https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 21:51:40 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-consequences#post-1865850 Wed, 17 Sep 2014 10:32:36 +0000 aegie 1865850@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I asked because my 2 year old came home giving her baby dolls a "time out". I asked if they gave time outs and the teachers said there's no time outs for toddlers until they're older. Mostly they shadow the child and help explain that whatever they did was not safe and redirect. If it's a tussle between 2 kids over a toy, they remove the toy and separate the kids until they've calmed down. My 2 year old has seen the older kids in time outs, so I guess that's where she learned it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-consequences#post-1865700 Wed, 17 Sep 2014 09:30:21 +0000 Ajsmommy 1865700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Time out 1 minute for each year they are old. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-consequences#post-1865685 Wed, 17 Sep 2014 09:22:45 +0000 .twist. 1865685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: Me either! I know they do redirect, but if it escalates after that... dunno! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-consequences#post-1865618 Wed, 17 Sep 2014 08:48:17 +0000 jessibear 1865618@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: thanks for this. I was starting to feel clueless!</p> <p>I know our school does reports to the parents on big things like biting, hiting, and you have to sign a form acknowledging it, but I don't actually know what they do for every little thing, at the time it happens. I think for the most part it's redirection and discussion. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-consequences#post-1865593 Wed, 17 Sep 2014 08:34:45 +0000 HLK208 1865593@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For really bad behavior, preschool did timeouts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-consequences#post-1865510 Wed, 17 Sep 2014 07:26:12 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 1865510@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@matador84: so, I teach at our son's center in the 3-5 years room. There is a child in the 2s room who is frequently physically aggressive. The teachers do a thing called "gluing" where they keep the student in arms reach always. The child works, eats, rests, etc right next to a teacher. If he hurts another child it's documented in a form for the parents and the center. He's also removed from the room to sit with a director. I know that parents of chronically aggressive kids have to have a meeting with the teacher &amp; director to figure out a plan to help the child and, after a certain amount of time, the child can be kicked out of the center.<br /> All that said, I'm not sure spitting or pulling hair would immediately be counted as a serious offense. For as young as 2, it would heavily depend on the circumstances surrounding the incident. (Ages 3-5 no question I'd be writing them up, giving them reduced privileges, and meeting with parents if it kept happening. But the motivations of 2 year olds can often be complicated to figure out). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-consequences#post-1865486 Wed, 17 Sep 2014 06:59:21 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1865486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our preschool does time outs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-consequences#post-1865483 Wed, 17 Sep 2014 06:50:59 +0000 Maysprout 1865483@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both of the ones we went to have them sit for a bit if they do something like spit or hit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-consequences#post-1865476 Wed, 17 Sep 2014 06:38:03 +0000 looch 1865476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends on what happened and if the situation involved other children or not. But mostly, it was redirection with shadowing or gluing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-consequences#post-1865450 Wed, 17 Sep 2014 05:39:07 +0000 blackbird 1865450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>you know, i have absolutely no clue. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-consequences#post-1865421 Wed, 17 Sep 2014 02:59:58 +0000 lamariniere 1865421@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At my son's old school the kids had to sit on "the chair" if they were misbehaving. At his new one, they sit in the hallway. So I guess it's like a time out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-consequences#post-1865370 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 22:28:47 +0000 MamaCate 1865370@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@matador84: I know my LO has had some bad days behavior wise at school (33 months) and on the worst days she has had to stay inside with the teacher while she cleans the classroom and the other kids are outside. So they take away the privilege of going outside. That was on a fairly extreme day.</p> <p>On other days I have seen them have the child who was hurt tell the child who hit/pushed that they did not like it and why and then they separate the children.</p> <p>Is your child the one hurting or the one being hurt? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-consequences#post-1865346 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 21:50:49 +0000 brownie 1865346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have been at a few daycare/preschools now.<br /> Good preschool said no that's not okay and then shadowed the kid. And redirected. There were many special needs kids so that seemed to work for everyone.</p> <p>Bad preschool had a discussion about it. Not so useful for a nonverbal child who says what is easiest not what is true. </p> <p>Newest preschool request them to apologize and then moves on (whether the apology happens or not). Again it is a special needs school. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-consequences#post-1865318 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 21:17:03 +0000 Mrs. Bee 1865318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>they get down to the kid's level and talk about the behavior immediately after it happens. i have yet to see a daycare/preschool around here that implements time outs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-consequences#post-1865283 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 20:51:03 +0000 matador84 1865283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travellingbee: @JoyfulKiwi: I believe in the power of redirection and natural consequences. But...what do you think they would do if a toddler (2 y/o) was spitting on others and/or pulling other children's hair? Do they do something for more serious offenses? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-consequences#post-1865281 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 20:50:09 +0000 skibobrown 1865281@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mostly redirection. If a child is having a really challenging time, the teachers will often send them to the reading corner where there are lots of books and soft cushions to sit on. Only if they are really being bad -- like purposefully acting out, hitting, punching, kicking, etc. -- they will then be sent to "the thinking spot", which is basically time out. I'm pretty sure they do one minute per year of age. </p> <p>My daughter apparently had an epic meltdown today, but was still not sent to the thinking spot b/c she wasn't doing anything malicious. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-consequences#post-1865261 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 20:34:26 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 1865261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For toddlers, redirection. They also have a "safe ara" of soft cushions/stuffed animals that they use in a "time out" sort of manner (it's not isolated, an adult sits with them and talks to them). They also would have my son practice the appropriate behavior after the fact. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-consequences#post-1865255 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 20:27:58 +0000 travellingbee 1865255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well none really--they redirect. They do not believe in punitive consequences so they have logical ones like if you are throwing a toy, they take the toy away and redirect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-consequences#post-1865243 Tue, 16 Sep 2014 20:19:51 +0000 matador84 1865243@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What type of consequences does your daycare use if your LO misbehaves? Especially wondering about toddlers. </p>