https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 04 Jun 2026 19:17:52 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleepingnursing-to-sleepsleep-training-help#post-2082456 Mon, 23 Feb 2015 19:27:15 +0000 kml636 2082456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrskc: @Peasinapod: Thanks for the suggestions! I Will definitely try them too :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleepingnursing-to-sleepsleep-training-help#post-2082392 Mon, 23 Feb 2015 18:35:43 +0000 Peasinapod 2082392@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kml636: I think at 5 months me and my little one are at a very similar place to you. Although maybe a bit more extreme in that I had actually become her pacifier (she's never taken a soother). What I've been trying after finally reaching my breaking point is she cio in my husbands arms (because once it's bed time if she's not nursing she's crying). Once he's successfully rocked her to sleep the rest of the night goes a bit smoother. Not sttn by any means... But also not me attached to her all night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleepingnursing-to-sleepsleep-training-help#post-2082390 Mon, 23 Feb 2015 18:28:20 +0000 mrskc 2082390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel for you!! My son was an absolute horrible sleeper his first year of life. I just could not handling letting him CIO so I just dealt with it. The easiest thing was just letting him sleep next to me in bed so he could nurse easily through out the night. There were many times where I got to my wits end, but I truly believe he was not a baby that I could do CIO with. I believe a lot had to do with him not dealing well with teething and getting 4-6 teeth all at once. Those were the times where his sleep would be horrendous even with giving him tylenol. That was around 8 months and 12 months. </p> <p>Anyways, he went to a floor bed early for naps so I could just nurse him and roll away. Then after he was one, we moved him to his own room with a floor bed and my husband took over nighttime wake ups. It was rough at first and took a few weeks before he adjusted. My DH basically slept with him in his room for awhile. But he's over 2 now and puts himself to sleep for naps and nighttime. So definitely didn't develop any bad habits by letting him nurse / rock to sleep. It just took time. </p> <p>Hang in there and you just have to do what feels right for you and your family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleepingnursing-to-sleepsleep-training-help#post-2082388 Mon, 23 Feb 2015 18:26:49 +0000 loveisstrange 2082388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kml636: I mean... CIO is not the only answer. Truly, it's not. There are plenty of "gentle" methods. I know one people always recommend around here is "No Cry Sleep Solution". It's not something I tried, so I dont know, but I know people that have had success with it. Your sleep and mental health are important too. Take care of yourself. And, lots of people sleep train after a year too. So if you want to wait, then wait. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleepingnursing-to-sleepsleep-training-help#post-2082370 Mon, 23 Feb 2015 18:14:10 +0000 kml636 2082370@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone, I think I'm going to start moving the crib back into our room. If I don't make progress there I would just revisit it when she's around one and starting to wean.@Rockies11: you give me hope! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleepingnursing-to-sleepsleep-training-help#post-2082368 Mon, 23 Feb 2015 18:12:36 +0000 kml636 2082368@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@loveisstrange: I know you are right! I feel like if I had not given in the first night we would be done at all. But now my husband has just said enough is enough it's not going to work for her. But of course he isn't the one affected https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleepingnursing-to-sleepsleep-training-help#post-2082360 Mon, 23 Feb 2015 18:05:58 +0000 gingerbebe 2082360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sleep training or cosleeping - whatever works for you is what matters. But if sharing a bed long term is not something you guys are okay with then you probably need to train. The only thing is it's not fair to let your baby CIO if you won't be consistent because it's just leaving her to be upset for no reason. </p> <p>If cosleeping works for you then go with that - kids learn to sleep on their own eventually - but if she falls asleep in your arms and wakes up in a different place, that's gonna be jarring because they learn object permanence at this point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleepingnursing-to-sleepsleep-training-help#post-2082333 Mon, 23 Feb 2015 17:41:41 +0000 Rockies11 2082333@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine was like this, and then when she was about 13 months, she wouldn't nurse to sleep anymore, and was having party-time instead of co-sleeping. So I cribbed her then, and she started sleeping like a dream. Prior to that though, she could scream for an eternity and would never stop screaming if she was in the crib. So it I think was just a developmental readiness thing with her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleepingnursing-to-sleepsleep-training-help#post-2082331 Mon, 23 Feb 2015 17:39:58 +0000 Zbug 2082331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You could also try sidecarring her crib. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleepingnursing-to-sleepsleep-training-help#post-2082330 Mon, 23 Feb 2015 17:39:08 +0000 Zbug 2082330@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We coslept until we moved her into her room on a floor bed at 12 mo. I still end up in there with her at some point, but it's sometimes not till 3/4. I get to start out in our bed, and she isn't left to cry. This is what works for us. You should do what works for you. I wouldn't worry as much about "bad habits" unless you're unhappy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleepingnursing-to-sleepsleep-training-help#post-2082329 Mon, 23 Feb 2015 17:38:21 +0000 miramira 2082329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also, nothing that you are doing is a "bad habit", nor will uou form any. The "bad habits" that people talk about are normally things that babies are biologically &amp; anthropologically designed to do (for example, sleeping with their mothers, nursing to sleep, rocking to sleep, sleeping in-arms etc) but that are seen as "inconvenient" to adults in our culture. Also, I don't think a 7-month-old is manipulating you by screaming for ages. She's emotionally distressed and needs her caregiver to regulate her stress. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleepingnursing-to-sleepsleep-training-help#post-2082317 Mon, 23 Feb 2015 17:30:20 +0000 Kemma 2082317@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I nursed to sleep and bedshared from the first wake up from around seven months old to about 18-20 months old. My LO is now 26 months and settles herself to sleep and sleeps all night and we haven't done any sleep training.</p> <p>You aren't ruining your baby by nursing to sleep or bedsharing so if it works for your family then I say just roll with it! And some babies just do not respond to sleep training and need the extra night time comfort.</p> <p>You could check out the No Cry Sleep Solution for some ideas to help though :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleepingnursing-to-sleepsleep-training-help#post-2082316 Mon, 23 Feb 2015 17:30:11 +0000 miramira 2082316@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If cosleeping and nursing work for both of you, just continue doing it. This is what mothers all over the world do and have been doing forever :) </p> <p>However, i know how nice it can be to reclaim space in your own bed... Where is her crib? Do you think you could start out with it next to your bed? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleepingnursing-to-sleepsleep-training-help#post-2082308 Mon, 23 Feb 2015 17:24:44 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 2082308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh that sounds so stressful! </p> <p>Have you tried to "play" in the crib when it's not nap time so that she can associate it with something good? </p> <p>If you nurse her to sleep, will she sleep for longer periods of time? Or will she wake up no matter what? Will she take a paci?</p> <p>ETA: Some kids just need extra comfort and don't deal well with sleep training. I had to keep one of my shirts in DD2's crib so she could smell me and think I was near. She still wakes once a night (11 months old), and my other daughter didn't STTN until she was over a year old. We did some sleep training with DD1 and she only cried for about 15 min. We've tried to sleep train DD2, but she will just cry and cry and that's not something I'm ok with. She used to wake 4x a night, but it's slowly gone down to 1 time each night. Eventually she'll STTN, but for now, she needs that comfort. </p> <p>I guess you just have to decide if you're ok with it and if you think your LO can be sleep trained. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleepingnursing-to-sleepsleep-training-help#post-2082307 Mon, 23 Feb 2015 17:24:17 +0000 loveisstrange 2082307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You know why she's holding out and keeps screaming? Because she's learned that if she goes long enough, you'll give up. That might be a bit harsh, but its true. Sleep training is all about commitment and sticking to a, plan. Whether that plan is CIO or whatever else, it doesnt matter. Consistency is the absolute key.</p> <p>At this point, you're going to have a rough few nights because she's got plenty of bad habits already. You need to do some research, decide what method you're going with and what she might respond to best, and just do it. Don't give in anymore. It wont work if you're wishy washy about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cosleepingnursing-to-sleepsleep-training-help#post-2082280 Mon, 23 Feb 2015 17:09:34 +0000 kml636 2082280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Looking for advice/reassurance!!! </p> <p>Trying to break my seven month old from nursing to sleep - Sleep training was a complete disaster. My older daughter we let fuss for a few minutes and she went in the crib from day 1. My younger one is much more sensitive and she already cries A LOT. Always has, which is why I have been putting off sleep training. </p> <p>At first she nursed to sleep and from 3 weeks old - 4 months old she would sleep 8 - 12 hours! Now her sleep has devolved , she wants to nurse all night and I'm so tired. </p> <p>I tried the sleep sense method, started putting her in the crib with me there comforting her, she screamed for an hour at bedtime, then 2 hours in the middle of the night until I broke down and let her cosleep. Sending my husband in didn't work either..., Just letting her cry she has screamed for an hour straight before we said we couldn't take it any more and we will just let her cosleep. </p> <p>. She still screams a week later anytime we get her near the crib at night even though I don't nurse her down to at bedtime anymore. I do nurse her to sleep in the middle of the night. She wakes the first time 3 hours after my husband rocks her to sleep. Then I've just been cosleeping with her. She basically nurses all night. She will fuss for about 15 mins in the crib at nap time but it's not a full on crying fest so I know she can fall asleep without being rocked/nursed. </p> <p>I don't mind cosleeping/nursing her at night but I am worried about her not learning good sleep habits and that this will just be harder to break later on.. I don't want to end up with the 6 year old still nursing and sleeping with us. I know she's still a baby and I probably sound like a lunatic but I am in tears over her sleep and my lack of sleep! </p> <p>Has anyone successfully transitioned their nursing co-sleeper to sleep in the crib all night? </p>