https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 19 Apr 2026 02:50:47 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-is-not-the-mother/page/2#post-420389 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 21:08:18 +0000 sorrycharlie 420389@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>boy oh boy. she sounds like a piece of work!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-is-not-the-mother/page/2#post-420379 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 21:02:36 +0000 MsMini 420379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so infuriated for you. Yes, you are the mother, but he is also a parent and is perfectly capable of taking care of his child when it works best your schedules. I would not have been able to bite my tongue. I probably would have said "Well it is a good thing we don't really care about your opinion in the matter." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-is-not-the-mother/page/2#post-420375 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 21:00:24 +0000 prettylizy 420375@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: I<code><br /> <pre><code>h</code></pre> </code>d probably say something like </p> <p>Hahaha, I know he`s not the mother, and baby girl reminds me every time she is around how much she loves her mama. I wish I had more time to spend with her like you did when Hubs was young. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-is-not-the-mother/page/2#post-420350 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 20:49:41 +0000 autumnlove 420350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@prettylizy: I was going to post on your wall earlier and ask for suggestions for a sweet Prettylizy response to my MIL! :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-is-not-the-mother/page/2#post-420342 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 20:45:19 +0000 prettylizy 420342@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dude I would loose my mind. Well I would probably not say anything to her, but I`d totally call my sister and loose my mind to her! lol! You win the MIL award today! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-is-not-the-mother/page/2#post-420320 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 20:34:10 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 420320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm jaw-dropped. This lady is rude! and salami?! Who does that?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-is-not-the-mother/page/2#post-420236 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 19:33:03 +0000 blackbird 420236@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It is definitely an old fashioned mindset. When I mentioned that DH needed a diaper bag today, my mom laughed at me. She also laughs when I mention DH changing diapers or doing stuff. Dh always gets annoyed b/c he's like, "What makes her think I don't WANT to do stuff?" This is just how it is now :) Thankfully, hah</p> <p>Hopefully those guys' wives teach them a thing or two about equal parenting and won't stand for that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-is-not-the-mother/page/2#post-420232 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 19:28:14 +0000 Mrs. Pen 420232@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: they will learn. Sadly I think it is a male mindset that doesn't change until they have kids or are married to a woman who demands it lol. I was clear with DH while I was pregnant that this wasn't just MY baby, he's ours and that means equal responsibility. I know he would have been great had I not had that discussion several times but I'm still glad I did. Especially because it was a lot harder to him than he imagined. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-is-not-the-mother/page/2#post-420226 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 19:23:54 +0000 autumnlove 420226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: Some of my male coworkers said the same thing today when I told them DH was watching LO! Poor guy, way to ruin his time off, you better make it up to him....good thing they don't have kids yet! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-is-not-the-mother/page/2#post-420207 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 19:15:02 +0000 Mrs. Pen 420207@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@shopaholic: yeah I told him its a good thing he's not a father :-P sad thing is his wife would make the most amazing mother but I could see it as a point of contention if they ever have kids </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-is-not-the-mother/page/2#post-420201 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 19:10:39 +0000 shopaholic 420201@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1) poor baby! :( Hope she gets better soon!<br /> 2) Ugh to the MIL. But I can't say I would be too surprised if that came out of any old-school mom's mouth. I would just have to make some comment about the changing modern times and let it go. But @Mrs. Pen: I would be SHOCKED and smack the brother probably if it were someone of our generation or younger who made the comment! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-is-not-the-mother/page/2#post-419689 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 15:16:51 +0000 Mrs. Pen 419689@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OMG. that is absurd... wow....</p> <p>my brother said something similar this weekend at Thanksgiving. DH took a turn with DS so I could play a game with my family. When my brother asked if DH was joining the game I was he was on "baby-duty" and my brother shook his head and said, "poor guy."<br /> ummm excuse me!! It made me so mad. I had it out with my brother, I said Cobi is just as much his son and he is mine and I am not the only one responsible for him and fathers need to help too. My brother laughed and though it was funny.</p> <p>yeah not funny. ugh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-is-not-the-mother/page/2#post-419660 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 15:08:50 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 419660@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>ZOMG. This makes me livid. This is the kind of stuff I'm pretty sure my MIL thinks but only says behind my back ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-is-not-the-mother/page/2#post-419654 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 15:07:01 +0000 autumnlove 419654@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rainbow Sprinkles: yeah, and salami! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-is-not-the-mother/page/2#post-419624 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 14:58:15 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 419624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is this the same woman who fed your baby rocky road ice cream?</p> <p>Sheesh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-is-not-the-mother/page/2#post-419611 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 14:56:13 +0000 MrsCastro 419611@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>ouch, i ditto @chopsuey119's comment!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-is-not-the-mother#post-419608 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 14:55:38 +0000 ladyfingers 419608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yuck. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-is-not-the-mother#post-419597 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 14:53:14 +0000 autumnlove 419597@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: I was bummed because she has been cool lately! Guess I can't expect her to change! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-is-not-the-mother#post-419560 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 14:43:25 +0000 chopsuey 419560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Your MIL is so awesome. -.- </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-is-not-the-mother#post-419555 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 14:42:24 +0000 Mrsbells 419555@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, is it only the mother that should take care of the child? She doesnt sound nice </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-is-not-the-mother#post-419550 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 14:41:09 +0000 autumnlove 419550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sarac: lucky!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-is-not-the-mother#post-419347 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 13:48:22 +0000 sarac 419347@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: Yes, exactly this. I despise hearing about fathers 'babysitting'. My husband does not baby sit, he parents. He'd be exactly as capable of taking care of our baby when she's sick as I would. I'm lucky to have a family that knows that and that doesn't buy into bs outdated gender roles. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-is-not-the-mother#post-419137 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 12:30:14 +0000 birdofafeather 419137@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yikes. i would be pissed and my husband would be even more pissed. i think it's so weird when i hear people say: oh, dad is babysitting today! um, isn't it YOUR child?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-is-not-the-mother#post-419118 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 12:18:36 +0000 keiki_mama 419118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Boo! Sorry you have to deal with her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-is-not-the-mother#post-419107 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 12:12:12 +0000 autumnlove 419107@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks guys. She always complains about how her MIL was to her when she was a young mom....so it makes me worried I will turn into her. :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-is-not-the-mother#post-419056 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 11:44:21 +0000 littlek 419056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, I'd be angry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-is-not-the-mother#post-419048 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 11:41:06 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 419048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be so pissed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-is-not-the-mother#post-419044 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 11:39:17 +0000 Andrea 419044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is one old-fashioned lady ... ugh, sorry about that. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-is-not-the-mother#post-419025 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 11:33:12 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 419025@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: Excuse me???? I'm pissed off for you! I don't even have any words to say how that would make me feel. I'm so sorry you have to deal with that :-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-is-not-the-mother#post-419012 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 11:27:18 +0000 PrincessBaby 419012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: I cannot get over how abusive your ILs are to you sometimes!!!! It makes my jaw drop! I am so sorry! I know culture plays a role, but I just cannot believe it! </p>