https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 04 Apr 2026 23:49:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-forcing-dropping-a-nap#post-2808264 Wed, 07 Mar 2018 11:37:31 +0000 Adira 2808264@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jennlin821: I get what you're saying, but I'm not sure how she's supposed to visit the toddler class if she doesn't conform to their schedule. Toddlers usually nap 12:30-2:30. If she stuck to her two nap schedule, she'd be asleep during half their morning activities, would have to stay in the infant room during the toddler nap because she'd be awake then, and then asleep again during their afternoon activities.</p> <p>I suspect what they did was had her visit the class in the morning, saw that she seemed to be doing okay during her normal nap time and decided to see if she could make it to the toddler nap time. She did, so they stuck it out. I'm sure if she really struggled with it, they would've sent her back to the infant room for the rest of the day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-forcing-dropping-a-nap#post-2808251 Wed, 07 Mar 2018 11:07:47 +0000 jennlin821 2808251@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Yes, we discussed her visiting the other class room on Monday when I picked her up. And we discussed working on dropping the nap, and I requested that we start it next week because she is sick.<br /> So then on Tuesday they kept her awake through her morning nap time in order to conform with to visiting with the new class. </p> <p>So what's bothering me is that they went directly against what I requested, the very next day! </p> <p>They say she did well, only getting overwhelmed a few times. But when I picked her up she looked shell-shocked. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-forcing-dropping-a-nap#post-2808238 Wed, 07 Mar 2018 10:51:54 +0000 Adira 2808238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jennlin821: One nap at this age is really common. Did they tell you she would be visiting the new class this week? Did the new teachers know about her nap restrictions? It's really normal to conform to the schedule of the class you are visiting. How did they say she did? Did she struggle in the morning to stay up until that only nap?</p> <p>I bet she'll adjust to the new schedule pretty quickly. Maybe some early bedtimes for a couple weeks, but one nap at this age is really common!</p> <p>Sorry you're struggling with this. &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-forcing-dropping-a-nap#post-2808221 Wed, 07 Mar 2018 10:06:52 +0000 jennlin821 2808221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I AM SO ANGRY!</p> <p>I went to pick up DD yesterday, and they told me she was visiting her new classroom. No problem, I knew they were going to start introducing her there. The problem?<br /> THEY ONLY GAVE HER ONE NAP - AFTER I SPECIFICALLY TOLD THEM NOT TO!<br /> DD is sick, and I wanted her to have a 'normal' schedule this week, before daylight savings time. Plus I'm trying to push her bedtime back a bit each night this week to prep for DST.<br /> We get home at 5:20, as soon as we walked in the door she grabbed her lovey and laid down on the floor and pointed to her crib. She was asleep by 6pm, after a quick dinner and LOTS of fussing. I tried to keep her awake, but it just wasn't fair to her. </p> <p>I'm so angry! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-forcing-dropping-a-nap#post-2808115 Tue, 06 Mar 2018 17:22:11 +0000 gingerbebe 2808115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our baby got moved to 1 nap right at a year old and they moved him from crib to nap mat on a cot too. He definitely had a hard time for about 2 months and I felt bad about it, but in the big picture, we were moving him to one nap a little bit early. We just put him to bed early at night and he got about 13 hours of overnight sleep (he had been at around 11 hours prior to that) and we gave him 2 naps on the weekends for a few weeks. Even after he moved to 1 nap at home, he napped like 3 hours on the weekends (whereas he was only napping about 1 hour at school for a long time).</p> <p>Even if you don't think your kid is ready for 1 nap right now, its only really a matter of a few weeks or months before the kid will drop the nap anyway. I would say the vast majoriy of kids drop that morning nap by 18 months. The 1 nap transition is usually long and painful no matter how you do it - gradually or not - so I wouldn't personally pull a kid from daycare over it unless you had other issues, which it sounds like you do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-forcing-dropping-a-nap#post-2808114 Tue, 06 Mar 2018 17:05:34 +0000 KT326 2808114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That seems to be the norm in our area. My first son had a horrible transition to one nap (but he hated sleep in general...) and the daycare we were at wasn't the best for sleep, it could get noisy because it was one giant room for 0-2 year.</p> <p>We moved to a different daycare for baby#2. I was worried about the transition, he would take two naps anywhere from 30 minutes to 1.5 hours each. He has been there for almost two months and has been doing fantastic with one nap. He easily naps 2-2.5 hours on a cot. </p> <p>Once in awhile, if he was up early, he will fall asleep around 10, they let him sleep for a little bit and then wake him up if he doesn't wake up on his own. </p> <p>I like the young toddler room, they have a lot more activities for the kids, they get scheduled outdoor time (2 hours/day depending on weather). They are starting to learn about circle time. I walked in to pick him up one day and all 8 toddlers were sitting in a half circle while one of the teachers read a book. It was one of the cutest things I have ever seen! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-forcing-dropping-a-nap#post-2808113 Tue, 06 Mar 2018 16:38:04 +0000 erinbaderin 2808113@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That seems too young to me. I see from your other posts that you’re thinking about quitting daycare altogether but if you have to stay where you are I would definitely discuss your concerns with the director. Maybe she could go in with the big kids for most of the day but back with the littler ones for nap times? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-forcing-dropping-a-nap#post-2808075 Tue, 06 Mar 2018 13:32:57 +0000 DesertDreams88 2808075@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO doesn't go to daycare, BUT, I will say I was really surprised about how quickly the 1-nap transition was for our family... everything I read on HB and elsewhere seemed to make it a big long ordeal, and it was maybe a 3-week transition, tops?? And basically, at 15 months, I was like "No WAY is he ready to drop a nap" and then by the end of 16 months, despite my best efforts to KEEP the nap, he dropped to 1 nap on his own. So maybe LO will surprise you. </p> <p>Though for him, he kept his morning nap longer, and it shifted to midday, then to afternoon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-forcing-dropping-a-nap#post-2808069 Tue, 06 Mar 2018 13:09:15 +0000 Meso 2808069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my LO had to transition at 12 months to another room with only one nap as well. i talked to the teachers and director because i was concerned as well. they said that if she really needs a nap in the morning, they'll let her nap, but that most kids were so into the new activities in the new room that they were ok, without the morning nap. for about a month my LO took a nap in the new room in the mornings... they let her sleep on the cot in the corner away from the activities the other kids were doing, or just held her. but after that, she's been doing well with the one nap. maybe you can ask the director/teachers if they would allow your LO to sleep in the mornings if it seemed LO needed it </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-forcing-dropping-a-nap#post-2808064 Tue, 06 Mar 2018 12:56:07 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2808064@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Same thing happened at our daycare. The young one year old room did a scheduled class to nap after lunch. LO still took two naps on the weekends for about the first 3 weeks then his weekly schedule became our weekend schedule. Unlike at daycare w don’t wake him up, so he usually sleeps at least 45 minutes linger at home. Each room change meant more activities, more age appropriate toys and new learning opportunities for LO, so I wouldn’t have held him back even if that was an option. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-forcing-dropping-a-nap#post-2808062 Tue, 06 Mar 2018 12:50:19 +0000 jennlin821 2808062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@shabang: Bright Horizons is our #1 choice, there is only one in the area and they keep putting us off saying availability in Jan, May, Fall. :( I guess we'll just be on the waiting list forever. We thought our current daycare was temporary and she would be at BH by the time she moved to the toddler room, so we didn't shop around more. I guess we should have. </p> <p> Thanks for everyone chiming in. I don't feel better, but at least I know I'm not alone! </p> <p>Can anyone recommend a nanny in the Portland Maine area? I just can't do the daycare stress anymore! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-forcing-dropping-a-nap#post-2808059 Tue, 06 Mar 2018 12:47:57 +0000 Becky 2808059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Echoing what most other responders said, this is standard at our daycare too. DD2 is a suuuuper good baller and was taking 1.5 hours in the morning and 2 in the afternoon. She struggled at first so I said something along the lines of “she’s still taking 2 naps at home and is usually really tired for her morning nap. Is she doing okay until you guys put her down?” Because my concern was that she would be miserable all morning. They said she seemed totally fine but that they could put her down for a morning nap. I took their word for it and she’s fine now. I kept her on 2 naps at home for a bit, but one nap is so much more convenient (DD2 is 4 and it was limiting what we could do with her). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-forcing-dropping-a-nap#post-2808057 Tue, 06 Mar 2018 12:39:56 +0000 Ajsmommy 2808057@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were in an inhome daycare and she transitioned DD to one nap around 13-14 mos and I wasn't too keen on it.. however it worked out fine. I think it's pretty standard but I totally understand your mama instincts screaming. I chose to go with the flow and watched DD to see how she did and she did fine so I never made it an issue. I do remember early on that she would still nap twice on some Saturdays in the beginning of transitioning and some nights she was ready for bed a little earlier than usual. But for the most part it was smooth. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-forcing-dropping-a-nap#post-2808050 Tue, 06 Mar 2018 12:28:12 +0000 muffinsmuffins 2808050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were in a home daycare from 12-18 months and weren’t forced to drop the nap, but our provider tried it to see how he would tolerate it. She would put him down earlier for the afternoon if needed and see how long he could make it, then slowly start pushing it towards 12 or 12:30. We found the 6/6:30 bedtime was the norm even without the dropped nap as there was so much going on. He was fine to transition, though he did have the opportunity for a short cat nap in the morning if needed.<br /> The sleep transitions and adapting to daycare activities difficulties definitely peaked around that age to after 18 months. Personally, I loved him on one longer nap so it was worth it. We would do a morning cat nap on weekends for a couple weeks as well until he didn’t seem to need it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-forcing-dropping-a-nap#post-2808036 Tue, 06 Mar 2018 11:36:48 +0000 lilyofthewest 2808036@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh. Naps and sleep schedules are so hard. We've always had the opposite problem...daycare somehow kept LO on three naps months after he'd dropped to two at home (and then likewise on two when he'd dropped to one, and now he only ever naps at daycare). We can't get him to sleep at night when they convince him to sleep so much! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-forcing-dropping-a-nap#post-2808020 Tue, 06 Mar 2018 10:54:11 +0000 shabang 2808020@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jennlin821: Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry you've had to search so much for a good fit daycare. No, it shouldn't be a never-ending search. We've had both kids (and soon the third) in a Bright Horizons, and while it's been very structured, it's been a wonderful experience. I hope you find something that works for your family soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-forcing-dropping-a-nap#post-2808014 Tue, 06 Mar 2018 10:46:43 +0000 raspberries 2808014@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Unfortunately, this seems to be the norm at daycares around here. DS1 moved up to the toddler room at 15 months and was dropped to one nap there. He went to daycare three days a week, so on the other 4 days of the week when he was home with me, he continued to take 2 naps until about 17/18 months. I'm not a fan of the forced nap dropping, but we bumped his bedtime back a little bit and he adjusted pretty easily. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-forcing-dropping-a-nap#post-2808008 Tue, 06 Mar 2018 10:28:16 +0000 alphagam84 2808008@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When my daughter moved to the toddler room they also had one set nap time right after lunch. Most children drop their nap around one year and go down to only one nap. They can't have separate nap times for different kids, no way that would work with the activities and schedules done for the toddlers. Typically they nap on cots throughout the room so there wouldn't even be a place for someone to take an extra nap. Your child will adjust! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-forcing-dropping-a-nap#post-2808003 Tue, 06 Mar 2018 10:15:45 +0000 jennlin821 2808003@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@shabang: Technically this is our first room transition, only because we moved. This daycare has a room for tiny babies (0-crawling) then the second infant room that DD is in now. We've been with this daycare since October (10 mo old), but DD just started to walk consistently about 2 weeks ago! </p> <p>I feel like the age of her current room has changed, and they have several young babies, so they are trying to push her into the older room because she's walking. When she started in the room, she was the youngest by about 3mo, and her peers were all walking/running. </p> <p>We did try to drop a nap at daycare a 3 weeks ago... Her afternoon nap was about 2-2.5 hours, but I had to put her to bed at 6pm or earlier. I was basically picking her up from daycare, driving home, having her meltdown while we put on pj's and put her into bed. So that my reasoning behind her not being ready to drop that nap. </p> <p>I get that she might will probably have two schedules (daycare &amp; weekend) but I just feel we are being rushed into a room she's not ready for. </p> <p>I will hopefully feel better after I see the new classroom and talk to the teachers; maybe then i'll talk to the director about specific questions/problems. </p> <p>I'm not happy with this daycare, we are on a waitlist for our #1 choice; they said there would be availability in May so we've been planning on that, but now they told us maybe the fall, maybe never. So we are back to searching for daycare. Is this a never ending search? I've had daycare problems from the first. This is DD's 4th daycare (due to a move). We are lucky she is so flexible. But I can't handle the stress!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-forcing-dropping-a-nap#post-2807995 Tue, 06 Mar 2018 10:06:10 +0000 peachykeen 2807995@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Will they let her lay down on her own in the afternoon if she really seems to need it? Daycare tried this with DD1 at 8-9 months and she resisted most of the time due to activity in the room but a few times she did fall asleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-forcing-dropping-a-nap#post-2807994 Tue, 06 Mar 2018 10:05:05 +0000 peachykeen 2807994@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agree that this is pretty standard (often at 12 months). It concerned me as well as DD1 moved up at 8 months (!) and she was not ready for 1 nap. At 12 months she was napping on a cot, which seemed to help her nap better and by 14 months she did not seem to miss that 2nd nap. </p> <p>It might be rough for a few days, but I bet your LO will adjust quickly. We let DD1 take 2 naps on the weekend for a while after the switch but she didn't really need them after a while. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-forcing-dropping-a-nap#post-2807993 Tue, 06 Mar 2018 10:04:32 +0000 shabang 2807993@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That said, our school always shifted to one nap about a month before in the infant room before moving to the 15mo and up room. Has that been done? When you speak to the director, that may be something to ask for - push it back a month and try to get her on the new schedule now with her current teachers/room where she's comfortable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-forcing-dropping-a-nap#post-2807992 Tue, 06 Mar 2018 10:03:05 +0000 shabang 2807992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is probably the first room transition at school, right? I remember how overwhelming that seemed. </p> <p>I've found that the kids always do better than I expect, and it's really nice when they move to one nap because you get a solid block of time in the middle of the day. After the initial adjustment period (length depends on the child), I've found that they fall right into the new routine with the rest of the class. Bedtime/wakeup may shift a bit in the meantime, but it settles into a new normal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-forcing-dropping-a-nap#post-2807991 Tue, 06 Mar 2018 09:56:12 +0000 Mrs D 2807991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you know the age range of the next room? </p> <p>In our school they move out of the infant room at 12 mos OR when they become highly mobile. Its generally for the safety of the littler ones.</p> <p>Our Toddler 1 room is more or less 12-18mos of age. Anyone 12 mos or older naps on a tot - cribs are only for less than 12 mos olds. They also move them down to 1 nap - right after lunch. The nap ends up being longer...2-2.5 hours. They keep the lights dim from Noon-2:30 unless all kids are awake. </p> <p>For us, it was actually better. DD started taking 1 longer nap. She used to only nap 1-1.5 hours in the infant room at a time. Plus - I feel the structure in the new room was a bit more tiring, so her sleep in general improved.</p> <p>DD was delayed in moving from Toddler 1 to Toddler 2...she moved at 20 mos instead of 18 mos and I noticed her having more disciplinary issues which I attribute to her being "bored" as the oldest in the room.</p> <p>You might find she transitions just fine. For us, both our DDs remained at 2 naps on the weekend for a month or two after transitioning to 1 nap at school! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-forcing-dropping-a-nap#post-2807988 Tue, 06 Mar 2018 09:53:24 +0000 skinnycow 2807988@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Unfortunately I think this is pretty standard. My daughter moved up to the toddler room at 13 months and they dropped her second nap also. The transition was rough (we had to move bedtime up a little) but she eventually adjusted. We did not switch her to a one nap schedule at home until she was 15-16 months old and she seemed to have no issues going back and forth. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-forcing-dropping-a-nap#post-2807984 Tue, 06 Mar 2018 09:51:04 +0000 snowjewelz 2807984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What is the reasoning for the move? For us, the 1 nap room is basically the toddler room where there's a lot more structure and no more "nap whenever they need to". Also, that 1 nap would be on cots! </p> <p>DD2 is 15 mo this month also; and she is def too young to move up. I don't think DD1 moved up till closer to 18 mo. With that said, DD1 dropped to 1 nap exactly at 15 mo, and DD2 can do either 1 or 2. </p> <p>I would def bring this up to see if there's anyway she can stay in the current room a while longer if you feel that she absolutely cannot move to 1 nap. But she may surprise you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-forcing-dropping-a-nap#post-2807978 Tue, 06 Mar 2018 09:42:21 +0000 LadyDi 2807978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS moved to a new room at 12 months and they only do one nap. I wasn’t a fan because he was only there a couple of days a week and I didn’t think he was ready to drop a nap and I was very concerned it would mess up his routine at home. But, it ended up being fine and he naturally dropped a nap when we went on vacation around 15 months. I found that his afternoon nap was a little longer after he dropped his morning one. That being said you should trust your mama instinct and talk to them if you’re concerned. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-forcing-dropping-a-nap#post-2807976 Tue, 06 Mar 2018 09:39:09 +0000 JennyPenny 2807976@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No advice here, just commiseration. My DS is 10 months and his DCP is dropping his morning nap for the same reason. They move up to the toddler room around 12 months and are supposed to be on one afternoon nap at that time. He takes 4-5 hours worth of naps between his two naps at home so he is definitely not ready. I'm just too non-confrontational to do anything about it :( It was the same with DS1, we just left him taking 2 naps on the weekend for a long time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-forcing-dropping-a-nap#post-2807971 Tue, 06 Mar 2018 09:35:34 +0000 jennlin821 2807971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD is 15 mo old, and is scheduled to move up to the next room on 4/1. However, they allow only one nap, after lunch around 1pm. Right now DD consistently takes two naps:<br /> - at daycare: Nap @ 10am &amp; 3pm, approx. 1-1.5 hrs each.<br /> - at home: Nap @ 10am &amp; 2pm, approx. 1.5-2 hrs each. </p> <p>She goes to bed 6:30-7, and sleeps 12 hours+. </p> <p>I do not feel that she is showing any signs of dropping a nap. Additionally, her morning nap is usually the longest/best. </p> <p>I don't know what the criteria to move up in the classroom is, I had though it was 18mo, no 16mo giving her a much longer chance to drop that nap. I do plan on talking to the director/teachers, but I wanted to some input first. </p> <p>Help me out? My mama instincts are screaming that DD isn't ready for this. </p>