https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 27 Apr 2026 19:30:41 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/david-tutera-amp-his-ex-raising-their-twins-separately#post-1087072 Sat, 14 Sep 2013 12:11:50 +0000 Boogs 1087072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's very sad. But the more I think about it, they are actually just half siblings and more times than not half siblings don't grow up together. Sure it would be nice for them to grow up together, but I think it's better that they grow up happy versus in a toxic environment where their parents aren't happy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/david-tutera-amp-his-ex-raising-their-twins-separately#post-1087050 Sat, 14 Sep 2013 11:49:52 +0000 MrsTiz 1087050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's sad for the kids sake, but i'm sure they will see each other from time to time.</p> <p>Honestly, I think it's amazing that this is even possible! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/david-tutera-amp-his-ex-raising-their-twins-separately#post-1086964 Sat, 14 Sep 2013 10:31:16 +0000 Reese 1086964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree that it is a sad situation. However, given the circumstances I think it is workable solution. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/david-tutera-amp-his-ex-raising-their-twins-separately#post-1086570 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 22:36:17 +0000 shopaholic 1086570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Very sad indeed. But I can't help think that, at least they weren't raised together and suddenly pulled apart (aside from being in the womb together, of course). Sounds like they will try to maintain a relationship for the twins, and nice they each have a bio dad. So sad. but yes, @Mrs. Lemon-Lime: AMAZING what modern science can do! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/david-tutera-amp-his-ex-raising-their-twins-separately#post-1086487 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 21:28:10 +0000 yoursilverlining 1086487@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pink Champagne: I agree - especially since they separated/the marriage ended when the babies were infants.</p> <p>I don't think it makes any difference that they had to go through surrogacy to have their children or not; that doesn't make this any more (or less) irresponsible than many, many other pregnancies and resulting children. Both men sound from the interview like they are dedicated to trying to build a relationship between the children and both can provide for their children, so sounds like everyone is trying to make the best of the sad end to a relationship. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/david-tutera-amp-his-ex-raising-their-twins-separately#post-1086438 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 20:52:39 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1086438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pink Champagne: Usually half-siblings raised bybthemselves or never knowing each other are a result of different relationships. In this case the children were born out of the same relationship. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/david-tutera-amp-his-ex-raising-their-twins-separately#post-1086435 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 20:48:11 +0000 mrsbookworm 1086435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's definitely not an ideal situation, but the article makes it sound like they hope to allow them to have a relationship. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/david-tutera-amp-his-ex-raising-their-twins-separately#post-1086424 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 20:42:04 +0000 deerylou 1086424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We really don't know what their mindsets were while they pursuing surrogacy. Yes, we *all* know that having children doesn't tend to remedy deep rooted issues within a relationship, but they could have been in a more hopeful place when they decided to start a family.</p> <p>Also, as unfortunate as it may be to separate the children at all, at least they were newborns without recollection, and conscious attachment. Imagine if they had been older, and been aware and close to their sibling. </p> <p>It's better that they are able to grow up in a healthy environment without bitterness, and hostility. Hopefully their fathers can work towards fostering a civil relationship so the kids can grow up together, in some capacity. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/david-tutera-amp-his-ex-raising-their-twins-separately#post-1086394 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 20:12:30 +0000 Pink Champagne 1086394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel this is no different than a man having two children with two different women. They're "twins" because they shared a womb but they are really genetically half-siblings. Yes, of course they should have a relationship, but I think it's better that their parents are giving them a (hopefully) happy, healthy home environment than one that is filled with fighting parents and cheating spouses. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/david-tutera-amp-his-ex-raising-their-twins-separately#post-1086209 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 17:36:43 +0000 runsyellowlites 1086209@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. bird: I don't suggest anything once it was done. But having something like a sex addiction is usually an on going issue... what was irresponsible was seeking the route of conception in the first place.</p> <p>Given I myself am raising a child that is separated from a whole other half of blood family/relatives (due to an oops &amp; then abuse), thinking about things like that before conceiving is really important to me. Divorce &amp; raising kids separate is far to common &amp; accepted as "normal". It's sad.</p> <p>It upsets me when adults don't think about those repercussions. It's selfish &amp; irresponsible to knowingly put children, who can't do anything to protect themselves, in that situation. They knew things were rocky in their relationship &amp; they chose to go through extensive processes to procreate anyways </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/david-tutera-amp-his-ex-raising-their-twins-separately#post-1086200 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 17:31:30 +0000 mrs. bird 1086200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runsyellowlites: if they already had the embryos going into their split, what would you propose be done with them? Should they have each hired separate surrogates to carry their own bio embryo? Would the babies have have less rights to relationships with their half siblings if they were carried by different women? Should the embryos of divorced parents be destroyed rather than divided? </p> <p>@pinkb: I watched the view today also &amp; thought he seemed to have intentions of some communication between the children in the future when things settled down. </p> <p>Lots of people choose to reproduce with less than stellar partners, lots of people have marriages that fall apart during the transition from couple to growing family, lots of people choose to become single parents. If your dream has always been to be a parent and you have the means to be a single parent, who's to say you shouldn't. Both babies are wanted, cared for and loved. Sure it would have been great if there were two adults that could have raised then together, but that didn't happen. At least they figured it out before the babies were exposed to a toxic environment where energy was directed toward hating a SO rather than loving the children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/david-tutera-amp-his-ex-raising-their-twins-separately#post-1086193 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 17:29:36 +0000 mrsjazz 1086193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pinkb: Good to hear that they are working on it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/david-tutera-amp-his-ex-raising-their-twins-separately#post-1086144 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 16:57:28 +0000 pinkb 1086144@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He was just on The View today. I dont really like separating the kids the way they have, but it works for them and he did say they will have a sibling relationship in the future. He said he was working on getting open communication started and positive before they made any plans for the kids to be together. So I do think they are trying to do what is best for the kids in the situation they are in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/david-tutera-amp-his-ex-raising-their-twins-separately#post-1086083 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 16:22:23 +0000 Anagram 1086083@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz: I actually had a Boss with a similar situation. We didn't really talk about details (wasn't appropriate to ask), but she was a lesbian who'd had 2 sons with her former wife, and they'd each carried one boy and had used the same sperm doner. They separated when the boys were 10 and 11 and the custody agreement was that each of them had full custody of their bio kid. I believe informally, they had an agreement for the boys to spend with each other on weekends, rotating whose house they stayed at. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/david-tutera-amp-his-ex-raising-their-twins-separately#post-1086079 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 16:20:28 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 1086079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think its sad. BUT this happens, ie if a woman had two kids with two different men and then the dads each had custody, the situation would be the same (although not twins).</p> <p>ETA: they should for sure be able to see their sibling! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/david-tutera-amp-his-ex-raising-their-twins-separately#post-1086074 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 16:19:42 +0000 LuLu Mom 1086074@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I jsut read this and sent it to my coworkers. The fact that they are not letting their siblings see each other is heartbreaking. they were together in the womb, their "person" and it's just taken from them. So sad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/david-tutera-amp-his-ex-raising-their-twins-separately#post-1086066 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 16:18:01 +0000 mrsjazz 1086066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: Yeah, there are many children in this world who were probably conceived to be the glue of a marriage/relationship. </p> <p>It's great that they each have a biological child, I just think it's a sad state of affairs if they don't figure their crap out so that the twins can have a brother/sister relationship. Outside of their dads, they are each others only known biological relative and that may be important to them as they get older. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/david-tutera-amp-his-ex-raising-their-twins-separately#post-1086053 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 16:13:12 +0000 looch 1086053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's pretty normal, a lot of couples think having a child will bring them closer together, not drive then further apart.</p> <p>I think, given the bio dad situation, it is a good solution. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/david-tutera-amp-his-ex-raising-their-twins-separately#post-1086050 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 16:11:55 +0000 runsyellowlites 1086050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz: Ugh. So a known problem, by atleast the one of them, and deciding to have children together. What a horrible disaster. You hear about that alot from women who decide to stop the bc in secret, but actually going through the fertility options of surrogacy?!</p> <p>I hope they can get their act together &amp; get the twins back together! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/david-tutera-amp-his-ex-raising-their-twins-separately#post-1086043 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 16:08:42 +0000 mrsjazz 1086043@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runsyellowlites: The split happened while the surrogate was pregnant. From what I can gather from various stories it seems that David's ex Ryan claims David had a sex addiction and cheated a lot and wouldn't do therapy so Ryan filed for divorce in Connecticut and then David filed for separation in California.</p> <p>Maybe they thought babies would help their problems. We all know that ain't the truth.</p> <p>Poor babies.</p> <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: And yes, modern medicine is awesome! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/david-tutera-amp-his-ex-raising-their-twins-separately#post-1086041 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 16:07:31 +0000 Foodnerd81 1086041@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's so sad! The poor babies. </p> <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: That's what I was thinking too-- if this had ended up differently, what an amazing thing that they are each a biological dad to one of them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/david-tutera-amp-his-ex-raising-their-twins-separately#post-1086025 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 16:03:04 +0000 runsyellowlites 1086025@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So it sounds like the split happened before the babies were born? Or very shortly after?</p> <p>That is messed up on so many levels.... WHY would someone go into a lengthy conception process (not like a things weren't great but we had a whoops) when their relationship was on the verge of ending &amp; then going through the process of such. To me that is just incredibly irresponsible! :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/david-tutera-amp-his-ex-raising-their-twins-separately#post-1086023 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 16:02:48 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1086023@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's just not good. I get living on separate coasts, but separating siblings, twins no less, is not goodnfor the children. These exes need to get their act together.</p> <p>Modern medicine is awesome- each twin has a different daddy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/david-tutera-amp-his-ex-raising-their-twins-separately#post-1086003 Fri, 13 Sep 2013 15:58:09 +0000 mrsjazz 1086003@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love David Tutera but this news makes me sad. He and his ex-husband had a bitter divorce and are now raising their twins Cielo &amp; Cedric on separate coasts. David is the biological father of Cielo and his ex is the biological father of Cedric. The twins come from two eggs from the same woman and were carried by a surrogate. </p> <p>I hope that they can come to some sort of resolution. I feel sad that those babies are separated. This is a modern day twist on The Parent Trap. </p> <p><a href="http://celebritybabies.people.com/2013/09/13/david-tutera-ryan-jurica-twins-raised-separately/" rel="nofollow">http://celebritybabies.people.com/2013/09/13/david-tutera-ryan-jurica-twins-raised-separately/</a> </p>