https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 09 Apr 2026 12:32:49 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-theme-am-i-overreacting/page/2#post-2539046 Mon, 02 May 2016 14:27:24 +0000 Mrs D 2539046@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Carrot: I can completely understand being bummed you cannot attend and at first glance being frustrated by the language/approach of the communication.</p> <p>However, is it so bad the the center is planning something special for Moms and then Dads down the road? If they have the means and desire to do something for Moms should they not just because of those who cannot participate? I think a discussion with the director to make sure the activities are either all inclusive (all kids get to attend whether Mom exists/can come) OR as someone mention happen in such a way that the other children dont know they are missing out. Also - in situations where a Mom is not in the picture (same sex partners, loss of a parent, traveling parent) other options are available and accepted. i.e. Grandma, "Aunt", BFF...or even teachers participating with those kids.</p> <p>I agree with others that while it may say "Mommys only drop off" of course the daycare must understand that Dad may have to drop off. I read it as "we prefer moms to drop off if possible"...same with pick up.</p> <p>I guess I just dont agree they should not do something bc it may affect some children...rather find a way to make the nice gesture a positive experience for all children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-theme-am-i-overreacting/page/2#post-2538964 Mon, 02 May 2016 13:20:07 +0000 Mrsbells 2538964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Carrot: i haven't read all the posts but whilst i understand your frustration i think it is a bit of an overreaction. Can you have someone else like DH or go in your place? I'm sure your LO will be glad to just have someone there </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-theme-am-i-overreacting/page/2#post-2538920 Mon, 02 May 2016 12:53:53 +0000 nana87 2538920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is such heteronormative bs! I would be pissed on so many different levels </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-theme-am-i-overreacting/page/2#post-2538913 Mon, 02 May 2016 12:46:20 +0000 megjay18 2538913@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i'd be pretty pissed. it's not like you're just choosing not to do pickup/drop off while doing nothing - you're working, which is the whole point of taking your kids to daycare in the first place. maybe have a muffins with mom or something small after school one day instead of doing the pick up or drop off times. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-theme-am-i-overreacting/page/2#post-2538775 Mon, 02 May 2016 10:55:48 +0000 MamaG 2538775@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just got our reminder from our daycare. While this still probably wouldn't have helped for you since you are travelling. You might want to use this as a pitch for your daycare. I feel like they try to be inclusive in honoring female caregivers on this day. They do the same for Dads (donuts) in June.</p> <p>Friday, May 6th we will be celebrating our wonderful mothers, grandmothers, and aunts with Muffins for Moms from 7-8:30 AM! Come and have a muffin with your child before you start your day! If your day begins before 7, we will have a to go breakfast ready for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-theme-am-i-overreacting/page/2#post-2536903 Fri, 29 Apr 2016 11:50:20 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2536903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: She's almost 3 as well and unfortunately she's in a stretch right now where she's the oldest kid in her 2s group (she has a month until she's 3) so all of her friends have moved up and we haven't really connected with any of the new parents whose kids are coming into the 2s classroom. I really think it'll probably be fine, she may not even notice, I just really didn't like this approach the daycare took. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-theme-am-i-overreacting/page/2#post-2536901 Fri, 29 Apr 2016 11:47:01 +0000 Adira 2536901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Carrot: I don't know how old your LO is, but do they have any good friends at daycare who's mom might "adopt" them for the day? Xander (3) is really close to his friends' parents (who he generally just sees at pick-up/drop-off) and he'll hang out with one of them if they go to an event that I can't go to. He just sticks with his friends and doesn't seemed phased if I miss out on events. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-theme-am-i-overreacting/page/2#post-2536898 Fri, 29 Apr 2016 11:42:05 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2536898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Unfortunately only her dad can. Both grandmothers are 4 hours away. I'm sure it won't be a big deal in the end, but I'm already having epic mom guilt because of a busy work stretch and this just really didn't help. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-theme-am-i-overreacting/page/2#post-2536896 Fri, 29 Apr 2016 11:40:32 +0000 Adira 2536896@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Carrot: Is there someone else who might be able to attend in your place to one of the events? Our daycare is doing a Mother's Day Tea Party next Friday to celebrate Mother's Day, but it's open to moms, step-moms, grandmothers, etc. I've seen grandmothers go when the mom couldn't (or in addition to). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-theme-am-i-overreacting/page/2#post-2536877 Fri, 29 Apr 2016 11:18:00 +0000 PawPrints 2536877@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am preemptively irritated in a general sense about all this kind of crap that I hear about popping up not just in daycare settings but in schools as well. Why are parents expected to be available for anything during the day? Just not how life works. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-theme-am-i-overreacting/page/2#post-2536721 Fri, 29 Apr 2016 08:54:42 +0000 catomd00 2536721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Carrot: maybe you should suggest the "better ways" you have in mind for next year? It sucks to disappoint our kids, but it's part of life and no one is going to be permanently damaged over it. I really think they're trying to give options so that everyone can participate in some way during the week. you're never going to be able to accommodate everyone and make everyone happy, but I think they're intentions are good and I the right place. What did the director say? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-theme-am-i-overreacting/page/2#post-2536670 Fri, 29 Apr 2016 08:19:36 +0000 Smurfette 2536670@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: I am with you. I work 30 mins away so lunch isn't ideal at all. Leaving work early is much much easier verses getting permission to work from home in the afternoon. Or taking a 2 hour lunch. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-theme-am-i-overreacting/page/2#post-2536669 Fri, 29 Apr 2016 08:15:30 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2536669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: And I get that, but my point is that there are better ways to acknowledge the holiday, ones that don't include one individual parent having to jump through hoops to rearrange their schedules and potentially leaving kids disappointed when they can't (which will be my situation since I have to be out of town all week) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-theme-am-i-overreacting/page/2#post-2536664 Fri, 29 Apr 2016 08:09:11 +0000 runnerd 2536664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Carrot: I get what your saying - but it is Mother's Day so it makes since they would specify mothers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-theme-am-i-overreacting/page/2#post-2536661 Fri, 29 Apr 2016 08:06:21 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2536661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PinkElephant @scarletbegonia I completely agree that they're offering options, and my issue isn't that, it's the focus on one specific parent. A couple weeks ago was the week of the child or something like that, and they did something similar with activities, but a "parent" was asked to attend. Here the focus is on the specific parent, which is what I'm bothered by. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-theme-am-i-overreacting/page/2#post-2536558 Fri, 29 Apr 2016 00:31:16 +0000 ScarletBegonia 2536558@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I mean, I guess it could be construed as exclusionary, but at the same time if I had flex time, I'd love to be there for it......I guess if they never do anything like that, no one would ever be excluded...but I think its nice they are trying to include the parents in various activities, and if some of them can make it, great. The thing is if you and other parents complain hard about this type of thing, they probably won't do it anymore, and then the parents that would have been able to go won't have the option. Its kind of a sucky situation either way :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-theme-am-i-overreacting/page/2#post-2536555 Fri, 29 Apr 2016 00:19:57 +0000 Sapphiresun 2536555@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PinkElephant: I read this as multiple options to attend as well.</p> <p>That said, parent participation events at daycare in general annoy me. My kid's daycare does a field trip once a month that parents are encouraged to attend. Seriously, I get 15 vacation days a year, I'm not going to waste 12 of them on days where I have childcare available. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-theme-am-i-overreacting/page/2#post-2536550 Fri, 29 Apr 2016 00:00:58 +0000 Truth Bombs 2536550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: for me lunch time is impossible. I eat at my desk because I'm just too busy to get away, and even if I could day care is by our house so too far away. However, because I work in finance and the market closes at 3pm CST, getting to a 3:30 party is totally doable for me. This is why I think the OP's daycare might just be trying to give options since different families have different flexibility.</p> <p>ETA: the other reason I could never do a lunch is because of I came to school, and then left without her, my kid would flip. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-theme-am-i-overreacting/page/2#post-2536534 Thu, 28 Apr 2016 23:12:43 +0000 ALV91711 2536534@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mommy pick up/drop off, that is crazy. </p> <p>I hope that they have a couple activities in hopes that you can make it to one. </p> <p>I love what our daycare does. The Friday before Mother's Day (&amp; Father's Day), they put out coffee, tea and a few snacks in the open area between the rooms. It is there for any parent to enjoy when they drop off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-theme-am-i-overreacting/page/2#post-2536530 Thu, 28 Apr 2016 23:01:37 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2536530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would think it's stupid, and I get being worried about your kid being excluded, but I wouldn't personally be mad about it. I'd just go ahead and find out from the teachers/director what is expected, what other parents have done. You can't be the only one in this situation, so I wouldn't get all worried about it being just you that's excluded, at least not yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-theme-am-i-overreacting/page/2#post-2536463 Thu, 28 Apr 2016 20:49:14 +0000 mediagirl 2536463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yellowbird: YES!! Why can't you do a lunchtime thing??! My daycare is having something next Friday at 3:30. Sorry, I'm can't leave at 3:20, come play, then go back to work for an hour so I can show my face until closing time. I do not have flex hours like that. I can take lunchtime though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-theme-am-i-overreacting/page/2#post-2536435 Thu, 28 Apr 2016 20:01:32 +0000 PurplePeony 2536435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be annoyed. My DH usually does drop-off and it really throws DD off on the days I do it instead. So I'd give a big old hell no to that even if I could technically make it happen. I'm interested to hear the director's response. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-theme-am-i-overreacting/page/2#post-2536319 Thu, 28 Apr 2016 17:40:26 +0000 Pumpkin Pie 2536319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I personally think a specific parent themed thing is a little inappropriate because you never know someone else's situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-theme-am-i-overreacting/page/2#post-2536317 Thu, 28 Apr 2016 17:34:37 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2536317@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is absolutely ridiculous and totally unfair. It's like they let one of their kids come up with an idea on a whim and didn't actually think things through. I'm annoyed for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-theme-am-i-overreacting/page/2#post-2536298 Thu, 28 Apr 2016 17:14:44 +0000 catomd00 2536298@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Idk i would be disappointed if I couldn't make some of the activities, but I wouldn't be upset they planned them. It's not like your kid can't come to daycare if you can't drop them off that day. I think it's a little over the top and a muffins with mom event would suffice. Alternatively, maybe they thought planning more activities would give everyone a chance to participate in at least one of them?</p> <p>As for the argument about not having a mom. I mean, I don't think we should stop celebrating Mother's Day if someone has two dads or no mom in the picture. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-theme-am-i-overreacting/page/2#post-2536221 Thu, 28 Apr 2016 16:01:19 +0000 Rocker2014 2536221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One of the main reasons I picked my daycare is because they don't do stuff like this! I asked specifically about it when we were interviewing providers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-theme-am-i-overreacting/page/2#post-2536179 Thu, 28 Apr 2016 15:03:53 +0000 daniellemybelle 2536179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It seems like a bit much but I agree with @PinkElephant that I would think that they are offering all of these as options for you to choose from, trying to be flexible. If I were in your shoes, I would text/call the teacher and clarify that was their intention. If she were like, "Oh, no, you should come to everything," then that is worth talking to the director. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-theme-am-i-overreacting/page/2#post-2536152 Thu, 28 Apr 2016 14:46:02 +0000 MoonMoon 2536152@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's weirdly shortsighted of them! Do they think all mommies are available for drop off, pick up, AND afternoon?</p> <p>ETA: what about kids who have no moms, or don't live with their moms? Didn't after school specials in the 80s teach us anything? :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-theme-am-i-overreacting/page/2#post-2536117 Thu, 28 Apr 2016 14:18:09 +0000 Eko 2536117@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @PinkElephant</p> <p>based on what you wrote I would ask for more clarification before getting heated about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/daycare-theme-am-i-overreacting/page/2#post-2535954 Thu, 28 Apr 2016 12:04:59 +0000 Anagram 2535954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our daycare has stuff like this and I totally just ignore it. Neither my husband nor I have ever attended a mother's activity or father's activity. It's just not how we want to spend our precious little time off work. </p> <p>I just brush it off. I think they pick random times hoping to accomodate the most people. Our daycare used to do 4:30 pm parent parties and I pick up at 3:15. Once the teacher asked if they should move it up so we could attend and I told her truthfully that we have a long commute so I probably wouldn't stay anyway, haha. </p>