https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 26 May 2026 17:41:20 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-a-less-than-supportive-family#post-341405 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 13:38:28 +0000 stiffaknee 341405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can relate to what you are going through. When I told my mom I was pregnant, she said "Well, dont get your hopes up, you'll probably miscarry". When I had my baby shower, my mom didn't show up because she said she "doesn't like to drive" (the shower was 30 miles from her house).</p> <p>In the scheme of things, a shower is just one small part of your pregnancy...and if your stepmom is anything like my mom, she'll come around once the baby gets here (and realize that its about the baby, not her). Babies have a wonderful way of bringing perspective to even the most selfish and stubborn people :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-a-less-than-supportive-family#post-341349 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 13:15:08 +0000 tororojo 341349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That sucks, I'm sorry. :( If she wants you to have a family shower, she should offer to throw one! I'm sure you'll still have a great time without them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-a-less-than-supportive-family#post-341327 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 13:07:33 +0000 sunshineandsushi 341327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks. Yeah, before all this happened, we would chat at least once a week so they could stay updated on everything with the pregnancy. </p> <p>Glad to know it's not just me! I feel like a shower is the one time when it IS about me! But after it's all said and done, I don't want people there who don't want to be there on their own. So, we will have a great shower regardless. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-a-less-than-supportive-family#post-341260 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 12:46:55 +0000 Adira 341260@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, that totally SUCKS! Do you normally speak to your father often? If so, then his not talking to you for a month definitely seems like picking sides to me!</p> <p>The thing that totally baffles me about ANYONE is when they don't seem to get that something ISN'T ABOUT THEM! I had a friend who complained about a Halloween Party I was throwing because I was inviting my OTHER friends who this friend wasn't friends with. WTF - it's not about YOU!</p> <p>Your step-mom is being a debbie-downer and she totally shouldn't be doing that to you during your special time! The shower isn't about her and you shouldn't have to do anything special to make her feel more comfortable! She should just suck it up and go to your shower to celebrate YOU and your family!!!</p> <p>Some people are so selfish... one of my biggest pet peeves! I'm sorry you have to deal with this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-a-less-than-supportive-family#post-341254 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 12:45:51 +0000 sunshineandsushi 341254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have any extended family that we could invite to a family-only shower. That's why I thought it would be nice to include them in this shower - this is the only one they would be attending for my whole pregnancy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-a-less-than-supportive-family#post-341251 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 12:43:53 +0000 mrbee 341251@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Would they be more comfortable if there were two separate showers... one for friends and one for family? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-a-less-than-supportive-family#post-341246 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 12:41:24 +0000 sunshineandsushi 341246@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I have a co-ed shower coming up this weekend in the town we live in. I'm super excited about it and have several terrific friends who are throwing it for us. The one downer I'm trying not to focus on - a less than supportive family who won't be showing up at the shower. </p> <p>I won't get into the specifics, but stemming from perceived injustics that my stepmom has felt from me, she hasn't been talking to me for the past month. Even though my dad claims he's not getting in the middle of it or picking sides, I feel that not talking to your pregnant daughter for more than a month because of it is kind of like picking sides. Even if everything was fine, my stepmom thought it was strange for us to be having a shower where we would mix friends and family together. She made it clear she thought it would be awkward for her to attend because she wouldn't know anyone. My dad won't be attending because she won't be attending. </p> <p>What I find is baffling is that we've invited parents of some of our closest friends to attend - and they are coming and excited about it! Yet my own parents can't get on board. </p> <p>Just had to get that off my chest. :) I'm focusing on all of the friends we will have there who are excited to celebrate our baby boys with us. </p>