https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 09 Jul 2026 23:06:33 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/damn-tired-of-it#post-1453007 Thu, 27 Feb 2014 06:11:40 +0000 imbali 1453007@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my parents tell me and DH the same thing about our 3.5month old - it kills me! as if we don't already worry enough that we're doing a good job. ugh. hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/damn-tired-of-it#post-1452984 Thu, 27 Feb 2014 04:50:43 +0000 illumina 1452984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think moving on to a different activity is a bad thing--if I'm playing with LO or my hands are free and she's fussing, I'll redirect her quickly. The only exception is if I'm cooking or eating or something, then I'll let her fuss in her high chair for a few minutes because I'm busy and I want her to get used to learning she won't always get attention right away. She's 5mths also. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/damn-tired-of-it#post-1452973 Thu, 27 Feb 2014 03:24:31 +0000 Cherrybee 1452973@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Whaaaat??? So what are you supposed to do - let her lie there crying?? My baby rules me and that's exactly how I want it to be! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/damn-tired-of-it#post-1452961 Thu, 27 Feb 2014 02:10:17 +0000 immabeetoo 1452961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's bananas! Fortunately I haven't heard any of that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/damn-tired-of-it#post-1452940 Thu, 27 Feb 2014 01:23:54 +0000 Purpledaisy 1452940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hate that! I really don't feel like you can spoil a baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/damn-tired-of-it#post-1452881 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 23:48:36 +0000 googly-eyes 1452881@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We used to say lo was spoiled in a joking way, hopefully some or all of the comments you've received have meant it at least sort of jokingly....</p> <p>While I actually DO believe in putting babies down I don't believe in not responding to their cries! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/damn-tired-of-it#post-1452877 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 23:44:43 +0000 Ginabean3 1452877@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way! You are being a great mama! Babies are meant to be cuddled and held and soothed...you can't spoil them! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/damn-tired-of-it#post-1452850 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 23:22:32 +0000 MamaMagpie 1452850@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way, mama, you are not spoiling her! My grandma has made a few comments about me "giving in" to my 5.5 month old son -- I just ignore it! I think I'd be frustrated, though, if DH was saying stuff like that. There is a difference between not allowing your baby to learn how to self-soothe and "spoiling", and it sounds like you're giving her the opportunity to do that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/damn-tired-of-it#post-1452833 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 23:11:43 +0000 NurseMommy 1452833@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I completely agree with @erinpye: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/damn-tired-of-it#post-1452812 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 22:53:22 +0000 mrs.shinerbock 1452812@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Sunshine: agreed! LO is 3.5 months old and my mom has made several comments about spoiling her and how we never put her down. (Which is only true at her house -for some reason, DH never puts her down when we are at my parent's house. ) But still! At that age you can't spoil a baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/damn-tired-of-it#post-1452777 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 22:29:22 +0000 erinpye 1452777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Greentea: agree!</p> <p>You're being an attentive parent and fostering a secure attachment- all good things. Generations before us were given misinformation and told to put their babies down, to help them become independent. We now know that the opposite is true, and being securely attached as infants actually creates more independent kids and adults. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/damn-tired-of-it#post-1452764 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 22:23:35 +0000 Dagny 1452764@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agree that that's ridiculous! Don't feel bad about responding to your LO, mama. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/damn-tired-of-it#post-1452724 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 22:09:16 +0000 Ree723 1452724@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Greentea: Agree! Babies that age are not manipulative and thrive on the comfort and security of having someone respond to their needs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/damn-tired-of-it#post-1452719 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 22:06:56 +0000 Greentea 1452719@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If that is "spoiling" then I take it as a compliment and hope every baby is "spoiled." :) every baby deserves that and I think you are being a good mom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/damn-tired-of-it#post-1452708 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 22:01:52 +0000 Mamasig 1452708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't believe babies that age can be spoiled! Crying is their only form of communication. You're just responding to her needs. I know it's hard but try to ignore them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/damn-tired-of-it#post-1452651 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 21:42:59 +0000 Grace 1452651@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha! Well, if your LO is spoiled by that, then so is mine! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/damn-tired-of-it#post-1452620 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 21:32:23 +0000 jetsa 1452620@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh no, she's not spoiled. My sons the same age what else are you supposed to do? My mom makes similar comments. It drives me batty! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/damn-tired-of-it#post-1452582 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 21:22:02 +0000 Raindrop 1452582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>*hugs* I once read somewhere it's impossible to spoil a baby... now toddlers are a different story. :D</p> <p>Don't let it get to you! Everyone is different.</p> <p>You are doing what's right for you and your baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/damn-tired-of-it#post-1452527 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 21:04:09 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 1452527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If one more freaking person (including DH) tells me DD is spoiled I'm going to lose it. She's 5.5 months old! When she cries, I go to her. When she "complains" I talk with her, if it persists, I move her to a different play area/redirect her at least twice before I decide she wants to be held. If your verbal child came up to you &amp; said "Mommy, will you play/cuddle with me?" You wouldn't tell them "no, you need to hush." Why would I do that to my non-verbal child?!? She can't do things for herself, it's my job to do them for her, I don't see how I'm spoiling her. </p> <p>Anyone else feel this way? </p>