https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 19:19:51 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cousins-exchanging-gifts#post-699877 Mon, 08 Apr 2013 15:26:31 +0000 heffalump 699877@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would send something. It's not the kid's fault that your brother and SIL didn't send a gift, so I wouldn't want to make them suffer for it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cousins-exchanging-gifts#post-699674 Mon, 08 Apr 2013 14:40:33 +0000 Honeybee 699674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My nephew's birthday was right before DS's first birthday. We sent my nephew a gift; my sister/BIL did not send anything for DS and I doubt we'll get anything for DD. I'll still send presents to my nephew because I don't think he would understand why he didn't get a present from us. Plus I think my sister failed in this respect, since it was her responsibility to send a gift or card for my kids, not my nephew's. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cousins-exchanging-gifts#post-699637 Mon, 08 Apr 2013 14:33:14 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 699637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't go tit for tat about gift exchange. If sending a gift is in your heart then do so. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cousins-exchanging-gifts#post-698499 Mon, 08 Apr 2013 09:08:08 +0000 bunnylove08 698499@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would send a gift. I wouldnt ask. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cousins-exchanging-gifts#post-698489 Mon, 08 Apr 2013 09:06:28 +0000 illumina 698489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Like others have said, I would send a small gift. Don't punish your Nephew for his parents' lousy behaviour. I'd probably let it go this time, but if it happens again I would ask them what's going on with the gift giving if it's not reciprocated. If they genuinely keep forgetting I would go out of my way to remind them a couple weeks before your LO's birthdays. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cousins-exchanging-gifts#post-698468 Mon, 08 Apr 2013 09:01:30 +0000 Alivoo01 698468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd send a gift because I'm a gift giver, even if I didn't receive anything. Be a bigger person and send your nephew a gift. It wasn't his fault! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cousins-exchanging-gifts#post-698458 Mon, 08 Apr 2013 08:58:26 +0000 MrsHotDog 698458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would (and do) send gifts to my nieces and nephews despite them living out of state so I would in your situation too. Another reason I love shopping on Amazon since I just ship it straight to them! We also send invites to out of state family just so everyone feels included. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cousins-exchanging-gifts#post-698457 Mon, 08 Apr 2013 08:57:52 +0000 looch 698457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaBehr: Ok, so geographic distance. Understood. Even in those situations, I'd send something for my brother's son, not sure if he'd think to reciprocate, to be honest.</p> <p>I'd send something, just so you've closed out your obligation, but I am weird like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cousins-exchanging-gifts#post-698454 Mon, 08 Apr 2013 08:56:37 +0000 Smurfette 698454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would send a gift. Doesn't matter you didn't get one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cousins-exchanging-gifts#post-698449 Mon, 08 Apr 2013 08:55:35 +0000 T.H.O.U. 698449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Its tough being far apart. I am horrible at mailing gifts, but in this situation I would send something small to your nephew. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cousins-exchanging-gifts#post-698442 Mon, 08 Apr 2013 08:54:10 +0000 MamaBehr 698442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch We live in TX and they live in NY. So, I didn't invite them to a party because I knew they wouldn't make it. Would it be different if you didn't live close to your brother? </p> <p>My nephew is the only cousin they have, and I guess it makes me sad to think that they won't exchange gifts. Is that strange? </p> <p>Plus then I'm the Aunt who doesn't buy him gifts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cousins-exchanging-gifts#post-698429 Mon, 08 Apr 2013 08:48:32 +0000 looch 698429@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DId you invite them to a party or something?</p> <p>My brother and I just exchange gifts between our son and his son, but usually at a party, if that makes sense. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cousins-exchanging-gifts#post-698415 Mon, 08 Apr 2013 08:42:06 +0000 LuLu Mom 698415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We exchange gifts in my family, although usually at a birthday party. I would probably buy the cousin a gift, just because we are very close with our nieces. Maybe just ask your brother in a laid back sort of way? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cousins-exchanging-gifts#post-698411 Mon, 08 Apr 2013 08:40:45 +0000 MamaBehr 698411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know what to do about this, and I would like advice. DS turned one at the end of February and DD turned 3 in the middle of March and we have yet to receive a gift from my brother and SIL. That's fine if they don't want to give them gifts, doesn't bother me, but their son, my nephew, has his birthday in a few weeks. Do I buy him a gift? Do I call and ask them if cousins are exchanging gifts? Do I not buy him a gift and assume that we aren't exchanging gifts?<br /> We have in the past and they remembered the birthdays because they called on DD's birthday (but I think it was mostly to tell us they were pregnant). </p>