https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 05 Apr 2026 11:02:31 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crazy-mom-needing-support#post-2887563 Tue, 11 Jun 2019 08:08:04 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2887563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sams Mom: I have been where you are, but since my husband had to start taking some time on his own, things are much better around here and I would never go back. 😂 Enjoy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crazy-mom-needing-support#post-2887545 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 20:32:33 +0000 Sams Mom 2887545@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@misolee: I like how you think. He will 100% be taken care of and spoiled. She texted me today asking that I chose activities off of her list that I think my son will enjoy the most. She inquired about out zoo membership and the reciprocity list for zoos around the country. She asked if I needed to add anything to her go to list of his favorite foods. </p> <p>Like if anyone is going to be there as backup care for my son of I can't be there she's at the top of my list. </p> <p>I honestly just don't know what to do with myself. 😂</p> <p>Thank you everyone, I for real feel so much better about this time to myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crazy-mom-needing-support#post-2887527 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 17:19:17 +0000 KT326 2887527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sams Mom: my only advice is to enjoy it! I don't think my DH has ever had the kids overnight by himself, but there have been a few instances where the kids will go visit my mom for the week (like spring break) and DH is gone travelling for work. It is glorious. I clean my house on one day and it actually stays clean the entire week. The mental break is amazing. I don't have to remember schedules, who needs cold lunch/hot lunch money. I don't have to listen to anyone complain about what is for dinner. Not having to rush out of the house for school drop off, daycare drop off or rush out of work to do pick up is a nice break. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crazy-mom-needing-support#post-2887525 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 16:55:12 +0000 Sams Mom 2887525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JJ2626: I think it's because when my parents have him or my sister even, I'm with my husband doing something fun, keeping my mind off of it. </p> <p>I haven't been alone in my house in something like 5 years? My husband works quite a bit, so it's my son and I a lot... </p> <p>I haven't been alone for a night in 5 years... Let alone 4 days... </p> <p>I think that's it.</p> <p>It's not that I'm clingy or super dependant... I just have limited child care options, don't have a lot of girl friends with much free time... So yeah. It's weird. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crazy-mom-needing-support#post-2887517 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 16:02:44 +0000 misolee 2887517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If My husband took the kids to another state for four days I would: </p> <p>-go eat wherever I wanted to<br /> -go get a pedicure or even better a massage<br /> -clean the house and enjoy a clean house without it being messed up two seconds later<br /> -oooh or even go watch a movie<br /> Possibilities are endless. :grin: </p> <p>I think they’ll be fine. My biggest worry when I go out of town and leave my kids is (once a year for work conference)<br /> -their food schedule. Husband can’t cook anything. But since grandma is there, you know he’s gonna get fed well </p> <p>My second biggest worry is that I’ll be coming to a crazy messy house that you have to clean up after a long work thing. But this doesn’t apply here so you got the best of both worlds! Enjoy it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crazy-mom-needing-support#post-2887507 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 15:16:52 +0000 JJ2626 2887507@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What makes you nervous about DH watching LO but not leaving LO with your sister/his grandparents? Either way, I say it will be great! I left LO with DH for 1 night at 4 months and then several more one night stays before she was 1 year old. Honestly, I trust DH more than I trust myself. He is amazing with her. I’m sure your DH will do great! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crazy-mom-needing-support#post-2887506 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 15:16:43 +0000 periwinklebee 2887506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>While I am normally the primary caregiver, DH has DS on his own when I have to travel for work. First time I think was around 9 months. Inevitably he gets sick or something when I'm gone (he's just been sick a ton first winter in daycare), but DH handles fine. He does miss me and apparently will say mama mama mama over and over, which is a little sad, but I think it's actually good for him to every now and then have a bit of diversity and learn that mama can be away for an evening and come back. I still bf him, so I'm sure that is part of missing mama. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crazy-mom-needing-support#post-2887504 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 15:09:25 +0000 BadgerMom 2887504@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You can do it! My husband started taking our son to visit his parents ahead of me joining when he was 2. I missed them but the alone time was sooooo recharging and they had a great time! Our son is 5 now, and is currently in FL with my parents away from both of us and he's having a blast!!! I think the independence these kind of trips foster is great for everyone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crazy-mom-needing-support#post-2887502 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 14:52:33 +0000 wrkbrk 2887502@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sams Mom: My wife took our son to visit her family for 7 days and 7 nights when he was 18 months old. I missed them but it was also glorious. Hahahha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crazy-mom-needing-support#post-2887482 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 13:47:30 +0000 Ajsmommy 2887482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm just like you!! I text my husband if he's home with them and I'm not there even if just for a few hours! :shocked: But I am the primary care giver, I feed them, I bathe them, I put them to bed.. me me me me :silly: </p> <p>Anyway, it took a long time before I was away from DD, I did one night away when she was 6 mos and I didn't love it. I still had to pump and I didn't sleep nearly as well as I had hoped I would! LOL </p> <p>I don't think I was away from her again until she was over 1 yr old and then it was for one night again.. </p> <p>She didn't actually sleep elsewhere until she was 4 yo. She spent the night with my in laws. I trust them, they were actually camping. So we were there until pretty late and then we left and she stayed. It was good bc when she got home she was able to talk about what they did and tell me all about it and that made it so much better!! She has since spent the night a handful of times with my in laws.... </p> <p>I pretty much think it's harder for you than it is for them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crazy-mom-needing-support#post-2887481 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 13:46:33 +0000 pachamama 2887481@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sams Mom: I also was nervous but it was AWESOME when my DH took my son away! He's done it like 5xs starting when he was 2yo. Looking back, I wish I had done it so much more. It's such good memories for your son, think of it like that. And they always do better than you think.<br /> It's also really good to have a break from your family to have some alone time for yourself!<br /> Now I have 2 kids and I would pay $239328399823 for someone (I really trust) to take them for the night and give me a break :-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crazy-mom-needing-support#post-2887478 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 13:31:11 +0000 irene 2887478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Awww.... the first time I was away was when DS was around 3 years old. Yes it was heartbreaking, I cried at the airport and didn't want to go, my son wouldn't let me go. But boy, once I got away and I was so thankful lol. Sometimes you forget what you are as an independent individual by yourself and it was very nice to have a trip to remind myself that. </p> <p>Then the coming back was priceless, I still remember I picked DS up from the daycare and he was so happy his mouth couldn't close and his eyes were filled with tears when he was smiling huge. That won him an oscar and forever engraved in my mind :happy: :heart: You will be fine and everyone will be fine! And you will be happy and everyone will have something to gain I promise! When I am to go now (he's 7), dude, he would hug and wave at me bye and that was that. No more mommy don't go don't go lol</p> <p>I would be so thankful if my DH would offer to take the LO away on a flight, not an easy task and he will only appreciate you that much more :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crazy-mom-needing-support#post-2887472 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 13:13:34 +0000 mediagirl 2887472@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm away from my LO's a lot because of work travel so my husband is used to solo parenting! But, he took our LO to Virginia when she was 4. They both did great - stayed with his sister's family. Here's the thing about going away with just Dad - you get some peace and quiet and you get the knowledge that Dad will be with him. If there is anyone who knows him as well as you do, it's dad. If it was Grandma or someone else, I'd worry more but away with Dad is awesome! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crazy-mom-needing-support#post-2887471 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 13:10:03 +0000 Bluebonnet 2887471@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sams Mom: DH and I have been away from our kids overnight multiple times starting when LOs were less than a year old. </p> <p>It sounds like DH is more than capable and LO will be well taken care of. I know it’s emotionally challenging, but think of it as an opportunity for DH to bond more with LO and for him to better understand and appreciate all you do on a daily basis. Also it’s a great opportunity for you to have some time to yourself (after work) to take care of yourself a little bit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crazy-mom-needing-support#post-2887460 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 12:25:01 +0000 Sams Mom 2887460@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you everyone. I know he's more than capable, it's just that I'm the primary parent due to my husband working nights and having court during the day on some days off. </p> <p>I know he can do this, I'm just so nervous. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crazy-mom-needing-support#post-2887456 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 12:07:51 +0000 bhbee 2887456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First time for a few days was at 2.5. We were in the process of moving cross country - I flew with oldest to my mom’s and she stayed there while I went on to new city. Then my mom flew with her to meet us in a couple days. It was definitely nerve wracking to me - mostly the driving and flying without me - but DD did fine! Hugs it’s hard. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crazy-mom-needing-support#post-2887446 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 11:36:48 +0000 SweetCaroline 2887446@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have been away from DD and DH approx. 1x per year for 4-5 days since she was 6 months old (she is 4). DH is a very equal coparent and more than capable. He and DD have a fantastic bond and I get excited for them to do special things when I am gone.</p> <p>Sure, I get nervous about some things but that is my personality and not his capabilities. If it were me, I'd tell DH that I am nervous and it would help to know he is committed to XYZ. For me, DH knows DD must wear her life jacket when fishing from shore and cannot have marshmellows. Silly things like his commitment to that help me calm down. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crazy-mom-needing-support#post-2887444 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 11:34:50 +0000 ALV91711 2887444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had been away from DS overnight a couple times while he stayed home with DH. The first time DH took him away alone was for one night at 5.5. Then he took him away for 4 nights this past Easter at 6. </p> <p>I’m happy that DH is now willing to take him away alone!! I was a little nervous about their 4 day trip but everything went good. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crazy-mom-needing-support#post-2887441 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 11:06:23 +0000 superkate 2887441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I travel a lot for work, so this is the norm for us. The first time I left them alone DS was seven months. I have a four month window where I'm pretty much gone eight of 12 weekends. </p> <p>It was hard at first but we all got used to it. DS is three now, and while my traveling is getting easier on DH (fewer wake ups, etc.) it's harder on DS because he realizes I'm gone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crazy-mom-needing-support#post-2887439 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 11:02:30 +0000 Raspberry 2887439@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS was 2.5 when I was away overnight for the first time - my best friend was getting married and it was for her bachelorette, so no choice. It didn’t happen again until he was 4 and I was delivering his sister. I was anxious about it both times.</p> <p>Now I wish it could happen all the time. LOL </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crazy-mom-needing-support#post-2887437 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 11:01:53 +0000 TemperanceBrennan 2887437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The first time I was gone overnight was for work (two nights, about 4 hours away) when my daughter was 8-ish months old. DH and I were very comfortable with leaving her alone overnight with each other, but we were both nervous leaving her along with her aunt for our first overnight trip away from her together (around 16 months). But it was fine and she loved it. Good luck! I know it's hard, but it will be fine! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crazy-mom-needing-support#post-2887434 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 10:48:07 +0000 Mrs. Toad 2887434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH was a SAHD from the time our first was born until our second was 7 months old. I was never gone overnight, but he is their parent and can handle them without me. </p> <p>There is a distinct possibility that he will have to handle a 5 yr old, a 2.5 yr old, and a 4 month old for 11 days without me in October. I'll have all three over the summer and he will only be around Saturday morning to Sunday afternoon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crazy-mom-needing-support#post-2887433 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 10:32:22 +0000 Becky 2887433@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like the younger the better because then they’re used to it. I’ve spent quite a bit of time away for both work and pleasure and it has gotten so much easier. At this point I just make sure they have toothbrushes and clothes, and that whomever is watching them knows their typical bedtime. If whomever is watching them does their hair before dropping them at school or wherever, that’s just a bonus. Usually if I’m leaving for work it’s my husband home with them, but they’ve both spent several nights in a row at grandparents houses and been completely fine (and they sleep better too because I’m not there to coddle them!). DD2 was only 5 months old when we went out of town for 3 nights in a row and our girls stayed with their grandparents. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crazy-mom-needing-support#post-2887432 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 10:26:54 +0000 brownepiano 2887432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Last year I went away over night and both boys stayed with DH (4 and 2). They we're fine. So this year I left for 4 nights. They had SO much fun with Daddy. It helps that he is regularly solo with them since I work in the evenings. I wish I had done it sooner! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crazy-mom-needing-support#post-2887431 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 10:06:05 +0000 hitchhiker 2887431@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My oldest was 3.5 when she went to my parent's house by herself (many states away). My mom came to pick her up, she was there for 5 days, and then I flew to pick her up. I'll be honest, it was a rough few days. She had a lot of fun, but also had a lot of feelings. But now she does it annually (this year will be her 4th year), and this year she wanted to do two weeks on her own with Gramma and Grandpa. That wasn't logistically feasible, but she's getting a week plus. However, last year she also did a solo trip with my husband's parents and it didn't go as well. She did not ask to repeat it this year! I think part of the problem is that my husband's step mom has incredible unrealistic expectations for the behavior of young children. </p> <p>Both kids have gone cross country with my husband without me to visit his parents. I find the time alone rejuvenating, and am so excited to see them when they get back! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crazy-mom-needing-support#post-2887430 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 10:05:05 +0000 Shantuck 2887430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband has brought our son to visit his parents several times for long weekends when I couldn't swing the extra days off. I think they started around age 3 and it has become an annual thing (my son is now 6). It was lovely to have a break, my son and husband had some great bonding time, and the grandparents loved it. It was seriously a win for everyone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crazy-mom-needing-support#post-2887429 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 10:04:02 +0000 Sams Mom 2887429@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@graceandjoy: exactly! He never worries when it's just me and our son because that's status quo. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crazy-mom-needing-support#post-2887428 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 09:57:10 +0000 graceandjoy 2887428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sams Mom: I totally understand your freaking out haha. I still text my husband if I'm out on the weekends and he has the girls for only a few hours. I'm like are you okay?? Meanwhile he would never text me even if I had the girls for a full day lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crazy-mom-needing-support#post-2887427 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 09:56:56 +0000 kayla0416 2887427@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sams Mom: My daughter was just under a year when I first left her overnight. I was halfway across the country on a work trip for 3 nights. It ended up being AWFUL because she had an ear infection that wasn't getting better with antibiotics, so she had to get Rocephin shots. She was miserable and screaming the whole time I was gone and I felt so guilty. But don't let my bad story stop you! I've been gone a few times since then (she is now 3), and she's been just fine. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crazy-mom-needing-support#post-2887423 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 09:49:34 +0000 Sams Mom 2887423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@graceandjoy: @cyoung: my parents and my sisters have kept him overnight while my husband and I were at an event or on one long weekend. BUT my husband has never had him without me. I know he's my husband and Sam's dad, and he's more than capable...</p> <p>And o my goodness, great grandma loves and spoils him so much. </p>