https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 08 May 2026 04:45:19 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-be-gone-what-will-you-call-him/page/2#post-1191599 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 17:53:07 +0000 mrbee 1191599@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Fronkinzankinsbride: I'll start a separate thread this weekend to follow up on how we as a community can better support the LGBTQ community!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-be-gone-what-will-you-call-him/page/2#post-1191568 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 17:30:03 +0000 Fronkinzankinsbride 1191568@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: I lol'd at TAFKADH. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-be-gone-what-will-you-call-him/page/2#post-1191551 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 17:24:46 +0000 Cherrybee 1191551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:sad: I ran Cherrypops by my wonderful, dear husband and he has vetoed it. He wants to be called The Artist Formerly Known as DH (TAFKADH). He suggested I start a poll to see which name is most popular.</p> <p>EDIT: Or Lord Vader of Cheam. He insisted I include this option. We don't even live in Cheam. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-be-gone-what-will-you-call-him/page/2#post-1191533 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 17:15:04 +0000 lemondrop 1191533@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Twine: bwahaha, I love a good Mr. T reference. </p> <p>I've never called mine DH, it's just not our style unless the D = Damn some days. Even though I don't like spelling "my husband" out, it does remind me to be grateful for my rights, and to continue to be vocal that everyone deserves those rights despite different orientations, genders, and ethnicities. I do like the new community awareness of spouse/partner terms in general, I think it's a step in the right direction. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-be-gone-what-will-you-call-him/page/2#post-1191525 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 17:11:40 +0000 Vegmama 1191525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I typically say "my partner" ... I don't really have a different nickname, so that's what I'll use! I would use "vegPapa", but he's not a vegetarian, sooooo ... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-be-gone-what-will-you-call-him/page/2#post-1191520 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 17:09:01 +0000 FarmWifeGina 1191520@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The Pioneer Woman has her Marlboro Man and I have my Farmer Man. I sometimes refer to him as DH because it's faster to type, but I've always felt it was kind of generic and the way I feel about him is not exactly generic. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-be-gone-what-will-you-call-him/page/2#post-1191501 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 17:00:35 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1191501@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Fronkinzankinsbride: The LGBTQ thread was the inspiration for me finding a more creative term other than DH To decribe/ refer to my own husband. I am not frustrated with the term DH and did not say I was. Although, I have to say I rather enjoy using a more unique name. The purpose of this thread was to see if others had decided to forgo DH as well, not just for starting a thread, but commenting as well. Some women have responded on this thread that they will still use DH when specifically referring to their own husbands still, which is fine. Does that clear it up? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-be-gone-what-will-you-call-him/page/2#post-1191499 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 16:59:22 +0000 sarac 1191499@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always disliked DH - I just use 'my husband'. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-be-gone-what-will-you-call-him/page/2#post-1191481 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 16:52:09 +0000 LuLu Mom 1191481@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I refer to my own as DH, but I try to be concious of this and use SO in posts or responses so I'm not excluding anyone. I love being part of this comunity, and want everyone to feel welcome no matter what their status. DH is easy to type out, even though I always thought it was strange! ha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-be-gone-what-will-you-call-him/page/2#post-1191456 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 16:36:11 +0000 Fronkinzankinsbride 1191456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I guess I'm confused what the point of this thread is. The first explanation you gave - "Recently, there was a post about ways the community can be more inclusive of the LGBTQ members. Using DH less was suggested." is sort of irrelevant to the explanation you gave me...</p> <p>"If you read through the comments from the original post there were some ladies who brought up that depending on the topic the D in DH was used sarcastically. I was inspired by that post to find a more creative way of referring to my husband that could be used in any context."</p> <p>I read through all of the original thread...several times, because I was confused by all the responses "oops I call my hubby DH, I'll try to be more mindful." I don't know where the idea was suggested that people edit the term they use for their own significant other except as @mrbee explained above, in the abstract. </p> <p>If you're frustrated with the term DH I totally support making another choice. But what does that have to do with LGBTQ members? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-be-gone-what-will-you-call-him/page/2#post-1190717 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 12:31:11 +0000 lindseykaye 1190717@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I get you, girl. I never really liked calling my husband by "DH" but it was short and seemed the norm for this community so I adopted it. I'm trying to get myself back to calling him "the Mister" or "the Mr." and stop a habit I didn't love that I picked up in the first place :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-be-gone-what-will-you-call-him/page/2#post-1190663 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 12:18:28 +0000 heartonastring 1190663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Fronkinzankinsbride: Yeah, these are my thoughts exactly. If I'm asking a general question I try to be sensitive to the diversity of the community and use SO, but if I'm talking about MY husband I say DH (even though I think it's cheesy...it's easy to type) because that's what he is....</p> <p>Forgive me if I'm missing the point here....</p> <p>I'm an ally of the gay community and a huge proponent of equal rights, but I don't think referring to my husband as my husband is exclusive. It would be exclusive for me to expect everyone on HB to have a DH, hence why I use SO when speaking more generally but, IMO, just avoiding the term DH as a means of promoting inclusivity seems to miss the mark. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-be-gone-what-will-you-call-him/page/2#post-1189718 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 08:28:46 +0000 Alivoo01 1189718@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: Cherrypops - fan.flipping.tastic!!!</p> <p>I call DH - hubby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-be-gone-what-will-you-call-him/page/2#post-1189670 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 08:13:17 +0000 rachiecakes 1189670@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: Cherrypops! I love it! </p> <p>hmmm... Mister Cakes? haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-be-gone-what-will-you-call-him/page/2#post-1189664 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 08:08:44 +0000 ShootingStar 1189664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I still plan to use DH to refer to him. I don't mind the "dear" part, and I feel like there would then need to be new acronyms for DS, DD, DW, etc. Plus, he *is* my husband. I feel like using something like partner or SO in my particular case is odd, because it kind of diminishes the relationship that we have. </p> <p>But I have no problem using more generic language in thread titles and referring to others' situations. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-be-gone-what-will-you-call-him/page/2#post-1189638 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 08:01:17 +0000 Mrs. Twine 1189638@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I started off calling mine "Eric," because I'm sensitive about inclusive language (I guess) because of Ellie, and I'm not a fan of going with the herd. But then switched to Mr. T because, you KNOW we pity da 'foos at our house ;) And I am just looking for an excuse to photoshop him with some gold bling. He has even given me permission because he is awesome like that. When I was a teenager I used to mix Mr. Pibb and Iced Tea and drink it just so I could call it, "Mr. Tea." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-be-gone-what-will-you-call-him/page/2#post-1189528 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 07:10:11 +0000 MrsCDH 1189528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lovehoneybee: Ba ha ha! I love that. Though my personal favorite was @lilyofthewest's "that douchecanoe I moved in with by accident" ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-be-gone-what-will-you-call-him/page/2#post-1189487 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 06:37:58 +0000 Dandelion 1189487@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll probably stick to DH, since I'm already in the habit of it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-be-gone-what-will-you-call-him/page/2#post-1189476 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 06:23:25 +0000 Adira 1189476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I already say Hubs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-be-gone-what-will-you-call-him/page/2#post-1189470 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 06:18:53 +0000 looch 1189470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I use the term "my husband" or his first name in regular conversation, so I will continue to do that here. I see the point of using inclusive language, but I am not changing what I call him. </p> <p>I personally do not like "LO" because I do not remember if everyone has a son or daughter. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-be-gone-what-will-you-call-him#post-1189455 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 05:52:09 +0000 Cherrybee 1189455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always used SO when talking about partners in general - mainly because I want to include the two men who post here regularly and the one bee I knew wasn't married to her partner (there are more I'm sure, but I only know of one personally). </p> <p>That said, I might use this thread as a prompt to give my husband an identity. I remember I went into counselling a few years back and, on my last session, my therapist pointed out that I had just used my boyfriend's name for the first time since our sessions had started - up until then, I had always called him "my other half". I went home and thought about it and realised how little he actually meant to me as a person. I was clinging onto the relationship because I wanted an "other half". I really do value my hubby as a person so I should try to use his name (or in this case, a made up name!) when talking about him, instead of referring to him by his *role*. </p> <p>I'll have to have a thinky....</p> <p>EDIT: I've got it! I've got it!! I'm going to call him Cherrypops! :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-be-gone-what-will-you-call-him#post-1189454 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 05:51:01 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1189454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Fronkinzankinsbride: I didn't miss the point about using inclusive language. Like many threads on HB the comments veered in different directions. If you read through the comments from the original post there were some ladies who brought up that depending on the topic the D in DH was used sarcastically. You may not really think of him as Deer or Darling at the moment, so using DH was a bunch of BS. I was inspired by that post to find a more creative way of referring to my husband that could be used in any context. </p> <p>I think SO is great for thread titles. I don't think married women who are married to men need to mask they have husbands when they respond to posts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-be-gone-what-will-you-call-him#post-1189439 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 04:45:48 +0000 mediagirl 1189439@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've only ever called him my husband or hubs. I'm good with that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-be-gone-what-will-you-call-him#post-1189438 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 04:41:00 +0000 loveisstrange 1189438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is MY DH, so I will continue to call him that. Being inclusive doesn't mean I am all of a sudden not married and he is not my husband. Its just easier, since the other forum I use uses the same abbreviation.</p> <p>For thread titles, I will use SO/partner though. I do see the reasoning behind that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-be-gone-what-will-you-call-him#post-1189437 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 04:38:40 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1189437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hubs. Not everyone's married here (you can be engaged without ever marrying, and it's typical to not get married) and everyone can get married, in church even. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-be-gone-what-will-you-call-him#post-1189384 Thu, 31 Oct 2013 23:31:52 +0000 autumnlove 1189384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH. I will use SO for threads. I think I have been for some time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-be-gone-what-will-you-call-him#post-1189362 Thu, 31 Oct 2013 22:42:15 +0000 lovehoneybee 1189362@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>*cough* when I write DH I think dick head... *cough*</p> <p>I've been trying to use SO more often, but I might just start typing D, his first initial. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-be-gone-what-will-you-call-him#post-1189361 Thu, 31 Oct 2013 22:42:10 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1189361@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I call him Mr. Jacks, my partner or my SO... but mostly Mr. Jacks, since you all know him ;) (but that's because I don't refer to him as a husband in real life. I've always hated the term because it has a lot of negative connotations for me, so I've always said that until everyone can be married, I'm just going to keep calling him partner). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-be-gone-what-will-you-call-him#post-1189359 Thu, 31 Oct 2013 22:36:56 +0000 HLK208 1189359@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz: same</p> <p>I think I've always said SO when starting a thread but DH has become a habit when talking about my husband in posts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-be-gone-what-will-you-call-him#post-1189356 Thu, 31 Oct 2013 22:26:06 +0000 mrs. wagon 1189356@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've never used DH for mine! Who made that up, seriously?? It's adorable but definitely does not fit us. We don't call each other honey or sweetie or anything. I'm happy using Wagon Sr. and using the term SO for everyone else! Unless I'm replying to something where they call him DH. </p> <p>Starting posts, I've always used SO because I'm thinking of the active dads on the boards! :) I should also be thinking of any moms who do not have a DH as well, I suppose! </p>