https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 12 May 2026 15:28:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cue-the-mom-guilt#post-2671164 Wed, 28 Dec 2016 20:24:08 +0000 snowjewelz 2671164@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FaithFertility: it varies daily for me too... Right now it has to do with when K2 needs to nurse. Today it worked out pretty well that I was able to be with K1 half way through dinner till bed time! </p> <p>@Adira: I know in the long run its all worth it! It's def so much harder one me than her! At least she gets upset but is usually over it. Tonight she was like bye mommy! Goodnight and I wanted to cry haha! </p> <p>@caterw: I think it will be better once my newborn stops sleeping all the time! DD1 is very interested/helpful but there is not much interaction when the baby just sleeps all day! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cue-the-mom-guilt#post-2671080 Wed, 28 Dec 2016 16:42:54 +0000 caterw 2671080@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: This is extremely hard for me too! I have been home with DD1 for most of her life and she definitely has a strong Mommy preference. I just try to make sure she bonds with DH and I let rules slide a little (extra screen time and treats/ little toys for the win). I want her to have a nice day every day even if we aren't out and about/ she doesn't have my full attention. </p> <p>I feel bad but at the same time DD1 loooooooves her little sister and I know it will be special for her to have a relationship with a sibling even if it's hard on everyone right now. DD2 is almost 2 months old and she obviously adores her big sister as well. Watching them smile at each other helps me realize it's all worth it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cue-the-mom-guilt#post-2670894 Wed, 28 Dec 2016 12:52:28 +0000 catomd00 2670894@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It gets better,<br /> Promise! I felt the same way and now 7 months in, I feel like we get a good amount of time just the two of us and I don't feel completely stretched thin because of it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cue-the-mom-guilt#post-2670849 Wed, 28 Dec 2016 10:00:42 +0000 wheres_c 2670849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Empathizing over here! I miss my 1x1 time with my DS1. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cue-the-mom-guilt#post-2670827 Wed, 28 Dec 2016 08:08:39 +0000 FaithFertility 2670827@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: :heart: 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cue-the-mom-guilt#post-2670826 Wed, 28 Dec 2016 08:07:47 +0000 Adira 2670826@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FaithFertility: For us, it started as early as when Logan was able to sit up and roll a ball back and forth with Xander, but it's really taken off in the last 6 months or so! Now it's all "Logan, here, you can have this!" and "I'll play with you, Logan!" and the two of them just being in Xander's room playing trains together. Love love love! &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cue-the-mom-guilt#post-2670825 Wed, 28 Dec 2016 08:03:23 +0000 FaithFertility 2670825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I can't wait for this! G wants AJ to play so bad!!!!! Gives him all her toys too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cue-the-mom-guilt#post-2670822 Wed, 28 Dec 2016 08:02:04 +0000 Adira 2670822@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hang in there! It definitely is hard in the beginning, but I promise it gets better! And when DD2 is old enough that they can really play together, you'll know it was all worth it! &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cue-the-mom-guilt#post-2670813 Wed, 28 Dec 2016 07:36:48 +0000 FaithFertility 2670813@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's so hard the beginning was the hardest but I felt like after that early stage they can sit in a bouncer and kind of hang out and be around us as we kind of carry on our normal routine my mom guilt goes back and forth between the two kids daily some days I feel like I don't give G enough attention some days I feel like I don't give AJ enough attention<br /> Somehow just around a month AJ started to want to go to bed early that helps so much it gives me an extra hour just completely focused on G </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cue-the-mom-guilt#post-2670799 Wed, 28 Dec 2016 05:00:30 +0000 snowjewelz 2670799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Sunshine: I probably am! And I'm sure currently post partum hormones are raging! </p> <p>@Miss Ariel: now that I think about it, it's true too... K1 was held all the time and k2 not so much!</p> <p>@My Only Sunshine: @Bubbles: thank you :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cue-the-mom-guilt#post-2670796 Wed, 28 Dec 2016 04:29:45 +0000 Bubbles 2670796@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hang in there 💗 I struggled with this so much, I missed DS1 terribly and felt so sad I couldn't do as much with him. But you all will adjust to your new normal and before you know it it will feel like DD2 was always there 😊 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cue-the-mom-guilt#post-2670795 Wed, 28 Dec 2016 04:22:13 +0000 My Only Sunshine 2670795@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: It gets better! My baby is 7 months and it's so much easier now. I would say 5-6 months it got noticeably easier logistically. Once the baby started to do things like sit up, play with toys, sit at the high chair during meals it was easier to see how he fits into our new family dynamic instead of feeling so torn between them. It's still hard sometimes but I don't have that same crushing mom guilt. And seeing them interact and laugh together is the best! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cue-the-mom-guilt#post-2670792 Wed, 28 Dec 2016 02:05:26 +0000 Greentea 2670792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Try to see it from the perspective that it is actually good for her! Having to wait, learning other people (baby) need help, these things are good for her character. Try to read to her or something special everyday, just you two. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cue-the-mom-guilt#post-2670770 Tue, 27 Dec 2016 22:44:47 +0000 Boogs 2670770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's hard, but it gets better. I try to have special time during naps and my oldest really loves it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cue-the-mom-guilt#post-2670766 Tue, 27 Dec 2016 22:35:11 +0000 Miss Ariel 2670766@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: I feel mom guilt for the opposite reason, in that when K is home the only time I spend with J is when I'm nursing. It was fine when K was in daycare, but the past two weeks she's been on winter break, so she's home. Thankfully Dh is on winter break too, but he's spending way more time with baby cuddles than me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cue-the-mom-guilt#post-2670763 Tue, 27 Dec 2016 22:30:33 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2670763@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel you. It gets better. I cried all the time about the life I felt I wasn't giving both of my girls for probably the first 9 months. The guilt is intense and it's hard to work your way through when your kids so obviously need you so so much. Hugs mama. It not only gets better but you're doing a great job. You have a great bond with your DD and your relationship will come through without a scratch. She likely won't remember any of it at all and you're likely projecting more feelings on to her than she may actually be having. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cue-the-mom-guilt#post-2670758 Tue, 27 Dec 2016 22:17:21 +0000 snowjewelz 2670758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gentlelunette: rationally I know it's fine... It def hits me way harder than it does for her! Mostly it's not too bad; she only gets upset when she wants me to do something and I can't bc baby is attached to my boob. Usually I'm out of the house to work before she goes to daycare, now she sees me at home and sometimes gets upset; same with bled time when I'm not the one going up with her. Then I think about how DH/grandparents will take her out and I will miss all the fun with her!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cue-the-mom-guilt#post-2670753 Tue, 27 Dec 2016 21:49:30 +0000 gentlelunette 2670753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:sad: I have a feeling I'll be feeling the same in a few weeks. I'm due in 7 weeks, and I'm already mourning the loss of some of my quality time with DD1. I'm trying to use every last second of our Christmas holiday to give her as much mommy time as she wants.</p> <p>Hang in there. I'm sure it will get easier in time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/cue-the-mom-guilt#post-2670751 Tue, 27 Dec 2016 21:47:12 +0000 snowjewelz 2670751@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just had DD2 and the mom guilt about DD1 is strong :crying: There is really no point to this but to vent! </p> <p>She has always been mommy's girl and ever since I got pregnant I made sure she spends lots of quality time with DH and forced them to do things without me, etc. But I find myself just missing my big girl so much... I miss not being able to do everything with her. I think for a 2 year old she is doing fabulous.. But none the less it is still a big transition for her! </p> <p>I already do everything with her as long as I'm not BF-ing baby, but when I'm nursing every 2 hrs and it takes like 45 min... I really don't have much time off! </p>