https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 04:22:02 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-out-of-town-at-38w#post-2098469 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 18:17:58 +0000 mauxie 2098469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aw, I wouldn't chance it.. Both my babies came at 38w </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-out-of-town-at-38w#post-2098467 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 18:11:24 +0000 Anya 2098467@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For 8 hours away id say better safe than sorry. Hope the date changes again in your favor! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-out-of-town-at-38w#post-2098463 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 18:06:59 +0000 wonderstruck 2098463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lovejoy: Glad he agrees! I'm with you on guys who don't have kids just thinking the due date is the due date. My DH plays guitar in a local band, and the singer (one of our close friends!) scheduled shows for the weekend before and the weekend after my due date, then didn't get why it would be an issue because, in his words, "You shouldn't be in labor or still in the hospital either of those days, right?" Two years later his wife was pregnant and he blocked off like two months that he didn't want to play just in case she needed him. Haha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-out-of-town-at-38w#post-2098423 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 17:19:12 +0000 PurplePeony 2098423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My labor with my first was only 6 hours from my water breaking (no signs of labor before that) to baby in my arms. And it started at 37w3d. So there's no way my DH would go anywhere starting about a month before my due date if we have a second baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-out-of-town-at-38w#post-2098252 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 15:31:19 +0000 littlejoy 2098252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ha. You COULD go early!! :) Sounds like you guys made a good call. </p> <p>I went into labor at 39w4d, and had a 6 hour labor ... Next time, no one is going anywhere after 37 weeks. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-out-of-town-at-38w#post-2098099 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 14:00:13 +0000 Torchwood 2098099@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope nope nope! I just would be so sad if DH missed the birth, and so scared to do it without him. He's my number one source of support when I'm stressed, and labor scares me! But my husband would choose not to go, like yours. For something big (funeral for a close relative, maybe?), then yes, but not for a bachelor party. I would be making rules about how much to drink for an in-town party, much less 8 hours away! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-out-of-town-at-38w#post-2098042 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 13:24:15 +0000 sorrycharlie 2098042@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yeah, no way! I delivered my second at 38+2. haha. DH tried to go snowboarding for the day the week before I had her an hour away and I nixed it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-out-of-town-at-38w#post-2097991 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 12:48:45 +0000 Mrs. Lovejoy 2097991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You guys are giving me way too much hope that I could go early! I showed DH this thread (thank you guys for not ripping him a new one :happy: ), and he's on the same page as you all. I'm bummed he'll be missing it, but perhaps they'll change the date again! ha :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-out-of-town-at-38w#post-2097918 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 12:13:02 +0000 nana87 2097918@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was induced at 37.5 with lo, so anything after 36 weeks seems like go-time to me and I don't think dh would want to be far away. But, if I didn't expect to go that early (I knew that there was a chance I'd be induced that early) and had a lot of support (like, someone to be with me in the hospital and someone to be with lo), I might be okay with it? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-out-of-town-at-38w#post-2097824 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 11:00:55 +0000 sarac 2097824@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband had to have his wisdom teeth removed when I was 38 weeks with our first, and that was bad enough. I had all sorts of contingency plans for if I needed support in the 48 hours that he was all wacked out on the drugs. No way would I be comfortable with him being 8 hours away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-out-of-town-at-38w#post-2097806 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 10:50:24 +0000 Mommy Finger 2097806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's funny b/c DH was invited to a golf weekend with my dad, brothers, and other guys probably around the same time frame and I was pushing him to go thinking that I was late with #1 and would probably be again. Plus, I have my mom to help me out as she's 5 minutes away and he'll only be a 3-4 hour car ride away. But he declined. Thinking back on it, I was probably being crazy and would not want him to go when the time came. So, a lot of words to say that 8 hours away does seem like too much and I don't blame you for thinking that's cutting it a bit too close. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-out-of-town-at-38w#post-2097788 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 10:37:49 +0000 jape14 2097788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had to be induced at 41+1 but I would still be too nervous to have DH so far away at 38 weeks! Totally not crazy to want him home, especially with another LO at home with you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-out-of-town-at-38w#post-2097760 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 10:18:37 +0000 buttermilk 2097760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah I would probably ask DH not to go. It would be one thing if it was only 2 hrs away, but 8 hrs is a lot!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-out-of-town-at-38w#post-2097747 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 10:13:09 +0000 psw27 2097747@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't be comfortable. I think with a second baby, the care of LO #1 would concern me if you went into labor. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-out-of-town-at-38w#post-2097733 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 09:58:24 +0000 MrsRcCar 2097733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be too nervous to have him go. I had my first at 37 weeks and my second at 35 weeks. Sounds like he may be nervous about it too! You are an angel to even consider him going. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-out-of-town-at-38w#post-2097711 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 09:35:02 +0000 autumnlove 2097711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would feel really nervous about it at 38 weeks. I was a mess because DH was working overnight shifts at 38 weeks....he wouldn't be able to leave unless a coworker came in to relieve him....hard to find coverage between 8pm-8am! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-out-of-town-at-38w#post-2097706 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 09:33:17 +0000 danda 2097706@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter (first child) was born 15 days early and it was only 4 hours from when I realized I was in labor until she was born (in retrospect, about 7 hours from first signs of labor) so there's no way I personally would be comfortable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-out-of-town-at-38w#post-2097699 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 09:29:12 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2097699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Eight hours is too far. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-out-of-town-at-38w#post-2097689 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 09:23:50 +0000 LuLu Mom 2097689@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would not be comfortable with this (and actually neither would DH, I don't' think he would want to go.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-out-of-town-at-38w#post-2097679 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 09:20:49 +0000 lawbee11 2097679@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would not be comfortable with him being away at 38w. Could he say he won't be able to go then and maybe they'll move the date up? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-out-of-town-at-38w#post-2097671 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 09:16:07 +0000 Smurfette 2097671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH traveled to NYC at 38 weeks. But there are flights every hour pretty much, so I wasn't worried. But it was our first. My water broke at 39 weeks. So with #2, I won't let him travel at 38 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-out-of-town-at-38w#post-2097667 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 09:12:53 +0000 Mrs.KMM 2097667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH travels a lot for work so I am used to him being gone but neither of us would be comfortable with him being that far away that close to my due date. And for something as unimportant in the grand scheme of life as a bachelor party? No go . </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-out-of-town-at-38w#post-2097659 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 09:00:55 +0000 blackbird 2097659@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. Dh has an overnight "in town" business thing at 38 weeks for me, but i wouldn't want him far away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-out-of-town-at-38w#post-2097641 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 08:50:22 +0000 Alivoo01 2097641@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>38 weeks pregnant with #2 and him being away 8 hours? Nope! Not happening. DH wouldn't feel comfortable himself going. We don't have family nearby either, but if I go into labor, I know I don't want anyone in that room with me but DH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-out-of-town-at-38w#post-2097637 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 08:47:48 +0000 MsHangry 2097637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It is somewhat annoying how some people just assume due date = the exact date baby will arrive. I was invited to my sister's surprise birthday party to occur at 38w but 650miles away. Her boyfriend seemed totally surprised when I declined... He even offered to move the party a week after my due date... Sorry buddy, even worse.</p> <p>Back to the original post:<br /> I agree, very sweet you are considering this, but 8 hours is too far away at 38w for a party. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-out-of-town-at-38w#post-2097620 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 08:36:49 +0000 Mrs. Lovejoy 2097620@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OK, you guys are making me feel less crazy! I am honestly OK with him going because this guy is one of both of our best friends and he just doesn't "get" the whole baby thing. But, I would be so incredibly sad if DH missed the birth. </p> <p>I'm pretty sure our LO who will be just over a few weeks old for the wedding isn't even invited. So, I think people like him just think the due date is the due date - ha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-out-of-town-at-38w#post-2097609 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 08:27:44 +0000 lamariniere 2097609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO2 was three weeks early, so I would say no! I had zero indications that she would be so early since I had a pretty normal and uneventful pregnancy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-out-of-town-at-38w#post-2097607 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 08:27:07 +0000 Rockies11 2097607@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am pretty easy going, but we have a rule of no travel and no getting drunk after 37 weeks, which I think is reasonable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-out-of-town-at-38w#post-2097605 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 08:25:38 +0000 BandDmommy 2097605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO #2 was born at 38 weeks, so No way! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-out-of-town-at-38w#post-2097604 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 08:24:14 +0000 Anagram 2097604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband would bow out of the bach party in this situation--he'd never feel comfortable being that far away so close to the due date. Our first was early. </p>