https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 04 Jul 2026 08:08:27 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-a-difficult-baby#post-2200465 Fri, 05 Jun 2015 14:45:29 +0000 kml636 2200465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsF: "It's so hard to be the one with the cranky baby"</p> <p>This... so far she has been kicked out of two daycares :crying: </p> <p>Seriously thanks everyone for your support! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-a-difficult-baby#post-2200420 Fri, 05 Jun 2015 14:07:12 +0000 Peasinapod 2200420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You literally just described my daughter. She's 8.5 months and sometimes doesn't even want my husband to hold her. There is no one other than the two of us that can hold her or she loses it. </p> <p>No advice. I've just been going with it. Maybe because she's my first and only. I'm hoping with supporting her as much as she needs now she'll actually be more confident when she's older. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-a-difficult-baby#post-2200394 Fri, 05 Jun 2015 13:50:13 +0000 MrsF 2200394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DD was a very challenging, colicky, super high needs baby and now at 2.5y she is an *awesome* toddler. She's extremely verbal and still likes a lot of attention but she's much less of a challenge that most toddlers I know or hear about. </p> <p>My DS is 6 months and still very difficult. Less so than his big sister was, but still a lot like you're describing. I have my fingers crossed he's a great toddler too!</p> <p>It's so hard to be the one with the cranky baby. Hugs mama :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-a-difficult-baby#post-2200390 Fri, 05 Jun 2015 13:49:27 +0000 catlady 2200390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs. :heart: I'm sorry you are dealing with this, it sounds extremely challenging. It definitely should get better as she gets older. I'm sure you have considered medical issues, but if not, have you considered that she might have a food sensitivity? My LO had MSPI plus a host of other sensitivities and she was a screamer until I really cleared up my diet (she was EBF, but formula fed babies would need special formula). There was another baby in her daycare that seemed to go through something similar and they later found out he is allergic to many things. Apologies if you have already gone down this road, just wanted to put it out there. Hang in there, it sounds like you are doing a great job balancing it all! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-a-difficult-baby#post-2200363 Fri, 05 Jun 2015 13:36:32 +0000 daniellemybelle 2200363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO was sensitive, colicky and high needs. It got a lot better at 6 months but even at 10 months we were having a really hard time because we also were going through a lot of transition and it was the peak of separation anxiety. At no point would I have ever called her an easy baby! But, around 13 months we really turned a corner. She's still not "easy" and we have had ups and downs. Now coming up on 20 months, she is getting very "toddler-y" and it comes with its own set of stresses. But it has gotten a lot easier in a whole host of other ways.</p> <p>Hang in there!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-a-difficult-baby#post-2200362 Fri, 05 Jun 2015 13:35:31 +0000 Rockies11 2200362@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kml636: My oldest one is pretty much exactly like you're describing, and is now 2. She still won't cooperate with anyone but me and one grandma, she won't wean, and breastfeeds as much as my newborn, she has basically no toddler independence and is always screaming "where did mommy go" if I am ever 5 steps away from her. Oh and she still wants to be carried everywhere all the time. I think it's just a personality type? I never realized how high needs she was until I had my second, much lower needs, baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-a-difficult-baby#post-2200318 Fri, 05 Jun 2015 13:13:35 +0000 kml636 2200318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: I think we have the same baby lol! I @Corduroy: Yes, I keep telling myself things will get better once she weans but lI am terrified of it at the same time! Here's hoping your next one is the complete opposite :)<br /> @mrsrugbee: thanks, you are so right!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-a-difficult-baby#post-2200299 Fri, 05 Jun 2015 13:03:57 +0000 mrsrugbee 2200299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Some kids are born more sensitive than others and in all likelyhood, that's just who she is. I find it helps to identify what she is trying to express with all her distress. She needs more reassure, so keep her close.</p> <p>My DD was not so much sensitive as demanding. She has always been clingy, in arms/a carrier and to this day (16 mo) hates when we leave the room it its not on her terms. Sleeping has been all over the place and she's always been somewhat of a challenge.</p> <p>But while she may not be an "easy" baby, I find there are so many I other qualities that make up for it. She's sweet, affectionate, funny (she jokes with us now) and so motivated. I guess I've drank the koolaid cause I don't even care that she wakes me up before 6 am every day screaming. Its just who she is. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-a-difficult-baby#post-2200293 Fri, 05 Jun 2015 12:58:35 +0000 Corduroy 2200293@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry you're dealing with this. LO1 was difficult in a lot of the same ways. I realized at about a year that I was kidding myself about LO not using a pacifier - I was her pacifier. Things improved a lot when we weaned. LO is not a super anxious or sensitive anymore like I would have expected. She's outgoing, friendly, and pretty tough.</p> <p>I'm expecting #2 any day and honestly I'm terrified he will be similar. At least this time I will know it gets better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-a-difficult-baby#post-2200291 Fri, 05 Jun 2015 12:56:25 +0000 Mae 2200291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry :( I feel like our LO is a bit difficult but maybe not quite to that extent. We've had a lot of feeding issues, and went through a few months of issues with complete food refusal. For a long time I was the only one who could feed her, and I was the only one who could put her to sleep. If my husband tried to feed or rock her she'd scream. We sleep trained but it hasn't fully stuck. She has mostly been going to bed okay since we sleep trained her, but she still (at 12 mo) wakes up a lot at night. We'll go through 1-2 weeks of good sleep then for a month she'll wake up 6 times/night and/or waking up and needing me to rock her and not letting me lay her down and I'm up for hours. I really thought by 12 mo she would be sleeping okay. She seems super affected by teething, and is an inconsolable mess for likes, a full week before a tooth pushes through. She also has refused to sleep in her car seat since 4 mo. Even if we leave for a several hour drive at nap time, she still refuses to sleep. Just cries. And she seems to be into stuff a bit more than average. I didn't realize it was more because she is my first kid, but I have some friends with kids who are a little older and they keep commenting how she is SO determined to just destroy stuff and/or kill herself lol. She is super rough and tumble and curious and determined. </p> <p>So anyways. She can be a bit exhausting and it is hard sometimes to talk to other people who have easy kids and be like... no really my kid can't/won't do that sorry. Or yea no really, even at over 12 mo I am still up with her for hours at night more often than not. </p> <p>I can't tell you it gts better because we're still in it. But I can tell you I'm not that worried about it. My mom said my brother was a super high needs baby and he is the chillest adult ever. I was a super chill baby and tend to be more high strung. I feel like she she may be similar as a child/adult in terms of like... determination and being a bit "rough." But I do believe at some point she'll eat normally. She'll sleep without me. She'll be okay with me leaving. They grow up and I think she'll be okay, even if it is hard right now sometimes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-a-difficult-baby#post-2200279 Fri, 05 Jun 2015 12:42:02 +0000 kml636 2200279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>HI Ladies, need some encouragement! </p> <p>I have two DDs, oldest is 2.5 and the youngest is 10 months. From the time she was born, the younger one is "high needs". Screams in carseat, refused bottle &amp; pacifier, if anyone besides my husband, me, or one nanny watches her she screams. the entire time. Won't let my family hold her, etc. Still doesn't sleep through the night. Sleep training took three months... I dont want to sound like I'm complaning because I'm so lucky she is healthy but sometimes I am overwhelmed by how I have to hold her all the time or I have to deal with non stop screaming, and I also feel sorry for my older daughter. </p> <p>I just kept thinking she would grow out of some of this. We also made things harder on ourselves by moving 3000 miles away when she was 6 months old. I am so worried she is going to be a super sensitive, anxious person (she must take after me...) and really struggle in life. Do I sound ridiculous? I'm hoping there are some other mamas out there to commisurate and tell me it gets better! Help! </p>