https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 21 Apr 2026 19:04:19 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/depressed-around-mothers-day#post-158584 Mon, 14 May 2012 22:03:33 +0000 singingbee 158584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My day was okay until they had a special prayers for Mothers at church. I could have stood up, but I know it would have made me so upset, so I stayed down. </p> <p>My wonderful husband did call and wish me a happy mother's day and it was very sweet of him. He did start off by asking how I was feeling and I think if I had answered that I was in a bad mood, he would have waited. We get to start trying again next month, so hopefully our wait will be short and sweet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/depressed-around-mothers-day#post-157773 Mon, 14 May 2012 10:30:07 +0000 PastaAndPotato 157773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>you are definitely not whining, and i was totally with you being depressed about mother's day - we're in cycle 8 of trying, and the disappointment seemed to pile up over the weekend.</p> <p>i'm hoping that by next year mother's day will be a very different experience </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/depressed-around-mothers-day#post-157759 Mon, 14 May 2012 10:09:12 +0000 Modern Daisy 157759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't have any sad feelings yesterday just because I'm not seriously TTC yet, but I imagine next year if I haven't successfully conceived by mothers day it will hit me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/depressed-around-mothers-day#post-157662 Mon, 14 May 2012 09:02:20 +0000 shinystraps 157662@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@alison206: So, so sorry to hear about your miscarriage and D&amp;C. I was also mourning a recent loss yesterday and it made it that much harder :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/depressed-around-mothers-day#post-157660 Mon, 14 May 2012 09:01:52 +0000 shinystraps 157660@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@msmug: Honestly, church is the hardest on Mother's Day. I am mortified because I started crying during church and had to flee to the bathroom. It's hard, huh :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/depressed-around-mothers-day#post-157486 Mon, 14 May 2012 07:06:51 +0000 Smurfette 157486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got a little sad/jealous yesterday. AF started (knew it was coming 2 days of spotting and BFN on 10DPO) yesterday. Then two good friends (both got married after me) announced they are pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/depressed-around-mothers-day#post-157351 Sun, 13 May 2012 20:33:09 +0000 msmug 157351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I completely understand. After ttc for 20 months including a miscarriage at 8 weeks, today was Definitely one of the harder days. I had been feeling a little more like myself so I was caught off guard when I was overcome with this incredible urge to burst into tears while i was sitting in church today and they asked all the mothers, grandmothers, and soon to be mothers to stand. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/depressed-around-mothers-day#post-157260 Sun, 13 May 2012 17:55:14 +0000 lilteacherbee 157260@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Trailmix: ditto. We're on our 3rd cycle, but its still tough. I tried to focus on my mom and MIL today, so that's helped a little bit. I try to think about it this way- its the closest I've ever been to being a mom (first Mother's Day that we're TTC) and hopefully next year I'll be pregnant or maybe even have a baby in my arms. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/depressed-around-mothers-day#post-157252 Sun, 13 May 2012 17:41:40 +0000 Trailmix 157252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've only been trying for 2 months and I definitely feel a little bit of jealousy/sadness that I'm not celebrating this Mother's Day as a mom-to-be, it's a loaded holiday (just like Valentine's Day when you're single is!) for sure :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/depressed-around-mothers-day#post-157104 Sun, 13 May 2012 12:01:23 +0000 ladybee 157104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am sooo happy someone else posted about this. We had a d&amp;c Thursday after a miscarriage and I am miserable today. I was looking forward to being pregnant on Mother's Day. I also feel like it is hard for people to understand why I don't want to go anywhere or take anyones phone calls. I'm thankful it isn't summer vacation yet (teacher) cause I know I'd fall into a funk. </p> <p>Thank you for sharing your feelings and making me feel like mine are valid. Happy Mother's Day to all of us. I *hope* we have a baby next year and this will all be a memory. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/depressed-around-mothers-day#post-154312 Thu, 10 May 2012 16:10:56 +0000 shinystraps 154312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jessiejo17: Thanks</p> <p>@winniebee: Aw that is a date that's hard to forget </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/depressed-around-mothers-day#post-154290 Thu, 10 May 2012 15:43:25 +0000 winniebee 154290@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@beka: Yes, this very day! It was the day after my husband's bday, so easy to remember (or, rather hard to forget!) I was worried I would have this baby today, but looks like I'm in the clear! Thank you : ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/depressed-around-mothers-day#post-154289 Thu, 10 May 2012 15:40:12 +0000 LuLu Mom 154289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thinking of you, I could see how it would be difficult. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/depressed-around-mothers-day#post-154281 Thu, 10 May 2012 15:36:23 +0000 shinystraps 154281@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jumpingjacks: I hope that works out for you so that you can feel whatever emotions you have on Sunday!</p> <p>@CHOPSUEY119 - oh good, it's not just me who has the waterworks at those commercials!!</p> <p>@Adira - I'm sorry :( It sucks, doesn't it? A lot of what could have been's...</p> <p>@Winniebee - Wow, this very day? I'm sorry to hear that. It makes for a tough day. I hope everything goes well with your son's arrival in the next few weeks. Happy early mother's day. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/depressed-around-mothers-day#post-154250 Thu, 10 May 2012 14:45:21 +0000 winniebee 154250@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry you are down...I don't think you are whining at all! Miscarriages are tough, TTC is tough, and all of the hoopla around motherhood and mother's day can be emotional! I miscarried this very day last year and even though I'm due in 2 wks with our son, I still get sad about my loss and wonder what could have been. </p> <p>Best of luck to you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/depressed-around-mothers-day#post-154242 Thu, 10 May 2012 14:34:22 +0000 Adira 154242@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@beka: I haven't lost or even been trying for very long, but I definitely am depressed about Mother's Day. I just thought I'd be pregnant by now and be able to celebrate it from a new perspective, but I won't get to, and that definitely bums me out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/depressed-around-mothers-day#post-154204 Thu, 10 May 2012 13:56:01 +0000 chopsuey 154204@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I see mother's day as celebrating my mom too. I suppose it'll feel more like my day when my kids get older?<br /> Those mother's day commercials are serious tear jerkers though.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/depressed-around-mothers-day#post-154151 Thu, 10 May 2012 13:19:38 +0000 Jumpingjacks 154151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think you're whining at all and it makes sense if you feel down. I have been wondering if I'll feel that way too. So far in the lead up to Sunday, I haven't. However, AF is due for me ON mothers day. So my state of mind could still go either way! </p> <p>I've actually been hoping my mom will go out of town (her plans are up in the air), so that I can see her on another day instead, just in case AF comes and causes me to have to work at making myself be happy that day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/depressed-around-mothers-day#post-154125 Thu, 10 May 2012 13:03:01 +0000 shinystraps 154125@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jennimac: I''m counting down the months until we can try again too :( I will be thinking of you this weekend.</p> <p>Also, in case no one else says it to you - happy mother's day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/depressed-around-mothers-day#post-153986 Thu, 10 May 2012 11:42:40 +0000 singingbee 153986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm having the hardest time with it. If I hadn't miscarried at 20 weeks, I would be in my 7 month, getting ready to do glucose screening, etc. I was going to have a shower next week and my work was going to do one before we left for the summer on Wednesday. I just am waiting for this year to end. Of course, I have a coworker who is due any day and she loves to tell me how close she is to delivering, etc. </p> <p>All I think about, is the fact that I do have a daughter and there are other women that have gone through the same I'm going through and I will get to be a mom with a baby here one day soon. Two months until we can start trying again,. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/depressed-around-mothers-day#post-153904 Thu, 10 May 2012 10:35:32 +0000 shinystraps 153904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Oceanis723: Aw, thanks. That was a really nice, hopeful comment. And you're so right about celebrating the good. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/depressed-around-mothers-day#post-153885 Thu, 10 May 2012 10:21:15 +0000 Mrs. Train 153885@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I felt exactly the same way. We had trouble and mothers day (just like other people announcing pregnancies) was a little stab to that already sore spot. For the three years we were trying I did the same thing. I also dealt with friends and my sisters pregnancies in the same way. I would let myself have all the crazy emotions at home, either by myself or with my husband. So as mothers day approached I would cry at commercials or after shopping for presents for other mothers but the day of, whether it was mothers day or baby showers or just talking baby stuff with other women I was genuinely able to be happy and celebrate. I felt like I had allowed myself my sadness but also wanted to celebrate the other mothers in my life. </p> <p>I don't know if it helps coming from someone who is now a mom but I do understand and very clearly remember the pain. Give yourself time to mourne and have your emotions but don't forget to celebrate the good in your life as well. It really does help. I also think that if it's in your heart to be a mother, then you and your husband should celebrate that on Sunday even if there is no baby on the way yet. Good luck this weekend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/depressed-around-mothers-day#post-153880 Thu, 10 May 2012 10:16:15 +0000 shinystraps 153880@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sslm: Yeah, that's tough :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/depressed-around-mothers-day#post-153865 Thu, 10 May 2012 10:07:04 +0000 shinystraps 153865@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@GreenThumb: Here's hoping next year is the first for us both! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/depressed-around-mothers-day#post-153855 Thu, 10 May 2012 10:01:18 +0000 sslm 153855@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's a little sad since if I hadn't miscarried I'd be about 17 weeks. I know DH had planned on getting me a card and everything. It's hard, but I'm just focusing on celebrating my mom and MIL. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/depressed-around-mothers-day#post-153845 Thu, 10 May 2012 09:55:08 +0000 GreenThumb 153845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@beka: This is the first Mother's Day since DH and I have been TTC (and having trouble) so I definitely have been feeling bummed about it, too. But I am also trying to think about how this year might not be my year to celebrate (other than for my own mom, of course), but maybe next year will be the first one! *hugs, too* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/depressed-around-mothers-day#post-153844 Thu, 10 May 2012 09:54:29 +0000 shinystraps 153844@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: Thanks :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/depressed-around-mothers-day#post-153815 Thu, 10 May 2012 09:24:52 +0000 heffalump 153815@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a hard time after I miscarried. But I felt like I was still a mom, even though my LO had passed away. And I was a mommy to my pup. Hope this month goes by quick for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/depressed-around-mothers-day#post-153810 Thu, 10 May 2012 09:22:40 +0000 shinystraps 153810@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: Thanks :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/depressed-around-mothers-day#post-153779 Thu, 10 May 2012 09:05:09 +0000 Andrea 153779@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aw, I am sorry to hear that. I have never thought of Mother's Day in that way either but it definitely makes sense. *hugs* </p>