https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 20 May 2026 15:15:33 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/could-you-ever-be-a-surrogate#post-118234 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 14:02:26 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 118234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would maybe do it for one of my sisters, but not a stranger. But apart from back pains, my body is made to have kids! ha.<br /> I don't have any pregnancy related issues. No morning sickness, no migraines, no excessive weight gain, no diabetes... etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/could-you-ever-be-a-surrogate#post-118229 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 13:57:37 +0000 LuLu Mom 118229@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had told my sister that after I was done having children and if she still wasn't able to conceive that I would be willing to discuss carrying a child for her. Luckily, she was able to have a child on her own, after experiencing pregnancy myself I would still do it but it would be difficult after having my own children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/could-you-ever-be-a-surrogate#post-118226 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 13:55:34 +0000 mrstilly 118226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I could. I would definitely consider it for a very close friend or family member. I had a great pregnancy with DS, and while it was uncomfortable at times (heartburn, and little fett jabbed in between my ribs), it was a very healthy and easy pregnancy. </p> <p>I would have to think harder about doing it for a stranger. I think it would really depend on the couple. I hate how difficult it can be for some couples to have children, when it seems there are so many unwanted pregnancies out there every day. I don't know how the process works, but I think with the right couple I could do it. I think I'd just want to meet them and know that they were good people. I think it would be pretty amazing to do that for another person. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/could-you-ever-be-a-surrogate#post-118122 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 12:42:26 +0000 babynumber1 118122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I could never go through pregnancy knowing that it was for someone else. It is too much uncomfortableness involved. Maybe if I wasn't 33 weeks and having a foot in my ribs right now I would have a different answer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/could-you-ever-be-a-surrogate#post-101483 Sun, 25 Mar 2012 16:09:07 +0000 BSB 101483@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm going to wait to see if I enjoy being pregnant. If my sister or brother needed a surrogate, I would consider it. I have considered donating my eggs. Unfortunately, one of my levels weren't high enough, so I couldn't donate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/could-you-ever-be-a-surrogate#post-100958 Sat, 24 Mar 2012 12:24:19 +0000 lemondrop 100958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I could, but it would have to be for someone that I was super close with. I'm sure there would still be an incredible bond with that child. </p> <p>@akire: good luck with those little embryo's :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/could-you-ever-be-a-surrogate#post-100890 Sat, 24 Mar 2012 09:04:28 +0000 holdonforonemoreday 100890@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would do it, for one friend only. She has a heart condition and can't carry a baby. However, we would have legal paperwork drawn up and I would do IUI so that it is her egg and his swimmers and I would just be the oven. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/could-you-ever-be-a-surrogate#post-100800 Sat, 24 Mar 2012 04:42:33 +0000 mediagirl 100800@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Probably not. I hate being pregnant and I'm not close enough with any family members to even consider it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/could-you-ever-be-a-surrogate#post-100759 Fri, 23 Mar 2012 23:00:02 +0000 brownie 100759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would love to do it. In fact, I loved being pregnant and would love to be pregnant now. We did go through fertility treatments to get pregnant. I even loved delivery. It is hard taking care of them after that. So, I would love to give that opportunity to someone. I have a friend that would love me to surrogate for them and then I could see the baby grow up. I would love an open relationship with the babies family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/could-you-ever-be-a-surrogate#post-100744 Fri, 23 Mar 2012 22:31:48 +0000 akire 100744@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As someone who is hopefully about to implant embryos into her surrogate next week, I can say that I could never do it. Hell, I can't even carry my own due to this lame heart condition.</p> <p>When I asked her what made her want to do this, she was pretty honest. She had started the process to be her best friend's surrogate. Then, the best friend got pregnant. Our Surrogate told the clinic that if they thought they found someone she'd connect with, she'd still consider it. Her husband and her family were so confused. But, in her opinion, she wanted to help someone who couldn't do what she had already done, and the money didn't hurt. </p> <p>Her husband came around after meeting me and the hubs. We all had some pretty intense conversations, as we certainly were a little surprised to find ourselves at a coffee shop having THAT meeting.</p> <p>We've hung out with them quite a bit since then, and I am thrilled to have met them. Who knows where this will go, but right now I am so grateful that our paths crossed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/could-you-ever-be-a-surrogate#post-100711 Fri, 23 Mar 2012 22:08:32 +0000 tequiero21 100711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>nope, could not do it for anyone, although i'd selfishly think about someone doing it for me. MAYBE if i had a sister who couldn't have a child of her own, i'd do it for her. but since i don't have a sister and my SIL is pretty fertile (lol), the answer remains nope! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/could-you-ever-be-a-surrogate#post-100683 Fri, 23 Mar 2012 21:14:57 +0000 Andrea 100683@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I can't imagine giving up the baby. I don't have a sister or else maybe I would do it for her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/could-you-ever-be-a-surrogate#post-100606 Fri, 23 Mar 2012 19:49:24 +0000 MamaG 100606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. I didn't love being pregnant (it was just okay) but more importantly I couldn't seperate myself from the pregnancy. I would become attached to the baby and struggle with letting go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/could-you-ever-be-a-surrogate#post-100584 Fri, 23 Mar 2012 19:34:00 +0000 photojane 100584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i've never had a baby, so i really can't gauge how i'll feel after my own babies, but... i've always thought that i'd really like to do it. i know it would be tough, but what an amazing gift! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/could-you-ever-be-a-surrogate#post-100556 Fri, 23 Mar 2012 19:06:21 +0000 mamabolt 100556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Probably not, I have not had an easy pregnancy and I don't think I'd be willing to do it again for someone else. Maybe if my sister couldn't carry a baby I'd reconsider it... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/could-you-ever-be-a-surrogate#post-100552 Fri, 23 Mar 2012 18:40:53 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 100552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've never been pregnant so I don't have any experience... But I've thought for several years that I would like to be a surrogate after having my own children. I'm still young and should be done having kids before 30. I've researched surrogacy in TX some and the only prerequisite I remember right now is having your own children and being in a stable relationship. I've mentioned it to my mom and husband and they both thought it was crazy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/could-you-ever-be-a-surrogate#post-100550 Fri, 23 Mar 2012 18:33:45 +0000 jennylynn 100550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really don't think I could. I couldn't imagine going through 40 weeks of pregnancy for someone else. That sounds really bad but it'd be hard. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/could-you-ever-be-a-surrogate#post-100549 Fri, 23 Mar 2012 18:29:48 +0000 betsyboop 100549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No - I really really don't love pregnancy, even though I'd say mine so far has been relatively easy or complication-free. If I had a sister I probably would but alas I only have a brother. I think surrogates are amazing though...a friend of mine had a heart condition and used a surrogate! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/could-you-ever-be-a-surrogate#post-100543 Fri, 23 Mar 2012 18:05:03 +0000 erinpye 100543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I could. It's been hard enough carrying my own baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/could-you-ever-be-a-surrogate#post-88832 Wed, 07 Mar 2012 22:15:47 +0000 cupcakemama 88832@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really loved being pregnant but I couldn't do it for someone else. As much as I enjoyed it, it had it's downs. Some days I felt like crud. It has left it's mark on my body. That is all worth it for LO but I don't know that I could do that for someone else. </p> <p>I also don't have sisters. </p> <p>It also wouldn't just be my decision. It would be something that DH and I would have to decide to do together as it would have a huge effect on him, day to day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/could-you-ever-be-a-surrogate#post-88829 Wed, 07 Mar 2012 22:09:53 +0000 Mrs. Bee 88829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i think i would for a family member. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/could-you-ever-be-a-surrogate#post-88784 Wed, 07 Mar 2012 21:02:38 +0000 MsMamaBear 88784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I said I would for my sister only if she couldn't, but after actually HAVING a baby, no way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/could-you-ever-be-a-surrogate#post-88782 Wed, 07 Mar 2012 20:58:59 +0000 heffalump 88782@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: that's so sweet of you! And it's great that she'll adopt! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/could-you-ever-be-a-surrogate#post-88781 Wed, 07 Mar 2012 20:57:53 +0000 heffalump 88781@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anbanan15: I think I learned to detach myself from things because of my job. When you're a therapist you just have to seperate yourself from people.... especially some of the people I worked with (like rapists and older adults). So if I knew the baby wasn't mine to begin with, then it just wouldn't be mine ever. I would just be it's home for 9 months. </p> <p>@yoursilverlining: I had a very hard pregnancy, but it's so worth it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/could-you-ever-be-a-surrogate#post-88780 Wed, 07 Mar 2012 20:56:47 +0000 lilteacherbee 88780@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've thought about this before. I haven't been pregnant yet, so I don't how my body will react to pregnancy and that would probably have an impact on my decision. However, if my sister ever asked me to be a surrogate I'd probably say yes. Anyone else though, I'm not sure yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/could-you-ever-be-a-surrogate#post-88778 Wed, 07 Mar 2012 20:55:49 +0000 chopsuey 88778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be a surrogate only for my sister. I've told her this, but she's all about being natural. If she can't carry a pregnancy on her own (she's older), she considers it God's will for her life and would adopt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/could-you-ever-be-a-surrogate#post-88777 Wed, 07 Mar 2012 20:55:34 +0000 MsMini 88777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not for me ... I have hyperemesis, and now at 31 weeks I have been diagnosed with GD and PIH ... my body does not cope well with pregnancy. I will have enough anxiety doing it again for myself, let alone someone else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/could-you-ever-be-a-surrogate#post-88775 Wed, 07 Mar 2012 20:53:13 +0000 yoursilverlining 88775@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No! I don't enjoy pregnancy really at all. I would love to hire a surrogate though if we decide to have a second child, although it would be hard to really trust someone else with our baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/could-you-ever-be-a-surrogate#post-88774 Wed, 07 Mar 2012 20:52:45 +0000 anbanan15 88774@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Kudos to you for wanting to do this!</p> <p>I think in theory this is something I would want to do, but when it came down to it I don't think I could just because I would be to emotionally attached! Heck I was extremely emotionally attached to my breastmilk, I couldn't imagine if that had been a real human being! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/could-you-ever-be-a-surrogate#post-88770 Wed, 07 Mar 2012 20:47:18 +0000 heffalump 88770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've thought a lot about being a surrogate. I love my LO so much, and I would love to be able to help someone else have that too. </p> <p>Unfortunately, my body doesn't seem to like pregnancy very much. I've always gotten migraines, but with pregnancy they got so much worse. I had to take a lot of medication. I hated doing it, I was freaked out that something bad would happen to LO (thank goodness it didn't and she's very healthy!), but it really wasn't a choice. It was either take the meds or chop my head off to get rid of the pain. Seriously, that was my thought process. </p> <p>It was bad enough going through that with my own baby, but I would hate to do it with someone else's baby in my belly. So I just wasn't meant to be a surrogate. Would you ever want to be? </p>