https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 26 Jun 2026 19:45:17 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-teachers-not-offering-information#post-921576 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 08:50:57 +0000 regberadaisy 921576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CurlyGirlPA: I think a lot of us actually have open communication with our LO's daycare teachers.</p> <p>All of my LO's teachers are extremely great about giving accurate information and more detail at pick up. There is just this one teacher that is lackluster and gives generic responses. Honestly, this particular teacher is sucky and we have given her more than 3 strikes so I'm about to write a official complaint to the director.</p> <p>Are your LO's daycare teachers responsive? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-teachers-not-offering-information#post-921565 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 08:47:36 +0000 mediagirl 921565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CurlyGirlPA: did you have a chance to read the other responses? Everyone was really awesome in offering tips and advice on what I (and others having the same problem) can do to help in this situation. </p> <p>It is VERY difficult moving a child from one room where she knows everyone, has 1 teacher for every 2-3 children, sleeps in a crib and has bottles everyday to another room where everything has changed. She now sleeps on a cot, there are 10 kids in a room with 2 teachers, she eats 3 meals and drinks out of a straw cup. All of that takes some getting used to for the child and the parent. </p> <p>I'm not a very verbal person so it is difficult for me to start going into this room where the teachers aren't very verbal either. The infant room teachers and I are friends I can't see that happening with the teachers in the 1's room and so it is more difficult for me to talk to them. I asked for tips on what I should do and I got some very good suggestions from folks. I hope others get assistance from the responses on this post, too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-teachers-not-offering-information#post-921464 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 08:15:08 +0000 CurlyGirlPA 921464@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi Ladies. I know my view might be controversial but I'm going to put it out there anyway. These caretakers have been with the children all day long. It's not easy to have a hands-on job that entails reading minds, comforting souls and making sure everyone is happy. My guess is that, when asked, many of these teachers would gladly give you the information you seek, particularly if the daycare doesn't have a standard form of communication that each room uses. </p> <p>Therefore, it's really up to you to be an advocate for yourself, an advocate for your child(ren) and go forth in having open, honest, communication with the director, as well as the teachers in your child's/children's room. Make your expectations known, not in a demanding way but in a matter-of-fact "we pay a lot of money and want information from the professionals who look after our precious cargo" kind of way. </p> <p>It's not easy but I have a feeling most would be very responsive and possibly appreciative of your desires and concerns. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-teachers-not-offering-information#post-921423 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 08:03:55 +0000 regberadaisy 921423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: on her sheet the other day they wrote down she drank all her milk (they wrote down 3x). But when DH went to pick her up he was the one that actually filled her cup with milk the 3rd time. So where did the third line come from???</p> <p>I talked to the head teacher who wasn't in that day and she said that when they are using cups they write down each time they <i>offer</i> milk not each "cup" like they used to do with bottles. I'm not so sure about that answer but it's probably bc I'm tainted by my dislike of the teacher that was subbing in her room that day. Not a fan of her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-teachers-not-offering-information#post-921388 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 07:55:29 +0000 KayKay 921388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've noticed that some teachers are just better at engaging with the parents. Our first teacher in LO's infant room was not great at offering up information -- she would respond if I asked, but otherwise would just politely greet me &amp; make small talk. I knew she took good care of LO, but I eventually switched (the center was combining some rooms....long story) to a teacher that had been there longer and would tell me a ton about LO's previous day when I dropped LO off in the morning. And the teacher who closed that room was the same way -- tons of personal information and stories about LO without me asking. I think some teachers are naturally good at it, some learn it well as they get more experience, and some just aren't as good. Like anything else, I suppose!</p> <p>In the toddler room, we get a very detailed sheet, and her teacher is great about writing us a paragraph or so on what LO did/liked that day. The room is a lot busier, so we don't have as much time to chat, but I still feel like I get what I need. </p> <p>I'm not sure if your center has multiple rooms per age group, but I think it really helps if you can meet all of the potential teachers before LO moves up to see which one both you &amp; LO mesh best with -- in terms of LO's care, what you need information-wise, overall personalities, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-teachers-not-offering-information#post-921278 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 07:26:46 +0000 T.H.O.U. 921278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: That is a great update! I never understood how they get the kids to lay there, but they do! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-teachers-not-offering-information#post-921273 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 07:25:17 +0000 Adira 921273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: Yay!!! Glad you finally got some real info out of them! I suspect that the longer she's in this room and the more the teachers get to know her and you, the more they'll open up to you and soon you won't have to prompt them with questions! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-teachers-not-offering-information#post-921270 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 07:23:51 +0000 mediagirl 921270@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I asked some questions when I picked her up yesterday and actually got some more words than just "good" out of them! I asked what her favorite thing she played with today was. They told me she really enjoyed the kitchen and putting things in/taking things out. Sounds about right. Then the other teacher started telling me how well she ate and I asked her about her nap. The sheet said 2 hours. She said they write how long they stay on their mat. She slept for about 1.5 hours and laid there with her eyes open the rest of the time. That was good information! I'm amazed she will lay on her mat when she's awake! They said most of the kids do that - they see everyone else sleeping and "know" they aren't supposed to get up. </p> <p>So, every day I am going to come up with a new question to ask and hopefully it gets me some more information than just one word. I do feel slightly better now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-teachers-not-offering-information#post-919582 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 13:00:21 +0000 DillonLion 919582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daycare sends us home with a sheet (food, diapers, naps, activities), but they also always engage us in conversation in the evenings and go over what LO did that day. And if anything unusual happened in terms of her bottles/diapers/activities, they bring that up to me verbally. </p> <p>Maybe you can ask them to try and get some more information out of them? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-teachers-not-offering-information#post-919475 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 12:31:22 +0000 autumnlove 919475@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:-( Our daycare is really good about tracking her day. The sheet on Monday told me she was cranky during outdoor play time and wanted to be held. She enjoyed sponge painting and story time. It also told me that she knows the word agua for water! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-teachers-not-offering-information#post-919388 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 12:06:01 +0000 T.H.O.U. 919388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: Ours has an activities section which is nice because shes at the age where if I ask her, did you learn about monkeys today, she can say yes or no and it excites her when I know things we can talk about. I would ask about that for sure. For us, that section is easy for them to fill out because they write it down in the morning and then photo copy it for all the kids and write the rest of the individual details in later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-teachers-not-offering-information#post-919384 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 12:05:11 +0000 babynumber1 919384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: Same problem here! They have started writing her meals on the paper, but I'm sure that won't last long. I asked about her coughing yesterday, and the girl hadn't even noticed her bad cough the past 2 weeks! I always get that she is "good"</p> <p>I was also super annoyed when she had one shoe on yesterday when I picked her up. The teacher said "I just saw her with it in her mouth, it can't be far away." That is just plain gross. Why wouldn't you stop her and put it back on her foot where it belongs? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-teachers-not-offering-information#post-919346 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 11:54:14 +0000 pregnantbee 919346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ours also switched sheets on us last week. They weren't specific at all about food, and they didn't even list how much milk he drank or when he drank it. V. weird. So I asked if they could be more specific -- i.e. If I send green beans and there are no green beans in the container when I get it back at the end of the day, does that mean he likes and ate the beans? Or did they end up on the floor? I had guessed "liked." Nope. They landed on the floor. Found this out only when I sent green beans the next day and they all came back at the end of the day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-teachers-not-offering-information#post-919324 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 11:48:21 +0000 Adira 919324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: I don't really have any advice since my LO is still just a baby, but maybe instead of asking HOW her day was, asking WHAT they did for the day instead? Just say "What did you guys do today?" or something? Or maybe you can use the sheet they give you as a starting point. "Oh, he only ate some of his lunch?? Which part didn't he eat?" "Wow, did he really sleep two hours?? I can usually only get an hour out of him at home!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-teachers-not-offering-information#post-919302 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 11:40:37 +0000 mediagirl 919302@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: I want to say I'm glad someone else is going through this too and it's not just me but, I don't mean that. It makes me sad that you're going through it, as well. Especially with such young babies. :( </p> <p>I don't know what to ask them, should I say things like, "what did you focus on today?" Or "What different activities did they do today?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-teachers-not-offering-information#post-919288 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 11:37:21 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 919288@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's so annoying and extremely frustrating. You're missing out on 9+ hours of their day - you'd like to know more than "good"! </p> <p>I usually barrage them with questions - Did she have any trouble napping today? What did she think of "x" food I sent her? Did she help you put toys away or read any books? etc. I make it so that they *have* to give me some answers. :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-teachers-not-offering-information#post-919191 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 11:06:16 +0000 Freckles 919191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: What do you think they're lying about?</p> <p>Our teachers write everything on the white board: what time LO went down for a nap and what time she woke up, what she ate, and poops/pees.</p> <p>In the beginning, they didn't say much but i would always push for more details by asking questions or saying, "she was a bit cranky this morning because she woke up at 5. Was she better today?" And they'll usually share some tidbit. I have to make sure i ask the teacher who speaks English a lot better.</p> <p>It may be hard to write down too many details because there are so many kids, but i hope they start to offer you more details! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-teachers-not-offering-information#post-919181 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 11:01:55 +0000 Mrs. Blue 919181@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our teachers are like that even in the infant room. It is soo frustrating. I have no advice since I can't figure out how to get them to be more informative, but just wanted to say I sympathize and hope you find a way to get a more detailed response. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-teachers-not-offering-information#post-919164 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 10:55:32 +0000 looch 919164@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our daily sheet has a spot on the top for the meals, and we get the same thing, a check mark for ate all, most, refused.</p> <p>Then there is a section in the middle where it has spots for activities: Circle time, storybooks, special activity, free play, large motor activity.</p> <p>Then there's the potty section, which is time/wet/bm/pee in potty.</p> <p>Bottom of sheet is your child needs:wipes, diapers, tissues, snacks, milk, spoons, cot sheet.</p> <p>Then nap time_________to___________.</p> <p>BUT if I really want information, I have to ask a specific teacher. My son is obsessed with her, he doesn't even let her go to the bathroom without him going and sitting in the waiting area. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-teachers-not-offering-information#post-919154 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 10:52:20 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 919154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That would annoy me too! One of the reasons I like our daycare so much is because of the information sheets. I'd try asking them for specifics (type of food served, start/end time of naps, wet or bm diaper) and give it a few weeks for things to settle in. If it doesn't get better, I'd talk to the director. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-teachers-not-offering-information#post-919136 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 10:47:01 +0000 lindseykaye 919136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not sure if it would step on any toes (we aren't in a center for daycare) but could you possibly make up a basic form for them to complete that would prompt them for more information? Include points like the start and end time of naps, boxes for what kind of diaper (wet or dirty) instead of just changed?<br /> It doesn't excuse that they aren't forthcoming with information like they should be (this would annoy me SO MUCH) but maybe it's a solution that is easy for them to keep up with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-teachers-not-offering-information#post-919104 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 10:42:08 +0000 Modern Daisy 919104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used to student teach at a preschool and I'll say that certain teachers tend to spend more time with specific students, so it might be about asking the right one. Maybe the person you ask spent little time with your LO, meanwhile another teacher could give you a much more detailed account of her day. Of course no one would want to admit this for fear of angering or frustrating a parent, so it would make sense they give a one word neutral response. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-teachers-not-offering-information#post-919081 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 10:35:28 +0000 Mrsbells 919081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: Maybe you can try asking them more specific questions? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-teachers-not-offering-information#post-919076 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 10:35:00 +0000 mediagirl 919076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rsp213: @T.H.O.U.: I know they go down at the same time but I'm not sure if they have rules about staying on the cot for a specific amount of time. I mean, how do you keep a 13 month old still if they're awake? I'll try asking for times. And I think I'll ask if they can tell me what she doesn't eat instead of just saying "some." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-teachers-not-offering-information#post-919039 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 10:26:15 +0000 rsp213 919039@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With our daycare, I was trying to determine what L was eating and not eating so I asked them to be more specific on the sheet. </p> <p>Does your daycare have a set time that all the kids go down for a nap? Our daycare puts the start and end time of her nap which helps give me a better sense of what her day was like. Maybe you can ask them to start doing that for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-teachers-not-offering-information#post-919033 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 10:24:53 +0000 T.H.O.U. 919033@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: Haha, yes our nap sheet almost always says 2 hours! </p> <p>I think in this room, they require our kids to stay on the cots when they wake up until all the kids get up, so I think they may have a hard time determining when they actually wake up because they still lay there for 2 hours. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-teachers-not-offering-information#post-919029 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 10:23:57 +0000 T.H.O.U. 919029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes.... One thing I will say is that our communication has increased as time has gone on. When we first got into that room, they would be so busy when we got there, we would have to gather up all her stuff (backpack, sippies, diapers, paperwork, and her) and didn't get much help. Now they know when we are coming and have it together so we can chat for a bit longer. </p> <p>Have you asked specific questions, like, I noticed at home she is trying to "xyz" have you noticed that here? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-teachers-not-offering-information#post-919028 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 10:23:38 +0000 mediagirl 919028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh right, I get nap info on there, too. But I know it's not always accurate. They write 2 hours on there and I asked one day how her nap was and they said she napped for an hour and 15 minutes. HOW IS THAT 2 HOURS??? :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-teachers-not-offering-information#post-919023 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 10:22:22 +0000 mrs. wagon 919023@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When Wagon Jr. went from the toddler room to the young 3s, this happened to us too-- we went from getting a very detailed daily report to almost no reports ever. We raised our concern with the director (especially because he was dropping his nap at that time and we needed to know if he napped or not, to figure out bedtime) and it was not a problem for them. We got daily reports for the rest of the year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-teachers-not-offering-information#post-919019 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 10:21:23 +0000 regberadaisy 919019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>*I'm* annoyed by these teachers! They don't seem to care about the kids! :( LO's teachers are still very attentive and tell us details about her day. Although I'm suspecting certain stand in teachers are lying on her sheets. Going to talk to the director today! </p>