https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 29 May 2026 19:59:49 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-ventingunless-you-have-some-advice-long#post-1110273 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 12:55:57 +0000 tlcbaby 1110273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlek: Yeah-on the nights when DH and I are at home with him we still can't always figure out what he needs :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-ventingunless-you-have-some-advice-long#post-1110233 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 12:44:16 +0000 littlek 1110233@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tlcbaby: Ugh, my LO is 16 months old and that time frame is still hit or miss for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-ventingunless-you-have-some-advice-long#post-1110196 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 12:31:18 +0000 tlcbaby 1110196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlek: I do think it is hard for them to give him enough attention. It makes me almost wish they didn't take little babies! I teach from 5-7, which is of course his fussiest time. We pretty much put him to bed as soon as we get home. I might see if there is anyone close by who could watch him if things don't improve. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-ventingunless-you-have-some-advice-long#post-1110143 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 12:18:41 +0000 littlek 1110143@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tlcbaby: I didn't start taking my LO to the gym daycare until he was walking. I personally, didn't trust the care he would be receiving. </p> <p>What time do you teach? Is their a neighbor that can watch your LO? Or if it's in the afternoon, maybe a high schooler? I would want to confirm that they are CPR trained, but maybe that's an option. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-ventingunless-you-have-some-advice-long#post-1110119 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 12:08:37 +0000 tlcbaby 1110119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bunnylove08: That might be a good idea. I could go a little early and play with him there and maybe feed him if he is hungry. Or like @LazyLightning: said I could try going at the same time every day so he gets more used to it.</p> <p>I would be open to having someone come in, but it really negates my working at all if we paid to have a babysitter. I only work four hours a week so I am barely making any money as it is.</p> <p>@littlek: @SCG00387: I do agree that gym daycares aren't really set up for infant care, but they take them at six weeks so I thought it would go a little easier than this. A is 3 1/2 months. I thought this would be good for him and me, but it is starting to feel like so much trouble.</p> <p>I really appreciate everyone's advice! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-ventingunless-you-have-some-advice-long#post-1109900 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 10:32:29 +0000 immabeetoo 1109900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: I thought the same thing!</p> <p>I don't have any experience with gym daycares but worked in a church daycare and we just told parents it wasn't working if their itty bitty was miserable. There is only so much one person can do, and little babies usually need more attention than that setting tends to allow, IMO. Sounds like you've gotten other good advice so I hope some of it is helpful! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-ventingunless-you-have-some-advice-long#post-1109892 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 10:29:18 +0000 LazyLightning 1109892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think he'll get better as time goes on, but with the odd schedule he probably can't figure out what's up. I know LO gets out of whack if I even pick her up early from daycare one time, and she goes every day!! So can you...<br /> a) get a babysitter or part time care in your home while you work?<br /> or<br /> b) maybe see if you can teach a class every day at the same time(ish), so he goes every day? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-ventingunless-you-have-some-advice-long#post-1109859 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 10:21:38 +0000 littlek 1109859@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tlcbaby: This is a gym daycare, right? How old is your LO? I didn't start taking my LO to the gym daycare until he was older because they are not really capable of dealing with infants. I see as it as more useful for older children (read: older than 1). I think you should just get a babysitter to come to your house to watch your LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-ventingunless-you-have-some-advice-long#post-1109806 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 10:10:41 +0000 mrsmenow 1109806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With him being young and not having a regular daycare schedule, it will be really hard for him to get into any type of normal routine there. And if this is the same gym that gym members just drop their kids off at while they work out, they aren't necessarily trained to take care of infants the way a regular daycare is. They usually see kids so infrequently for short periods of time their jobs are completely different then full time care providers. I would try to see if you could get a regular babysitter that could come to your home or you could drop LO at or an actual daycare center-they might have better luck:) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-ventingunless-you-have-some-advice-long#post-1109789 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 10:07:02 +0000 regberadaisy 1109789@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @Bluebonnet: . I think it's also because it's not a set time and the people are probably different. If you def teach two nights a week I think you're better off having someone come to your home? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-ventingunless-you-have-some-advice-long#post-1109788 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 10:06:29 +0000 bunnylove08 1109788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tlcbaby: since they are trying to stroll him, maybe you can bring a carrier. For some reason carriers really sooth babies. Maybe its the combination of the motion, closeness and warmth. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-ventingunless-you-have-some-advice-long#post-1109787 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 10:06:21 +0000 looch 1109787@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Since your LO is only going for a few hours a week, what about trying to find a sitter that comes to your house?</p> <p>It might be less disruptive for him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-ventingunless-you-have-some-advice-long#post-1109774 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 10:02:10 +0000 MsLipGloss 1109774@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tlcbaby: </p> <p>ETA: Ah, just saw the info regarding this being a gym daycare. I don't have any experience with that, so I will defer to the other mamas! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-ventingunless-you-have-some-advice-long#post-1109770 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 10:00:41 +0000 Bluebonnet 1109770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In my experience many gym daycares are not equipped to handle infants. The staff doesn't have a lot of experience with infants and they don't know common cues or how to soothe LOs. </p> <p>Is there anyway you could find alternate childcare until LO is a little older? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-ventingunless-you-have-some-advice-long#post-1109747 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 09:53:57 +0000 tlcbaby 1109747@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: Well they know I work there and to only get me if it is really bad. His crying never escalated, he just fussed the whole time. But DH was there so I wish they had gotten him. I hate to question them, but I sometimes wish I could be a fly on the wall in there! They all seem sweet and patient with him - I see them walking him around the gym in the stroller sometimes, but it just seems they can't calm him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-ventingunless-you-have-some-advice-long#post-1109742 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 09:52:36 +0000 bunnylove08 1109742@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tlcbaby: hugs to you. My DD has a really hard time adjusting to daycare. What i found that was helpful was to stay with her until she is calm. It took a while since she only goes to daycare twice a week but today was a huge milestone for us. She was clingy for a bit and then she walked out of the room and went to get blocks to play with. I was so proud of her. She also LOVES books so I took a book off the bookshelf for her and we read for a little. </p> <p>Your DS sounds like he is younger than my DD so maybe if you could stay with him for a little, give him a bottle before you leave so he is calm and leave something with your scent, maybe a blanket so he knows you're near. </p> <p>It gets better with time and thats the hardest thing to hear. Sending you lots of hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-ventingunless-you-have-some-advice-long#post-1109738 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 09:52:15 +0000 MsLipGloss 1109738@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wait, they're supposed to get you if your LO cries for more than 15 minutes, but they let him go 2.5 hours in the swing while he was crying? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-just-ventingunless-you-have-some-advice-long#post-1109717 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 09:46:24 +0000 tlcbaby 1109717@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So A only goes to daycare (at the gym) twice a week for about three hours. He randomly goes at other times if DH and I work out together on the weekends, but he always goes two evenings a week while I am teaching classes.</p> <p>He has been SO hit or miss when he goes to daycare. He hardly ever takes a bottle from them (he usually takes one from me, DH or a family member after a little fussing), he usually won't nap even though he needs it and he fusses and cries the whole time. Sometimes they even have to come and get me or DH and have us pick him up early from daycare because they can't get him to do anything and they are supposed to get the parents if they cry for more than 15 minutes.</p> <p>So last night I went to pick him up and he was crying in the swing. They said he had been crying since I dropped him off 2 1/2 hours earlier, but he never got red in the face or had tears-he was just angry. He wouldn't eat or sleep for them and he just cried the entire time. I felt so sad for him and I don't know what to do to try and make it better when he goes. I really enjoy the few hours a week that I do work outside the home, it helps keep me sane and I get my workout in.</p> <p>By the time we got him home, I gave him only two ounces from the bottle they tried to feed him and he fell asleep and he NEVER falls asleep taking a bottle. He was just so exhausted. </p> <p>I don't really know if I am looking for advice or just venting. I just hate for him to be so upset and I keep thinking the longer he goes to daycare it'll get better, but it has been a couple of months and it isn't improving. I am tired of throwing out pumped milk that he doesn't drink at daycare, too.</p> <p>Just frustrating for me and I feel frustrated for A because he is having such a hard time. Thanks for listening. :( </p>