https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 25 May 2026 17:54:11 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/destination-bacheloretteyay-or-nay#post-2685297 Mon, 23 Jan 2017 17:01:42 +0000 Mrs. Cheesecake 2685297@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I flew in for my cousin's bachelorette party when DS was 11 months old. But I was a bridesmaid, I knew all the women going and this cousin is like a sister to me. If it was for someone else that I wasn't close to, I wouldn't have gone and just sent flowers or champagne for the bride-to-be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/destination-bacheloretteyay-or-nay#post-2685292 Mon, 23 Jan 2017 16:54:31 +0000 thepicklemonster 2685292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Def don't go unless you want the break! My cousin is having a destination bach in March when DS will be 5 months. I could use him as an excuse not to go but I'm looking forward to sleeping in LOL. I may skip some of the activities (daytime pool club, no thanks) and my cousin totally gets it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/destination-bacheloretteyay-or-nay#post-2685176 Mon, 23 Jan 2017 15:01:23 +0000 lioneyes 2685176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>do NOT go unless you actually want to and are looking forward to it. it sounds like a hassle and too much $ for you to go just to be nice. I think a bottle of champagne in the room (or sending a round of shots to one of the dinners) will be just as appreciated, and will be a lot easier for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/destination-bacheloretteyay-or-nay#post-2685117 Mon, 23 Jan 2017 13:55:24 +0000 LCTBQE 2685117@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>wow, sounds like a $$$$$ empty gesture invite--definitely nay. the champagne would be above and beyond nice! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/destination-bacheloretteyay-or-nay#post-2685100 Mon, 23 Jan 2017 13:33:52 +0000 Mommy Finger 2685100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Alba4: It's funny you say the craze wasn't around 7 years ago as I had friends who got married 10+ years ago and believe me, this was going on!!!</p> <p>However, as someone mentioned above, if you're not close with your future SIL, it might have been a courtesy invite and no one would be upset if you aren't able to go but they would love to have you there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/destination-bacheloretteyay-or-nay#post-2684737 Sun, 22 Jan 2017 18:01:37 +0000 Mrs. Oreo 2684737@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsBeluga: I wouldn't go and wouldn't contribute money. I planned my best friend's bachelorette party from out of state and only requested money from confirmed guests. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/destination-bacheloretteyay-or-nay#post-2684711 Sun, 22 Jan 2017 15:41:57 +0000 JCCovi 2684711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So this wouldn't necessarily be cheaper, but I've done something similar for a bachelorette.</p> <p>Fly your whole family out, get your own hotel room, and join in on the activities that sound fun to you. Turn the rest of the time into a little family getaway. </p> <p>When I did this it was D.C. and my daughter was 11 months. I brought my Mom along and she watched my daughter while I participated in the fun. I definitely did not stay out as late as the others but I had a good time. This was a very good friend though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/destination-bacheloretteyay-or-nay#post-2684642 Sun, 22 Jan 2017 11:25:22 +0000 MrsBeluga 2684642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Alba4: @Mrs. Pickle: It's at the wynn and the invite included a detailed list of daily events (pool party, fancy dinner, nightclubs) and all I could see was $$$$! This party is honestly more expensive than a lot of people's honeymoons. FSIL has expensive taste for sure. Opting out and not gonna feel bad! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/destination-bacheloretteyay-or-nay#post-2684621 Sun, 22 Jan 2017 10:13:20 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 2684621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My SIL had a bachelorette party in Vegas when my DD was 6 months old and I wasn't able to go. It was 4 nights, in an expensive hotel, and knowing my SIL I knew everything would be expensive. It was also my anniversary weekend. My DH was my BIL's best man and between the bachelor party, out of town wedding expenses, etc., I really couldn't spend $2k on a weekend away plus leave my EBF baby. My SIL completely understood! It was NBD that I couldn't go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/destination-bacheloretteyay-or-nay#post-2684611 Sun, 22 Jan 2017 09:46:28 +0000 Alba4 2684611@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I may sound like a curmudgeon, but I personally think destination bachelorette parties are a bit excessive. I'd opt out, and use the baby excuse. 2 babies in daycare is no joke.</p> <p>I got married 7 years ago, before the destination craze (thank goodness!). My best friend opted out of one because she didn't know anyone other than the bride. She sent champagne as a loving gesture. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/destination-bacheloretteyay-or-nay#post-2684603 Sun, 22 Jan 2017 09:32:49 +0000 MrsBeluga 2684603@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love the champagne idea ladies! That and maybe a pedi date before her bachelorette would be the perfect alternative! Glad to know I shouldn't plan on having to contribute to the overall party too, weddings can be expensive enough without a destination party mixed in.</p> <p>Thanks for weighing in:) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/destination-bacheloretteyay-or-nay#post-2684591 Sun, 22 Jan 2017 08:44:08 +0000 erinbaderin 2684591@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't go, I would have a bottle of champagne left in her hotel room and take her out for lunch before or after the weekend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/destination-bacheloretteyay-or-nay#post-2684585 Sun, 22 Jan 2017 08:14:03 +0000 nana87 2684585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Completely agree w what @PinkElephant: wrote! My sil, who I already was close to, didn't come from out of town for my bachelorette when she had a toddler and while she was invited I definitely didn't expect her to come. Sending something like champagne for the group to enjoy together or offering to do something special for just the two of you another time would be lovely </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/destination-bacheloretteyay-or-nay#post-2684553 Sun, 22 Jan 2017 01:08:05 +0000 PinkElephant 2684553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So thIs is your future SIL, correct? are you close? If not, and you don't know the other attendees, I think she honestly probably to some extent is giving you a courtesy invite, and doesn't expect you to be able attend (that's not to say she wouldn't be happy to have you, if you can attend!) Maybe if you'd prefer not to go but do want to build your relationship with her, you could politely decline, and at that time say that you'd love to take her to lunch, or for a pedicure, or something like that that, at another time to celebrate her joining your family. </p> <p>I don't think you need to contribute a "share" of the bride to be's trip expenses if you don't go, but it would be nice of you to do something along the lines of having a bottle of champagne sent to her room with a heartfelt note. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/destination-bacheloretteyay-or-nay#post-2684550 Sun, 22 Jan 2017 00:49:13 +0000 kitty 2684550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't go and I wouldn't contribute any money. Chances are if it's the bride and all her friends that you don't really know, they won't be too upset. I would imagine there would be some understanding given on account of having young children as well, and in any case I find destination events to be very excluding financially. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/destination-bacheloretteyay-or-nay#post-2684549 Sun, 22 Jan 2017 00:41:48 +0000 MrsBeluga 2684549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have been invited to a Vegas bachelorette party, the kids will be 3 and 9 months. It's a quick flight so I could do a 24 hour trip (everyone else is doing Thurs - Sun). I am hesitant to go because the group consists of single twenty somethings and honestly I just don't think I can hang anymore. That and it's shaping up to be pretty pricey, with 2 kids in daycare a spendy trip doesn't sound so fun. I am in the wedding, my brother is getting married, aside from the bride I don't know any of the other girls yet.</p> <p>Would you go? If yes for how long? If no would you do something else with the bride?</p> <p>If I don't go am I still supposed to help pay for the bachelorette weekend? </p>