https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 22 Apr 2026 06:41:12 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-loss-at-16-weeks/page/2#post-2701564 Thu, 23 Feb 2017 10:59:30 +0000 Mrs. Blue 2701564@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry for your loss. Please know you are in my thoughts and I hope you find someone or a group of people to walk through this time with you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-loss-at-16-weeks/page/2#post-2701419 Wed, 22 Feb 2017 22:17:45 +0000 azjax 2701419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jruess: the ceremony sounds like it was lovely. Wishing you continued strength and healing :heart: . </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-loss-at-16-weeks/page/2#post-2701262 Wed, 22 Feb 2017 15:28:33 +0000 daniellemybelle 2701262@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jruess: What a beautiful name and the service sounds beautiful as well :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-loss-at-16-weeks/page/2#post-2701244 Wed, 22 Feb 2017 15:02:49 +0000 winniebee 2701244@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jruess: Thank you for sharing. It is a beautiful name and a beautiful way to honor him. Your older sister is watching over him :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-loss-at-16-weeks/page/2#post-2701238 Wed, 22 Feb 2017 14:54:32 +0000 Jruess 2701238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: we chose the name Jamie Ray. We aren't certain on gender but in my heart I believe Jamie was a boy. That is what my oldest predicted. My husband and I both have first names that start with a J. I never wanted to give any of our kids a J name but it felt right to share that with Jamie. Kind of like sharing a piece of us. Ray is my husbands middle name. It feels so important right now to share why the name is special so thanks for asking. </p> <p>The service was beautiful. It was at my home church out in the country and right by my older sister, whom my parents lost at 20 weeks gestation. The sun was shining and the grass was green. Although I'm still heartbroken, my heart feels at peace for a moment. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-loss-at-16-weeks/page/2#post-2700887 Tue, 21 Feb 2017 21:34:32 +0000 winniebee 2700887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jruess: so glad that you are having a special service tomorrow. Please do share your baby's name if you are comfortable. I also agree with others who mentioned therapy. I've been going to individual therapy since the day after our son died and found a support group as well. They were lifelines to me in the early days </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-loss-at-16-weeks#post-2700835 Tue, 21 Feb 2017 19:05:48 +0000 LAZB 2700835@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlecasita1122: I was also going to suggest a support group. My son passed away when he was almost 6 weeks old, but I'm part of a support group that is full of women have experienced loss before and after birth, and it is extremely helpful </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-loss-at-16-weeks#post-2700819 Tue, 21 Feb 2017 17:35:12 +0000 Coral 2700819@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jruess: Wishing you strength and peace for tomorrow. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-loss-at-16-weeks#post-2700778 Tue, 21 Feb 2017 15:56:42 +0000 Jruess 2700778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>thank you for all the thoughts and prayers! And I'm sorry to any of you that have experienced loss and for sharing your story. It helps to not feel so alone. I never could have imagined how incredibly painful it would be. We've named our baby and are having a burial tomorrow. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-loss-at-16-weeks#post-2700676 Tue, 21 Feb 2017 13:57:33 +0000 MarieJ 2700676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so, so sorry for your loss. &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-loss-at-16-weeks#post-2700593 Tue, 21 Feb 2017 11:30:38 +0000 Anya 2700593@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so very sorry for your loss. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-loss-at-16-weeks#post-2700585 Tue, 21 Feb 2017 11:13:25 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2700585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: I agree, thank you for sharing your story and I send you :heart: and support. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-loss-at-16-weeks#post-2700576 Tue, 21 Feb 2017 11:05:34 +0000 SugarMaple 2700576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jruess: My heart is breaking for you and your family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-loss-at-16-weeks#post-2700558 Tue, 21 Feb 2017 10:37:17 +0000 psw27 2700558@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry for your loss. :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-loss-at-16-weeks#post-2700544 Tue, 21 Feb 2017 10:27:11 +0000 snowjewelz 2700544@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so very sorry for your loss :sad: Thank you for sharing with us so that this baby can be grieved and remembered :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-loss-at-16-weeks#post-2700526 Tue, 21 Feb 2017 09:59:32 +0000 JessyMess 2700526@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss.<br /> My advice is take the time to grieve and look for support (like you did by posting here.) If it helps to talk about the traumatic experience you had in L&amp;D, do that. Take care of yourself, be kind to yourself. Lots of love. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-loss-at-16-weeks#post-2700509 Tue, 21 Feb 2017 09:40:17 +0000 LulaBee 2700509@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. I went into pre-term labor at 23 week and had to be induced, but did it med-free. My son died in childbirth. I had to have a D&amp;C after because the placenta didn't come out (which I hear is common at that stage) and it was awful... It's been over 2 years and the pain is less on a day to day basis, but it does come in waves and some days still are unbearable. </p> <p>I am here for you if you need me. Be kind to yourself. You're not alone in this. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-loss-at-16-weeks#post-2700481 Tue, 21 Feb 2017 09:15:34 +0000 PeaceLily 2700481@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry that you are going through this. I have never experienced a miscarriage, but I recently lost my baby at 19 weeks in Nov 2016. We terminated for medical reasons after finding out that our baby had a chromosome abnormality. </p> <p>It's a lot to process emotionally and I'm sure you're still in shock. I still struggle with what we went through now 3 months later and I think about my baby everyday. Be gentle with yourself over the next few weeks. My heart goes out to you and your family. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-loss-at-16-weeks#post-2700458 Tue, 21 Feb 2017 08:33:16 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2700458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is incredibly heart breaking and I hope you find the peace to heal over time. I hope you find this and other communities helpful for your recovery. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-loss-at-16-weeks#post-2700450 Tue, 21 Feb 2017 08:27:24 +0000 periwinklebee 2700450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry :heart: I know it's not the same, but I also had a d&amp;c at the end of last week, at around 10 weeks, and it is hard... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-loss-at-16-weeks#post-2700443 Tue, 21 Feb 2017 07:59:15 +0000 Adira 2700443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so so sorry for your loss. How heartbreaking. :crying: &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-loss-at-16-weeks#post-2700442 Tue, 21 Feb 2017 07:48:44 +0000 knittylady 2700442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no words but I'm terribly sorry. Sending love your way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-loss-at-16-weeks#post-2700436 Tue, 21 Feb 2017 07:39:41 +0000 hellobeeboston 2700436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so terribly sorry... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-loss-at-16-weeks#post-2700434 Tue, 21 Feb 2017 07:35:41 +0000 luckylifemummy 2700434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jruess: I'm so so sorry...Sending you and your family love :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-loss-at-16-weeks#post-2700419 Tue, 21 Feb 2017 05:31:29 +0000 littlecasita1122 2700419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry you are going through this. It's incredibly unfair and heartbreaking. I lost my daughter in Jan 2016 at 23 weeks, we had found out she had no heartbeat at a routine appt. What helped me most was finding a support group (check your hospital), going to weekly therapy sessions, and finding ways to honor my baby. I made a Shadowbox that hangs in our living room, we designed a stone for her at the cemetery, I wear a bracelet with her name every day as does my husband and son. The grief does not go away but you do learn to cope with it. I've found it comes in waves - I tend to have a few good weeks and then a string of bad days. Every feeling you have is totally normal and okay. Please make sure you are getting the support and help you need. Thinking of you and your family. Also I recommend Glow in the Woods as a website to check for more online support. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-loss-at-16-weeks#post-2700405 Tue, 21 Feb 2017 02:36:00 +0000 LemonJack 2700405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry for your loss. How devastating. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-loss-at-16-weeks#post-2700393 Mon, 20 Feb 2017 23:51:13 +0000 jaguar 2700393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry. Lots of healing wishes to you, from down here. x </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-loss-at-16-weeks#post-2700390 Mon, 20 Feb 2017 23:31:18 +0000 tequiero21 2700390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:*( so sorry for your loss. So devastating. Praying you have all the support u need during this time. Hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-loss-at-16-weeks#post-2700388 Mon, 20 Feb 2017 23:23:31 +0000 jhd 2700388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jruess: so very sorry for your loss :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-loss-at-16-weeks#post-2700387 Mon, 20 Feb 2017 23:17:26 +0000 azjax 2700387@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry for your loss. Sending thought of healing and wellness to you and your family. </p>