https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 19:05:02 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-potty-training-does-this-sound-normal-tips#post-2859574 Sat, 01 Dec 2018 17:15:05 +0000 Anagram 2859574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: I think both my girls were on the easy side of things when it comes to potty training. I don’t think undies “helped”, but I think they didn’t hurt the process since they did not wear them until day 3 or 4. I do think being naked waist down helped them understand the feeling of needing to pee/peeing in a potty rather than in close fitting anything (undies, or pull-ups or clothes). </p> <p>So I am a rule follower (apparently. Didn’t realize that about myself until I became a parent). But the first time I make a recipe, I am following it exactly with no substitutes—so I bought the Oh crap book before LO1, and I actually read the entire thing (sometimes on parenting boards I see people both pro AND con the Oh Crap book have no real familiarity with the actual book—it’s more like they’ve only read a ooo summary someone else who also didn’t read the book wrote), and I followed the blocks exactly. Obviously I only have a sample size of 2 kids with similar genetic predispositions but it fully worked for pee and poop within 5 days for LO1 and 24-48 hours for LO2. So if I were having a 3rd kid, I would repeat the Oh Crap method exactly making no changes to the method. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-potty-training-does-this-sound-normal-tips#post-2859567 Sat, 01 Dec 2018 16:56:17 +0000 DesertDreams88 2859567@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>FWIW....<br /> I read OCPT and was on board. We started at 27 months, with 5 days of boxer briefs (no commando, all he'd do is play with his penis all day long). We were only at about 50% success. (<a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-day-3-of-6-days-for-potty-training" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-day-3-of-6-days-for-potty-training</a>) . I was *very* discouraged at the end and thought it was a waste. The grandparents then took him on a 3 day trip and did pull-ups and scheduled potty breaks the whole time (everything OCPT says not to do, haha). He did ok.</p> <p>The grandparents babysat about 20-25 hours a week around that time. He was in pull-ups with them, and 50% pull-ups and 50% underwear the rest of the time with us. From April through July (so, 4 months) he kept his pull-ups decently dry, only wetting them like maybe once a day? He was great at scheduled potty breaks and then at 2.5 years / July / month 4 of "training" he started telling us when he had to go. Starting in August he has been in underwear exclusively during the day, with accidents maybe once a week?</p> <p>All this to say, pull-ups maybe stretched out the process, but it was no big deal. He was fully PTed by 2.5 basically and most of my friends' kids aren't done by that age, so I'm cool with how things worked out. </p> <p>I also posted this thread: <a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-use-of-pull-ups" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/the-use-of-pull-ups</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-potty-training-does-this-sound-normal-tips#post-2859511 Sat, 01 Dec 2018 10:45:11 +0000 JennyLayneAZ 2859511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: basically, yes they did, until I said something to the morning teacher. She doesn't get there until after I drop lo off so I never get a chance to talk to her in person. My plan was to talk to the director next if they didn't start making an effort again. She's back to doing really well, with very few accidents.</p> <p>Yes, she withholds poop a lot. She will go on the potty but most of the time it's a huge ordeal to get her to go (I just shut her and I in the bathroom and hangout till she goes). Some days she goes with out a fight. Last night she finally went, but she still woke up poopy this morning 🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️</p> <p>Good luck to you :goodluck: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-potty-training-does-this-sound-normal-tips#post-2859492 Sat, 01 Dec 2018 07:50:35 +0000 ShootingStar 2859492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: Yeah I do NOT think readiness is a myth, lol. We PT’d DS when he had readiness signs and it worked. I mean, it took a couple months because of the whole pull-up thing, but it worked. We did it over presidents weekend in February and I remember thinking if it didn’t work we’d do it again over Memorial Day weekend, but we didn’t need to. It did take time to get him to stop pooping in his nap pull-up, but we were able to motivate him early that summer. He was right around 2.5 when we were totally poop trained. </p> <p>In some ways I think I started DD way too young. I don’t think her language skills were developed enough, and she didn’t have as much readiness signs as DS did. Just now she’s starting to show those signs. </p> <p>I think if I’d been a SAHM and didn’t have to deal with daycare she would be traine by now. She was about half trained when I gave up. I just couldn’t take spending entire weekends trapped in the house or ditty on the bathroom floor all night because she kept wanting potty but not actually going. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-potty-training-does-this-sound-normal-tips#post-2859488 Sat, 01 Dec 2018 07:23:10 +0000 muffinsmuffins 2859488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: good luck! Potty training was our hardest battle for sure so don’t get discouraged if it takes longer and you have setbacks. It will come. As for night training, DS wakes dry maybe 2-3 days a week so I’m not pushing it. He’s started school and got a baby brother in September so lots of change still adjusting to that I’m not throwing that in too...plus we are exhausted ha. I haven’t researched it but I think it’s developmental so we will wait for more consistent dry mornings and go from there. I don’t mind doing pull ups and he doesn’t fight it so will stay the course. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-potty-training-does-this-sound-normal-tips#post-2859480 Sat, 01 Dec 2018 06:02:48 +0000 LBee 2859480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not what you asked, but put underwear under the pull ups. Obviously send a million pairs though and tell them they can throw out poop ones. It sort of back door addresses all the issues - he will feel the pee (the drive against pull ups is that modern day pull ups whisk pee away so much there is no discomfort level), he will be excited about underwear at school and hopefully want to keep them dry, and school will have mess contained.</p> <p>But also I disagree with the whole premise of Oh Crap and strongly believe you can’t night train so maybe I’m crazy?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-potty-training-does-this-sound-normal-tips#post-2859461 Fri, 30 Nov 2018 23:47:21 +0000 SproutBee 2859461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: we trained both boys at about 29 months. For us, maybe we just lucked out, but night time was no problem. We still put them in diapers overnight until they proved to be consistently dry (maybe for about a week?) and then we just pulled the nighttime diaper. It took my oldest maybe 2-3 months of being daytime trained before he was consistently dry at night. My youngest was faster - maybe 1-2 months. With my oldest we really never had accidents. With my youngest, we had a few accidents - but quickly noticed it would happen first thing in the morning if he lounged in bed too long. So we quickly got into a habit of using the toilet IMMEDIATETLY upon wake up and that pretty much solved it. I admit, we lucked out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-potty-training-does-this-sound-normal-tips#post-2859459 Fri, 30 Nov 2018 23:36:52 +0000 LCTBQE 2859459@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SproutBee: ah, that sounds so nice--that is what I *thought* our daycare was going to be like. How old were your boys when you did this? and how was night training, did you guys have a lot of wet sheets to change? I guess it's fine for some kids, but I can already tell my son is confused by the pullups hypocrisy :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-potty-training-does-this-sound-normal-tips#post-2859451 Fri, 30 Nov 2018 22:10:07 +0000 SproutBee 2859451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both our boys attended daycare and we were able to essentially follow the Oh Crap method. But we also have a really supportive daycare. For both boys we trained at about 29 months. Over the course of a 3 day weekend, we had them both doing great commando. </p> <p>With my first son, on the first day back at daycare I actually planned to send him in a pull-up, but he completely refused to wear it. So, I sent him in underwear and crossed my fingers. My daycare providers are super supportive, though, and took it from there. Those first couple weeks he had a couple poop accidents at school, but that totally didn’t phase them. Overall it took him about a month to be confidant pooping in the toilet, but we just cleaned/tossed dirty underwear and persevered. He wore a diaper for nap for a few more weeks. Diaper at night for a couple more months. Then done. </p> <p>With my second son, knowing how supporting my daycare was, we sent him in underwear and fingers crossed after 3 days commando at home. I was less confidant as he had more accidents at home than my first son. But, again, my daycare was amazing and he did amazing. No accidents. </p> <p>I really think the key for us was having super supportive daycare providers. I credit them with a lot of the success as well and am so thankful they were ok with an early undies trial. I think it is incredibly confusing for kids to be in pull-ups. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-potty-training-does-this-sound-normal-tips#post-2859450 Fri, 30 Nov 2018 22:07:19 +0000 LCTBQE 2859450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wrkbrk: wow, 14 days.. that's a fucking long time to have zero accidents for a two year old who is *learning*. @ALV91711: yep, they mentioned the undies underneath pull-ups to me tonight at pickup. I'm so confused. </p> <p>@Anagram: our place didn't mention state regulation, but obviously they're in charge and they make the rules at their own place and that's that. it sounds like your process with your girls was pretty fast/easy. do you think it was just them, or do you feel like going straight to panties was really helpful? </p> <p>@mrsbubbletea: thanks for the encouragement! so why would you do naked or commando this coming week instead of doing undies? just easier/less mess? or any physical reason? I see a lot of the pp's did undies around this point, and daycare suggested it because they said he wouldn't like the feeling of having them soiled and it would help him connect to keep them dry. but really curious to hear your thoughts. </p> <p>@JennyLayneAZ: so your daycare just decided to take their foot off the gas on potty training her without telling you? (except through an app?!) is she withholding poop at home and just saving it for her diapers? tonight at bedtime my husband and I both took turns for a full hour trying to get the boy to poop--he kept waddling around the house and would start to squat (like, on the rug in our bedroom)--and we'd rush him to the potty, not frantically but quickly, and then he just could NOT go. my husband played with him, read to him, gave him a bath, and he kept almost-going on the floor. the second he got to his potty, no dice. we finally put him to bed at freaking 9pm, still no poop so I'm sure he'll go in his diaper tonight. So yeah, commiserate away! we'll get there :heart: hopefully by easter or so. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-potty-training-does-this-sound-normal-tips#post-2859449 Fri, 30 Nov 2018 21:53:47 +0000 LCTBQE 2859449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kiddosc: @ShootingStar: yep, like you both experienced, my husband and I read the book and we got super pumped, but now I'm thinking that we're just not going to be able to do her method the way she intends, where you are just DONE with diapers (and pull-ups). Realizing maybe why I'm stressing out about this is that I thought her book's logic sounded terrific and I'm disappointed to find I can't execute it IRL. I had thought I would like to give an honest try to only leaving the house for very, very short trips commando or with undies on--do you think it's worth it to make this effort for a month or two and just plan for accidents? </p> <p>@kiddosc: can I ask when you guys started and at what age? and did you start on night sleep undies right when you started everything else?<br /> @muffinsmuffins: it sounds like we're in for a similar experience :) when do you plan to night train?<br /> @ShootingStar: I remember your potty posts over labor day--I was a week pp and recall being like, I should read these and learn something, but I can't deal with even thinking about this right now. and here we are :) is she just kind of indefinitely in pull-ups this fall? in your opinion, is the Oh Crap ethos of "readiness is a myth" just totally false? good luck over Christmas, I'm eager to hear how it goes for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-potty-training-does-this-sound-normal-tips#post-2859425 Fri, 30 Nov 2018 20:02:08 +0000 ShootingStar 2859425@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had this happen with DS. They said he needed to wear pull-ups and of course he treated them like a diaper. So for weeks on the weekends we did undies and after an accident free weekend I brought him in undies on Monday and told them he hadn’t had an accident and he’d now be coming in underwear. And from then on he was fine. </p> <p>DD is a whole other story. I tried to do Oh Crap back at Labor Day weekend. She kind of got it but after a week at home she had to go back to school in pull ups. DS was really good about going on command but not so great at self initiating. She’s the opposite - she’ll self initiate but won’t go on command. She also really had trouble peeing in public. Public restrooms were not happening. We even had a little potty in the back of our minivan and had like 10% success with that. We were having accidents every time we left the house, or we’d spent an hour at home of her making me go int he bathroom with, sitting for 5 minutes and not going. Then 5 minutes later it was “mommy go potty”. Over and over again until I kind of gave up for a while. Maybe the next long weekend after Christmas we’ll go full throttle undies and I think she’ll be ready. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-potty-training-does-this-sound-normal-tips#post-2859419 Fri, 30 Nov 2018 19:37:13 +0000 ALV91711 2859419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our daycare required pull ups to start. I can’t remember how long of dry pull ups before they allowed underwear. It then they did pull up over underwear for a while. It may take a bit longer but it didn’t cause us problems. I figured since they had lots of kids to take care of and they were doing most of the potty training they could lead how it was done. </p> <p>Funny thing is they stopped putting him in pull ups for naps long before we did at home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-potty-training-does-this-sound-normal-tips#post-2859414 Fri, 30 Nov 2018 19:09:44 +0000 wrkbrk 2859414@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: Very similar situation. Our daycare won’t allow undies - even to try! - until pull-ups are dry for 14 days 🤦🏻‍♀️ Well guess what, my son doesn’t understand that he’s not allowed to pee in his diaper at school! Weekends are fine. It’s very annoying but I don’t think we’d win fighting the system......so we wait. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-potty-training-does-this-sound-normal-tips#post-2859405 Fri, 30 Nov 2018 17:12:42 +0000 Anagram 2859405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: both of my kids were in daycare when we pottytrained over a long weekend/holiday. Two different daycares—one said going commando was against regulation in our state and the other said commando was fine. But either way, we never did diapers. We did straight to undies (after 3 commando days at home), and the other case we had a couple more commando days at daycare then to panties. Pull-ups only for nap time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-potty-training-does-this-sound-normal-tips#post-2859400 Fri, 30 Nov 2018 16:42:34 +0000 Mrsbells 2859400@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: for both kids the daycare required pull-ups. You can explain to him that we wear pull-ups when we go outside the house. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-potty-training-does-this-sound-normal-tips#post-2859398 Fri, 30 Nov 2018 16:39:15 +0000 JennyLayneAZ 2859398@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have any advice, but commiseration. We didn't do commando at daycare but I did start sending her to daycare in undies right away (we are on week 4) with instruction to only put her in a diaper for her nap. The first week went really well. The second week I started getting diaper notifications instead of potty notifications on the app. At first I thought it was just a mistake on their part but after the second or third day I asked them what was going on (when I spoke to the afternoon teacher in person, I didn't get the impression she was in a diaper all day, but that was incorrect!). After that they started making an effort again to get her to use the potty, but they still give her a diaper when they go outside and that's normally when she'll poop.</p> <p>It's frustrating but I've resigned myself to the fact that they have several kids to take care of, and can't give her one on one attention like I do at home to see her cues of needing to poop.</p> <p>Like I said before we are finishing up week 4 and she rarely has pee accidents, despite having (basically) full access to diapers at daycare if she asks for it. At home, she only gets a diaper for nap or nighttime. OK, I'm sorry for rambling on your thread, I'll shut up now :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-potty-training-does-this-sound-normal-tips#post-2859397 Fri, 30 Nov 2018 16:33:29 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2859397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: I think that sounds great! Next week I would definitely do commando at home and I wouldn’t be surprised if things totally clicked for him. We actually did a long time naked waist down at home and then diapers out and about, which in hindsight was kind of gross but it really wasn’t stressful or power struggling and it totally worked for us. Depending on how he does at home you can push for undies if you want when he goes back, but for daycare I wouldn’t stress too much about the message of pull ups. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-potty-training-does-this-sound-normal-tips#post-2859395 Fri, 30 Nov 2018 16:20:02 +0000 kiddosc 2859395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, I don't think the Oh crap method works for kids in daycare. You can't stick to the program the way it's supposed to be done. We did a gradual approach like @muffinsmuffins:<br /> We did a pull up at daycare and she would go when all the other kids went, and we started on undies at home at night and on weekends. She was actually doing much better about staying dry at daycare than she was at home. She was only in pull-ups at school for 3 weeks before her teachers said to just send her in undies because she was always dry. Her teachers also said that it was probably easier for them to deal with accidents at school than it would be for us at home since all the surfaces are cleanable. We still have problems with her withholding poop... she's holding all day and going in her diaper at night which has led to a few pee accidents at school. But for the most part she's done find switching between undies and pull-ups and knows that both are supposed to stay clean. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-potty-training-does-this-sound-normal-tips#post-2859393 Fri, 30 Nov 2018 16:09:07 +0000 muffinsmuffins 2859393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: we did a super gradual approach, not the 3 day and we always used undies and not commando. We started by having him in diapers at daycare only then undies only at home for a few weeks and then after a couple weekends where he did well with us, we told daycare we wanted to try and they were good with that. This started a period where he would withhold for what felt like literal eternity so we had to do rewards and books and stool softener and try not to lose our minds but I think he was more difficult than most.</p> <p>.I think we started the undies at home for most of December last year, then come January we were like yep it’s time to go full time and just do it. It was ok at first then he regressed but the daycare stuck with it too and he actually had more issues at home with us because he held poop and lots of times pee til he was home. So they were probably fine ha! It’s a little muddy now, but it took about 2-3 months overall. FWIW we are coming to a year now and he still wears pull ups for night and did for naps (when he still<br /> napped like 6 months ago) he’s super regular and no issues beyond that first 2-3 months. He was also older, just over 3 years old when we started. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-potty-training-does-this-sound-normal-tips#post-2859386 Fri, 30 Nov 2018 15:51:16 +0000 LCTBQE 2859386@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@muffinsmuffins: yeah, I was thinking about still doing commando next week and they actually encouraged me to not do that and start him on undies. your daycare workers sound angelic! So what exactly did it look like when you say they allowed him in undies once you were ready? Like, how long did it take you working with him at home to get there, and what did you do to get there? I fully expect accidents for weeks :) just feel bad to confuse my kid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-potty-training-does-this-sound-normal-tips#post-2859385 Fri, 30 Nov 2018 15:47:05 +0000 muffinsmuffins 2859385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our daycare didn’t do pull ups besides nap and allowed him in undies once we were ready. But I know a lot of past HB posters have said similar to what you describe and had similar problems with confusion. Potty training our son was super annoying so I appreciated our daycares patience. We just sent him with tons of extra clothes and they encouraged him a lot. We had multiple accidents, or rather he would wait too long and pee out of the toilet on his pants, for WEEKS. I think in your case I would use that week to go without and continue training as you have and make it clear to the daycare you’d like to continue after with just undies and see hat they say. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-and-potty-training-does-this-sound-normal-tips#post-2859383 Fri, 30 Nov 2018 15:40:07 +0000 LCTBQE 2859383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just started potty training my son (just turned 27 months) the Friday after Thanksgiving using the Oh Crap book/method. We had three mostly naked days at home which were very successful with pee, less so with poop (only one poop in the potty, he held it in mostly), but actually only one accident the whole weekend. We had told our daycare that we'd be starting beforehand and they were like, "that's great, we think he's ready". I guess my husband and I are kind naive, but we sent him to daycare commando on Monday morning, and they were like, "whoa whoa whoa, no way, he needs to be wearing a pull-up". We had brought some for nap time, so fine, they got one on him. </p> <p>So all week he has been wearing pull-ups all day at daycare and the only difference between now and before we started potty training is that he's technically wearing pull-ups instead of diapers, and he is included in the big kids' trip to the potty once an hour, and I think they're encouraging him to tell them if he needs to go. I think he's been pretty good about pee and is frequently dry when there, but he's pooping in his pull-ups every day there (and yesterday apparently reached in and grabbed some poop--ugh, he NEVER did this before training). </p> <p>Does this sound typical? I totally understand their plight, but I also feel like I'm sending him a really confusing mixed message when we put a pull-up on him before heading out the door each morning. Next week they're closed for their provider's vacation week so I'm hoping to make some headway having him start with undies at home. </p> <p>Very curious how everyone else has handled this. Any tips for how to approach/explain to your kid? Do daycares even exist that will take a partially-trained/in-training kid in underwear? </p>