https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 19 Apr 2026 01:04:52 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cry-it-out-not-getting-better#post-807304 Fri, 24 May 2013 11:54:40 +0000 edelweiss 807304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i totally understand how you feel--i went through this when we sleep trained our LO (at 11 weeks). i heard so many stories of babies not crying by the third or fourth night, so i really felt like a failure and wondered whether i was doing the right thing.</p> <p>because of my baby's nature and probably his age at the time, sleep training was not a one-week process for us. and even now, about a month later, i'm not totally sure what i'm going to get when i put him down for the night. </p> <p>however, overall, things did get so much better, even though it was a much slower improvement than the wildly successful stories i had heard about. don't lose hope.</p> <p>also, for what it's worth, we didn't night wean at the same time either. i did what you did--after a few hours, if he cried, i went and fed him. it was more the falling asleep part that i wanted him to do on his own. a few weeks later, he night weaned mostly on his own (he dropped to one session on his own, and then for the other i limited the amount of time that he nursed until he dropped it). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cry-it-out-not-getting-better#post-807190 Fri, 24 May 2013 11:02:42 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 807190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I bet tonight will be better! Good luck : ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cry-it-out-not-getting-better#post-807013 Fri, 24 May 2013 10:15:59 +0000 LulaBee 807013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: I hadn't really thought about night weaning that way, makes sense. I was reading a baby sleep site that just said if you night wean at the same time they might cry more so I didn't want to do that. And honestly, she's not eating much when I go in there to nurse her- maybe she's ready to night wean. I will give that some thought tonight. I wanted to wait to sleep train and night wean period, but I was just. so. tired. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cry-it-out-not-getting-better#post-806991 Fri, 24 May 2013 10:09:17 +0000 T.H.O.U. 806991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LulaBee: Honestly, there is no way I could do CIO without also night weaning. I think its too confusing for a baby to understand that if its been more than four hours then she gets picked up and comforted and nursed. But if its been less then 4 hours, she has to figure it out herself. I understand why you probably want/need to sleep train but personally, I couldn't do that to my child. </p> <p>We waited until we night weaned after a year old. We would go in, tell her it was night night time and she needed to lay down. If she didn't lay down, we would leave the room for a few minutes. If she did lay down then we would stay with her and rub her back. We didn't pick her up because then she would just want to nurse. She learned really quickly that if she wanted us to stay, she needed to lay down and go back to sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cry-it-out-not-getting-better#post-806982 Fri, 24 May 2013 10:04:12 +0000 hilsy85 806982@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it is common fr there to e a regression around nights 3/4...I would see how tonight goes and re evaluate! Good luck!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cry-it-out-not-getting-better#post-806825 Fri, 24 May 2013 09:20:36 +0000 Weagle 806825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Eek! Sorry :(. We haven't really had to deal with the going to sleep part too much. For the most part, LO goes to sleep drinking her bottle and doesn't wake up when we put her down. There was a phase where that didn't happen though. We worked on her naps and night wake ups, and then the going to bed got significantly better. I wouldn't feed her until at least 4. If she woke before then, we gave her 10 mi uses to figure it out. If that didn't work, DH would go in to sooth her. I would go in only if things were still crazy after 10 minutes with DH. In less than a week all night wake ups were gone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cry-it-out-not-getting-better#post-806754 Fri, 24 May 2013 09:04:01 +0000 LulaBee 806754@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We started CIO (extenction method) with my 9.5 month old 4 nights ago. Night #1, she cried for 47 minutes, night #2 she cried for 12 minutes, night #3 she cried for 28 minutes, and night #4 she cried for 28 minutes.</p> <p>Can someone please tell me that tonight will be better?? I hate that it's not decreasing as the nights go on, I feel so bad for her. We won't go in to comfort her, she just gets more upset. Oh, and I'm not night weaning at the same time- if it's been 4 hours or more when she wakes up I will go in and feed her, but we will let her cry if it's been less. </p> <p>Overall, her sleep (and ours) is much better already (she was getting up every hour at night and had to be nursed back to sleep) but I am ready for the inital bedtime to be less stressful on all. </p>