https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 29 Apr 2026 02:34:53 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-moms-you-dont-like#post-1934847 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 14:01:53 +0000 Greentea 1934847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CraftyMom13: omg how horrible. No one really knows what you are going through except for you. My best advice is to reach out to the people in your life that you want to be around. I am sorry for your loss of your home and sorry for people disappointing you. I have been through a lot of tragedy and sometimes I feel like I can't relate to certain people. But, I have realized it is more about someone else's personality (that creates a connection) vs. what they have or have not been through. Some people are more thoughtful, some people are more compassionate, some are more caring and positive, etc.- and those are examples of personalities I tend to be drawn to. Anyhow! As I said- reach out to people you want support from and maybe let them know how you feel and what you need right now. I also think counseling is a good place to vent- it isn't your fault that life sometimes sucks more than it should. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-moms-you-dont-like#post-1934690 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 13:02:25 +0000 MapleMoose 1934690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry to hear about the fire. What a terrible ordeal and I understand it must feel like everything has been turned upside down. :sad: </p> <p>I am echoing the PPs in that I wouldn't even bother with an email -- too passive aggressive for my taste -- just stop attending events. If anyone reaches out to you wondering how you are/where you've been then you know you have a real friend there and the two of you can hang out without the others. Otherwise move on and don't waste any more of your precious time on them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-moms-you-dont-like#post-1934678 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 12:59:21 +0000 rachiecakes 1934678@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:heart: so sorry about your house. </p> <p>I would just take a break from them for a while. And try to find a good friend that will lend you an ear/keep positive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-moms-you-dont-like#post-1934672 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 12:57:39 +0000 cmomma17 1934672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CraftyMom13: I'm sure what you're going through is so tough. Maybe even some counseling would be helpful? I think the feelings surrounding the devastation of losing your home will probably take a long time to process. Big hugs! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-moms-you-dont-like#post-1934660 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 12:53:51 +0000 catomd00 1934660@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry about the fire - how devastating.</p> <p>I don't surround myself with people that don't contribute to my life in a positive way. No e-mail required in my opinion. If all you want to do is leave the group, it's not going to be productive, only will cause drama. If you want to stay in the group, the e-mail could help to express your feelings and change things. Generally though I think it's a little off putting to tell people they should or shouldn't talk/complain about certain things because you had something more important happen in your life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-moms-you-dont-like#post-1934654 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 12:51:22 +0000 2PeasinaPod 1934654@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm really sorry to hear about your house. I agree with everyone else...there's no need to announce that you're leaving the group. If you're worried about you suddenly not attending bringing out more drama, then slowly start to have other things to do. </p> <p>I also want to note that "real" problems are relative to your own situation. What you're going through is absolutely horrible, and I'm very sorry for that. But you never know what someone else is going through as well. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-moms-you-dont-like#post-1934650 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 12:50:26 +0000 sunny 1934650@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry you lost your house! Agree with @autumnlove: above. Comparing losses isn't productive! Everyone has their issues that they are dealing with, big and small. </p> <p>I would just fade out and not make a big announcement if you don't enjoy your time with them anymore. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-moms-you-dont-like#post-1934649 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 12:49:55 +0000 CraftyMom13 1934649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After writing this I collected my thoughts a bit. I think it's totally unfair for me to devalue the everyday stressors they are facing. I did send and email but just stated that at this time I'm having a hard time being a good friend and I'm going to step back for awhile. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-moms-you-dont-like#post-1934601 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 12:06:44 +0000 hummusgirl 1934601@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry that happened to you and that your mom "friends" aren't being supportive. I'd just try to fade out - just say you can't make it when you're invited and eventually they'll stop. You never know when your paths may cross in the future so I'd avoid burning bridges. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-moms-you-dont-like#post-1934598 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 12:04:25 +0000 .twist. 1934598@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I, personally, would just leave the group without explanation. </p> <p>I know it's hard going through a traumatic event, and it sucks when people don't reach out like you expect them to. Ultimately, their lives are also still happening and shitty little things still happen in their daily lives and they probably don't think of how bad it COULD be. </p> <p>Sorry you had to go through such devastation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-moms-you-dont-like#post-1934593 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 12:02:05 +0000 autumnlove 1934593@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry about your house. :( I try not to compare things or rank things that people complain about. I figure everyone needs to vent about something!</p> <p>I would not send out an email announcing your intentions to leave and just stop showing up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-moms-you-dont-like#post-1934588 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 12:00:51 +0000 cmomma17 1934588@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CraftyMom13: I believe in surrounding yourself with positive people! It sounds like this is a pretty negative, draining mom's group, so I'd just cut it out of your life! No explanation needed.<br /> I'm so sorry you lost your house! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dealing-with-moms-you-dont-like#post-1934580 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 11:57:26 +0000 CraftyMom13 1934580@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>2 months ago we lost our house to a massive house fire. The worst fire our town has had in the last 10 years. We lost everything and it wasn't just a house to us. My husband built our house and it's just been devastating. I belong to a Mom group and when the fire happened only a handful of them reached out to me. Since the fire I have gone to a few playdates but just leave annoyed. A few Mom's spend the entire time complaining about silly things and gossiping about other people. I've tried to talk about things happening with the house and my feelings just to be interrupted by 1 specific mom every single time. She then goes on long rants about people at church. I'm just fed up with them. They complain about everything and here I am actually dealing with BIG stuff and I can't get a word in. I really want to send out an email to express my feelings and then remove myself from the group. I don't want to cause any issues but I know if I just remove myself I will be getting emails asking why. What are your thoughts? How do you deal with Mom's you genuinely dislike.</p> <p>Edit: After writing this I collected my thoughts a bit. I think it's totally unfair for me to devalue the everyday stressors they are facing. I did send and email but just stated that at this time I'm having a hard time being a good friend and I'm going to step back for awhile. </p>