https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 11 May 2026 04:21:58 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/d-you-treat-others-how-you-want-to-be-treated-or-how-they-treat-you#post-61976 Sat, 28 Jan 2012 20:54:37 +0000 tequiero21 61976@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i try to treat people as i want to be treated. if they wrong me though, it depends on how badly. if it's so bad that their friendship is not worth it, i'd probably just stop talking to them lol. but i don't have those kinda people in my life right now so... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/d-you-treat-others-how-you-want-to-be-treated-or-how-they-treat-you#post-61863 Sat, 28 Jan 2012 16:54:31 +0000 sulli301 61863@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I treat others how I want to be treated, even when maybe sometimes I shouldn't. I always think things like, "Well maybe they did that to me because..." or "Maybe she is having a really bad day..." etc. It isn't easy but I do think it's right. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/d-you-treat-others-how-you-want-to-be-treated-or-how-they-treat-you#post-61537 Fri, 27 Jan 2012 18:57:56 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 61537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ditto to what @chopsuey119 said. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/d-you-treat-others-how-you-want-to-be-treated-or-how-they-treat-you#post-61519 Fri, 27 Jan 2012 18:31:44 +0000 Rubies 61519@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sometimes I wish I could just say exactly how I feel about them... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/d-you-treat-others-how-you-want-to-be-treated-or-how-they-treat-you#post-61495 Fri, 27 Jan 2012 17:51:39 +0000 Red 61495@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll treat everyone nice but if they don't reciprocate, I don't waste my time with them. Life's too short, I'll hang out with people I appreciate and who appreciate me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/d-you-treat-others-how-you-want-to-be-treated-or-how-they-treat-you#post-61436 Fri, 27 Jan 2012 16:39:55 +0000 HabesBabe 61436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You guys are so nice! I'm a vengeful and petty person (haha, it's true), so I treat people based on how they treat me-- even though I know it's wrong. I figure that if someone doesn't think I'm worthy of their respect or courtesy, I'm not going to extend mine to them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/d-you-treat-others-how-you-want-to-be-treated-or-how-they-treat-you#post-61328 Fri, 27 Jan 2012 14:06:40 +0000 FancyGem 61328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was thinking about that a few days ago, but I decided not to treat people how they treat me. I will try to live by example and let God deal with them. Who knows, my positive energy may rub off on them. If I notice that people in my life are toxic, then I distance myself, yet I remain kind. It has been hard to deal with, but I am working on it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/d-you-treat-others-how-you-want-to-be-treated-or-how-they-treat-you#post-61321 Fri, 27 Jan 2012 13:58:34 +0000 cyndistar3 61321@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always try to treat others how I would want to be treated even though it is really hard sometimes. I had so many pronlems with one of my bridesmaids when I was planning my wedding as she blew me off the entire time and ended up going to get her dress last minute by herself... Now she is engaged and I am basically planning her wedding. Now that she knows what goes into weddings and how much she didnt help she feels really bad for not being involved in mine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/d-you-treat-others-how-you-want-to-be-treated-or-how-they-treat-you#post-61223 Fri, 27 Jan 2012 11:28:42 +0000 Rescuemom10 61223@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ARTBEE I am with you too. Thats exactly how I am. Your wedding experience reminds me some what of mine.<br /> I am a huge people pleaser and I def let things go! I find it easier to do things for others before myself. Even though that does seem to "burn" me a lot of times.<br /> My Grandfather always said that even when people are mean or not nice to you that you should "Kill them with Kindness" always gets more results than being mean or holding grudges! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/d-you-treat-others-how-you-want-to-be-treated-or-how-they-treat-you#post-61218 Fri, 27 Jan 2012 11:21:31 +0000 chopsuey 61218@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I treat others the way I want to be treated. When they treat me badly, I still treat them the way I want to be treated. It isn't easy though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/d-you-treat-others-how-you-want-to-be-treated-or-how-they-treat-you#post-61144 Fri, 27 Jan 2012 09:57:46 +0000 Modern Daisy 61144@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My way of dealing with the situation would be to not offer any help or support until she asks for it. That way she will learn what it's like to need your friends during such an important life event and be ignored. But once she approached me about something I would be there for her - although I wouldn't ever go out of my way to help by making suggestions or tagging along on appointments, I'd just be there to listen to her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/d-you-treat-others-how-you-want-to-be-treated-or-how-they-treat-you#post-61118 Fri, 27 Jan 2012 09:36:03 +0000 BananaPancakes 61118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm in the "two wrongs don't make a right" group.</p> <p>I try my best to treat everyone how I want to be treated by them. If I don't get along with someone, I treat them with respect, but don't act friendly. I'd ask the same of them. If I give a ton of support to a friend, I'd like to receive it back when I need it. </p> <p>That said, it's not a perfect world and people will behave the way they want to behave. I can only control my actions and try to be the bigger person. I have found this is the absolute best way to prevent drama, which I can't stand and to maintain friendships. I do feel that I am not an emotionally-driven person, though, so it's easier for me to let things go and rationalize other's actions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/d-you-treat-others-how-you-want-to-be-treated-or-how-they-treat-you#post-61080 Fri, 27 Jan 2012 08:24:32 +0000 Rubies 61080@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: Yeah, that's what I mean, too. I had friends who I had invested so much of my time and energy into and they didn't care so I stopped caring, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/d-you-treat-others-how-you-want-to-be-treated-or-how-they-treat-you#post-61079 Fri, 27 Jan 2012 08:22:47 +0000 Andrea 61079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: ditto! well, i don't think i treat anyone badly but if they for example ignored me then i will ignore them, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/d-you-treat-others-how-you-want-to-be-treated-or-how-they-treat-you#post-61078 Fri, 27 Jan 2012 08:19:04 +0000 Rubies 61078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I first treat others how I want to be treated but if they treat me badly then I reciprocate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/d-you-treat-others-how-you-want-to-be-treated-or-how-they-treat-you#post-61077 Fri, 27 Jan 2012 08:16:08 +0000 heffalump 61077@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilteacherbee: sounds like keeping your distance is a good solution for you!</p> <p>I also have a friend who always thought it was ok to tell me how to live my life because I would never speak up and tell him its not ok. And then I became a mother. Well of course I'm going to speak up if someone (especially someone with no kids) tells me how to parent my child! We rarely talk anymore either .... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/d-you-treat-others-how-you-want-to-be-treated-or-how-they-treat-you#post-60988 Thu, 26 Jan 2012 22:02:07 +0000 lilteacherbee 60988@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been in the same situation. When I got engaged, my friends weren't supportive either, but they were supportive to the other girls they were bridesmaids for last summer. It made me so mad...and sad. Now those same girls are continually telling me not to have kids yet....but when others have babies its all sunshine and unicorns because "its a different situation." Ugh. </p> <p>It hurts because these all girls have been my friends since we were little and 2 of them were college roommates. I've found that I have had to distance myself because otherwise I just get hurt. I think since I'm usually easy going and quiet, people assume its okay to tell me how to live my life.</p> <p>So I've treated them how I wanted to be treated for so long and it never helped, so now I'm just ignoring them for my own sanity! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/d-you-treat-others-how-you-want-to-be-treated-or-how-they-treat-you#post-60981 Thu, 26 Jan 2012 21:37:42 +0000 heffalump 60981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I got engaged, planned my wedding, and got married my friends were not very supportive. It really upset me because I have been friends since preschool and I was the first to be married .... so shouldn't they be excited for me? I don't know if it was because they've never been married so they just didn't get how important it is, or they weren't in a good place in their own lives so they had trouble being happy for someone else, or both. Either way, I was very hurt.</p> <p>One of those friends just got engaged. I can't help but be excited for her, and I'm a strong believer in two wrongs don't make a right. I'm going to make an extra effort to show her how happy I am for her and help with whatever she needs. My mom is the opposite, she holds grudges. I'm constantly telling her my favorite saying, two wrongs don't make a right, but she just doesn't go for it. I also think I'll get good karma if I'm nice to people. </p> <p>Do you hold grudges, or are you able to let things go? </p>