https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 18:14:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-fed-xander-formula/page/4#post-1220734 Sat, 16 Nov 2013 08:50:58 +0000 Adira 1220734@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meganmp: That's a good way to look at it! Thanks for that! :)</p> <p>@Mrs. High Heels: Thank you for sharing your experience with Noelle's allergy incident at daycare! It makes me feel better to know that despite what happened, you still feel comfortable with her continuing to go there, because I think that's how I feel about Xander and his daycare too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-fed-xander-formula/page/4#post-1220552 Sat, 16 Nov 2013 00:26:08 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1220552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Oh girl… I completely know how you're feeling right now, and about giving them a 2nd chance. It really was an honest mistake. I don't know if you ever read about my experience with Noelle's daycare - they fed her peanut butter as a snack when it is written in all her paperwork that she is extremely allergic. We ended up rushing her to urgent care, and they felt sooo terrible. I was really upset, but when I talked to the director and the teacher they both started crying and were visibly shaken by what happened. They became extra vigilant about things from there on out. Hopefully this will be a lesson learned for them and they'll be extra careful with Xander from here on out. </p> <p>If you're interested in reading about daycare experience, it's here… it was really scary because it was Noelle's 2nd time getting exposed to PB, and I read that sometimes subsequent exposures to an allergen are even worse!<br /> <a href="http://www.hellobee.com/2012/11/07/our-peanut-butter-scare/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hellobee.com/2012/11/07/our-peanut-butter-scare/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-fed-xander-formula/page/4#post-1220539 Sat, 16 Nov 2013 00:06:36 +0000 meganmp 1220539@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I was thinking about this today, and I'm with you on the pride thing of being EBF (I'm the same with my twins). I figured out how to look at it, though- you can think of it as, "I've never had to supplement with formula", as that is true. I know that it may seem silly to others, but I totally understand the mind set! I'm so sorry this happened, and I hope that both X and you are feeling better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-fed-xander-formula/page/4#post-1220464 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 22:46:09 +0000 googly-eyes 1220464@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: I still don't see the puffs thing? Page one of this post? But anyhow I was responding only to this post so I have no opinion about whether she should search for another daycare. Sounds like she should, but at the same time when I read HB and compare what I've seen in centers and schools I do think there's often a little bit of as disconnect in expectations for group care and what actually happens...sometimes. Not saying that it's true for anyone specifically but it probably affects my responses. I do wonder whether the new teacher was even made aware of the puffs incident, not that it would factor into my opinion of the center but of the teacher.</p> <p>@emg86: That's a good idea so long as the parents are ok with photos and what not... It is an especially good idea if there are lots of kids with allergies or a lot of kids to one adult. Four to one may sound manageable but that's four different nap schedules, four different feeding schedules, etc etc when you're talking about infants...mix ups, kids taking each others bottles/food, all of that kind of stuff gets hectic enough, but the more info is made readily available to teachers (and teachers breaking other teachers!!) the better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-fed-xander-formula/page/4#post-1220297 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 20:57:07 +0000 silver1 1220297@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Omg so sorry this happened. Hope Xander is feeling better! poor guy :( I totally understand how important it is to you reg Xander getting BM and following your instructions. Its a tough choice you like the daycare but they are not following 100%. Just a suggestion maybe you could met with a parent in other daycare (if at all possible) to get a feel and select a backup to be prepared if things don't work out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-fed-xander-formula/page/3#post-1220259 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 20:31:22 +0000 ALV91711 1220259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry this happened. I would be upset too. I'm glad that they told you right away and that you talked to the director. Hopefully they will take the right steps to make sure this doesn't happen in the future. </p> <p>Hope that Xander is feeling better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-fed-xander-formula/page/3#post-1219969 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 17:05:41 +0000 singingbee 1219969@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2PeasinaPod: and @Ms.Badger: I taught at a camp this past summer and a little girl had one of these because she is allergic to latex. It was a great bracelet and she knew to ask before she any kind if bandaid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-fed-xander-formula/page/3#post-1219968 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 17:05:34 +0000 Adira 1219968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2PeasinaPod: Definitely, so glad it's the weekend and I can spend the next two days with him! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-fed-xander-formula/page/3#post-1219966 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 17:05:00 +0000 Adira 1219966@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travellingbee: @MamaJ: Yeah, I wonder if his eczema might be related to my ingesting dairy... don't know though. I've mentioned it a couple times to his pediatrician and dermatologist, but neither of them thought I should eliminate dairy, so who knows!</p> <p>@cmomma17: His hives are definitely going down, but he has been fuss tonight... I'm not really sure why, but maybe it's because the formula is upsetting his stomach? But he's also teething, so I have no idea!</p> <p>@Ms.Badger: Thanks for that link!! I might have to look into getting one of those! Though not sure Xander will like having it on, haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-fed-xander-formula/page/3#post-1219958 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 17:01:49 +0000 2PeasinaPod 1219958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ms.Badger: This is such a great idea. I think I'm going to get one for my LO for day care days!</p> <p>@Adira: Hope Xander is feeling better. TGIF, right?? :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-fed-xander-formula/page/3#post-1219946 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 16:52:55 +0000 Periwinkle 1219946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be feeling the exact same way as you, and you have the right to be angry! I know how hard it is to feel like you've lost control of something as important as feeding. I've been there with my LO and I can relate. </p> <p>Big hugs to you and X. What a day :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-fed-xander-formula/page/3#post-1219929 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 16:39:44 +0000 MamaJ 1219929@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: oh man. I would be upset too. I hope he is feeling better! I also just wanted to let you know that I BF as well and don't eliminate dairy from my diet. But when I have given DS dairy (cheese, yogurt, etc) he always has a reaction. :( I thought he would be fine since I eat it but nope... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-fed-xander-formula/page/3#post-1219903 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 16:22:44 +0000 cmomma17 1219903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: how's the little guy doing? is he okay? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-fed-xander-formula/page/3#post-1219889 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 16:13:04 +0000 Beehive 1219889@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be really upset. I'm sorry you keep having to deal with these issues with your daycare... they seem a bit careless in the feeding department.</p> <p>ETA: just finished reading the comments - so scary that he had a reaction, and I'm glad to hear he's doing okay. It sounds like you had a good discussion with the director, and from the teacher's reaction I'm sure it was a mistake (one I'm sure she'll never make again!). Still very upsetting though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-fed-xander-formula/page/3#post-1219885 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 16:12:05 +0000 travelgirl1 1219885@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Poor Xander, glad he's okay now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-fed-xander-formula/page/3#post-1219872 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 16:06:26 +0000 Ms.Badger 1219872@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I don't know where you fall on the medical privacy, but you could get a allergy bracelet in a bright color to "remind" caregivers. Something like this: <a href="http://www.stickyj.com/ag1000c.html?source=googleps&#038;gclid=CNi5vfvY57oCFTRk7AodOT0AHQ#.UoaMreKtFqA" rel="nofollow">http://www.stickyj.com/ag1000c.html?source=googleps&#038;gclid=CNi5vfvY57oCFTRk7AodOT0AHQ#.UoaMreKtFqA</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-fed-xander-formula/page/3#post-1219868 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 16:05:06 +0000 winniebee 1219868@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, my son had mild eczema as well -- particularly when we started trials of cow's milk. he eventually outgrew the intolerance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-fed-xander-formula/page/3#post-1219852 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 15:59:01 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1219852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2PeasinaPod: Yea, I totally get that you would have to give that right but like you said, if my child even had a SLIGHT allergy (like this dairy reaction) I would want everyone and their mother to know about it. </p> <p>I like the idea that its posted in a public place with the child's picture because at this age the child cannot speak. Once they get a bit older you could ask the child to identify themselves </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-fed-xander-formula/page/3#post-1219810 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 15:41:45 +0000 travellingbee 1219810@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Sorry you are going through this. Poor little Xander. I second @Bookish in that you are the one who knows best for your sweet baby!<br /> On a side note, LaLeche has an article here:<br /> <a href="http://www.lalecheleague.org/nb/nbjulaug98p100.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.lalecheleague.org/nb/nbjulaug98p100.html</a> where they note that a breastfed baby that has an allergy to dairy may have the symptom of eczema, which Xander does.... "Eczema--dry, rough, red skin patches which can progress to open, weeping sores--is another common symptom among children allergic to cow's milk." So even though it seemed like he isn't affected by dairy in your diet, maybe he is? I'll be interested to see what the allergist says. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-fed-xander-formula/page/3#post-1219788 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 15:35:28 +0000 2PeasinaPod 1219788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Anytime! I had to sign a statement indicating that I full gave permission for anyone to know about his egg allergy b/c I want everyone and their mother to know about it. If it means saving his life, post this info everywhere! But I know there are some parents who are fiercely protective of any medical information (since they don't want their child defined by their allergy) so I get it. I just have a different mindset! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-fed-xander-formula/page/3#post-1219774 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 15:31:28 +0000 Adira 1219774@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2PeasinaPod: Thank you for that clarification! The director actually mentioned that they couldn't post anything public with his name and his allergies, but that they put the allergies in their roster that the teachers are supposed to check. She said if a child had a severe life threatening allergy, they will post a sign on the door saying something like "a child in this room has a severe allergy to ______ and we request that parents refrain from bringing in anything containing _____." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-fed-xander-formula/page/3#post-1219761 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 15:27:53 +0000 Mrsbells 1219761@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Sorry this happened it can be frustrating when daycares make mistakes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-fed-xander-formula/page/3#post-1219754 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 15:26:13 +0000 2PeasinaPod 1219754@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>And one last note! For those saying that they should have the children listed with the allergy next to their name, that's actually a violation of HIPAA without parental consent. Our daycare isn't allowed to post anything like that without parental permission...and even then, are heavily scrutinized by our state for doing so. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-fed-xander-formula/page/3#post-1219742 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 15:21:04 +0000 2PeasinaPod 1219742@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Also...totally off topic, but S has an egg allergy. He's had several things with egg in them (and I've had egg products while I was EPing early on), but he didn't have a reaction until I gave him a piece of scrambled egg. That's when he got hives and itchy eyes. The allergist will definitely be able to give you more information on how severe it is! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-fed-xander-formula/page/3#post-1219739 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 15:19:57 +0000 Bookish 1219739@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Don't worry for a second whether we think you are crazy or not! If *you* are comfortable, believe Xander is well taken care of, and are willing to give them another chance, then that's all that matters. We, despite our good intentions, should really have no bearing on what you do! It's your adorable little man, not ours, and you need to do what you feel most comfortable with.</p> <p>Lots of hugs to you both! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-fed-xander-formula/page/3#post-1219737 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 15:19:31 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1219737@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I'm glad you talked to the director. This is what I would have discussed. What is their policy, what is the training of the teacher, and what are they going to do in the future to make sure this doesn't happen again. </p> <p>As I mentioned, our daycare is required to post a big red allergy sheet in each class with a picture of the child and a list of the allergies. Even though you may not have everything identified with X, I would suggest seeing if they would post his name, picture, and allergies in a clear place in the classroom. Go ahead and put Dairy and Berries on there and maybe even a smaller footnote that he is on a STRICT feeding (only home provided food) until other allergies are sorted out. </p> <p>I would also consider getting new bottles or putting something really identifiable on his bottles so that a mistake doesn't happen again. Maybe get a bright neon blue/green paint or tape to put on the side. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-fed-xander-formula/page/3#post-1219734 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 15:18:59 +0000 Adira 1219734@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaG: I'm sure that's probably true - Xander seems to really love everyone, so he would probably be able to adjust to a new daycare just fine. There's just so many things I like about this daycare, that I'm loathe to switch! Plus there really aren't a TON of great options in our area. But I do know I have to do whatever's best for Xander, so switching is something to consider. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-fed-xander-formula/page/3#post-1219730 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 15:16:37 +0000 Adira 1219730@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: Oh, I completely agree! I know formula is great and I really have nothing against it - I think it's just upsetting because I've worked so hard to provide him with BM and I was proud of the fact he hadn't had formula, but I know it's not really a big deal in the grand scheme of things!</p> <p>And I was actually wondering if it might be something ELSE in the formula since I've been having milk and dairy all this time and he seems fine! But hopefully the allergist will have more insight into what's up!</p> <p>@2PeasinaPod: Yes, I do agree that this is their LAST CHANCE! If something like this happens again, I don't think I could continue to stay, even though we LOVE the location, price, and convenience of the place! But if they mess up what they feed him again, the shit it hitting the fan! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-fed-xander-formula/page/3#post-1219724 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 15:14:43 +0000 MamaG 1219724@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I certainly understand your desire to give the daycare one more chance. We have our daughter in a great daycare and we have had some hardships and heartburn. Change is hard when it concerns your child. We have changed daycares once and it was entirely planned. We knew the first daycare we used we didn't want to use beyond one year. We knew exactly where we wanted our daughter to move to and it was still hard.</p> <p>You have to know your tolerance level and be comfortable with it. I will say that I loved one of our daughters teachers and that's probably what made the decision the hardest. But know this, most of the people that work in daycare environments love children and are great with them. It's why they do what they do. Your child will almost certainly love another teacher elsewhere just as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-fed-xander-formula/page/3#post-1219713 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 15:11:05 +0000 Vegmama 1219713@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: You have every right to be upset. But, it also sounds like you're with a great daycare (that was pretty great to be honest with you). Hopefully his belly isn't upset from it! :) </p>