Hellobee Boards Topic: Cry It Out for 5 min as early as 4 weeks? Moms On Call

Hellobee Boards Topic: Cry It Out for 5 min as early as 4 weeks? Moms On Call https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 11 May 2026 23:44:21 +0000 Bookish on "Cry It Out for 5 min as early as 4 weeks? Moms On Call" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cry-it-out-for-5-min-as-early-as-4-weeks-moms-on-call#post-393651 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 16:16:38 +0000 Bookish 393651@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I think 4 weeks seems a bit young, but my SIL used Babywise with my niece and nephew and it worked for her... she started at 6-8 weeks. They aren't scarred for life :) I'm on the fence over how I will sleep-train my LO. sarac on "Cry It Out for 5 min as early as 4 weeks? Moms On Call" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cry-it-out-for-5-min-as-early-as-4-weeks-moms-on-call#post-393627 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 16:04:46 +0000 sarac 393627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Lozza: This is crucial, the distinction between crying and fussing. I would never ignore an actual cry from my child, but fussing is far different. I felt confident differentiating between these two very early, but that's a comfort issue. hilsy85 on "Cry It Out for 5 min as early as 4 weeks? Moms On Call" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cry-it-out-for-5-min-as-early-as-4-weeks-moms-on-call#post-393623 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 16:00:49 +0000 hilsy85 393623@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I don't think I could listen to my baby full on cry for more than 1 minute at this point (he's 3.5 weeks), and the only time that happens is when I'm in the bathroom and he's in his crib or bassinet. If he's just fussing or grunting, i'll let him go for a few minutes. 4 weeks is just way too young for CIO though--the only thing that teaches them is that when they're sad/scared/hungry, their needs get ignored. Lozza on "Cry It Out for 5 min as early as 4 weeks? Moms On Call" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cry-it-out-for-5-min-as-early-as-4-weeks-moms-on-call#post-393615 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 15:58:56 +0000 Lozza 393615@https://boards.hellobee.com/ With LO, I went in and picked him up more or less every time he fussed until he was 7 month old, and then, while we didn't do a strict CIO, we started waiting longer periods to see if LO was going to self-soothe and get back to sleep (which happened just fine most of the time within a few minutes) or whether he was actually freaking out and needing attention from us. I think with LO #2, I'll have a better idea of the distinction between "crying" and "fussing." I didn't really get a handle on that for LO till he was older. And while I honestly can't remember what was going on at 4 weeks old, and imagine that I probably wouldn't do anything differently at that age for LO#2, I do think that I would start a lot earlier with the "wait a few moments and see if LO is calming down or getting more worked up," because I think there were a lot of times when LO would have done fine if left alone, but I swooped in the minute he uttered a peep and picked him up. But yeah, I don't think that was at 4 weeks- more like 4 months. CupQuakeWalk on "Cry It Out for 5 min as early as 4 weeks? Moms On Call" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cry-it-out-for-5-min-as-early-as-4-weeks-moms-on-call#post-393605 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 15:54:42 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 393605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I agree that you shouldn't pick then up immediately but I'm think CIO that young is too young. I run to my baby when he cries (he's 4w exactly) and I talk to him, rub his belly, give him his paci...this all takes less than 1 minute. If it doesn't work I pick him up....3-4mins is a long time to hear that newborn scream:/ sarac on "Cry It Out for 5 min as early as 4 weeks? Moms On Call" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cry-it-out-for-5-min-as-early-as-4-weeks-moms-on-call#post-393588 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 15:48:03 +0000 sarac 393588@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I am very opposed to crying it out in general. I think doing it at four weeks is just tragic. I would differentiate between crying and fussing, though. From the start, I didn't respond to every tiny fuss that my baby made. If she was just grinching a little, I'd let it go, and she'd often just cool it and go back to sleep or whatever. At 14 months, she'll still wake up at times and say MAMA!, and then go right back to sleep. If she cries in the night, we always wait 30 seconds to make sure she's really up and not already fallen back to sleep. yoursilverlining on "Cry It Out for 5 min as early as 4 weeks? Moms On Call" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cry-it-out-for-5-min-as-early-as-4-weeks-moms-on-call#post-393367 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 13:51:10 +0000 yoursilverlining 393367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ That seems awfully young to me, but I think it also depends on the cry. If its a real "I need something" cry - I wouldn't let a 4 week old go for 5 minutes crying. If its just a "meh, I'd rather be held by you than put down where it isn't so warm and cozy" cry; then I might let them fuss for a few minutes at that age. mrskc on "Cry It Out for 5 min as early as 4 weeks? Moms On Call" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cry-it-out-for-5-min-as-early-as-4-weeks-moms-on-call#post-393359 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 13:48:48 +0000 mrskc 393359@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have a 4 week old and couldn't imagine letting him cry for 3-5 minutes. I hate to hear him cry for a second. At that age they are crying b/c they need something and tending to their needs quickly makes them feel secure. loveisstrange on "Cry It Out for 5 min as early as 4 weeks? Moms On Call" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cry-it-out-for-5-min-as-early-as-4-weeks-moms-on-call#post-393352 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 13:47:12 +0000 loveisstrange 393352@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Maysprout: I agree. 3-5 minutes of fussing or light crying is what you would do with a baby that young. You wouldn't let them hysterically cry or anything. Maysprout on "Cry It Out for 5 min as early as 4 weeks? Moms On Call" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cry-it-out-for-5-min-as-early-as-4-weeks-moms-on-call#post-393347 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 13:45:42 +0000 Maysprout 393347@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I never did CIO with LO. But I did let her fuss for a bit and give her calm reassurance when I wanted her to get used to something and it usually worked pretty well. I think 3 minute fussing or crying is different than CIO. loveisstrange on "Cry It Out for 5 min as early as 4 weeks? Moms On Call" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cry-it-out-for-5-min-as-early-as-4-weeks-moms-on-call#post-393338 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 13:42:50 +0000 loveisstrange 393338@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Babywise is mostly controversial because of the idea of feeding a newborn on a strict schedule. I do think 4 weeks is young but I've read about plenty of people who did it with success. <a href="http://www.babywisemom.com/2007/11/should-you-do-cio.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.babywisemom.com/2007/11/should-you-do-cio.html</a> Mrs. Jacks on "Cry It Out for 5 min as early as 4 weeks? Moms On Call" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cry-it-out-for-5-min-as-early-as-4-weeks-moms-on-call#post-393335 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 13:40:59 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 393335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ A 4 week old baby is telling you they need something when they cry! Arden on "Cry It Out for 5 min as early as 4 weeks? Moms On Call" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cry-it-out-for-5-min-as-early-as-4-weeks-moms-on-call#post-393332 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 13:40:35 +0000 Arden 393332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ That seems way way way too early. Mrsbells on "Cry It Out for 5 min as early as 4 weeks? Moms On Call" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cry-it-out-for-5-min-as-early-as-4-weeks-moms-on-call#post-393329 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 13:39:18 +0000 Mrsbells 393329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm not an expert, but 4 weeks is way too early to let a baby cry it out daniellemybelle on "Cry It Out for 5 min as early as 4 weeks? Moms On Call" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cry-it-out-for-5-min-as-early-as-4-weeks-moms-on-call#post-393326 Mon, 12 Nov 2012 13:38:29 +0000 daniellemybelle 393326@https://boards.hellobee.com/ (Typical disclaimer that I am baby obsessed and thus research these things even though I am not pregnant or even TTC. Thanks for humoring me.) I've heard a lot of good things about Moms On Call on the Internets, so I decided to putz around online and learn more about it, out of curiosity. It was especially interesting to me that they seem to promote CIO (cry it out) from basically the very beginning. Even CIO proponents like Ferber usually say to wait until your baby is 3-4 months old, hitting certain developmental milestones, etc. before you let them cry. From what I could gather (I haven't read their book or done their online seminars) they say that starting at 4 weeks, you should put your LO down sleepy but awake and let them cry for 3-5 minutes. Then, soothe them but don't pick them up. I am all about putting our babies on schedules when we have them, and even though some aspects of attachment parenting appeal to me, I'm not opposed to CIO. Still, this seems very young, and reminds me of Babywise, which is very controversial. What do you all think? Any of you do this?