https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 05 Apr 2026 08:52:53 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealbreaker-or-get-over-it/page/2#post-2668907 Wed, 21 Dec 2016 16:43:16 +0000 skipra 2668907@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The bedroom thing would be more of a deal breaker than the cabinets and trim for me. Our house has wood cabinets and I wanted white so it was on my list to paint them but actually I like them now. They seem less trendy. As far as the trim, there are some older houses that have it stained and it looks gorgeous. It totally depends on the style and color. It is definitely more durable than white so that's a pro with young kids!<br /> It might be nice when your kids are older to be on a different level. When we were looking, we figured we could put the kids together and have our room upstairs too until they were older. Would that be a possibility? It is a common layout and people seem to make it work with young kids but not my preference. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealbreaker-or-get-over-it/page/2#post-2668882 Wed, 21 Dec 2016 16:23:21 +0000 JenGirl 2668882@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Trim is definitely not a deal breaker for me. Honestly, I just don't care about the aestetics that much. Plus, it's always something that you can change if it really bugs you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealbreaker-or-get-over-it#post-2668721 Wed, 21 Dec 2016 13:25:07 +0000 jape14 2668721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would wait to see if something that meets more of your criteria comes on the market. I don't know about your particular market, but where I am, winter is really slow for new listings. There should be way more listings come spring! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealbreaker-or-get-over-it#post-2668409 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 20:28:03 +0000 Raspberry 2668409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If only 3 houses came up in 120 days, and assuming another doesn't come up for another 40 days, that's two extra months of rent. If the fee to redo the trim is less than or close to two months' rent I'd say that justifies ponying up the cash. :happy: </p> <p>That's based on you commenting it's the trim that's a deal breaker, not the other stuff. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealbreaker-or-get-over-it#post-2668387 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 19:22:08 +0000 Charm54 2668387@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have 2 up and 2 down. Initially I thought I would hate it (the first night was hard for me) but it's actually fine and we have had zero issues. It's actually nice in that dd2 never woke dd1 up because the nursery is on a different floor than her room. </p> <p>When dd2 is ready for her big girl room, we will move her to the same floor as her sister so they are together. My crazy plan is to convert the nursery (which is next to the master) to a spare room with two twins in it, so if they ever do want to sleep on the same floor as us they can. But Dd1 has been on a different floor for a year and half and has never voiced concern. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealbreaker-or-get-over-it#post-2668338 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 17:23:37 +0000 Meowkers 2668338@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The first time we walked into our house I immediately said "urgh those cabinets have to be repainted and the tile has to go." We bought the house because we love the location and the layout. But 5 years later, we still haven't changed the cabinets and tile (because everything was new and it's such a huge project), and it bugs me SO much. I fantasize about either moving or finally redoing the kitchen and bathrooms but have been putting it off because it's such a huge project.</p> <p>In your case, it sounds like there are major issues with the house besides the cabinets (bedroom layout and size). If I were you, I would pass. Weird layouts are a deal breaker for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealbreaker-or-get-over-it#post-2668305 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 16:45:03 +0000 Mama Bird 2668305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LuLu Mom: it might be possible to put that in the contract. I didn't think that sort of thing went in contracts, but just recently I saw one that specified repainting a peeling ceiling and cleaning a bathtub, of all things... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealbreaker-or-get-over-it#post-2668299 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 16:33:27 +0000 LuLu Mom 2668299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar: yes the trim throughout would be a chestnut wood color (our old house had the early 00s colored oak wood trim and I hated it with a passion) so I'm having a hard time compromising. I think I will have to ask if they can paint it white for an extra fee if we go with this house (it's not hung yet, since the walls aren't up) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealbreaker-or-get-over-it#post-2668291 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 16:20:50 +0000 Modern Daisy 2668291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had the same problem but cabinets were already (newly and expensively) installed. I also hated the countertops, which were new and expensive as well. I compromised and figure we can live with it for a few years then I'll have them painted or stained to a color I like better. And we've already chipped the countertops so I'm like the more damage the better, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealbreaker-or-get-over-it#post-2668239 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 15:29:45 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 2668239@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It would really bug me if I was going new and couldn't choose because I wouldn't feel like it made sense for replace new cabinets for years and years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealbreaker-or-get-over-it#post-2668133 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 13:56:29 +0000 ShootingStar 2668133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you mean the wood trim through the entire house is stained, not white? That would be a big hang up for me. I have friends that bought a house that had 90s style wood stained trim throughout and they spent months and months repainting everything. I would see what you could work out with the builder - could they use the materials on a different house? Could they paint the trim white even though it's been stained?</p> <p>I would also not love that layout. I like being on the same level as small children. Maybe when my kids are older I'd be ok with it though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealbreaker-or-get-over-it#post-2668117 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 13:31:11 +0000 JennyPenny 2668117@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not exactly the same, but we loved the layout and location of our current house. The one thing I really don't like is the granite of the kitchen. But it had just been installed before we purchased so it seemed so silly to replace perfectly good granite. I still (5 years later) look at it and think "ugh, I wish you were a different color" and dream of changing it one day, but I do not regret buying this house. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealbreaker-or-get-over-it#post-2668074 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 12:45:03 +0000 LemonJack 2668074@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you don't mind the layout then it seems like this is a good choice for you. And as others have said, it's harder to keep white cabinets clean so there is a definite positive to not having them. I love ours, but it's because our kitchen is SO dark and it lightened it up. Otherwise I don't think I'd care at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealbreaker-or-get-over-it#post-2668073 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 12:42:55 +0000 lioneyes 2668073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My professional Realtor advice-<br /> it seems like you aren't in love with the layout either, which you won't be able to change down the road (i know you don't want to paint brand new trim etc., which i totally get, but in 5 years maybe you'd feel differently). But the layout will always be the layout. if you pass, you might be kicking yourself SHORT TERM until the right house comes along (and it will). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealbreaker-or-get-over-it#post-2668072 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 12:42:22 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2668072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd pause at the cabinets and trim, but the floor plan would be a deal breaker for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealbreaker-or-get-over-it#post-2668058 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 12:28:56 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2668058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Im still NOT over my Java cabinets in my otherwise nice kitchen. I dont want to cook in there. Seems silly, but yeah it could be a dealbreaker. If you have other options- exercise them! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealbreaker-or-get-over-it#post-2667979 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 11:09:46 +0000 LuLu Mom 2667979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ocean81: This is more of an issue for my DH, he thinks it's weird to have the girls on a different floor but I think as they get older it will be nice to have them in their own space (and with a bathroom guests won't be using ha!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealbreaker-or-get-over-it#post-2667977 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 11:07:31 +0000 LuLu Mom 2667977@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@coopsmama: i love reading this, i don't know why it's such a big hang up for me. I'm okay with the kitchen cabinets - i do think white is a trend - but the trim is just something i like, it makes rooms look lighter and brighter. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealbreaker-or-get-over-it#post-2667972 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 11:04:27 +0000 hummusgirl 2667972@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would get over it since it meets so many of your bigger requirements. </p> <p>Whenever I get to thinking about redoing stuff in my house to meet the latest home-decor trends (and white kitchens are definitely a trend, though I love them!), I read this and feel better and put my $$ elsewhere: <a href="http://momastery.com/blog/2014/08/11/give-liberty-give-debt/" rel="nofollow">http://momastery.com/blog/2014/08/11/give-liberty-give-debt/</a> </p> <p>Also, our master bedroom is downstairs and the other bedrooms are upstairs. It's not ideal for now when our kids are little, but I do think it'll be nice as they get older. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealbreaker-or-get-over-it#post-2667971 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 11:04:10 +0000 Mrsbells 2667971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LuLu Mom: If everything else was right with the home then I woud over look it since its taking so long to find a new home </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealbreaker-or-get-over-it#post-2667961 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 10:53:22 +0000 coopsmama 2667961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We bought a home two years ago with the same situation - there was dark wood trim and cabinetry which we didn't want. We wanted white. We bought it because there was literally nothing else on the market we wanted and I have to say it's been a total non-issue and I actually really like it most days. I am surprising myself by saying that but it's true. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealbreaker-or-get-over-it#post-2667955 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 10:47:04 +0000 ocean81 2667955@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The cabinets wouldn't be a deal breaker for me as they can be changed, but the bedroom layout would be. I'm a lunatic though and need all bedrooms on the same floor. If you are comfortable with it and like the location, I say go for it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealbreaker-or-get-over-it#post-2667951 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 10:43:49 +0000 LuLu Mom 2667951@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LemonJack: I think i'd be okay but it's not ideal. I grew up in a 2 story home, us kids were upstairs and the master (my parents) was on the main floor. This would be similar situation to it. We would probably put both girls on the same floor to start so they have each other next door, and we would use the other room on the same floor as us for an guest/office room. We are still maybe 3 so then the baby would be on the same floor as us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealbreaker-or-get-over-it#post-2667950 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 10:42:42 +0000 youboots 2667950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd let it go or make it contingent on the offer that they are the color you want. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealbreaker-or-get-over-it#post-2667947 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 10:41:46 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2667947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would really look more at location and layout than trim color. Yes it would bug me but if everything else was "right" I could overlook it (or pay to fix it). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealbreaker-or-get-over-it#post-2667927 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 10:15:10 +0000 LemonJack 2667927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I totally get where you're coming from on location. That was a big draw of our house. And I understand the trim too - I painted our cabinets over the summer and am slowly painting our trim white too.</p> <p>The big question I have is whether you are okay with the bedrooms being split. Some people don't mind; for me, two and two would be a deal breaker.</p> <p>Is there the option of working with a builder from the get-go? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealbreaker-or-get-over-it#post-2667923 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 10:12:06 +0000 Foodnerd81 2667923@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LuLu Mom: by the way, I've really been clinging to the whole "you can't change where the house is" thing, as our house has quite a bit of unexpected work we are doing in addition to plenty of cosmetic updates we knew about (wallpaper. Ugh). So I remind myself that I love our street and we could not have bought a house on a street like this that we didn't need to put some work into. So new build with wood trim sounds dreamy. 😊 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealbreaker-or-get-over-it#post-2667915 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 10:05:07 +0000 Foodnerd81 2667915@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The things you say you like about the house are things that you can't change- it's always going to be in your ideal neighborhood and have that great backyard. The trim you can change down the line. I agree with seeing if they could paint it (fir a fee) before moving but it would not be a deal breaker to me. But only if you really do love the house otherwise. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealbreaker-or-get-over-it#post-2667914 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 10:05:00 +0000 RonjaL7 2667914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had wanted white as well, but it was an upgrade that I didn't want to take on the additional cost of. So I ended up with chestnut cabinets. I've been there 4 years and like them enough, but in my next house hopefully I can afford the white ones. </p> <p>Make yourself feel better by considering the cost (if it would be more for white even if they hadn't picked the cabinets yet) and how hard it can be to keep white cabinets cleaned. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealbreaker-or-get-over-it#post-2667912 Tue, 20 Dec 2016 10:03:44 +0000 LuLu Mom 2667912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LemonJack: you are very right, half of what we like about this house (okay maybe more than half) is the location, however location is a huge thing to us, and because it's such a new development in town, very few people are moving out because the houses are a max of 4-5 years old. Pretty much our only chance is getting a new build. </p>