https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 08 May 2026 12:41:17 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-question-2-y-hitting-and-kicking-but-cant-move-up-to-older-class#post-2723424 Wed, 12 Apr 2017 12:11:27 +0000 littlejoy 2723424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh man, this is so tough. My LO was in a Montessori room with four other 2 year olds, but she was potty trained, talking, and doing this boredom aggression (which, I hate that word - it's totally normal behavior). In our case, I think the 2 year old room didn't work because it was too small - so hopefully the update from your school has space and activities to keep them interested. Her school had a plan to start moving the kids, by age, and we kindly demanded (really, it was a kind, thoughtful conversation) they move her first. Once she moved, she THRIVED. Since then, all of those kiddos are back with her, and they all get along great because they have more to do/explore. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-question-2-y-hitting-and-kicking-but-cant-move-up-to-older-class#post-2723417 Wed, 12 Apr 2017 11:58:55 +0000 Mrs. Blue 2723417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Yeah, I'm not sure either. I wonder if a couple other parents of older kids (I know there are at least two that are slightly older than G--like within a month or so, but still older) complained about it because I haven't even had a chance to talk to the interim director yet because she wasn't there yesterday. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-question-2-y-hitting-and-kicking-but-cant-move-up-to-older-class#post-2723414 Wed, 12 Apr 2017 11:55:23 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2723414@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: that seems so odd, but I hope it works out. Unless the kids change I don't understand why they hadn't started the new programs already. If all the kids remain the same how does that help him with being more physically capable than the others? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-question-2-y-hitting-and-kicking-but-cant-move-up-to-older-class#post-2723411 Wed, 12 Apr 2017 11:51:04 +0000 Mrs. Blue 2723411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In a weird update, today there was a note in the cubbies that his current class is now going to be a "2 year old class" since most of the kids are 2 or are closer to 2 than to 1 (per the note, I'm not sure of anyone else's exact ages). This is fine with me, as long as they're going to actually make it a 2-year old class with more age appropriate toys and activities. I'm curious to hear their plan or if it's just labeling it as something else but staying the same in practice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-question-2-y-hitting-and-kicking-but-cant-move-up-to-older-class#post-2723410 Wed, 12 Apr 2017 11:49:07 +0000 Mrs. Blue 2723410@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ElbieKay: All of the daycares around here that are even okay, much less great, have a waiting list of at least 3-6 months, and the really good ones are 6-12 months, so trying to find somewhere new wouldn't really get him out of that class any sooner. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-question-2-y-hitting-and-kicking-but-cant-move-up-to-older-class#post-2723328 Wed, 12 Apr 2017 10:17:29 +0000 ElbieKay 2723328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would look for a new daycare. That is too long to wait. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-question-2-y-hitting-and-kicking-but-cant-move-up-to-older-class#post-2723059 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 18:18:11 +0000 matador84 2723059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can they move him up on days another kid isn't there? They used to do this at my kids school--they would still stay in ratio and there was almost always at least 1 kids absent every day! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-question-2-y-hitting-and-kicking-but-cant-move-up-to-older-class#post-2723056 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 17:55:29 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 2723056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: Don't feel bad or guilty about his behavior. I would say that the onus is on the teachers to create a more simulating environment until he can move up. They could ask the Twos class what kind of toys/activities they have there and adapt them for their classroom. They can give him a "leadership" role, where he is a special teacher helper (tucking in chairs, helping to clean, assisting the littlest ones). This way he will be more occupied and the teachers will be more engaged with him so they can intervene if he physical.<br /> I think room back up is very common in child care. It seems like it'd be easy to "keep a space", but I've had some behind the scenes experience and it can be quite difficult. But I think the suggestions of you offering flexibility could be helpful. They may have part-time space and floating between rooms could be okay (I know in my preschool, this wouldn't be okay, but perhaps it's because of our structure?) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-question-2-y-hitting-and-kicking-but-cant-move-up-to-older-class#post-2722984 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 14:14:55 +0000 Mrs. Dolphin 2722984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's tough! Lion is the youngest in his cohort and starting acting out (tantrums at dropoff and generally more tears) when four of his five classmates moved up. He had one other friend that had been in his class since the infant room and she started biting Lion more often during this time.</p> <p>The mother of the girl who was still in that class and I were chatting about how both of our kids wanted to be in the "big kid room" and she actually made an offer to have the kids alternate days when a spot opened up for her daughter. Luckily, we didn't need to take her up on that offer because we found out that three weeks after her daughter was scheduled to move up, Lion had his scheduled move up date. But perhaps there might be an understanding parent willing to do this?</p> <p>On days when there were fewer kids in the preschool room or in the mornings before they were full, or in the late afternoons when some kids would leave, they would let Lion visit the preschool. This helped a lot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-question-2-y-hitting-and-kicking-but-cant-move-up-to-older-class#post-2722960 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 13:29:30 +0000 macintosh 2722960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This seems odd and inflexible of them to me. DS is almost 2 and he's in a room with some under 2's and some young 2s. They sometimes combine with the younger toddlers but they are all very mobile and physical. The actual 2's room is the next step, which should be in a couple months. I've seen them shuffle kids around a lot when the room gets full, or as kids get picked up and they combine classes to send staff home. I would absolutely look at other daycare did they couldn't keep my son busy. If I wanted him bored I'd keep him home all day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-question-2-y-hitting-and-kicking-but-cant-move-up-to-older-class#post-2722946 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 13:11:51 +0000 gingerbebe 2722946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah I would ask if there is any room with part time kids so he could go maybe one or two days a week even. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-question-2-y-hitting-and-kicking-but-cant-move-up-to-older-class#post-2722902 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 11:52:06 +0000 dagret 2722902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: our daycare was telling us the same thing about our daughter (in the 1 yr room about at 2 yrs 1 month) and my husband was patient for about a week and they kept telling us that she had to be more patient and gentle with the babies. They had no plans to move her up until the summer -- and they had 5 kids turn 2 in 4 weeks, so there was really no reason to keep a whole ratio of kids in a lower room other than $$$. He told them if they didn't make a plan to move her up we were going to switch daycares. Not my preferred plan of action but lo and behold they suddenly found room. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-question-2-y-hitting-and-kicking-but-cant-move-up-to-older-class#post-2722887 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 11:33:00 +0000 ktdid23 2722887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: I would ask. It sounds like this "behavioral" issue would resolve itself as soon as he was with the appropriate peers! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-question-2-y-hitting-and-kicking-but-cant-move-up-to-older-class#post-2722881 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 11:26:36 +0000 Mrs. Blue 2722881@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ktdid23: I know for sure that there's at least one that just turned 3 (my friend's daughter) &amp; I would guess there are others. I'm betting that they will tell me the young 3s class doesn't have any room, though. Our oldest two are in the older threes class and when everyone is there (about half of the younger and older 3s go to preschool in the morning on the other side of the building at the private school), they have 26 in their room (with 2 teachers). That gave me an idea, though, that maybe they could at least move a couple of the older kids in the 2 year old class to the threes in the mornings and move Graham and a couple others up to the twos in the morning. I'll have to propose that and see if they would consider that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-question-2-y-hitting-and-kicking-but-cant-move-up-to-older-class#post-2722877 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 11:21:39 +0000 ktdid23 2722877@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: Are there any children in the 2 year old room that might have recently turned 3 and are ready to start visiting Preschool? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-question-2-y-hitting-and-kicking-but-cant-move-up-to-older-class#post-2722875 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 11:18:36 +0000 Mrs. Blue 2722875@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SeptMomma12: Yes, he's been in this exact class since he started daycare right after he turned 1, so they definitely know and there are one or two other kids that are around his age, too, so planning hasn't happened very well. I know they have some teachers kids, so I think they were just hoping everyone could make it until summer when they're numbers drop. :meh: To make things more complicated, the director quit about a month ago, and another employee is the interim director. She's very nice, but definitely isn't a take-charge type, so I don't see her having any idea how to navigate the situation. </p> <p>I'm in agreement with you and @ktdid23: that he would do better in the older class with kids more his age where he would be more into the activities, etc. Plus, since he has older brothers anyway, I think he is just more a "play with the big kids" kind of kid.</p> <p>I'll talk to his teachers today and maybe the interim director and see if there is some wiggle room anywhere that they could at least get him in there part time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-question-2-y-hitting-and-kicking-but-cant-move-up-to-older-class#post-2722869 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 11:08:53 +0000 SeptMomma12 2722869@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would definitely push back on the daycare a bit. It's not his (or your) fault the 2 year old class is full. If he's been there a while they would have known when he'd be turning 2 and should have planned classes accordingly. </p> <p>My daughter was very physical very early and was walking before anyone else in her class. She started getting into a lot of "trouble" around 14 months and daycare suggested she was probably frustrated that the other kids couldn't keep up. They asked if we'd be okay with moving her into the 18-24 month class and we agreed. It made a huge difference - she was so much happier (and better behaved) with kids who were running/climbing like her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-question-2-y-hitting-and-kicking-but-cant-move-up-to-older-class#post-2722862 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 10:58:35 +0000 ktdid23 2722862@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, thats a tough situation. Can the teachers do more with him - painting, play-doh, etc? I'm sure he's bored with the interaction/stimulation in that classroom. I wish there was a way to bump him up to the next classroom so he's with his peers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-question-2-y-hitting-and-kicking-but-cant-move-up-to-older-class#post-2722856 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 10:51:23 +0000 Mrs. Blue 2722856@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: These are good questions for me to ask. We haven't had a situation in the year we've been there where they needed to move up and couldn't, so I'm not sure what they typically do. I'll ask and see if there are certain times of day when he could go for at least a little while. I really think it would be smoother for him, the other kids, and his teachers, who we love and who he adores. I hate that he's been hard for them lately because they are precious and some of the best ones we've ever had. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-question-2-y-hitting-and-kicking-but-cant-move-up-to-older-class#post-2722848 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 10:41:25 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2722848@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry you are in this situation. Our LO just transitioned to the next room and the change has been great so far being around more physically capable kids.</p> <p>Are there any opportunities during the day with fluid staffing ratios for him to spend time in the other room? What has daycare done in the past when room is not available? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-question-2-y-hitting-and-kicking-but-cant-move-up-to-older-class#post-2722840 Tue, 11 Apr 2017 10:30:39 +0000 Mrs. Blue 2722840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our littlest is 2y 4m and is still in the one year old class because the class for 2 -ear olds is too full. He's been getting in trouble for hitting or kicking the other kids lately. Of course, we talk to him as much as you can talk to a 2-year old about being gentle, not hurting our friends, etc. </p> <p>DH talked to his teachers yesterday about it and they all agree that moving him up to the next class would really help because he seems bored with the toys and interactions in the class (he's very verbal and physically active compared to the other kiddos, I'm sure in large part due to the age gap). Unfortunately, due to how full the next class is, they think it will be sometime this summer before there's room to move him up. I know it's not atypical for a 2-year old to have to work through learning that those actions aren't appropriate, but I feel bad that he's in a room with kids who are barely one and don't have the ability yet to play on the same level, move away, etc. :bummed: </p> <p>Any ideas how to help him not be so physical with the little ones in his room while we wait out moving to an older class? </p>