https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 27 Apr 2026 23:41:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-just-quit-his-job/page/2#post-329200 Sun, 07 Oct 2012 13:17:52 +0000 birdofafeather 329200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yikes! Hope he finds something (and it sounds like he was doing the right thing in the end) but man would I have been mad! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-just-quit-his-job/page/2#post-329097 Sun, 07 Oct 2012 10:47:59 +0000 Adira 329097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: Sooooo glad to hear that he apologized to you immediately and that you've had a chance to talk about it! It's definitely sketchy that his boss was being so unethical, and it may be better in the long run that your husband got out quickly before anything bad came of it! The last thing you'd want is for him to be involved in the unethical behavior going on at his company! I hope he's able to find something new soon and everything works out for the best! *hug* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-just-quit-his-job/page/2#post-329085 Sun, 07 Oct 2012 10:32:03 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 329085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There could be a silver lining in this. He may be able to find something ( maybe even better) before baby comes so that you can take your mat leave stress free :) hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-just-quit-his-job/page/2#post-329032 Sun, 07 Oct 2012 09:25:00 +0000 Rubies 329032@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: Hey buddy, I just saw this thread now and I'm so sorry you had to go through this this weekend! Thanksgiving of all weekends! I really do hope everything turns out. Your hubs boss sounds pretty sketchy. HUUUUGS! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-just-quit-his-job/page/2#post-329028 Sun, 07 Oct 2012 09:20:47 +0000 oliviaoblivia 329028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: things are better, thanks!<br /> We've talked a ton this weekend and he apologized immediately on Friday night about not talking about things with me before. He reached a breaking point when he realized that the new boss was being horrible because he was trying to screw their investors. DH has been in touch with the investors and it looks like something may work out in the long run. I'm feeling better about him not working especially given the questionable ethics of his boss. We have enough security financially to be fine for a few years if he doesn't find anything immediately. Hopefully something comes along quickly, I much prefer our lifestyle with two incomes. ;)</p> <p>Thanks for all your help and concern ladies (and Mr. Bee). I was having such a difficult time on Friday and made it through the day because of you. Thanks HB fam! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-just-quit-his-job/page/2#post-329017 Sun, 07 Oct 2012 09:11:17 +0000 Periwinkle 329017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry to hear this and hope you're both doing OK. I have been through a few job "situations" with my husband and I can truly understand some of the anxiety and worry that you must be dealing with. Sometimes when a work environment is that bad, it's actually better to extricate oneself... your husband might be happier and healthier (for you and for the baby) now that he's no longer there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-just-quit-his-job/page/2#post-329012 Sun, 07 Oct 2012 09:06:33 +0000 Adira 329012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: How's it going? Have you and your husband had a chance to talk at all? I hope all is well with you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-just-quit-his-job/page/2#post-328990 Sun, 07 Oct 2012 08:44:47 +0000 looch 328990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I dunno, sounds like something I might have done, especially when I was in a bad situation with a woman at work who wasn't my boss but was the PM on a project I was tasked with. I was literally on the verge of a breakdown, but I took a vacation first.</p> <p>Good luck to you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-just-quit-his-job/page/2#post-328949 Sun, 07 Oct 2012 06:53:58 +0000 rachiecakes 328949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: my husband would do the same thing &amp; has in the past (before DS was even a thought, but still). It's frustrating and infuriating, but he has always made it work and was able to find something better in no time. I hope you have the same outcome! *hugs* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-just-quit-his-job/page/2#post-328890 Sat, 06 Oct 2012 23:14:27 +0000 erwoo 328890@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, I would be upset too! :(((( Hopefully he'll be able to find another job before you have your baby. Try not to stress too much about it. Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-just-quit-his-job/page/2#post-328507 Sat, 06 Oct 2012 14:01:09 +0000 daniellemybelle 328507@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry. :( Doing something like this without a discussion and getting your spouse's buy-in is not okay when you are married. Hopefully your DH realizes this, apologizes, and hustles to make his mistake right by getting a new job quickly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-just-quit-his-job/page/2#post-327721 Fri, 05 Oct 2012 14:56:12 +0000 Turd Ferguson 327721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh wow. I'm sorry, lady. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-just-quit-his-job/page/2#post-327644 Fri, 05 Oct 2012 14:09:43 +0000 sheskrafty 327644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is tough - hang in there!! Try to stay calm, I'm sure once DH fully realizes what he's done he'll do enough stressing for the both of you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-just-quit-his-job/page/2#post-327643 Fri, 05 Oct 2012 14:09:40 +0000 Crisark 327643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow. I can't imagine DH doing something like that. I'm sorry you're dealing with this unnecessary stress.<br /> I sure hope he's able to find something soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-just-quit-his-job/page/2#post-327632 Fri, 05 Oct 2012 14:05:29 +0000 blackbird 327632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Urgency or not, it is still unacceptable to blindside you. You don't need this kind of stress and upheaval so close to having the baby. Maybe he is still processing it, too? Sounds like it was a very rash decision. Even if he can't get a job in his field right away, he should look for something. I doubt he will be eligible for unemployment </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-just-quit-his-job/page/2#post-327623 Fri, 05 Oct 2012 14:03:00 +0000 Mrs. Cowgirl 327623@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i am SO sorry...it must have been really bad for him to make such a rash decision! and i'm so sorry that he did make such a rash decision...i would have been furious!</p> <p>i hope he finds a new job quickly and that things work out.!</p> <p>hugs!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-just-quit-his-job/page/2#post-327608 Fri, 05 Oct 2012 13:58:47 +0000 oliviaoblivia 327608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: He works in real estate and the job market is ok right now, but not great. I still don't get the urgency feeling from him. We have quite a bit in savings and will be ok for a while without him working but we certainly won't be buying a house in the spring anymore. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-just-quit-his-job/page/2#post-327594 Fri, 05 Oct 2012 13:54:11 +0000 blackbird 327594@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Holy crap. My thoughts on this have already been voiced, and obviously you feel the same way. I just hope he can get another job immediately and really buckles down to get one, even if it means flipping burgers in the meantime. Because what he did was totally, 100%, unbelievably not cool. My job has sucked before, too, but I could never do that to my family. Does he do something that is readily employable at least? There *is* a lot of holiday type of temporary work coming up soon </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-just-quit-his-job/page/2#post-327586 Fri, 05 Oct 2012 13:52:31 +0000 oliviaoblivia 327586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm still in shock. I can't imagine EVER quitting my job without talking to him about it ahead of time. Especially right now. I feel like he has jeopardized so much for us so carelessly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-just-quit-his-job/page/2#post-327558 Fri, 05 Oct 2012 13:41:24 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 327558@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: Wow. Just wow. Like PP said ... I don't know your DH and don't how how bad it was, but it seems a little short-sighted and a LOT disrespectful that he made this HUGE decision unilaterally. Many, many hugs. I hope you're able to talk to him about it, make sure he knows how you feel, and get a game plan together for going forward. Sincerely hope there are a lot of jobs in his industry -- I've been looking for months and nada :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-just-quit-his-job#post-327548 Fri, 05 Oct 2012 13:36:38 +0000 Mrsbells 327548@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: Wow I am really sorry this happened. I cant imagine the stress you are feeling now. </p> <p>I dont mean to sound judgemental of your DH because I dont know him, but no matter how horrible the job is, he shoudnt have quit without discussing it with you first, especially with a baby on the way. Parents and expectant parents dont have the luxury of allowing their feelings to get the better of them in the work place </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-just-quit-his-job#post-327521 Fri, 05 Oct 2012 13:15:05 +0000 pl0508 327521@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: well put! this sums up how I would feel about the situation too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-just-quit-his-job#post-327504 Fri, 05 Oct 2012 13:05:50 +0000 Adira 327504@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: I definitely agree that that's the most upsetting part of this whole situation! You were blind-sided that he made this HUGE decision without really discussing it with you beforehand! This is the kind of decision that affects your whole family, so the fact that he made it without your input is hurtful. I'm so so sorry you're going through this! I'm sure your husband must've been really upset when he quit and probably wasn't really thinking. And now that it's happened, he's probably going to be freaking out just as much as you are. I hope you guys are able to talk about it and get on the same page and figure out what you're going to do! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-just-quit-his-job#post-327500 Fri, 05 Oct 2012 13:01:56 +0000 oliviaoblivia 327500@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I'm more upset that he didn't talk about it with me than I am that he quit. He was miserable and had talked about him looking for another job, I just thought we had agreed that he'd stay put until he had something else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-just-quit-his-job#post-327493 Fri, 05 Oct 2012 12:58:09 +0000 sunny 327493@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't believe he quit without discussing with you first! Hopefully he will find something new ASAP! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-just-quit-his-job#post-327489 Fri, 05 Oct 2012 12:54:15 +0000 mrsjyw 327489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: OMG HONEY IM SO SORRY YOU'RE GOING THROUGH THIS... hugggs! and sending you all my good thoughts he finds something else soon!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-just-quit-his-job#post-327486 Fri, 05 Oct 2012 12:53:09 +0000 Clementine 327486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>u must be so stressed and scared. it's going to be okay, everything will work out and keep focusing on yourself and the baby. big hug! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-just-quit-his-job#post-327474 Fri, 05 Oct 2012 12:42:43 +0000 Adira 327474@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, I'm so so sorry that happened! What a stressful situation!!!! I'm hoping everything works out in the end for you! *hug* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-just-quit-his-job#post-327437 Fri, 05 Oct 2012 12:24:40 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 327437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry! I hope this is one of those situations, where it really is a blessing in disguise and that something much better falls into your laps! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-just-quit-his-job#post-327415 Fri, 05 Oct 2012 12:15:13 +0000 pinkcupcake 327415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh no! I'm so sorry. Can't imagine the stress you are going through. :( </p>