https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 03 Jun 2026 14:04:19 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crib-matress-from-a-smoker-how-to-politely-decline#post-68159 Mon, 06 Feb 2012 13:51:47 +0000 sulli301 68159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with what has already been said above. I think I would say something like "Oh thank you so much but my _____ already offered to buy us that" or if she is really pushing it say "My _____ told me she/he already bought us that, but thanks for thinking of us" or something along those lines. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crib-matress-from-a-smoker-how-to-politely-decline#post-68135 Mon, 06 Feb 2012 13:31:09 +0000 tequiero21 68135@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i'm with the ladies above. you don't have to mention why you don't want it. just say you want it new or someone's already getting it for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crib-matress-from-a-smoker-how-to-politely-decline#post-67857 Mon, 06 Feb 2012 10:19:07 +0000 heffalump 67857@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My grandma really wanted to buy my crib and crib mattress. So if I were you I would just lie and say that a family member already bought it for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crib-matress-from-a-smoker-how-to-politely-decline#post-67790 Mon, 06 Feb 2012 07:20:02 +0000 mediagirl 67790@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just say thank you and I probably would tell her that the mattress is one of the few items you want to buy new for your lo. That way, you don't have to bring up the smoking issue at all,but you're being greatful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crib-matress-from-a-smoker-how-to-politely-decline#post-67789 Mon, 06 Feb 2012 07:19:50 +0000 Rubies 67789@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, you have every right to decline if you feel very strongly about items coming from a smoker. But as a former-smoker, who never smoked inside the home, I can say that all of my items were tip-top condition. But, honestly, a crib mattress is something I would want to buy brand new. I think it's a significant enough of a purchase to easily decline as second-hand. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/crib-matress-from-a-smoker-how-to-politely-decline#post-67788 Mon, 06 Feb 2012 07:14:49 +0000 SugarplumsMom 67788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A friend from my old language school called and offered me her used crib mattress. She said she only used it for 2-months and it's in pretty good condition. Offering was really nice of her, but I'm a little hesitant taking it because 1) she smokes 2) I've seen her car and it really smells in there! Her baby's now a toddler and maybe that's just how it is for parents, but I feel uneasy. </p> <p>I know I sound like a snootballl right now and I should only be grateful, but I'm not comfortable using anything used that can't be easily thrown in the wash. She doesn't smoke in her apartment but I'm very sensitive to it anyway. I've also haven't visited her place yet, so maybe it was just her car.</p> <p>Am I being ungrateful? I don't want to offend her so I explained that we don't know what crib we have yet. But at the same time, I don't want to end up with a mattress I won't use. </p> <p>((In the span of writing this, I've decided to not accept it and have changed the title!))</p> <p>How would you handle this situation? Would you just politely decline? How do I do that without offending? </p>