on eggshells while getting ready for bed. Now that she can roll and move, she starts the night out in her own bed but when she does come into our bed she is in the middle. There are definitely times when I wake up to limbs flinging in my face but for the most part she settles except when she wakes up to nurse. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-families#post-2287101 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 08:05:54 +0000 Happygal 2287101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can I ask a few co-sleeping questions? I think our arrangement is fine right now (not cosleeping), but there are lots of benefits that sound nice to me. And after a long day apart from my girl, I sometimes wish she could be close to me during the night. Here are a few things I've wondered though--</p> <p>*bedtimes. Does your baby stay up later with you, or do you put her down and join later? Does that wake the baby up?</p> <p>*crawling/rolling-our baby rolls and scoots and is so busy in her crib. Do they settle differently if cosleeping? Are there concerns about them moving all around? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-families#post-2287072 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 07:43:09 +0000 Eko 2287072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you for starting this! I definitely didn't plan on co-sleeping and still feels like I'm doing something wrong because I do!</p> <p>1. Definitely didn't plan. We had DS in a rock n play at first and after a month he absolutely hated it. I would have tried to put him in his crib but we don't air condition his room, initially planning he would sleep in our room until the fall, and it's too hot. I didn't bother going out trying to buy something else and he came into bed with us.</p> <p>2. 3 Months</p> <p>3. He definitely sleeps better on me but he usually naps in his swing, boppy, or stroller. The other day he fell asleep on his own in his crib so I think we will start trying that in a few weeks.</p> <p>4. DH didn't mind since we were getting some sleep. Really I think he wishes we just had a bigger bed. He enjoys waking up and automatically seeing W. A couple times he slept at night in his swing he was incredibly anxious. It's more me than DH that wishes he wasn't sleeping in our bed. I just want to freely move around again! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleeping-families#post-2287068 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 07:32:52 +0000 Mrsk 2287068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1. We planned to co sleep before DS was born. I read the book "sweet sleep" after it was suggested in the womanly art of breastfeeding. Dh built a sidecar cosleeper that attached to our bed like the arms reach cosleeper. We don't use it, it's easier to have DS in bed with me, he still wakes up 3-4 times to nurse at nights. </p> <p>2. DS is 2.5 months</p> <p>3. DS doesn't nap well by himself. Maybe because he's so used to sleeping with me at night. We nap together in the bed or he sleeps in our ssc. We plan to make a floor bed for him when he is older.</p> <p>4. Dh was very ok board before DS was even born. We swear by bed sharing as we both get a great amount of sleep. </p>