https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Jul 2026 04:22:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-had-a-family-planning-talk-yesterday#post-778661 Mon, 13 May 2013 15:41:19 +0000 matador84 778661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We definitely want more, but are both undecided about when. Pros and cons to waiting (can work more on house) and having another soon (house waits but can get done sooner). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-had-a-family-planning-talk-yesterday#post-778659 Mon, 13 May 2013 15:40:21 +0000 bushelandapeck 778659@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH used to say he wanted 3 , and I wanted 2. Now that LO is here I know he will be happy with just two. If #2 is a boy, I would like to consider having. Third, but we'll see.<br /> We aren't 100% sure about the timeline. I think I'd like to have another sooner rather than later, and DH would probably wait a couple more years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-had-a-family-planning-talk-yesterday#post-778656 Mon, 13 May 2013 15:38:42 +0000 ModernDayJibarita 778656@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Champagne: Same here! I really want to start TTC right now but DH want to wait first for me to lose the weight the Dr. recommended, get to our ideal financial situation and enjoy more time as newlyweds. </p> <p>We're younger (24) so I get that we can/should wait but I'm soooo ready start a family. I'd sacrifice all the movies, going to dinners and traveling for a baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-had-a-family-planning-talk-yesterday#post-778560 Mon, 13 May 2013 15:04:57 +0000 loveisstrange 778560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would say were mostly on the same page. We've agreed that we want one more, but I am more thinking for them to be 4 years apart while DH is more thinking 5-6 years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-had-a-family-planning-talk-yesterday#post-778557 Mon, 13 May 2013 15:04:08 +0000 LindsayInNY 778557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're not totally in agreement. DH would love two but says only one for now until he can tell whether having #2 financially is a good idea. I would like 2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-had-a-family-planning-talk-yesterday#post-778547 Mon, 13 May 2013 15:00:46 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 778547@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're not 100% on the same page.<br /> DH wants many kids (4+).<br /> For me? I'd be more than happy with 3, I'd be OK with 4. Anything beyond that would be my little nightmare.<br /> We've agreed to the 4 but I know he will want more after that.<br /> Im being risqué thinking about 4! I can't imagine 5. But, alas, only time will tell. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-had-a-family-planning-talk-yesterday#post-778426 Mon, 13 May 2013 14:29:19 +0000 BelugaBean 778426@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've changed our minds a lot but I think we're settled now and we agree. We originally wanted two, three if we had two of the same gender. Then, after LO was born, we both thought we'd just stick with one. Now we both agree that, when the time is right, we're going to have one more and stop at two. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-had-a-family-planning-talk-yesterday#post-778415 Mon, 13 May 2013 14:25:00 +0000 wheres_c 778415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He always wanted 2 and I only wanted 1.<br /> Now that B is 5 months old ive changed my mind and want another....ASAP! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-had-a-family-planning-talk-yesterday#post-778282 Mon, 13 May 2013 13:52:28 +0000 78h2o 778282@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always wanted 3+. He definitely wanted 2 and was open to 3, especially if we had boys first (he always wanted a girl). We originally thought we'd have them close together; however, our relationship hasn't been real strong lately and my husband has been having problems with his mood... so I'm not sure about #2. I'll be 35 this month, so not a lot of time to wait. Hopefully the answer will be clear in another year or so.</p> <p>ETA: I'm glad you were able to put it out there and at least let him know where you stand. I think there's a decent chance he'll change his mind, but it's good you're be okay with things if he doesn't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-had-a-family-planning-talk-yesterday#post-778268 Mon, 13 May 2013 13:47:19 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 778268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! </p> <p>I want to TTC now and he wants to wait 1.5-2 yearsish.</p> <p>We both don't know how many kids we want! Both agree more than one, but sometimes we both want 3 or 4.. I never usually just want two, but he usually will come to the conclusion that 2 would be good. We are all over the map!!</p> <p>We will just wait and see! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-had-a-family-planning-talk-yesterday#post-778258 Mon, 13 May 2013 13:45:28 +0000 MrsBrewer 778258@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I are on the fence in agreement. We never disagree on number. We know we want more than one, and we would both easily have a huge family, but I don't think the funds are there. But what we don't agree on is timing. He's WAY more logical, and he wants to wait for us to be more financially stable....i get it.....BUT my hormones are going CrAzY and I want a baby now!! LOL </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-had-a-family-planning-talk-yesterday#post-778256 Mon, 13 May 2013 13:44:52 +0000 GrapeCrush 778256@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always wanted 3, DH wanted 2. When we got pregnant the first time, we had a boy. I told him that when we had #2, if it was a girl, we'd be done. If it were another boy, I wanted a third. He didn't really like that, as he only wanted 2. LO #2 is a girl, so we'll be stopping after she is here </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-had-a-family-planning-talk-yesterday#post-778254 Mon, 13 May 2013 13:44:11 +0000 edelweiss 778254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>even though you're not in agreement (yet), like you said, that's great that he knows how you feel now and didn't soundly reject the idea. </p> <p>our LO is 4 months old and i think we still feel like it's too soon to talk about things seriously. we made a joke about having a second one just yesterday and i pretended to cry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-had-a-family-planning-talk-yesterday#post-778231 Mon, 13 May 2013 13:38:55 +0000 pui 778231@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH and I are *almost* in agreement lol. He wants 3 children, I want 4, but since we do not even have one LO yet, we'll see where we actually end up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-had-a-family-planning-talk-yesterday#post-778216 Mon, 13 May 2013 13:33:57 +0000 Ra 778216@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are not on the same page. I would like two children and he wants to be one and done.</p> <p>On the upside, we still have 7 weeks before our first arrives and we are both aware that our viewpoints could change. I wouldn't be heartbroken with only one, and maybe after LO arrives I won't want a second! On the same note, DH is fairly firm on only having one but isn't closed off to having a second after LO arrives. I suppose we will play it by ear! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-had-a-family-planning-talk-yesterday#post-778208 Mon, 13 May 2013 13:32:08 +0000 Alivoo01 778208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have been in agreement even before we started TTC. It's nice to know where we both stand. Yes, things do change over time, but as of right now, we're in agreement. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-had-a-family-planning-talk-yesterday#post-778194 Mon, 13 May 2013 13:28:21 +0000 sera_87 778194@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're in agreement. We want at least 1 more. After that we'll see, but I am kind of holding out for a third. </p> <p>We're also very "que sera" and I kind of get a kick out of the fact we haven't used protection since getting married ....I wanna see how long we can go. So far bfing seems to have done its magic. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-had-a-family-planning-talk-yesterday#post-778180 Mon, 13 May 2013 13:25:10 +0000 Weagle 778180@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're in agreement. We are having at least two, but will take it one child at a time. We're not sure of spacing yet, but we're always talking about it, and NTNP in the meantime. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-had-a-family-planning-talk-yesterday#post-778149 Mon, 13 May 2013 13:19:55 +0000 DillonLion 778149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are in a disagreement currently. He wants another. I would be okay having an only. But nothing is set in stone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-had-a-family-planning-talk-yesterday#post-778141 Mon, 13 May 2013 13:18:38 +0000 hellobeeboston 778141@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yes, we're mostly in agreement - i say "mostly" because he is ready to have another NOW, and I'd like to wait a little bit, but we both want just 1 more, then we're done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-had-a-family-planning-talk-yesterday#post-778134 Mon, 13 May 2013 13:17:04 +0000 SugarplumsMom 778134@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're on the same page. Before I got pregnant, our plan was 2. Then after DD, we both realized how difficult it would be and had no desire to have another. But we also think it would be nice for DD to have a sibling and it might be something we'd regret down the line. So we're officially undecided and no longer in the one and done camp. For us, there's an extra complication and it's age - I'm getting old! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-had-a-family-planning-talk-yesterday#post-778109 Mon, 13 May 2013 13:11:11 +0000 LazyLightning 778109@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are in agreement that I am done having kids. I will not put my body through this again. For now, we're both fine with being one and done, but we are open to adoption in the future... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-had-a-family-planning-talk-yesterday#post-778101 Mon, 13 May 2013 13:08:21 +0000 plantains 778101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So great you guys were able to talk about it openly and honestly. E is still so young, there is tons of time for a change of heart. </p> <p>For us, we want 2, but can't agree on timeline for number 2. I want to wait until L is 3 before trying again, DH is scared 'my eggs will be too old.' - His words not mine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-had-a-family-planning-talk-yesterday#post-778016 Mon, 13 May 2013 12:49:14 +0000 littlebittyhouse 778016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are mostly in agreement. We both waffle about having more than one. Some days I do, some days I dont. I think DH would be fine if we only had one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-had-a-family-planning-talk-yesterday#post-777972 Mon, 13 May 2013 12:40:25 +0000 heffalump 777972@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We aren't on the same page either. Before having LO we agreed on 2, and even moved into what I thought (and might be) our 3 bedroom forever home. But then LO came and I knew I wanted more then 2.... more like 3-4. DH still wants 2, but he's open to having 3 if we can afford it. </p> <p>Unfortunately I think for us it does make more sense to have 2. DH is right, we really can't afford that many kids, at least right now. And since pregnancy is really rough on me I'm not sure I'd be able to handle that three times. I'm willing to go twice and then adopt the next.... which is a lot of money that we don't have. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-had-a-family-planning-talk-yesterday#post-777964 Mon, 13 May 2013 12:39:23 +0000 regberadaisy 777964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup, we're both on the same page that if #2 is a boy we will likely stop if not we will at least try for a 3rd. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-had-a-family-planning-talk-yesterday#post-777960 Mon, 13 May 2013 12:38:39 +0000 Bookish 777960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's great that you guys have had open talks about it! DH and I are not on the same page. We are actually the opposite of you guys- I know I am one and done, while I can tell DH wants one more. He wouldn't be heartbroken with just one, but just from some comments he has made, I can tell he will want another!</p> <p>The way we are resolving it is to give ourselves 5 years. If in 5 years we both cannot get on the same page, we are one and done. However, if I change my mind within that time AND we can afford it (this is a huge obstacle we have), then we will try for #2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-had-a-family-planning-talk-yesterday#post-777950 Mon, 13 May 2013 12:36:06 +0000 littlek 777950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I go back and forth between having 2 or 3 kids. Originally DH was set on 3 kids, and we choose our house based on 3. However, since having B, DH has decided he wants only 2. I told him the other day that if we have 2 boys, I really want to have a 3rd and he seems "okay" with that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-had-a-family-planning-talk-yesterday#post-777940 Mon, 13 May 2013 12:33:00 +0000 cascademom 777940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're on the same page for the most part. I've been the one pushing to get pregnant sooner than later because of my age (33 right now). I always envisioned having a baby in 2012 and one again in 2014 since we got married. When we were ring shopping last week, it was the first time that DH acknowledged the 2014 baby plan to me despite more me talking about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-had-a-family-planning-talk-yesterday#post-777936 Mon, 13 May 2013 12:32:46 +0000 travelgirl1 777936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's funny with us because I knew we would have trouble conceiving so I was pushing him for a few years. Our initial aim was 4 kids, because we both come from big families. But now A is here, he wants the others now, like literally one after the other, while I'm the one putting the brakes on and saying let me catch my breath, lol. I think I've talked him down to 3 too - pregnancy is super hard! </p>