https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 07 May 2026 07:24:36 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/couple-sailing-with-1-yo-and-3-yo-need-rescue#post-1553984 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 12:53:08 +0000 Raindrop 1553984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow I had a big fight with DH about this last night. Well not that big but it was big for us. We finally agreed to disagree.</p> <p>He thought it was totally bad parenting and they were horrible people. I said that is not fair... if the baby didn't get sick you probably wouldn't have even thought of that.</p> <p>One of my points was also they are spending a lot of time with their kids and we only really see LO on the weekend and at night. So they have that going for them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/couple-sailing-with-1-yo-and-3-yo-need-rescue#post-1553854 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 12:26:29 +0000 BSB 1553854@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsrain: Agree!<br /> I'm not a salior but I'm sure it's a different way of life for people who enjoy sailing. There's people out there who like traveling to 3rd world countries to help others and some have probably brought their young children along. I'm sure they thought of the risks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/couple-sailing-with-1-yo-and-3-yo-need-rescue#post-1553843 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 12:22:14 +0000 wonderstruck 1553843@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lawbee11: I totally agree, the context here makes a big difference to me. I don't have a problem with sailing and I think it's awesome to introduce kids to that kind of thing...but no, I don't think it's wise to sail around the world with toddlers where you have no easy way of returning to land should an emergency arise. I don't see how any weighing of the pros and cons would have came out in favor of that choice considering that mom and daughter both tested positive for a salmonella infection less than 10 days before departing on this trip.</p> <p>That being said, it's not really any of my business and I know that - it's their life. The only part that's really affecting others here is the finances used to save them, and I totally agree with @looch: that there should be some kind of private rescue insurance. I cringe to think of how money this could cost if there were more families making decisions like this, causing expensive rescues to become more common. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/couple-sailing-with-1-yo-and-3-yo-need-rescue#post-1553840 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 12:21:55 +0000 Greentea 1553840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsrain: I agree. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/couple-sailing-with-1-yo-and-3-yo-need-rescue#post-1553834 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 12:21:06 +0000 Bao 1553834@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't do it, personally...but that's just me. I don't care what other people do and don't judge. I would be way too nervous being that far from land even if it were all adults. The sea scares me though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/couple-sailing-with-1-yo-and-3-yo-need-rescue#post-1553823 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 12:19:44 +0000 Adira 1553823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsrain: @Mrs. Pen: Completely agree! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/couple-sailing-with-1-yo-and-3-yo-need-rescue#post-1553822 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 12:19:21 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1553822@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: Sometimes I believe there can be a "bill" for services like this. Probably not covering the entire amount and taxes cover the rest but still. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/couple-sailing-with-1-yo-and-3-yo-need-rescue#post-1553817 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 12:18:35 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1553817@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They were sailing around the world so yes, they were living on the boat. </p> <p>I think in this situation they 100% did what they had to do for their child. Could they have probably waited it out, tried to fix the boat, etc, sure. But they put the safety of their child first and called for help. </p> <p>@mrsrain: Agree </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/couple-sailing-with-1-yo-and-3-yo-need-rescue#post-1553800 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 12:15:01 +0000 MamaG 1553800@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: This was my issue as well, the resources that were necessary for rescue and the related costs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/couple-sailing-with-1-yo-and-3-yo-need-rescue#post-1553794 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 12:12:13 +0000 cheert16 1553794@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsrain: Agree! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/couple-sailing-with-1-yo-and-3-yo-need-rescue#post-1553789 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 12:09:43 +0000 looch 1553789@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am okay with their decision to sail around the world with small children. Doesn't affect any of the day to day decisions I make with respect to my son.</p> <p>What kind of rubs me the wrong way about the whole situation is the resources used for the rescue. My assumption is that they're paid for by our tax dollars and I question the use. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying they should have been left to die out there, but there should be some kind of private rescue insurance. I know I can purchase insurance if I am visiting another country in case i need to be medically airlifted out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/couple-sailing-with-1-yo-and-3-yo-need-rescue#post-1553715 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 11:51:21 +0000 littlebug 1553715@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsrain: Exactly. It's not something I would be comfortable with, but I don't live on/near water, and I'm not a competent sailor. To each their own. It sounds like they used they made a responsible decision and did what was necessary to ensure everyone's safety. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/couple-sailing-with-1-yo-and-3-yo-need-rescue#post-1553696 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 11:46:05 +0000 kjpugs 1553696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just think about how often kids need to go to the pediatrician at that age. Even without other kids' germs, things pop up. So I can't imagine feeling comfortable, personally, with being 900 miles off shore like that, being on the water for so long. That being said, I would never berate them or mean comment. It may be something I wouldn't do, but it's not illegal, so who am I to judge?! They're sailors, not me. Glad they were able to be saved. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/couple-sailing-with-1-yo-and-3-yo-need-rescue#post-1553695 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 11:45:10 +0000 meredithNYC 1553695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's not a choice I personally would make, but I won't condemn them for it. They were experienced sailors and I'm sure they had their reasons for planning their trip as they did, but sometimes shit happens. I feel sorry for them that they're getting so much judgment heaped on them. Can you imagine the whole world scrutinizing your parenting choices? Yikes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/couple-sailing-with-1-yo-and-3-yo-need-rescue#post-1553679 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 11:42:07 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1553679@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsrain: +1. I totally agree.</p> <p>It's easy to get caught up in our idea of what is culturally okay and not okay. I view someone living on a boat and sailing as a different type of "culture". They seemed very responsible and sought medical attention at the right time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/couple-sailing-with-1-yo-and-3-yo-need-rescue#post-1553667 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 11:39:22 +0000 mrsrain 1553667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I grew up on an island and knew lots of yachtees (families who live on yachts for most of the year) growing up. It's a different lifestyle, but it a valid one, even for families with young children. It isn't something I would choose to do, but I think it is sad that this family, having lost their home, is now being judged because of the choice the made. Their child is safe, they got help when they felt it was needed... imo they did everything right. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/couple-sailing-with-1-yo-and-3-yo-need-rescue#post-1553633 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 11:31:21 +0000 mrsmate 1553633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's important for me to be a reasonable distance from medical care. 900 miles from shore with a 3yo and a 1yo...that's not something I'd be comfortable with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/couple-sailing-with-1-yo-and-3-yo-need-rescue#post-1553608 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 11:26:34 +0000 TemperanceBrennan 1553608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try not to judge, but I do think it is reckless. In my opinion, the kids are too young. I would have less problems with it if they were school-aged.</p> <p>ETA: I think there is a difference between having a sailing lifestyle/living on a boat with very young children and trying to circumnavigate the world with very young children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/couple-sailing-with-1-yo-and-3-yo-need-rescue#post-1553600 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 11:24:56 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1553600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: well the article said this has been their life for 7 years and they lost their "sailboat and home" - meaning they lived on the boat?</p> <p>I don't really think it's a big deal. That is just the way they live their life. They took appropriate precautions and called for help when they needed it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/couple-sailing-with-1-yo-and-3-yo-need-rescue#post-1553594 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 11:23:20 +0000 blackbird 1553594@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, i feel nauseous thinking about how seasick those kids probably were!</p> <p>@mrs. green grass, ah ok. The article said something about losing their sailboat AND their home... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/couple-sailing-with-1-yo-and-3-yo-need-rescue#post-1553593 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 11:22:50 +0000 lawbee11 1553593@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree that there isn't anything inherently wrong with going sailing with young children, but attempting to sail around the world with a 1 and 3 year old seems like poor judgment. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/couple-sailing-with-1-yo-and-3-yo-need-rescue#post-1553584 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 11:21:32 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 1553584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: It was a months-long trip. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/couple-sailing-with-1-yo-and-3-yo-need-rescue#post-1553582 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 11:21:05 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 1553582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>FYI...the coast guard sank their ship on purpose. They lost steering and the 1 yo was sick so they needed rescue.</p> <p>I feel uncomfortable about it, but I do not think it makes them unfit parents in any way. My biggest issue would be the importance of good sleep for a baby...that would be hard to ensure on a boat and it sounds like the baby did have a hard time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/couple-sailing-with-1-yo-and-3-yo-need-rescue#post-1553581 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 11:20:58 +0000 blackbird 1553581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>900 MILES AWAY FROM SHORE?!</p> <p>Did they live on the boat or something?.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/couple-sailing-with-1-yo-and-3-yo-need-rescue#post-1553565 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 11:17:08 +0000 autumnlove 1553565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't really have an opinion but I read pages of mean comments yesterday! :crying: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/couple-sailing-with-1-yo-and-3-yo-need-rescue#post-1553547 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 11:13:52 +0000 birdofafeather 1553547@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p><a href="http://www.utsandiego.com/news/2014/Apr/06/navy-warship-reaches-sailboat-carrying-baby/2/?#article-copy" rel="nofollow">http://www.utsandiego.com/news/2014/Apr/06/navy-warship-reaches-sailboat-carrying-baby/2/?#article-copy</a></p> <p>A couple was sailing on an extended trip with their 1 year old and 3 year old. The 1 year old got really sick and they had to be rescued this week. Their ship sank.</p> <p>I read this article and was immediately struck that they had to defend their choices. I'm not a sailor, but they are, so I'm giving them the benefit of the doubt that they weighed the risks and benefits and did what was right for their family. I can't say whether or not I would have done it for logistical reasons, but I don't think there was anything inherently wrong or dangerous about sailing with their kids.</p> <p>This is their blog: <a href="http://www.therebelheart.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.therebelheart.com/</a></p> <p>Thoughts? </p>