https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 22 May 2026 09:11:23 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-biting-issue-advice-needed#post-1512846 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 17:29:18 +0000 littlek 1512846@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: well that explains why he was malicious.. Spanking a baby??? That breaks my heart </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-biting-issue-advice-needed#post-1512807 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 16:58:53 +0000 MamaMoose 1512807@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlek: yeah it was a bad situation. I actually felt really bad for the kid that maybe there was some sad stuff happening at home because his parents asked the teachers to SPANK him when he bit. And he was only 14 months old! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-biting-issue-advice-needed#post-1512595 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 14:59:46 +0000 littlek 1512595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: Ok, if the dad felt the need to broadcast that to the other parents that's his choice. I personally did not broadcast our situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-biting-issue-advice-needed#post-1512577 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 14:52:44 +0000 MamaMoose 1512577@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlek: we all knew who the biter was because the parents of the child doing the biting has to sign an incident report each time so day after day his dad was signing reports during pick up and be would talk openly about the situation with the teachers and how they were trying to address it at home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-biting-issue-advice-needed#post-1512560 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 14:46:48 +0000 littlek 1512560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: just curious, how did you find out a child was kicked out? I find it hard to believe a child under 2 bites out of malice. Also, your director should not be talking to you about a child other than your own, that's not very professional. Not trying to start something, but imagine if you are the parent of the biter and you found out people were talking this way about your child? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-biting-issue-advice-needed#post-1512534 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 14:40:31 +0000 littlek 1512534@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaCate: My son was a biter. Biting is a very passionate subject as you can tell from the responses you have received. Personally before the age of 2, I don't think any child bites for malice and kicking a kid out of daycare is ridiculous. Biting is behavioral. I think it's hard for parents who do not have a child that bites to see the biting childs parents view points. Some parents even go as far as blaming the parents. Ridiculous. First, it makes no sense to segregate children in to groups "biters" and "non-biters." What they should do is (1) shadow your LO (2) reinforce positive use of teeth (3) emphasize no biting to the whole classroom and (4) not punish your child by any means. We had a book called "Teeth are not for biting" we would read LO the book multiple times a day and they would also read it during class. We constantly reminded him "no biting" and "teeth are for smilling" and what do when he was frustrated. Most of the issue is that they can not communicate that they are frustrated and the first response is to bite. Biting is such a tough phase.. big hugs :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-biting-issue-advice-needed#post-1512502 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 14:31:07 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1512502@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: Agree. We put a lot of pressure on our center to resolve the issue (even before age 2) especially because the incidents often were unprovoked (meaning not fighting over a toy or anything). and they were really bad bites for my daughter (a bruise on her face for example). They did shadowing and that wasn't helping and it was a really rough process for us to go through.</p> <p>In the end, and this is something you may want to ask for @MamaCate: is a detailed account of each incident. We found that often by the time we did pick up and actually got to talk to someone about it, it often wasn't the person that witnessed it and they often couldn't explain details. We had a list of 10 standard questions about the incidents that every time something happened (with this one child specifically, not just a random bite) that we asked for answer to in writing within 24 hours. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-biting-issue-advice-needed#post-1512483 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 14:26:58 +0000 MamaMoose 1512483@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We actually just a had a little boy essentially kicked out of our day care for biting. It was out of control and he was biting every day and seemingly with malicious intent. They tried to address it (moving him up a room, having a teacher shadow him, etc) but nothing worked. At our school, lots of parents (myself included) were really pushing the director to address the situation because we were uncomfortable with how much biting was happening. So in your case it may be that your director is getting pressure from the parents of the biting victims. If two other LO's are biting in addition to your LO then there are a lot of people that are being bitten and therefore complaining to the director. It seems like they are trying to find a solution to keep everyone happy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-biting-issue-advice-needed#post-1512456 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 14:18:56 +0000 purrpletulips 1512456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've posted about our experience before but can't find it now. DD was in a daycare center from 8w to 29m and had several episodes of biting (both being and doing). The incidents seemed to peak when the kids were getting at the upper age of the classroom (and bored with the toys, activities always available). The teachers would watch what was going at the time of the biting, most often it was found to be when they were transitioning from one activity to another OR the "I want that toy" variety. The center dealt with the problem by breaking the classroom into smaller groups and would have one teacher focus on each group during transitions; they also brought an extra teacher in at certain times of day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-biting-issue-advice-needed#post-1511199 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 08:46:19 +0000 MamaCate 1511199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Anyone else have experience with this?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-biting-issue-advice-needed#post-1510682 Thu, 20 Mar 2014 21:44:37 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1510682@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaCate: my LO wasn't the biter but was often targeted. This other child was biting about once a day if bit more. Mostly unprovoked. They moved her and it helped for a bit but it's still an issue. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-biting-issue-advice-needed#post-1510655 Thu, 20 Mar 2014 21:28:05 +0000 MamaCate 1510655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also, my concern about the small group is that they have made a big deal about keeping the kids in her close age group all together since they were in the baby room and now they are willing to throw that out the window... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-biting-issue-advice-needed#post-1510653 Thu, 20 Mar 2014 21:26:57 +0000 MamaCate 1510653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: thanks for the feedback. They have talked to is here and there but not a sit down. I work in early childhood so I get that biting typically peaks between 18-24 mos but I feel like we are not way beyond that range.</p> <p>LO is on target if not ahead for speech. The teacher stated that it is typically a dispute with someone and that she didn't nap three days of the four and those days the biting all happened after nap. The last one was that she and another child were fighting over a pillow. The other child grabbed it and laid on top of it and she got mad so she bit him on his back.</p> <p>How did your center deal with your LO?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-biting-issue-advice-needed#post-1510601 Thu, 20 Mar 2014 21:08:49 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1510601@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>But to add your center should absolutely be scheduling a meeting with you guys to discuss this new plan. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-biting-issue-advice-needed#post-1510595 Thu, 20 Mar 2014 21:06:03 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1510595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We dealt with a problem biter. We were told before age 2 it's developmentally appropriate but after two they discipline for it. </p> <p>What triggers your daughter to bite? Is she talking or communicating well? I would think a small environment might help her through those things and maybe it's a good thing for all involved. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-biting-issue-advice-needed#post-1510566 Thu, 20 Mar 2014 20:57:26 +0000 MamaCate 1510566@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hoping for additional input and advice on our situation: my LO is 27 months and has been in the same daycare center since 5 mos of age. In the toddler room, there was a phase where she was bit several times and also bit others--this was about 6 months ago. Daycare handled it appropriately in my opinion by shadowing the biting child and offering a teetered for an alternative.</p> <p>Now, there has been a new rash of problems. LO was bit a few times last month. In the last 6 days at school, she has bit other kids 4 times. It has all been different kids and when I talk to her classroom teacher, it sounds understandable and pretty age appropriate. </p> <p>But, DH picked her up yesterday and was told that she was moved to a different room to switch things up. This morning I brought her to her room and her teacher told me initially that she would stay in there, only to have the center director come in a minute later and tell me she had to go back to the other room just to are how it goes. DH picked her up again and was told they are thinking about putting her in a group with two other kids (who are also identified as "problem biters") and a different teacher starting next week.</p> <p>I am very frustrated and feel that the center is overreacting and that my LO is not as much of a problem as the director seems to think. I know that the last bite was bad and the other child's mother was understandably upset but I also think that this is not unexpected for kids this age. I am hoping to request a meeting with the director next week but am looking for feedback:</p> <p>Does this seem like the school is overreacting to you? How would you approach the director to explain the concerns? </p>