https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 18 May 2026 04:59:17 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-and-i-just-talked#post-1506019 Wed, 19 Mar 2014 22:32:30 +0000 Elderberrygin 1506019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>*hugs* Mama. Whatever you do will be the right thing for you and your baby. I ended up weaning earlier than I planned, but in hindsight, probably should have stopped much earlier than I did. Like others have said, breast is not always best. A happy, unstressed mom is best. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-and-i-just-talked#post-1505875 Wed, 19 Mar 2014 21:14:16 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1505875@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lindsay05: I understand what you're going through and DH and I have had the same discussion about if it happens with #2. I know the guilt you're dealing with but don't let it get to you . You need to do what's best for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-and-i-just-talked#post-1505865 Wed, 19 Mar 2014 21:09:26 +0000 mrsmate 1505865@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs! I ended up not BFing either DDs, and only pumped for about 6wks. I remember dreading the convo w/DH when I hit that point with DD1, bc it's one thing to think it, it's another thing to say out loud, "I don't want to breastfeed anymore".</p> <p>DDs are doing great and if we end up having LO3, I will go straight to formula. Formula is awesome! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-and-i-just-talked#post-1505843 Wed, 19 Mar 2014 20:56:03 +0000 NurseMommy 1505843@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lindsay05: I agree with pp that you should definitely do what's right for you and lo. If, however, you do want to think about continuing to bf (which I'm not sure you do since you said you don't love it), you might want to see if it could be reflux. Dd started battling and screaming at the breast around then too and it turns out that's what it was. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-and-i-just-talked#post-1505794 Wed, 19 Mar 2014 20:39:17 +0000 MrsF 1505794@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lindsay05: Do whatever you need to do, mama. I felt so guilty about switching to formula, but I was able to bond so much better with M once I took stress about BFing out of the equation. I know it's not an easy decision though. Sorry you're having a hard time :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-and-i-just-talked#post-1505784 Wed, 19 Mar 2014 20:35:42 +0000 Lindsay05 1505784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks ladies! I feel better already &lt;3</p> <p>@MamaMoose: i suppose it could be? I remember changing my entire diet for DD1 and nothing helped. Once we offered a bottle of formula, she drank it like it was going out of style. </p> <p>I will probably keep trying just for a few more days just in case its a spurt or something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-and-i-just-talked#post-1505708 Wed, 19 Mar 2014 20:02:04 +0000 MamaMoose 1505708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lindsay05: any chance your LO has food intolerance? Fussing at the breast can be a sign of that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-and-i-just-talked#post-1505699 Wed, 19 Mar 2014 19:59:35 +0000 MrsH 1505699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>*hugs* completely understand! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-and-i-just-talked#post-1505678 Wed, 19 Mar 2014 19:52:00 +0000 Smurfette 1505678@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Girl you do what is best for you!! I started weaning BF at 6 months. I never loved BF and I felt so much better when I weaned. R is a thriving little toddler and meeting every milestone.<br /> Hugs! I know it is a hard decision but I firmly believe that the breast isn't always best! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-and-i-just-talked#post-1505661 Wed, 19 Mar 2014 19:42:03 +0000 Charm54 1505661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First of all - I've been there - I understand!</p> <p>By 4 weeks I was EPing and supplementing for a lot of similar reasons...I hated every feeding, it wasn't bonding (giving a bottle for me, totally is though), she was starving and I was exhausted. If I didn't have a long mat leave I wouldn't have EPed and would have just done straight formula. </p> <p>My daughter is 6 months old and is thriving. She is happy, healthy, we are totally bonded....and I am so much happier as well! I am of the frame of mind that the longterm benefits of bfing are largely overstated, so there's no sense on beating yourself up if bfing proves difficult or straining and it's not something you are really into powering through . </p> <p>Fearless Formula Feeder's website was extremely informative and reassured me that I wasn't setting my child up for a life of bad grades, obesity, and never ending illnesses as some have led us to believe. </p> <p>Lots of hugs! Once you make a decision and come to peace with it life will get a lot easier :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-and-i-just-talked#post-1505660 Wed, 19 Mar 2014 19:41:05 +0000 MrsStormy 1505660@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lindsay05: You have to do whats best for you (mentally and physically) and baby. A happy mommy is a better mommy, so you really do know best. Don't feel guilty, you are a fabulous mommy to your LO's! </p> <p>@swedishfish: Agreed, I am at 6 months of breastfeeding and things are good now but at the beginning it really sucked, I will not do that to myself again, I was miserable and it really kept me from bonding with my lo. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-and-i-just-talked#post-1505656 Wed, 19 Mar 2014 19:36:54 +0000 swedishfish 1505656@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have any advice but I understand. I wanted to give up breastfeeding too and I will with the next baby if it's overwhelming me. Hugs. :heart: Don't feel guilty with your decision. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-and-i-just-talked#post-1505649 Wed, 19 Mar 2014 19:33:48 +0000 regberadaisy 1505649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think if you &amp; DH feel that is the best decision then go for it! Obviously you're not a BFing newbie and have been through this. So trust your instinct!</p> <p>(((hugs))) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-and-i-just-talked#post-1505637 Wed, 19 Mar 2014 19:30:25 +0000 Lindsay05 1505637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We may be giving up breastfeeding :(</p> <p>And by we, I mean "I". </p> <p>The last few days DD2 who is 9 weeks old, is starting to battle at the breast and is just overall fussier. This happened with DD1 around the same age and I battled it for a month and a half. I hated every feeding and our relationship was just not bonding. We said if it happens again to start supplementing ASAP. I will admit, I do not like breastfeeding and it will be a relief but the woman inside me just feels sad about this. </p> <p>It seemed to have occured after her first shots so not sure if that is causing the fussiness. I should also mention thatshe has been STTN so being hungry doesnt really make sense. </p>